The Hardcore Self Help Podcast

Robert Duff, Ph.D.


This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who leg...Show More

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Episode 133: Spooky Mental Health Treatments From History

42:22 | Nov 1st, 2018

I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health car...Show More

Episode 132: When to Stop Taking Meds for Anxiety

39:17 | Oct 25th, 2018

Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication.   This is the third episode tak...Show More

Episode 60: All About Breathing

45:49 | May 10th, 2017

For this episode, I was feeling a little too overwhelmed by the week to do a Q&A so instead I decided to talk to you all about breathing. We talk about different breathing exercises and how to practice them so that they are useful to you in moments o...Show More

Episode 146: Duff the Wife Valentine's Special

1:01:43 | Feb 14th

Hello, everyone! Super excited because this week I have my beautiful wife, Joelle Duff on the podcast again. You always have such great feedback when she's on the show and it's honestly just nice to have a good excuse to sit and talk with my favorite...Show More

Episode 145: Bipolar Barbie

49:12 | Feb 7th

Hello, friends! This week, I have an interview with the wonderful Bipolar Barbie. She is a mental health advocate from Australia. In this interview, she describes her experiences with bipolar and talks about why she is passionate about being a mental...Show More

Episode 144: BDSM after Trauma, Slipping Back into Depression, Supporting a Partner with PTSD

30:48 | Jan 31st

This week, I have a nice Q&A session for you. Three really great questions that cover a variety of topics. Some of the content in here is sexually related and there is also plenty of talk about trauma. Be advised. I forgot to announce it during the e...Show More

Episode 143: When Life Gives You Parkinson's with Larry Gifford

49:46 | Jan 24th

On this episode, I have an interview with Larry Gifford from the When Life Gives You Parkinson's podcast. He was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's disease at age 45. This was a serious curve ball for someone with a spouse, a child, and a blosso...Show More

Episode 142: Fundamentalist Religion, Parenting with Mental Illness, Panic Disorder

31:47 | Jan 17th

Hello, friends! I have a Q&A episode for you today. This is an extra special episode for a couple reasons. First off, I'm starting a new weekly tradition. If you share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me, you might be sele...Show More

Episode 141: You Might Die Tomorrow - Kate Manser on Mortality Awareness and Living Better Today

43:46 | Jan 10th

Hello, all!  This was an episode that was supposed to air a while back. I postponed it due to a shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline night club in Thousand Oaks. I felt that the topic just wouldn't be appropriate for that day. ...Show More

Episode 140: Making New Year Goals That Make Sense

22:26 | Jan 3rd

This is a short and sweet episode that I recorded before leaving for an end-of-year vacation with my family. We talk about making goals for the new year.  At the end of the year, many people start thinking about goals and resolutions. I see absolutel...Show More

Episode 139: Neurofeedback, Low Motivation, Knowing if Therapy Works

47:23 | Dec 20th, 2018

The last episode of 2018! Wowwwww. It's been an awesome year and I thank you so much for all of the support, attention, and of course questions. I thought that I would end things strong with a nice Q&A episode. Here are the topics covered: What is N...Show More

Episode 138: Jamie Shares Her Personal Experience with Ketamine Treatments

52:37 | Dec 13th, 2018

This is part 2/2 for my series of interviews about Ketamine treatments. In this episode, I interview Jamie AKA "The Gloomy Optimist" about her personal experiences with the treatments that she says saved her life. We go deep into her life-long strugg...Show More

Episode 137: All About Ketamine Treatments with Dr. Steven Mandel

44:44 | Dec 6th, 2018

Friends. If there is one interview of mine that you listen to, let it be this one. In this interview, I talk to Dr. Steven Mandel, the founder of the Ketamine Clinics of Los Angeles. Ketamine is one of the most effective mental health treatments that...Show More

Episode 136: Overcoming Self-Sabotage in Relationships, Fear of Wrists, Decision Paralysis

