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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast

Robert Duff, Ph.D.

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

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I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health care. Before listening any further, just know that some of these are cruel and gross. We've come a long way since the different treatments that I will talk about, but they are important in that they are the predecessors to the treatments that we have now. In some cases they were mean and cruel. In others they were well intentioned, but limited by the lack of knowledge that we have today. Either way, if you are sensitive to topics like this, feel free to skip this one. Next week should be a more standard episode, so if you have a question or topic for me, send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com and the full show notes for this episode are available at duffthepsych.com/episode133.

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Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication.   This is the third episode taking a slightly different approach with just one question per episode, with the intention of diving deeper into topics. Now it's time to give me some feedback. If you go to the episode notes at duffthepsych.com/episode132, there will be a short survey. If you could take it, it would help me out so much!   As always if you have a question or topic that you'd live covered on the show, email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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For this episode, I was feeling a little too overwhelmed by the week to do a Q&A so instead I decided to talk to you all about breathing. We talk about different breathing exercises and how to practice them so that they are useful to you in moments of stress or anxiety. We cover the physiological mechanism behind relaxation breathing. Finally, we briefly cover mindfulness and meditative breathing.  The tone of this whole episode is a bit more calm and subdued. I hope that it's relaxing as well as informative!  As always you can send me your questions for future Q&As to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/21/17. It's all about tips that you can use to survive the holidays. The holidays are crazy for everyone, but it's stepped up a notch when you also struggle with mental health issues. Have a listen and take great care of yourselves. Much love! http://duffthepsych.com/episode85

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Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kati is a licensed therapist and brings a down-to-earth approach to the content that she puts out. In this interview, I learn a little more about Kati the person. We also talk about how her work as an influencer has affected her professional life. We discuss her new book, "Are You Okay?", and how you know that it's time to get some professional help. I really hope you enjoy this broad conversation. Be sure to show Kati some love on Youtube and pre-order her book, which will be released in December!

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Too Close to Home

Nov 8th6:31

The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few tips for coping.

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In this episode, I take a question from someone about how they can help their romantic partner who is great most of the time but gets suicidal or violent every so often. How can she get him to go to therapy or recognize the that there are actual issues going on? I give my perspective on this question and also spend some time defining bipolar disorder. Enjoy! For full episode notes, check out http://duffthepsych.com/episode131 and if you have a question or suggestion for the podcast, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 130: Complex PTSD

Oct 11th34:30

In this episode, I'm trying something slightly different. Rather than taking three questions, I'm taking one and using it as a jumping off point to go in-dept into topics related to the question. Sort of combining the deep-dive and Q&A formats. I'm going to try this for a few weeks and then ask for your opinions. Today's episode is all about C-PTSD or complex post-traumatic stress disorder. See full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode130 If you have a question that you'd like me to answer on the show, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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In this episode, I do a deep dive talking about a requested topic: dementia. It can be hard to find good information and advice about dementia online, so I hope that this episode can serve that function. I go in-depth and cover the following: Dementia terminology What kinds of dementia there are How to get a diagnosis Managing difficult behaviors Support available for caregivers If you have a suggestion for a future deep dive topic or have a question that you'd like me to answer, send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Back to the Q&A this week. Before I answer the questions, I talk about a recent psychiatric hospitalization that I had to do with the hope of helping you understand that it's not a purely black and white situation. Here are the questions I cover: How can I make friends when my depression gets in the way? Should I be avoiding stress rather than exposing myself? What advice do you have for a future therapist? As always, you can send your questions for the show in to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello! I thought it would be nice to have my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. She's usually a listener favorite guest and I always love talking with her, so I hope you enjoy our conversation! We talk about all kinds of stuff including: Our life and recent move Changing psychiatric meds Parenting with anxiety How I keep work at work As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Another round of awesome questions from you, the listeners. Here's what we cover this week: What can I do about the exhaustion that comes from fighting anxiety? How can I deal with my explosive anger? How can I mend the relationship with my step-daughter? As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! Sorry for anyone that missed last week's episode. I messed up a little with the technical side of things. We should be all back track this week. If you don't already, please subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or whatever podcast player you use, so you never miss out.  Here are the questions for this week: How can I get help when I can't afford therapy and I don't have insurance? What can I do when my emergency anxiety medication doesn't work? I feel pressured to have kids. What should I do about it? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Three totally different questions today ranging from relatively basic to quite intense. I hope you enjoy. Did a little something different with the format of this, please feel free to send me feedback about it. Here are the questions: As a transgender male, how can I cope with my dysphoria while having sex with my partner? Should I increase my dose of Klonopin or change medications for my anxiety? I feel like I don't have any reason to live. What else can I do? As mentioned in the podcast, check out http://hardcoreselfhelp.com for my audiobooks! If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello! Fantastic questions on today's Q&A episode. I am always amazed by your honesty and vulnerability when sending these in. Here's what we cover today: Could porn be causing my depression and lack of pleasure in life? How can I deal with my constant panic attacks? Should I talk to my therapist about new fleeting thoughts of suicide? As always, you can send me your questions for an upcoming episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Another full question and answer episode this week. Awesome questions, as always. I wanted to quickly say thank you for everyone who enrolled in the course. It was a very successful launch and I'm so happy that my hard work over the past year has paid off. THANK YOU! Here are the questions covered this week: How am I supposed to show my partner love when I have borderline personality disorder? How can I best support my suicidal friends? How can I stop procrastinating and stick to habits with anxiety? As always, please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Back at it! This episode is a full three question episode for you. Thanks for your patience over the past few weeks with the short episodes. That helped me out a lot. On a related note, the course is out! In fact, by the time the next episode drops, you will no longer be able to buy the course!! Get on it http://kickanxietycourse.com Here are the questions answered in this episode: How do I get over my anxiety about death? What can I do about my crippling regret? I feel attached to my therapist. Is that bad? If you have a question for a future episode, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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It's time! Kick Anxiety's Ass is now live! You can get instant access to all 10 modules of awesome anxiety slaying content at http://kickanxietycourse.com If you purchase before Monday, 8/6 and use the coupon code PODCAST, you will get $100 off. You can check out a bunch of free lessons from the course before you decide. I think you are going to get a lot out of it. In this episode, I answer one listener question about what to do when you are uncomfortable with your therapist walking behind you to their office at the start of session. We should be back to regularly scheduled programming next week. Until then, keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! Another mini episode this week as I gear up for the launch of Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is next week OMG fjkdlasnfkljd!  This week I am taking a question about what to do when dealing with a toxic mother that lives in the same city. A tough one, but a really important topic. Next week will be one more short episode and then we will be back to regularly scheduled programming. Keep your awesome questions coming! Send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, all! This is another mini-episode with just one question, but boy is it a good one. If you didn't catch the last episode, I am doing a series of short episodes while I crank out the finishing touches on my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass.  In this episode, I take a question about parenting with borderline personality disorder. Full show notes can be found at http://duffthepsych.com/episode118   If you want to send me a question for a future episode, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! For the next few episodes, I will be just taking one question, so that I can free up some of my time to put the finishing touches on the Kick Anxiety's Ass Course. For this week, the question is: Would online therapy be a good option for me, since I'm too depressed to do regular in-person therapy? If you have a question for me, be sure to send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Hello, friends! Super excited to bring my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. As usual, this is a super candid and honest conversation naturally flows into a variety of topics, but we broadly focused on issues related to communication and supporting one another in a relationship where one partner has significant mental health challenges. We bring our own personal experience into it and keep it super real. I hope you enjoy it.  Just a reminder: You have until 7/9/18 to enter the Kick Anxiety's Ass giveaway. Good luck!

