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I Want It That Way: Bustle on Sex and Relationships


Each week on "I Want It That Way," Bustle's sex and relationships podcast, Lifestyle editor Kathryn Kattalia and associate Lifestyle editor Gabrielle Moss take on topics like cheating, sexual health myths, and how soon we'll all be dating robots — al...Show More

47:04 | Jul 7th, 2017

Writer and sex educator Gigi Engle joins us to share the wonders of Yoni eggs and other crystal sex toys, kegel exercises, and why the word "Hulk" was ever uttered in the same sentence as "vagina".

33:07 | Jun 22nd, 2017

Kristen Sollee joins us to discuss her new book, "Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive".
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43:44 | May 31st, 2017

In honor of Bustle's BeautyIRL, we sit down with writer Sarah Terez Rosenblum to discuss why women decide to remove their pubic hair... or not! Inspired by her AfterEllen article "How Do You Style Your Hair Down There?", we discuss the relationship b...Show More

35:47 | May 19th, 2017

This week, we crossover with Bustle's Beauty IRL series and talk to Gabriel Squalia about visibility, dating & her essay, "How Eyeliner Defines My Womanhood"

43:03 | May 16th, 2017

This Women's Health Week, we're excited to welcome Erin Robinson onto the podcast to discuss her battle with uterine fibroids, the importance of monitoring your sexual health, and having honest discussions regarding your health and body with your par...Show More

47:17 | May 10th, 2017

Matt and Viviana of the THNK1994 Museum, their new Kim Cattrall exhibit, celebrity sex culture, and more. Find out more about THNK1994 at

47:29 | May 3rd, 2017

Bustle staff discusses why they chose to give up their dating apps for a month and why it made a *big* difference in their love lives (spoiler: they actually made some real world connections).

1:03:22 | Apr 19th, 2017

Lizz Winstead of Lady Parts Justice joins us to discuss all the ways idiots are still fighting to control our reproductive rights in 2017 and what *you* can do right now to make a the biggest impact. Plus, we say the word abortion a lot. To learn m...Show More

50:03 | Mar 27th, 2017

What's more attractive? Hating the same things or loving the same things? You probably don't even need to ask our opinion on this issue. We're joined by Brendan Alper, Founder and CEO of Hater — a dating app for people who hate things.

58:16 | Mar 20th, 2017

Wendy Lu and Ally Bruener join us to share their experiences with dating and sex as Millennial women with disabilities. Check out Wendy's feature "Dating With A Disability" in the New York Times: More

52:23 | Mar 7th, 2017

We get techy with Vice Motherboard cybersecurity writer Lorenzo Franceschi-Bicchierai, who joins us to give advice on how to protect your sexts and pics from being all over the internet. And yes, put a sticker over your webcam.

58:49 | Feb 20th, 2017

Jamie Lee, comedian and author of "Weddiculous: An Unfiltered Guide to Being a Bride", joins us to provide some guidance on how to make your wedding submit into the good time it's supposed to be. We also hear from Nana Wereko-Brobby, CEO and Founder ...Show More

37:52 | Feb 7th, 2017

Author and comedian Sara Benincasa joins us to discuss her book "DC Trip" and high school field trips from the perspective of a teacher while we steer the conversation towards our own memories of hooking up on school trips and crushes on teachers. We...Show More

39:32 | Jan 25th, 2017

Allison Piwowarski, Romper Entertainment Editor and co-host of Bustle's Bachelor podcast "Will You Accept This Podcast?" joins us to Bachelor-splain what exactly The Bachelor is about and the hype around this season. Plus, we took some 2015 Nick Vial...Show More

39:04 | Jan 15th, 2017

Paige Mobley, finalist on America's Next Top Model Season 23, joins us to discuss her experience on the show, what it's really like to date as a model, and the benefits and struggles of dating as a tall woman.