44:56 | Nov 29th, 2018

Hello, everyone! Great to be back recording a normal Q&A episode this week. Between the unexpected non-episode a couple weeks back and the re-run episode last week, I haven't actually sat down and addressed your questions in a while. Here are the awe...Show More

Episode 135: How to Survive the Holidays

29:48 | Nov 21st, 2018

Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/...Show More

Episode 134: Kati Morton - Youtuber, Author, and Therapist

38:47 | Nov 15th, 2018

Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kat...Show More

Too Close to Home

06:31 | Nov 8th, 2018

The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few t...Show More

Episode 131: Supporting a Reluctant Partner

28:05 | Oct 18th, 2018

In this episode, I take a question from someone about how they can help their romantic partner who is great most of the time but gets suicidal or violent every so often. How can she get him to go to therapy or recognize the that there are actual issu...Show More

Episode 130: Complex PTSD

34:30 | Oct 11th, 2018

In this episode, I'm trying something slightly different. Rather than taking three questions, I'm taking one and using it as a jumping off point to go in-dept into topics related to the question. Sort of combining the deep-dive and Q&A formats. I'm g...Show More

Episode 129: All About Dementia

1:02:17 | Oct 4th, 2018

In this episode, I do a deep dive talking about a requested topic: dementia. It can be hard to find good information and advice about dementia online, so I hope that this episode can serve that function. I go in-depth and cover the following: Dement...Show More

Episode 128: Making Friends, Avoiding Stress After Concussion, Advice for Future Therapists

38:12 | Sep 27th, 2018

Back to the Q&A this week. Before I answer the questions, I talk about a recent psychiatric hospitalization that I had to do with the hope of helping you understand that it's not a purely black and white situation. Here are the questions I cover: Ho...Show More

Episode 127: Duff the Wife Back Again!

47:58 | Sep 20th, 2018

Hello! I thought it would be nice to have my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. She's usually a listener favorite guest and I always love talking with her, so I hope you enjoy our conversation! We talk about all kinds of stuff including: Our l...Show More

Episode 126: Anxiety Exhaustion, Explosive Anger, Mending a Relationship

36:56 | Sep 13th, 2018

Another round of awesome questions from you, the listeners. Here's what we cover this week: What can I do about the exhaustion that comes from fighting anxiety? How can I deal with my explosive anger? How can I mend the relationship with my step-dau...Show More

Episode 125: Too Broke for Therapy, Anxiety Meds Don't Work, Pressure to Have Kids

34:25 | Sep 7th, 2018

Hello, friends! Sorry for anyone that missed last week's episode. I messed up a little with the technical side of things. We should be all back track this week. If you don't already, please subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or whatever podcast playe...Show More

Episode 124: Gender Dysphoria and Sex, Increasing Klonopin Dose, Options to Keep Living

33:45 | Aug 30th, 2018

Three totally different questions today ranging from relatively basic to quite intense. I hope you enjoy. Did a little something different with the format of this, please feel free to send me feedback about it. Here are the questions: As a transgend...Show More

Episode 123: Porn and Depression, Panic Disorder, Fleeting Suicidal Thoughts

35:25 | Aug 23rd, 2018

Hello! Fantastic questions on today's Q&A episode. I am always amazed by your honesty and vulnerability when sending these in. Here's what we cover today: Could porn be causing my depression and lack of pleasure in life? How can I deal with my const...Show More

Episode 122: Anxiety Procrastination, Supporting Suicidal Friends, Loving with Borderline

36:06 | Aug 16th, 2018

Another full question and answer episode this week. Awesome questions, as always. I wanted to quickly say thank you for everyone who enrolled in the course. It was a very successful launch and I'm so happy that my hard work over the past year has pai...Show More

Episode 121: Death Anxiety, Regret, and the Therapeutic Relationship

39:07 | Aug 9th, 2018

Back at it! This episode is a full three question episode for you. Thanks for your patience over the past few weeks with the short episodes. That helped me out a lot. On a related note, the course is out! In fact, by the time the next episode drops, ...Show More