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This episode is a little different. It's basically a deep-dive episode, but it's a little more off-the-cuff than usual. Given the multitude of troubling events in the US news today, I wanted to give some thoughts and advice about dealing with the news and the state of the world. It can be exceptionally hard for someone with mental health issues to know what to do when the state of the world becomes overwhelming. I hope the thoughts that I present here help. Here are a few tips: 1. Realize that no matter WHEN you hear about news or how much you worry about the event... those have absolutely no bearing on the fact that the event happened. In other words, the events are happening whether or not you already know about them.  2. Regulate your flow of information. Consider waiting to "plug in" to the world until you've gotten ready for the day and consider unplugging for at least an hour before you go to sleep.  3. Fight back against the false sense of immediacy that anxiety gives you. 4. Remember that you are allowed to feel, but not taking care of yourself may limit your ability to help or make a difference. 5. Taking good care of yourself allows you to funnel energy into action, which can make you feel less helpless.  Quick update: HUGE giveaway going on right now at duffthepsych.com/giveaway   Thanks!

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Why hello there! This is a regular question and answer episode. Couple updates first:  1. The audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety has been updated and is WAY better. Check it out here: https://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Hardcore-Self-Help-F-k-Anxiety-Audiobook/B00S8U7PKW 2. There are three free lessons from my course that you can check out without any signups required at http://kickanxietycourse.com Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do about my intense anxiety and stomach pain when I have to go to school? How can I go about telling my new romantic partner about my mental health issues? When is the right time to stop therapy? As always you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! This is a straightforward question and answer episode. First a couple updates: I changed the free preview content that is available on http://kickanxietycourse.com. Now you can get three free lessons that cover defining anxiety, breathing strategies, and thinking traps. Good stuff. The audiobook for F**k Anxiety will also be new and improved probably near the end of next week. I'll update again when the changes are processed. Here are this week's questions: My husband and I want to explore polyamory, but how can I get over my anxiety about him liking someone else more than me? How can I get my family to stop abandoning me due to my bipolar? What can I do now that my disability prevents me from doing the things that I used to love? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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In this episode, I do something a little different. This is a highly requested deep dive episode into the topic of ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response. You know, those videos where people tap things and whisper on youtube? I used to make those videos. For almost 6 years, in fact.  I talk about what ASMR is and give examples from different videos. At the end, I even give you a bonus ASMR audio sample recorded by yours truly. Enjoy!  Here are the videos that I used samples from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVyPFXdn0ME ASMR 1H OF TAPPING NO TALKING! more than 1 hour! by Chiara ASMR https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9h94cOlXFRc ASMR 1 Hour Tapping | No Talking by ASMR Glow https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOfN9ZOGXcA ASMR Purely Close Up Whispers | Ear to Ear by LauraLemurex ASMR https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X6-vAoDz008 ASMR Dmitri Talks about a Dream - Soft Spoken Voice by Massage ASMR https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrKbOF3vHo8 Cranial Nerve Test with Pat LaFontaine & Dr. James Kelly by brainline https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgzmbwRNfmA Asheville Mall Manicure Nail Buff, Great Gift by Ask Asheville https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDZuaQ05Xso OLD ~ Cranial Nerve Examination Roleplay by Cutebunny992 Binaural Dual Trigger Sounds ASMR by me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEyR5dCQs60 [ASMR] Hearing Test Nurse (Soft Spoken) by GIBI ASMR

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Hey, friends. This was a really good episode thanks to the awesome questions that I was sent in. In fact, I think this episode would be a really great one to share with your friends if you wanted to give them an example of my podcast ;). Here are the questions that are covered in this episode: Are repressed memories real and what should you do about them? How do I know that I've fully processed recent losses in my family? How can I get help when I'm 15, depressed, and embarrassed? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com And be sure to check out my new online anxiety course at http://kickanxietycourse.com

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This episode is kind of a hybrid. It's not quite an interview. More of a collaborative question and answer session. I sat down with my friend Skye Stifel, a school psychologist that I went to grad school with, to answer your questions about kids and adolescents. Good stuff! Please head over to http://kickanxietycourse.com to learn more about my 10-week intensive anxiety bootcamp!  As always, please send me your questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends!! Today's episode is a question and answer session. I think it turned out pretty well despite some annoying flooding that happened in my office this week, which I talk about in the episode.  Hey, if you are interested in taking your anxiety from a 9 to a 3 and taking back control of your life, be sure to follow me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych because I will VERY soon be opening up pre-orders for my 10-week online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. Stay tuned. Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do about my step-mother who does not support me being in therapy? How can I make friends in college? How can I build a thicker skin in the face of rejection? If you have questions for a future episode, please send them on over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hi, friends! Thanks for tuning in again. As always, I really appreciate your support and participation in this podcast. In this episode, I am interviewing Quinn Gee. She is a therapist, business owner, and all around badass. We talk about how she got into therapy, her own identity development, what it's like being a therapist, and some concepts related to black mental health. It was a great talk.  Next week should be a regular question and answer episode, so send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com Be sure to show Quinn some love at: http://twitter.com/cuntrycounselor https://www.magnoliamhealth.com/

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In this episode, I talk about options for depression that just does not seem subside despite your best efforts. If you have tried therapy, medication, and all of the other things that we are supposed to do to tackle depression, but you still can't put a dent in it, you may have "treatment resistant depression". It can be extremely frustrating to fall into this category, but I want to reassure you that there is still hope. In this podcast, I talk about different options and techniques that can be used to move past resistant depression.

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Today's episode is a very interesting interview with "The Muslim Hippy" herself, Sakinah. I love this interview for several reasons. First off, we covered some great topics and Sakinah was totally open and real about her struggles with severe mental illness. It was also a very authentic picture of how you can persist and do cool things like a podcast interview in the context of your mental illness. Sakinah second guessed whether the interview was good quality because she was just coming off of an episode and felt that her thoughts were scattered. Regardless of this, I think that she did an amazing job and serves a a great model of having mental health issues AND kicking ass. Enjoy! If you have any suggestions for topics or potential guests, send them over to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This is a deep dive episode of the Hardcore Self Help mental health podcast that was prompted by an email question that I got. In this episode, I talk about the different types of therapy that are available. Of course, I don't cover every single one, but I describe some of the types of therapy that you are most likely to encounter including: Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Dialectical Behavior Therapy EMDR Family Systems Therapy Integrative or Eclectic Therapy

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Hello! This is a special episode. I got the chance to interview Dr. Andrea Letamendi. She is a clinical psychologist and the host of the Arkham Sessions podcast. She uses comics, nerdom, and pop culture as a vehicle to explain psychological concepts. We had a broad conversation about these topics, her background, and the field of psychology in general. I hope you enjoy! Please send me your questions about children for an upcoming episode where I will enlist the help of a school psychologist to answer questions about kiddos. You can send them (and other questions) to duffthepsych@gmail.com Please show Dr. Letamendi some love on twitter at http://twitter.com/arkhamasylumdoc and visit her website at http://underthemaskonline.com