38:12 | Jan 15th, 2017

Urine for the first episode in which Kathryn and Gaby *don't* see eye-to-eye (don't worry—the puns end with this description). They debate whether or not the uproar on social media over the allegations of Trump's proclivity for golden showers is just...Show More

49:57 | Jan 10th, 2017

Jenny Nordbak, former elite dominatrix, joins us to discuss her upcoming memoir "The Scarlett Letters: My Secret Year of Men in an LA Dungeon". She'll break misconceptions about the BDSM scene, provide tips on how you bring domination to your own bed...Show More

49:47 | Dec 23rd, 2016

This holiday season, we're joined by comedian (and life coach!) Sara Armour to perform a true Christmas miracle-- we're going to answer our listener's questions!

52:51 | Dec 16th, 2016

Lane Moore joins Gaby and Kathryn to discuss their sex lives in 2016 and give them some pointers on how they can resolve to improve their sex lives through some 2017 New Years Resolutions. But before we dive into their very person lives, we do a quic...Show More

59:40 | Dec 10th, 2016

Why do so many people break up over the holidays? Why do so many people want to have sex with Santa? What sex move is a "Grandma got run over by a reindeer"? We attempt to answer all these pressing issues, plus: our annual holiday sex gift guide! R...Show More

33:49 | Nov 24th, 2016

With Kathryn in Indiana and Gaby getting over her Macy's Day parade hangover, we leave you with a fascinating interview with Alex Fine, CEO and Founder of Dame Products, on how and why she created on of the first hands-free vibrator, the Eva.

37:54 | Nov 21st, 2016

We discuss how the policy changes that may result from this election will affect reproductive rights in the US, and we discuss the ins and outs of getting an IUD with Dr. Lauren Streicher, Associate Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at ...Show More

58:53 | Nov 8th, 2016

Join us, patriots, for a celebration of sex, relationships, and democracy. We discuss everything from the very American epidemic of pizza porn to post-election night hate sex to which party members are more likely to use condoms— Democrats or Republi...Show More

48:43 | Oct 17th, 2016

This week, we talk to Nora DeKayser of matchmaking service Three Day Rule about red flags, why we're often wrong about our "type," and what to do when no one wants to go on a second date with you. Plus, the greatest love story of our time gets a new ...Show More

47:03 | Oct 10th, 2016

This week, we get into the strange world of sleep and sex, including why sex dreams exist, why some of us have them way more often than others, whether you can induce them, and what to do if your sleeping partner starts dirty talking. Plus, sex robot...Show More

37:01 | Sep 29th, 2016

Mamrie Hart joins us to dissect the personal life of our producer, Anna, discuss dating in LA versus NYC, and how to manifest love into your life through the power of attraction and other cuckoo self-help BS (that's about as LA as her spray tan).

46:25 | Sep 1st, 2016

We're joined by comedian, sometimes life coach, and weed connoisseur Sara Amour to interview Ashley Manta, founder of Canasexual and Leafly columnist, on how weed can improve your sex life.

46:44 | Aug 19th, 2016

Sex educator Dr. Laura Berman joins us to school us on all things orgasms. From how to get one to communicating with your partner to why "mercy fakes" are bad for women everywhere.

46:56 | Aug 15th, 2016

The only thing more exciting than watching Olympic athletes is speculating about the sex lives of Olympic athletes! This week, we discuss the history of sex in the Olympic village, how to have sex like an Olympian, giant penis sculptures, and Kathryn...Show More

38:50 | Aug 3rd, 2016

This week, we get our edible panties in a bunch as we discuss whether our generation likes burritos more than banging. Plus, Pokemon sex toys, a possible porn mystery, and more.

37:17 | Jul 27th, 2016

Sure, we didn't actually *go* to the Republican National Convention, but we still have plenty of info about how people got sexy there, including official statistics on how many people were using Grindr and what kind of porn our fair delegates were se...Show More

38:42 | Jul 20th, 2016

Haven't you heard? Everyone's getting laid more thanks to the crazy popular game Pokemon Go. Find out how to catch 'em all, learn some Pokemon sex puns, and more.

45:01 | Jul 14th, 2016

Carly Aquilino joins Kathryn and Gaby to discuss how to get in front of the line at the airport, Raya, and more.

40:46 | Jul 7th, 2016

Sex and Relationships Editor Michelle Toglia joins us to discuss her experience getting the O-shot, one shot that promises a better sex life.