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Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode. Next week will be an interview with the amazing Dr. Andrea Letamendi all about comic books, pop culture, and mental health.  I would really appreciate it if you would rate the show on iTunes OR share the show with your friends this week.  Here are the questions covered in this episode: How to I get over traumatic flashbacks when it has been over a year? Do I have borderline personality disorder or bipolar? Should I feel pressured to have sex? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Today I have an interview with an amazing guest. Dr. Ron Holt is a psychiatrist who stepped away from direct clinical practice to focus directly on advocacy work related to LGBTQ issues. As a proud gay man, he describes his experience growing up and a variety of other topics such as tips for coming out safely.  Please check out Ron's work at http://twitter.com/drronholt and at http://drronholt.com Next week will be another question and answer episode, so be sure to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, everybody! We are back to the normal question and answer format this week. I really enjoyed episode 100, in which my friend Dan Fields interviewed me as a guest. If you haven't checked that one out yet, I suggest it! Next week will be another interview as well with an awesome guest. Here are the questions that I tackle this week: What should I do to have a better work-life balance when my colleagues work all weekend? Why do I have a great memory for school, but a terrible memory for social information? Is stimming a valid coping strategy for fatigue and burnout as a person with autism? If you have a question for the podcast, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com or go to http://duffthepsych.com/contact

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Hello, friends! This is episode 100 of the podcast and as such I wanted to do something a little different. I invited my friend Dan Fields from the Save It For The Show podcast on to interview ME as a guest. We had a really interesting conversation about all kinds of stuff. Honestly, I wish we had another 2 hours to talk. Let me know if you'd like to hear a part 2 in the future. Super huge thanks to Dan for volunteering his time to this episode. I also just wanted to say THANK YOU. This has been a really special project and I'm proud of what we've created here. I can't believe it's been 100 episodes. I am so honored and thankful for your support.

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Episode 99, guys! Next week is big 100. I'll be doing something a bit different for that episode, so make sure you tune in for that one. This week is my first interview of the year. In this episode, I talk to Erez Shek about his experiences with bullying, bipolar, being a gay man, hospitalization, and social media. It was a great conversation!  Please show Erez some love on twitter at: http://twitter.com/erezsheck and check out his website at: https://www.theshekcheck.com/ Do you have a guest that you would love to hear me interview? Let me know! Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com This episode was brought to you by Sudio. Check out http://sudio.com for some awesome Swedish-designed bluetooth headphones. Use the offer code SELFHELP for 15% off!

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This episode is actually ripped from a long video that I recorded. I have been thinking a lot about exposure for anxiety lately for multiple reasons. For one, I'm in the middle of creating my online course for anxiety and recently wrote the content for the module on exposure. I have also been frustrated by people that I see in my clinical practice who have gone through years of therapy for their anxiety, but never engaged in exposure treatment for their anxiety. Research indicates that exposure is a vital component of successful anxiety treatment. It's about facing your anxiety head on and teaching your body to stop reacting so strongly to it.  In this episode, I talk about exposure in general and then break down two methods for gaining exposure and increasing your tolerance for anxiety. If you'd like to submit a question for a future episode, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Today's episode is sponsored by Sudio headphones. To see some seriously stylish headphones with great functionality check out https://goo.gl/Q5excs and use the code SELFHELP for 15% off of your purchase.  This episode is a normal Q & A. My voice progressively died as I recorded the episode, so you get croaky Robert again. Great variety of questions this time including: How can I find a positive male role model for my boys since their father died? Should I talk about my trauma in therapy even though I haven't spoken about it for 30 years? Has my history of hydrocephalus affected my speed of thinking? How can I improve? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com Thanks!

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Hello, friends! I'm back from my paternity leave. Thank you for the support, the great feedback, and the patience during my absence. Excited to be back at it. Some exciting stuff coming up in the coming months including some really awesome guests. Look forward to that. This episode is a question and answer episode with questions from my private Hardcore Self Help facebook group. If you aren't a member yet, go to http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp and request access! Here are the questions: How can I prepare for a big life change? How can I get over my relationship insecurity? Is procrastination related to anxiety? If you have questions that you would like me to answer, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Heyoooo! This is one more mini-episode where I am answering a single question rather than 3. If all goes according to plan, this will be the last episode of my paternity leave and I'll be back to normal next week. Thanks for your patience! Keep sending me your amazing questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, everyone!  Today is a mini-episode. I'm still on my paternity leave, so I'm coming at you with a single question and answer, rather than my typical 3 per episode. I hope you enjoy this quick bite of information and I also hope that you're taking great care of yourself. If you want to send me a question, please do so at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hey, friends! I'm currently off on paternity leave, so my friend and fellow psychologist, Amber Baker, Ph.D., is stepping in to answer your questions today. The episode is very similar to my normal question and answer episodes, just with a different host. I think she knocked it out of the park. Be sure to stop by the following links to show her some love and say thanks for doing such a great job. https://twitter.com/DrBakerPhD http://www.gofriendyourselfdoc.com/ https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/go-friend-your-self-with-dr-baker/id1266870594?mt=2 Please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. I'll be doing mini episodes for the next two weeks and then I should be back at it with normal episodes.

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Hello, friends! It's only been like 3 episodes since I've done a Q&A, but it feels like it has been forever. Super happy to be back here answering your mental health questions. The next 3 episodes will be a bit different due to my paternity leave, which I explain at the top of the episode. Here are the questions for this week: How can someone with anxiety/depression prevent burnout? Is it possible to overcome anxiety without medication, especially with vertigo? I've been burned before, but I want to date again. What are the signs that I'm dating a healthy/good guy? As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com  Thanks!

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Episode 91: The Wife Part 2

Jan 11th58:08

My wife, Joelle is back on the podcast today. We talk about lots of stuff including anxiety and pregnancy, our plans for the new baby, communication within our relationship, and we also answer some listener questions. Enjoy!  Next week will probably be a normal episode, but after that there will be some mini-episodes and guest spots, as I go on paternity leave. Definitely keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Here we are. It's 2018. Crazy. In this episode, I reflect on the past year and talk about my hopes and goals for 2018. I talk a bit about my personal life, my professional life, and this podcast. Please stop by Twitter or Facebook and let me know what your hopes for the year are!  If you want to send me a question for a future episode, you can reach me at duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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I know I already did a holiday themed episode, but I figured you guys could use a little more love as you continue through the holiday season. Rather than answering your questions today, I'm going to lead you through a guided relaxation designed to help you de-stress and relieve some of the stress that often accompanies the holidays. Give yourself the gift of relaxation. Put in some headphones. Chill with me. I got you.  No episode next week. Back at it the week after. Keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com   Background music credit: https://cctrax.com/cousin-silas/landscapes

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Today is a question and answer episode. I'm doing two questions instead of three today, just because I've gotta get up early for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. I think these are two really great questions though. In one of the questions, I reference a video with Kristen Bell, which you can check out at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYUQ_nlZgWE In the other, I reference the cycle of abuse image, which you can see here: http://teaminfocus.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Cycle-of-Abuse.png Here are the questions: How can I help my children, who are starting to show signs of depression and anxiety, when I can't even help myself? How can I recognize and move past abuse when I'm unsure about whether I have been abused? As always you can send your questions in to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 87: Surviving Disasters

Dec 7th, 201735:34

Hey, friends. I'm not sure if you saw the news, but southern California is on fire. I'm safe, but a lot of friends and acquaintances are not. I'm in this eerie spot where we are very close to the fires, but at very low risk, so "normal" life continues on. Decided to do an episode with some of my tips for getting through disasters like this including: Understanding stress vs anxiety Prepping to avoid freezing Mental rehearsal Importance of rest Focusing on what you DO have control over Mindfulness in disaster situations Finding comfort in the small moments Keeping routine where you can Talking about event without re-traumatizing Processing your feelings Getting help Managing social media consumption Not sure what format next week's episode will be, but please feel free to keep sending your questions over to duffthepsych@gmail.com and be sure to check out the info for my upcoming course at duffthepsych.com/course

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Hello, my friends! This episode is just a straight forward question and answer episode with some really awesome questions. This week I am also working on a book proposal for a traditional publisher, which means that you would be able to buy this potential book in stores. That's a bucket list item of mine and I'm excited to keep you updated in the coming weeks/months.  Here are the questions for this episode: How can I get help when I'm too anxious to call a therapist? How can I get over my fear of vomiting? How can I get through high school when I have been depressed for years? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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The holidays are crazy for everybody and they can be particularly stressful if you deal with any mental health issues. In this episode of the podcast, I share a few tips that can help you stay afloat during the Holiday season.  If you have other tips that work well for you, please share them with my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and I will RT them for my audience!

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This is a deep dive episode where I spend the entire time talking about one topic of interest rather than taking questions from the audience. In this episode, I cover something that I've been meaning to talk about for a while, which is the word "trigger" and the term 'trigger warning". I cover what the term "actually" means, where it came from, and my mixed feelings about the way that trigger warnings or content warnings are used these days. A the end, I also give some practical tips for when social media becomes too triggering. Next episode will be either an interview with Brent Williams, who wrote the Out of the Woods graphic novel that I review here or just a regular Q&A. Please keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Thanks for having some fun with me for the Halloween episode last week. This one will be a regular Q&A episode. I wanted to give a quick shout out to my buddy Speeks Geak for hooking me up with the new intro and outro beat. Check him out over at: https://twitter.com/SpeeksGeak909 In this episode, I cover some great questions on a variety of topics. Here is what I cover: What is bipolar depression? How is it different than "regular" depression? How should I tell my therapist that I don't want to work with them anymore? How do I get my files from them? What can I do about my grandparent with dementia not remembering their spouse? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and follow me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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This week we are doing something a little different. I wanted to get into the Halloween spirit, so today on the podcast, I tell you the story of 4 spooky psychology experiments that reveal the darker side of the human condition.

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Today we have another question and answer episode featuring some super interesting questions. Don't forget to sign up for my newsletter to get the free resources mentioned in the episode. Here are the questions... What happens when you have feelings for your therapist? How can journaling help anxiety? How can I help a friend with major depression? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! This is a deep dive episode all about your phone. I share some apps and general principles that you can use with your phone to improve your mental health and overall life progress. Unfortunately there is one abrupt cut toward the end of the episode because my recording program crashed and I had to re-record some. Oh well!  Here are some of the apps that I mentioned: Pacifica: https://www.thinkpacifica.com/ Headspace: https://www.headspace.com/ Calm: https://www.calm.com/ 7 Cups: http://7cups.com/ Forest: https://www.forestapp.cc/en/ The next episode will likely be a Q & A episode, so please continue sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! Apologies for the unexpected lapse in episodes last week. Had some family stuff come up on my normal recording night and I was slammed with clinical work for the rest of the week. I'm back with a great Q&A episode this week though! Here are the questions covered: How can I regulate my depression and self-criticism while gaming competitively? Do I need to get additional testing to switch my ADHD medications? Is it bad that I'm obsessed with suicide-related content? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, everyone! Thanks so much for joining me again. This is another question and answer episode featuring the following questions: How can I set boundaries and communicate better with my introverted partner? I've been doing well until recent changes. Now all of my symptoms are back. What can I do? Is it normal to have a spike in anxiety when I have my period? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to sign up for the mailing list (launch group list closing next week) at http://duffthepsych.com/course

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Hello, friends! Thanks for joining me again for another Q&A episode. I was recently interviewed about anxiety on the Sexy Fit Podcast, which you can check out here: http://sexyfit.com/mindset/ep-180-fk-anxiety-practical-strategies-help/ I also wanted to mention that I will be switching my release day from Wednesday to Thursday each week, just to fit better with my life and keep myself sane. Here are the questions for this week: Are fidget spinners helpful in coping with skin picking disorder? I think about my psych hospitalization everyday. Is that normal? What is avoidant personality disorder? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! This episode is coming at you a little late today, which I explain at the beginning. It's important to be honest with yourself and exercise control over your situation to avoid burnout. Here are the awesome questions in this episode: Why am I starting to struggle with my mental health at age 46? Can you have fleeting suicidal tendencies? Do flotation tanks help with anxiety and ADHD? As always you can send me your questions for the podcast to duffthepsych@gmail.com  You can also sign up to be part of the launch team of my upcoming course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, at http://duffthepsych.com/course

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Another Q&A episode today! Some really great questions and I get pretty detailed about a few diagnoses. Before that, be sure to check out the private facebook group for the HCSH community at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/484559841901855/ Look out for more info on my upcoming Kick Anxiety's Ass course and be a part of the beta group here: http://eepurl.com/c06Uzn Here are the questions covered in this episode: Why do I have violent thoughts and why do I need everything to be even in number? How can I work on my relationships with other people, given my estrangement from my mother? Do my symptoms fit with bipolar disorder? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Today we are doing a deep dive episode all about ways that you can maximize your progress in therapy. Whether you are a seasoned therapy veteran or barely thinking about getting started, this will be good information for you to keep in the back of your mind.  Before I share the 10 tips for getting the most out of therapy, I wanted to let you know that I started a new closed facebook group for the Hardcore Self Help Community. You can find that at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/484559841901855/ Here are the tips: 1. You don't need to impress your therapist 2. Don't lie to your therapist 3. Don't be afraid to get emotional and let it out 4. Challenge your therapist and correct them 5. If it's not working, say something 6. Find someone you are comfortable with 7. Get therapy sooner 8. Take notes and journal 9. Do the homework and practice the skills 10. Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session Next week should be another Q&A episode, so keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, everyone! Just off the top, given the BS going on in the world at the moment, I need to reaffirm that everyone is welcome here regardless of race, ethnicity, cultural background, gender identity, sexual orientation etc. Just needs to be said.  Today's episode is another Q&A with some really awesome questions including: How can I help my mom who has multiple personalities? Why do I procrastinate sleep and what can I do about it? What can I do when I am the codependent friend? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to follow me on social @duffthepsych for cute baby stuff!