41:28 | Jun 29th, 2016

Lane Moore joins us to why a woman's sanity is apparently not a prerequisite to getting right swipes, and Kathryn and Gaby perform an amateur hour Tinder Live, and more.

41:42 | Jun 29th, 2016

Lane Moore joins us to why a woman's sanity is apparently not a prerequisite to getting right swipes, and Kathryn and Gaby perform an amateur hour Tinder Live, and more.

42:16 | Jun 23rd, 2016

We sit down with MTV's Ladylike's Blair Socci, a comedian who knows a thing or two about pushing the limits about what you can discuss in polite company.

20:08 | Jun 15th, 2016

To find out more about how you can help the victims and families of the Orlando shooting, refer to the Bustle article "How To Help The Orlando Shooting Victims And Their Loved Ones In This Devastating​ Time" by Emily Shire ( More

43:21 | Jun 9th, 2016

Kathryn is joined by editors Anna Parsons and Arielle Dachille to discuss their experience at adult summer camp and how romance and making out amongst a bunch of 20 and 30-somethings is actually pretty similar to our middle school experiences. We als...Show More

27:15 | Jun 1st, 2016

June has arrived and that means you're probably getting married! No? Well, we're still gonna talk about it!

49:12 | May 25th, 2016

Dr. Jen Caudle joins us to explain all the injuries we're at risk for during sex, from bruised cervixes and clitorises to allergic reactions and more. Ouch! Not tonight!

37:49 | May 19th, 2016

Jillian Keenan, author of "Sex With Shakespeare", joins us to discuss the difference between fetishes and kinks, her lifelong fetish for spanking, and how listeners can deal with their own personal fetishes.

34:20 | May 19th, 2016

Whether you're in a monogamous relationship or you're hooking up with someone different every week, how often, exactly, should you get tested? Which tests should you ask for, and do you know your lag times for each STD? Host Rachel Krantz talks with ...Show More

44:09 | May 13th, 2016

Witchcraft scholar Kristen Korvette of Slutist stops by to chat about how magic and witchcraft can conjure better sex, relationships, and more in your life. Listen to learn a few spells, busting myths about witchcraft, and to hear a cackle or two. G...Show More

44:13 | May 11th, 2016

Internet comedy legends Jake & Amir (College Humor's Jake & Amir, "If I Were You" podcast) drop by to tell us about their new Vimeo series, Lonely & Horny. They also explain what it's like to be a dude on Tinder, answer some of our burning questions ...Show More

47:41 | May 4th, 2016

Dr. Carmen Harra, Ph.D., intuitive psychologist, certified relationship coach, and best-selling author, gives Kathryn a relationship reading. Find out when she's getting married, if she's having kids, and what's really standing in her way of love. We...Show More

33:43 | May 2nd, 2016

Host Rachel Krantz talks with Emma Kaywin, Bustle's sexual health columnist, about what it's like for her to live with endometriosis, a painful disorder in which tissue that normally lines the uterus grows outside of it. Emma shares the intimate deta...Show More

46:06 | Apr 27th, 2016

Marie Southard Ospina, host of Bustle's body positivity podcast The Bodcast, and top BBW model Plump Princess, join us to debunk the myths surrounding fat sexuality, fetishism, and dating. Gaby also pays tribute to Prince. Find us on ACast: www.acas...Show More

41:06 | Apr 20th, 2016

Dr. Logan Levkoff joins us to discuss how we first learned about sex, terms we misunderstood like "blowjob" and "sleeping together", and how some adults still think that you can't get pregnant in a hot tub.

36:07 | Mar 30th, 2016

This week's recording is from our very first Facebook Livestream, an episode that took us back to the 90s to discuss our first kisses, first celebrity crushes, and more. Click here to watch it for yourself: More

42:34 | Mar 23rd, 2016

We discuss when people first have sex (people waited a lot longer than we thought!), whether women are more likely to give oral sex than receive, and Michelle Toglia, Bustle's sex and relationships editor, joins us to discuss her experience with Miss...Show More

31:02 | Mar 18th, 2016

No, but honestly though ... how do you have a threesome? Host Rachel Krantz and sexual health columnist Emma Kaywin talk all about the many issues that come up with threesomes in this week's episode — from finding one, to the sex itself, to protectin...Show More