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This is a deep dive episode all about common thinking traps and pitfalls that we encounter as human beings. In the field, we refer to these as "cognitive distortions". In this episode, I break down ten of them for you and talk a bit about how to use your knowledge of them to your advantage. Here are the cognitive distortions that I cover in this episode: Mind Reading Personalizing Just World Fallacy Emotional Reasoning Shoulds and Musts Black and White Thinking Overgeneralization Filtering Catastrophizing Overestimating Power of Thoughts Next week should be another Q & A episode, so please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! Just another awesome question and answer episode for you. Two short questions and one more complicated question: How can I overcome my self-criticism and low self-esteem? What does my family member mean when she says that she has "functional anxiety"? Do I need to forgive my abuser?  As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and follow my on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

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Hey, friends! Before I get into the questions for this episode, I wanted to let you know that I recently posted a video and blogpost in which I share an entire chapter from my book about suicide. You can check that out and share it at http://duffthepsych.com/suicide. Here are this week's questions: How do I tell me mom that I don't need more therapy? Am I a fraud for improving my depression symptoms on my own? How can I talk about self-harm with my therapist without ruining things? That's it for this week! As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Wide variety of questions this time! I love it. Please continue sending me your questions and look forward to some "guest hosts" in the future! Also thanks so much for the reviews on iTunes. It's greatly appreciated! Here are the questions covered in this episode: What if I don't remember what I enjoyed before depression because it's been so many years? Can my dad recover from his aneurysm? How can I make my boyfriend stop masturbating when he knows that I don't want him to?  As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

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Packed episode this week! I didn't realize it when I constructed the episode, but I included two double questions for a total of 5 questions answered this episode, haha! Really interesting stuff though. If you have a minute, please head over to itunes and leave a review for this podcast and consider sharing with a friend. Thanks so much! Here are the questions covered: Why do I get panic attacks when I'm hot? What is EMDR and does it actually work? What should I do about my brother's worrying social media posts? Do therapists worry about their clients? How do you keep good boundaries as a therapist? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! Sorry for the lapse in shows. I did that re-posting of my interview on the Cognitive Rampage podcast a couple weeks ago and this past week I got super sick and completely lost my voice! No bueno. I'm feeling a lot better now and I'm back with another great question and answer session for you. Here are the questions covered: Are anxiety and perfectionism related? How do you find passions and interests? Everything feels like a chore. What can I do about being in the same location as my abuser? Keep sending me in your questions. I will be back again next week as long as I don't get the plague again! Send them in to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hey, friends. This episode is a little different. I didn't have time to record a full Q & A episode this week due to life and work. However, I think I found a nice alternative here. Recently I was on Adam Lowery's podcast called Cognitive Rampage. He's a cool dude and has a book by the same name. This turned out to be a wide ranging conversation and I think probably one of the best interviews that I've ever given. So have a listen and head over to Adam's site to see more content. Next week will be back to the Q&A, so send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com Here's the full podcast on Adam's page: http://adamlowery.com/

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Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode for you. Hey, I'd appreciate it so much if you'd send me some honest open-ended feedback about the podcast to duffthepsych@gmail.com with the subject line "podcast feedback". As long or short as you'd like. You can give me any feedback that you would like. Anyways, here are the three questions that are covered: What are some ways to avoid vicarious trauma or burnout when working in an intense job? If I have had panic attacks since I was 5 years old, will I always have them? Am I just wired this way? Do you think mental health disorders are actually on the rise or is it just more awareness and the influence of the internet? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can also see a video bonus question on facebook or youtube.

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Hello again, friends. This is another Q&A episode with some really great questions. Wanted to let you know that I am now doing a bonus question each week on youtube and facebook. I also mention the video about finding a therapist online. You can find that at http://duffthepsych.com/findatherapist Here are the questions that I cover: Should I try therapy again after having a bad experience? How do I break up with someone whose mom is dying? How can I get over my social anxiety and blushing? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, my friends! Another awesome Q & A for you this week. Couple links that I mentioned in the show. Here's the cognitive rampage podcast: http://adamlowery.com/podcasts/ and here is that episode about TMS therapy that I mentioned: http://psychsessions.com/2017/01/01/ps-039-treating-depression-with-transcranial-magnetic-stimulation-tms/ Anyways, here are the questions I cover: What is electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and is this something I should look into for depression? Should I get treatment when my depression isn't so bad that I have a formal diagnosis? What can I do to make my severe cancer diagnosis and treatment more bearable?  As always you can find my on social @duffthepsych and you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends. We are back to the Q&A this week. Thanks so much for your super awesome feedback on the last episode with my wife. If you'd like to hear more from her, let me know! At the start I ramble a little bit about the importance of advertising and allowing me to make a living so that I can continue to put all this work in for free. Here are the amazing questions that we go through in this episode: Am I using my depression as an excuse? Should I be better by now? Is it normal to feel like my depression keeps recurring? What should I do about my self-harm when I feel like it's a normal coping mechanism? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and hit me up on social @duffthepsych!

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Very special episode this week for you! I've been meaning to get my wife on the show for a good while now. This is the first time that I've ever interviewed her about her experiences with mental illness. I have talked about her in my TEDx talk and my books, so this was a really nice opportunity to sit down for a while and just chat about her life. We talk about what it's like being married to me, her earliest anxiety experiences, motherhood, her hospitalization, and things that have helped her progress in her mental health journey.  Next week should be a Q&A episode, so please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and follow my wife on social @joellecharming

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Hello, friends! Good news - your boy is official! I finally passed all of the hurdles and paid all of my money and got my license as a clinical psychologist in California. It's super meaningful for me and I appreciate you being a part of the journey. Anyway, this is another great question and answer episode. Here's what I cover: Should I play a show with my band in the city that my friend died?  How can I improve my relationship when I might be the toxic one and create conflict for attention? What can I do about my anxiety and agoraphobia if I haven't left the house in two months? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

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Hello, friends. Thanks for joining me again for another question and answer episode. Wanted to let you know that I've been doing instagram stories over at http://instagram.com/duffthepsych. Check them out if you would like a little snapshot into my day to day life as a psychologist/dad/entrepreneur etc.  Here are the questions covered in this episode: I have anxiety caused by Graves disease. I'd like to get anxiety medication to help, but I'm not sure how to talk to my doctor about it. How can I bring it up? My father killed himself and I want to get therapy, but I'm afraid that I'll be hospitalized. Should I bother? Robert, how do you get so much done when I can hardly find a single moment to myself? As always you can send me your anonymous questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and I'll see you next time!

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Hello, friends! Thanks for tuning in. In this episode, I take 3 more awesome question from you listeners. There are a couple questions from younger people, which I think is awesome. I decided to livestream this episode on my facebook page. I will try to do more of that in the future, so keep your eyes out for Tuesday night live video on the facebook page over at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych Here are the questions covered in this episode: Could my high IQ cause mental health issues? What can I do when I'm bad at hiding how I feel at school or work? Should I get help as a young person with depression? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hey, friends! In this episode, I do something a bit different. I guess you could say that this is a deep dive episode that was prompted by a listener question. Someone wrote in and wanted to know more about what got me into the field of psychology in the first place and what appeals to me about it. So I get a little personal and tell you about my early life, experiences, and journey through the field of psychology. I hope you enjoy! Next week will most likely be another question and answer episode, so please continue sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! I just want to take a minute to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to listen and for sending in questions to help me create this content. Also wanted to give you a heads up that I will be off of social media for next week. Anyways, here are the questions covered in this episode: Now that I am out of a cult, how can manage my anxiety and make sure I give my daughter opportunities to socialize? Would a polyphasic sleep schedule help me get enough rest for my shift work? I'm in a good place recently. What can I do to prepare for therapy between sessions? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you are not yet following me on social, get on that. I'm @duffthepsych on everything.