46:43 | Mar 17th, 2016

Heard of Toy Boy Warehouse? Neither had we, but it's the U.K.'s #1 online dating site for younger men and older women. Stateside, new apps like Siren are also flipping the script and putting women in the driver's seat on dating apps. Gaby and Kathryn...Show More

45:27 | Mar 7th, 2016

Curious about the sex secrets of the strangers around you? Our hosts hit the streets of NYC to ask complete strangers everything from if they'd have sex with an adult baby to the most disgusting thing they've experienced in bed. This episode is spons...Show More

52:39 | Mar 5th, 2016

We're joined by Nev Schulman and Max Joseph to discuss how you too could learn to catfish...and why you probably shouldn't. We also discuss the world's most dangerous position and what a penis would actually sound like when it breaks.

33:17 | Mar 3rd, 2016

Honestly though, what's getting an IUD like? How do you know whether to go for the non-hormonal or hormonal kind? And once you have it in, how does it affect your sex life and your period? Rachel Krantz (proud owner of a Paraguard) and sex educator L...Show More

49:01 | Feb 23rd, 2016

Comedian Emma Willmann joins us to dissect the anatomy of a breakup in its many forms as well as getting back together with your ex, what happens when an ex breaks into your house, and how to make someone break up with you first.

25:37 | Feb 17th, 2016

Honestly though, is pegging even a thing? And if I'm interested in trying it out what should I know? Rachel Krantz and Emma Kaywin take a much deeper dive than any Broad City episode ever will.

12:09 | Feb 13th, 2016

Valentine's Day, the most important day of the year for the "I Want It That Way" staff is here so Gaby and Kathryn have taken a much-needed holiday. We leave you instead with a very important word of warning for this year's Valentine's Day.

39:22 | Feb 6th, 2016

Alli Goldberg and Jen Jamula of the Blogologues taught us about what a “vagankle” is, the correct way to mix semen cocktails, and why there is so much erotic fan art about Sonic the Hedgehog. They also discuss their live show where they “perform the ...Show More

27:46 | Feb 5th, 2016

Honestly though, how are antidepressants affecting your sex drive and relationship? Dr Julie Holland, author of 'Moody Bitches' speaks with Rachel Krantz about the affect antidepressants have on women and their sex lives -- from the way we fall in l...Show More

43:38 | Jan 29th, 2016

Go ahead, Google that guy you met on Tinder. We'll give you all of our favorite cyberstalking tips from LinkedIn to Facebook to...Zillow?!? Add in a few of our most ridiculous stories from googling crushes and first dates, playing the 90s board game ...Show More

1:04:53 | Jan 22nd, 2016

OKCupid's Chief of Product, Jimena Almendares, sits down with IWITW producer Anna Parsons and sex and relationships editor Michelle Toglia to reveal the best hacks for finding love on OKCupid and its annual data report, The Hangover. Other topics inc...Show More

31:30 | Jan 20th, 2016

A mini addition to Bustle's sex and relationships podcast, I Want It That Way, Honestly Though answers all of the questions that you've been afraid to ask. Our first episode kicks off with Senior Features Editor Rachel Krantz discussing how the heck ...Show More

1:02:32 | Jan 15th, 2016

We used this 2016 New Year's Day as an excuse to to set our own sex and relationship resolutions. This episode, the group divulges the results of apologizing for ghosting, looking for a threesome online, going to bars alone, and joining the OKCupid a...Show More

56:05 | Dec 24th, 2015

Our very special holiday episode features our very first co-hosts, The Jingle Cats! These cheerful and festive felines will help us determine whether Love Actually is the most romantic movie ever OR if it's a heap of sexist garbage. Who will win? The...Show More

49:36 | Dec 18th, 2015

Kathryn and Gaby talk about hookups that happen when you go home for the holidays. After all that reminiscing about good times had back in Indiana, Kathryn musters the courage to call her ex by surprise to talk it out. Gaby also shares her gift guide...Show More

1:02:44 | Dec 10th, 2015

We interview Happn's Director of Trends, Marie Cosnard, about what makes Happn different than all the other dating apps on your phone and tell our stories about meeting our significant others IRL.