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Hello, friends! Another Q & A episode for you today. If you are not yet, please follow me on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych I've been doing some cool content over there that I talk about at the top of the episode.  Here are the questions tackled in this episode: How can I address a lie that I told in my relationship? What does it mean when a therapist mentions their religion in online databases? How can I better prioritize topics for psychotherapy? As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hey, friends! Thanks for the patience during my week off. I talk about about that at the beginning of this episode. The remainder is dedicating to helping you understand the issue of confidentiality in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what information is kept private vs when a therapist can share your info, this episode is for you. This turned out to be a longer episode, because it's fairly comprehensive. I cover what you need to know about confidentiality and reporting in regards to: Danger to self Danger to others Child abuse Elder abuse Minors in therapy Crimes And more. Next week will be a Q&A episode, so shoot me your questions about mental health, psychology, and life to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Okay, my friends! I think this was a great episode. I got to cover some really interesting questions that I am sure apply to many of you out there. Don't forget to check out my TEDx talk at http://duffthepsych.com/tedx. Here are the questions that are covered in this episode: How can I get over feeling like I don't deserve to feel better? How do you know if you actually need psychological help or if you are just blowing things out of proportion? What can you do to overcome panic attacks on stage? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! First off, please go check out my TEDx talk at http://duffthepsych.com/tedx it would mean the world to me. This episode is another question and answer session. I'm getting sick, so pardon any sniffles or brain farts. Here are the questions that I cover: Why do I still feel anxiety even though I know everything is fine in my brain? What can I do when I feel depression first coming on? How can I help my daughter with borderline personality disorder? As always you can email me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit my up on social media at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Episode 50: VICTORY!!

Feb 22nd, 201730:28

Episode 50, guys! Woohooo!!! Man. Crazy stuff. Thank you SO FREAKIN MUCH for your continued collaboration on this podcast. Your questions and inspiration keep it going. In this episode, I reflect a bit on the journey so far and then share a few victory stories sent in by listeners. It is always important to give yourself credit for big and small moments of success when you are living with mental illness.  Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you! Let's keep this goin. Send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and I'll see you next week.

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Hey, everyone! Please continue to send me in your mental health success stories both big and small. I have a few good ones, but I want more! I will be reading them on the next episode, which is freakin' episode 50!!! SO AWESOME WTFBBQ!!! Ahem. Here are today's questions.  Should I tell my friend's therapist about her suicidal behaviors?  How should I talk to my boss about my depression? Can you permanently get anxiety from smoking weed?   You can send me your questions and success stories to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Hello, friends! GASP! I forgot to record a podcast. I mean... I remembered, but I didn't remember in time for my usual midnight upload time. Oh well. You probably don't care. HEY! I would love to hear your personal mental health success stories big and small. Please send them over to me in the next couple weeks for episode 50! Here are this week's questions: How can I "get over" a sexual assault that happened a couple months ago? Why do I have a hard time sleeping with other people in the room? What is it like having a spouse with a mental illness?  As always you can send me your questions (and success stories) to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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This episode is another deep dive episode. I decided at the last minute to go ahead and do a little rundown of my personal tips for public speaking. In particular these are tips that help me with memorization, managing stress, and knocking it out of the park when it comes to "performance" style speeches such as keynotes or TED style talks. I recently did a TEDx talk in my community, which is what prompted this entire topic. Stay tuned for that video once it's released.  Enjoy these tips and let me know if I should do anything special for Episode 50! Hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, my friends! Just wanted to say thanks again so much for always sending in such awesome, honest, and brave questions. You guys are amazing. In this episode I take a couple questions that are related to dealing with significant others who have mental illness.  Here are the questions covered: Is there a genetic link for mental illness? Is it inherited from your family? What can I do about my 27 year old daughter who lives at home and is abusive toward me? What can I do about my friend of 20 years who has abandonment issues and drains me emotionally? As always you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit me up on social media @duffthepsych.

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Hello, friends! In this episode I take three new awesome questions. We cover the whole board from going heavy into some complicated terminology about neurobiology and testing all the way to hitting you with some hard truths about "saving" a relationship. Please consider sharing the show with the people in your life and on social media. You never know who might need to hear the answers to these questions. Here are the specific questions covered this episode: Years ago, my IQ was estimated to be low. Can your IQ improve over time and should I be tested again? How can I save my marriage with my wife who has mental illness and drinking issues? What is a normal level of anxiety? When should you get help? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or you can hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Alrighty, folks! Got another 3 questions to answer for you today. First off I wanted to say thanks for the recent influx of questions. I have many to choose from, which is awesome. Keep sending them in!  As a reminder, you can find info about my books at hardcoreselfhelp.com or by looking up hardcore self help on Amazon.  So here are the questions covered in this episode: Should I take my friend up on an offer of hypnotherapy/NLP? How can I manage my obsession over the news and fear of the current global climate? Should I be worried about medicating my 8 year old child for serious psychiatric issues? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or @duffthepsych on all social media.

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Heavy hitting questions today. Love it! I'm a little sick in this episode, so please pardon any congestion etc. That said, there are some really good points in this episode, particularly in relation to the first question.  I dropped a couple links in the intro. Here they are: http://duffthepsych.com/dementia for my new book and http://duffthepsych.com/resources for all sorts of psych resources that I like. Here are the questions covered in this episode: How can I bring up suicidal thoughts to my doctor? What can I do about my agoraphobia? How can I stop being paranoid in my relationship? As always please send me your questions (and share the show). You can reach me via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Hey everyone! Back with another question and answer episode after a nice little holiday. I am slightly scatter brained this episode because people kept ringing the door and interrupting me. Grrrrrrr! This episode has some great questions though, so I hope you find some useful bits of information here. This is what I cover: What should I expect from medication for depression? How can I address my anxiety about money? How can I motivate my depressed spouse to clean the house? If you have questions, please send them over to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Episode 41: Three Stolen Ideas

Dec 21st, 201625:43

In this episode I do something pretty different. Rather than take mental health questions, I present three ideas that I "stole" from people in fields OTHER than psychology. However, these are ideas that I think have great applications to life, emotions, and mental health. Two ideas are stolen from Tim Ferriss, who is the author of the 4 Hour book series and has an amazing podcast called the Tim Ferriss Show. The other idea is stolen from Chris Hardwick, who is the creator of the Nerdist network and a television host.  Here are the ideas I would like you to ponder: Do I need to gain it the same way I lost it? What would this look like if it were easy? You can not reason someone out of a position that they did not reason themselves into. Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so send your questions over to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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This episode has some tough questions! I'm glad you aren't going easy on me. Keep them coming, please! Here is what I cover: How can you tell the difference between self-care and just being lazy or avoiding? What can I do when I am jealous of my friend making close relationships with other people? What should I do, as a senior in high school, about my mental health issues?   Please continue to send me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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On this episode I do a deep dive into physical symptoms and cues that are related to anxiety. Often people feel a physical sensation and their brain misinterprets it for anxiety, which prompts those familiar feelings of panic. We talk all about that.  As a reminder, you can get a free audiobook on me by checking out http://audibletrial.com/duff and you can check out MY books over at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com Next week is a Q and A episode, so please send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Great variety of questions this week. I start the episode off by sharing some of my personal strategies for coping with stress and anxiety. Then it's straight into the questions. In one of the questions, I mention an earlier episode focusing on internet therapy, so here's the link for that: http://duffthepsych.com/episode10. Here are the questions I take: How can I tell me Mom that I need help without her being disappointed in me? What should I do now that my therapist abandoned me? How do I get back to my old self when chronic illness has me depressed? Please send me more questions! You can reach me via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Thanks for your patience with my little break last week. I needed to allow myself to be human for a bit. Hopefully you enjoyed and made good use of the guided relaxation. This week it's back to the questions. I take some tough but important questions in this episode. Here's what we cover: Is it possible for a relationship to survive emotional abuse? Should I be worried about my word finding difficulties? How do I feel better about cutting ties with my family? As always you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Things have been weird over here in the states. I need a break from podcasting this week and I think we could all use a little relaxation. Whether this relaxation is to help you cope or to rejuvenate you to get back out there and keep at it... you deserve a few deep breaths. What I uploaded for you this week is a guided muscle relaxation. There is no intro or anything like that. I just dive straight into a walkthrough of how you can use your breath and muscle tension to put yourself into a deep state of relaxation. Enjoy and take good care of yourselves.