42:58 | Dec 3rd, 2015

Bush wick's very own Rent-A-Mom, Nina Keneally, of joins Bustle to give everyone on the team the advice about love and sex that they so desperately need. Download the Bustle App to get more sex and relationships every day: http:...Show More

1:17:00 | Nov 19th, 2015

To celebrate the debut of Bustle's newest addition to its family Romper, Margaret Wheeler-Johnson sat down with fellow Romper editor Jessica Blankenship to discuss why they hate the word MILF, how sex changes after motherhood, and comparing the exper...Show More

56:45 | Nov 11th, 2015

We're on a hunt for the elusive g-spot in this episode. G-spot truthers and doubters discuss their thoughts, how they've found theirs and whether it even matters. Download the Bustle app on iTunes:

1:08:43 | Nov 6th, 2015

This week's episode is all about sexting and our love/hate relationship with getting off with a partner over your smartphone. We'll join a pair of male sexperts to debate the effectiveness of dick pics, our favorite sexy emojis, and more.

52:32 | Oct 29th, 2015

Heather Hogan, the editor of Autostraddle, joins us to discuss all things related to girl-on-girl culture, lesbian sex, and more.

58:56 | Oct 22nd, 2015

Join us with Allison Yarrow, journalist and author of the forthcoming "90s Bitch: The Decade That Made American Women" (Harper Perennial, 2016) as we discuss sex in the '90s as well as Playboy's recent decision to ditch the nudity. On this podcast: ...Show More

1:30:41 | Oct 15th, 2015

Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, joins us to teach us all the tricks we need to improve our dating life through body language, confidence, and navigating the room.

1:04:15 | Oct 7th, 2015

We share our most terrible sexual experiences so that you can all indulge in the worst of our battle stories. Fortunately, Bustle's very own sex therapist, Vanessa Marin, joins us to discuss what to do if bad sex is an affliction in your life.

1:05:57 | Sep 30th, 2015

Babeland founder Claire Cavanah joins us to detail the history of the iconic female-owned sex toy shop and how to choose the perfect sex toy for you and your partner. She also brought a few of Babeland's best new products to prove what all the buzz i...Show More

1:09:29 | Sep 23rd, 2015

We sit down with Cindy Gallop in this very special interview to discuss everything from the porn myths she's working to dispel through Make Love Not Porn to the vocabulary of sex to why you should try bringing the camera into your own bedroom.

1:21:26 | Sep 17th, 2015

Nick Viall of The Bachelorette's past two seasons returns to discuss the 90s dating self-help classic "The Rules." He joins our male-in-his-twenties correspondent, Noel Howard, Kathryn Kattalia, and Producer Anna Parsons and dishes on what guys reall...Show More

1:13:47 | Sep 9th, 2015

Hate first dates? We do too. Join us as we talk about first dates, dating etiquette, sex, and more. Shelby Kern of Modern Love Club will also join us to give us her tips for making first dates less horrible.

53:52 | Sep 2nd, 2015

Ladies touch themselves too?! We get down and dirty about our (self) love lives, how our masturbation rituals change over the years, and its place within the context of a relationship.

1:07:19 | Aug 26th, 2015

Join us with Sarah Wendell of Smart Bitches, Trashy Books and author of Beyond Heaving Bosoms to discuss our love of romance novels, erotica, and smutty books in general.

1:09:43 | Aug 12th, 2015

Nick Viall joined us to chat all things The Bachelorette and what it's like to be rejected on live television. What's it like? What advice can he provide? And what dating tips can he give to our listeners?

1:11:27 | Aug 7th, 2015

Want all the right swipes? We sat down with Amanda Bradford, Founder and CEO of The League to discuss how to make the perfect profile for mobile dating apps and the mission of The League.

49:40 | Jul 29th, 2015

In this episode, our fearless sexperts discuss their first orgasms and how they manage to keep 'em coming everytime.

41:25 | Jul 22nd, 2015

Looking for more sex? Well, Bustle's got it for you (in podcast form — wait, what did you think we were talking about?). Each week on "I Want It That Way," Bustle's sex and relationships podcast, Lifestyle editor Kathryn Kattalia and associate video ...Show More