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Thanks so much to those of you who recently left iTunes reviews. I really appreciate it. These are the three episodes that I took on this episode: What can I do to help my brother with OCD? What if social anxiety gets in the way of therapy? How can I cope with my extremely stressful job? I also mentioned some links in this episode... Sorting Therapy: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/sorting-therapy-sort-colors/id1123877452?mt=8 Teen Vogue Article: http://www.teenvogue.com/story/what-to-expect-at-first-therapy-session-counseling Dissertation: http://duffthepsych.com/internettherapy TalkSpace Episode: http://duffthepsych.com/episode10   As always you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Hello! A nice wide ranging set of questions this time. Don't be afraid to send in any questions that you have. There are no bad questions (within reason...)!  Here's what we cover in this episode: How do you find a therapist who meets certain demographic specifications? Is pain a necessary part of changing behavior? Should you have firm boundaries with a parent? As always you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Another great episode full of your questions. We start off pretty heavy and then move to some lighter questions. I did record this in the middle of the day and my son started having a meltdown upstairs, so if you listen close you can hear some of him crying toward the end of the episode. Oops!  I would really appreciate it if you shared the show with your friends and/or wrote a review of the show on iTunes. THANKS!! Here are the questions in this episode: How can I care for myself and start to feel alive again with an alcoholic partner and an overwhelming life? What should I do about a therapist that talks about himself too much? How can I focus on self-improvement when I'm overwhelmed with school and work? As always you can send me your questions big or small to duffthepsych@gmail.com http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

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Episode 32: All About ADHD

Oct 19th, 201634:13

You asked for it! Here's a deep dive episode all about Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I briefly mention this, but I didn't give nearly enough emphasis to the fact that you can have the primarily inattentive type, the hyperactive/impulsive type, or the combined type. Oops! In the episode, I mention my interview on the MyCoda podcast, which you can find here: http://www.mycoda.net/session-020/ You should also be checking me out on facebook http://facebook.com/duffthepsych   Next week is a Q&A, so send me your questions!! duffthepsych@gmail.com

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I'm back from a quick little vacation and ready to get back into the grind! This episode, I took three questions from the same person. Thought it would be an interesting thing to do and they sent in a nice variety of questions. Here's what is covered: -Would group therapy or individual therapy be better for me? -How can parents create an emotionally open environment for their kids? -What do I do if I feel comfortable in my depression?   As always you can reach me through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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I know I saw this every week, but we have some awesome questions today. I get the opportunity to give into some tough questions and hopefully provide a little insight into some of the more difficult mental health issues.  Don't forget to check out http://audibletrial.com/duff if you want a free audiobook.  Keep the awesome questions coming. Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com or find me at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

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In this episode, I do something a bit different. Earlier today (9/27/16) I gave a professional talk to a group of people about dementia. The point of my talk was to give them a thorough understanding of dementia in general and to describe some of the specific types that you might encounter. This episode is a little more straight forward and informational than my other shows, but if you are interested in sitting through a 1-hour crash course with me, I encourage you to have a listen!  If you have any additional questions, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Hello, friends! As always thank you for continuing to supply me with a wealth of super awesome, honest, and candid questions. Today is no exception. I cover three really great listener questions in depth. I need your feedback! What topics would you like me to cover in my future "deep dive" episodes?  Here are the questions for this episode: Should I be worried about the critical voice in my head and what can I do about my crippling anxiety? How can I get over a break up when there is money involved? Does this count as emotional abuse? What should I do about it? As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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I really enjoyed the variety of questions in this episode. Please keep sending me in such awesome questions because they keep the show fresh and interesting. This is your show too!  I share a little secret about the Audible Trial in this episode, so head by http://audibletrial.com/duff to put it to good use.  Here are the questions that I cover: As a man, what can I do to better deal with my anorexic tendencies? What should I do when I can't handle hearing the emotional burden from my friends because it drains me and gets me worked up? Should I be worried about my 4-year-old's imaginary friends when there is a family history of schizophrenia? As always you can reach me through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Episode 26: All About Sleep!

Sep 7th, 201629:58

This episode is a deep dive look into how you can suck less at sleeping. Sponsored this week by audible. Check out http://audibletrial.com/duff for a free month of audible and one free book.  Here are the cliffnotes of this episode: Good habits related to sleep are called "Sleep Hygiene"  Most of it comes down to association and conditioning You should have a consistent sleep routine You should ONLY sleep in your bed vs working on the laptop, using your phone etc. Get your phone out of the room Wind down and go offline 30 min before bed Avoid exercise, caffeine etc. Keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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Super awesome and very brave questions today with some common themes between them. Thank you all so much for continuing to be active participants in this show. Not only are you doing something great for yourself by asking your questions, but you may be helping someone else with a similar concern. Here's what we cover in today's episode: Will my therapist break confidentiality if I disclose information about past self-harm? What should I do if my therapist feels TOO emotionally close to me? Is my current relationship just another form of self-harm?  As always you can reach me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Before I talk about the episode, get your buns over to http://duffthepsych.com/giveaway so that you can enter to win some awesome free stuff. Ending this week. Anyway, this was another awesome possum question and answer episode. Super pleased with the variety of questions. Nice work and please keep them coming. Here is what we cover in this episode: How do I cope with feeling detached from my body and experiences? What should I do about a toxic friend? What happens when you "know" for a fact that you are bad. Therapy can't help with that, right? As always you can reach my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email me duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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This is another deep dive episode where I focus on one topic and give you more in depth information than I typically do on the Q&A episodes. In this one, I talk all about the different terminology related to mental health treatment. I talk about the different terms for treatment itself such as therapy, psychotherapy, and counseling as well as the different people who provide services such as psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, neurologists, and more.  Fair warning- this information is pretty USA based since some of the terminology varies, but I hope it is helpful nonetheless!  Next week will indeed be another Q&A episode, so keep sending your questions into me at duffthepsych@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

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On this episode, I talk with Heather Gray from ChooseToHaveItAll.com about how she has been able to overcome the very difficult speed bumps in her life by being brave and re-choosing to live a happy life. She is a super strong woman and I think that definitely comes through in the interview. We did experience a few little technical issues during the interview, but I tried my best to edit around them. Apologies if I missed anything.  Please check out Heather on twitter at http://twitter.com/HGrayLICSW and visit her website at http://www.choosetohaveitall.com/ Next week is another Q&A so make sure you are sending in your questions!

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Another FANTASTIC grouping of questions today. This one is a little on the longer side, but I think there is a lot of valuable content to be had here. Above all I think that these questions were very BRAVE. Keep them coming!  Don't forget to check out the NEW AUDIOBOOK for F**k Depression at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com Here are the questions that are covered in this episode: Should I be concerned about my feelings of anxiety and depression or is this just normal for a 14 year old? How can I help my husband be less hard on my daughter about her weight and diet? Should I avoid going into the mental health profession due to my own issues? Don't forget to send your questions in to http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This was a fun one for me. In this episode, I do a "deep dive" into Pokemon Go and mental health. I talk about why the game is so effective and addicting as well as how that can be used in a very real way to combat mental health issues. I also address one particular way that it could cause distress for some. Please continue the conversation on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and let me know your thoughts!

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This episode fought back! My computer crashed when I recorded it the first time and I lost everything. Oh well. No biggie. Re-recorded it for you here and I don't mind at all because the questions were so great! Here's what we cover: -Why don't my friends notice when I don't show up? -How can I help my patients who seem traumatized from their medical treatment? -Is it worth it to keep trying when I'm so depressed?  As always you can send me your questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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I'm not sick anymore! Yayyyy! This is another Q&A episode with some of my favorite questions yet. Don't forget to check the new merch at: http://duffthepsych.com Here are the questions covered: -Is it ever smart to just avoid situations that might trigger anxiety? -How can I help a teen with a rough upbringing? -Are my repressed memories of abuse real? Don't forget to send me questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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I'm sick! Therefore I am going to save my voice and skip the Q & A this week. Instead, I have a treat for you. This is a full chapter from my upcoming audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression. It is chapter 8 entitled Be Nice To The Future You. I talk all about setting yourself for success instead of self-sabotaging like usual.  Enjoy! Please consider following me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or join my email list at http://www.duffthepsych.com/subscribe/ so you can be the first to know when the audiobook drops!

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So this is interesting. I have my first Anonymous guest on the show. This person offered to come on and talk about their experiences with many different topics such as self-harm, childhood sexual abuse, and learning to take chances with the support of ongoing psychotherapy. She also generously offered to take follow up questions through email at ba04700@gmail.com. Feel free to shoot her a message to say thanks for sharing her story!  Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Welcome to another question and answer episode. Some really fantastic questions this time around. Thank you so much for sending them in. I also give a little update about my next audiobook! Here's what is covered in this episode: -How to deal with binge eating as a man -How to reduce panic attacks  -How to "fire" a therapy client As always, you can reach me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This week is another fantastic interview. I got the chance to sit and talk with a friend of mine, Andrea Gustafson, about her experiences with self-harm. More specifically, we talk about non-suicidal cutting, which means slicing yourself with a razor while NOT intending to kill yourself. It was super brave of Andrea to put herself out there and be honest in this episode, so please consider dropping her a line over on twitter at http://twitter.com/ajgus83 to say thank you!  Next week will be another Q & A episode, so as always send your questions to me on twitter http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email duffthepsych@gmail.com

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First off - super sorry about the technical glitches this past week. Had to switch to a new webhost because my old one (rhymes with shmost shmator) was being incredibly unhelpful in getting my site back up. That said, we should be in the clear now! This is a Q&A episode. You all send in some fantastic questions this week and I am super excited to share them. Here's what I cover in this episode: -How can I help my daughter who seems to have anxiety like mine?  -Do I have sexual addiction or is my conservative background blowing things out of proportion? -How do you deal with differing terminology in therapy?    As always, you can reach my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This week I interview the lovely, talented, and down to earth Angel Giuffria. Angel is a congenital amputee who is missing a large portion of her left arm. She has used prosthetics all throughout her life and currently uses a bionic arm, which allows her to grip and rotate her hand. We cover all sorts of interesting topics, so please enjoy our wide-ranging interview.  Currently Angel is keeping quite busy by working as an actress, informing the masses through public speaking, and grinding out the rest of her graduate school program. Find more of Angel on twitter at https://twitter.com/aannggeellll or on her imdb page at http://www.imdb.com/name/nm6262260/?ref_=nmmd_md_nm

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I really liked the questions in this episode. Quite a variety here. Please forgive my more subdued voice - I had a long day full of talking. Anyway, here are the questions that I cover: 1 - How to overcome the impostor syndrome (feeling like you are a fraud). 2 - How to have good relationships when you have intense, codependent tendencies. 3 - What you can do about upset stomach with anxiety.  As always you can send your questions to http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This is a super interesting interview! I got a chance to speak to Shannon McFarlin who is a therapist from Talkspace. Talkspace is one of the biggest platforms for internet-based psychotherapy for an affordable price. I do private online therapy, but I was not familiar with larger platforms like Talkspace, so this was totally enlightening for me. I walked away with a very positive impression. If you or a loved one is thinking about trying out online therapy, check out http://talkspace.com and be sure to visit Shannon and say thank you over at http://shannonmcfarlin.com.

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Got another episode full of very thought provoking listener questions for you today. If you would like to add any thoughts to my answers, tweet me @duffthepsych and I will retweet you! The questions in this episode are: 1. Is it okay to hug your therapist? 2. When should I bring up my bumpy relationship history with my new partner? 3. Should I change therapists?    As always you can send me questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or you can email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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In this episode, I interview Lindsay Istace who is the creator or Rage Yoga (http://rageyoga.com). You have probably heard of Rage Yoga already since it blew up on the news and social media. It is an alternative approach to yoga that strips away the BS and encourages you to release your inner tension through the use of a few choice expletives and "fist unicorn" additions to your normal yoga poses. This was a really insightful interview and I hope that you enjoy it as much as I did.  Please take a minute to check out all things rage yoga: http://rageyoga.com http://twitter.com/rageyoga https://www.facebook.com/rageyoga   As a reminder, you can always reach me with feedback or questions at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or duffthepsych@gmail.com

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In this episode, I answer three super awesome questions that all have to do with different aspects of relationships. 1- How to cope with a severely depressed spouse when you are prone to depression and anxiety yourself. 2- How to break down the walls that prevent you from truly connecting with other people. 3- How to "get over" the loss of a relationship.    As always, you can reach my at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This episode features a great interview with a new friend, Mike Billstrom from http://theartofgrowth.com. Mike talks about how he had to grow up very quickly to overcome an extremely turbulent upbringing. He found himself in the throes of depression, anxiety, and terrible self-esteem. That is until he found inspiration in the most unlikely of places...

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Another awesome episode full of listener questions. Don't forget to send in your questions to me on twitter (http://twitter.com/duffthepsych) or via email (duffthepsych@gmail.com). In this episode, I cover these really interesting questions: 1- What can I do about my social anxiety when I have to interact with important people? 2- Is there hope for me in recovering from my sexual abuse? 3- Should I worry about hallucinations that come along with my migraines?

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This is an awesome episode. I welcome my very first guest, Ryan, to the show. He is a buddy of mine from college and we talk about his experiences with depression. I am really happy with this interview because Ryan was so willing to talk candidly and openly about things that just don't seem to be talked about enough in every day life. He has an awesome personal blog and I reference a particular post that he wrote about depression, which you can find here: https://trecenti.wordpress.com/2016/03/18/depression/ As always, you can send me your questions, thoughts, feedback, suggestions etc. via twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email them to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com Check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com and shoot me an email if you can't afford them for any reason (you don't need to tell me why).

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In this episode I ask you for your reviews and take some wonderful listener questions. You can send your questions to http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. First question: What if I am too aware of my anxiety? Second question: How to deal with panic attacks aside from medication? Third question: Are pets actually beneficial to your mental health? As always, check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

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In this episode, I make a few short announcements and then take a fewawesome questions from listeners. You can send your questions tohttp://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email them toduffthepsych@gmail.com.First question: How to avoid explosive anger like my dad?Second question: How can I find services without insurance?Third question: Can quitting cigarettes lead to depression?As always, check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

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In this episode I introduce you to the new podcast and take two Twitter questions and one Reddit question. You can find me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych.  First question: Is seven medications for anxiety and depression just crazy? Second question: What's the point of getting extensive testing for dementia? Third question: How to help a family member who has slid back into depression?    As always, check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

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