Episode 120: Addressing an Awkward Situation with Therapist

12:45 | Aug 2nd, 2018

It's time! Kick Anxiety's Ass is now live! You can get instant access to all 10 modules of awesome anxiety slaying content at If you purchase before Monday, 8/6 and use the coupon code PODCAST, you will get $100 off. You ...Show More

Episode 119: Dealing with a Toxic Mother

10:58 | Jul 26th, 2018

Hello, friends! Another mini episode this week as I gear up for the launch of Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is next week OMG fjkdlasnfkljd!  This week I am taking a question about what to do when dealing with a toxic mother that lives in the same city. A...Show More

Episode 118: Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder

12:33 | Jul 19th, 2018

Hello, all! This is another mini-episode with just one question, but boy is it a good one. If you didn't catch the last episode, I am doing a series of short episodes while I crank out the finishing touches on my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass.  I...Show More

Episode 117: Too Depressed to Start Therapy

18:27 | Jul 12th, 2018

Hello, friends! For the next few episodes, I will be just taking one question, so that I can free up some of my time to put the finishing touches on the Kick Anxiety's Ass Course. For this week, the question is: Would online therapy be a good option ...Show More

Episode 116: Communication and Support with Duff The Wife

51:13 | Jul 5th, 2018

Hello, friends! Super excited to bring my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. As usual, this is a super candid and honest conversation naturally flows into a variety of topics, but we broadly focused on issues related to communication and suppor...Show More

Episode 115: When the World Is Too Much

26:03 | Jun 28th, 2018

This episode is a little different. It's basically a deep-dive episode, but it's a little more off-the-cuff than usual. Given the multitude of troubling events in the US news today, I wanted to give some thoughts and advice about dealing with the new...Show More

Episode 114: School Anxiety, Disclosing Mental Illness to Partner, Ending Therapy

42:15 | Jun 21st, 2018

Why hello there! This is a regular question and answer episode. Couple updates first:  1. The audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety has been updated and is WAY better. Check it out here: More

Episode 113: Polyamory, Family Issues Due to Bipolar, Living with a Disability

32:52 | Jun 14th, 2018

Hello, friends! This is a straightforward question and answer episode. First a couple updates: I changed the free preview content that is available on Now you can get three free lessons that cover defining anxiety, breat...Show More

Episode 112: The Psychology of ASMR

43:14 | Jun 7th, 2018

In this episode, I do something a little different. This is a highly requested deep dive episode into the topic of ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response. You know, those videos where people tap things and whisper on youtube? I used to make th...Show More

Episode 111: Repressed Memories, Processing Loss, and Depression at 15

39:13 | May 31st, 2018

Hey, friends. This was a really good episode thanks to the awesome questions that I was sent in. In fact, I think this episode would be a really great one to share with your friends if you wanted to give them an example of my podcast ;). Here are the...Show More

Episode 110: Dr. Skye Stifel Answers Your Child Questions

49:29 | May 24th, 2018

This episode is kind of a hybrid. It's not quite an interview. More of a collaborative question and answer session. I sat down with my friend Skye Stifel, a school psychologist that I went to grad school with, to answer your questions about kids and ...Show More

109: Family Doesn't Support Therapy, Facing Rejection, Making Friends

30:22 | May 17th, 2018

Hello, friends!! Today's episode is a question and answer session. I think it turned out pretty well despite some annoying flooding that happened in my office this week, which I talk about in the episode.  Hey, if you are interested in taking your an...Show More

Episode 108: Quinn Gee on Being a Therapist and Black Mental Health

58:41 | May 10th, 2018

Hi, friends! Thanks for tuning in again. As always, I really appreciate your support and participation in this podcast. In this episode, I am interviewing Quinn Gee. She is a therapist, business owner, and all around badass. We talk about how she got...Show More

107: What If Depression Doesn't Go Away?

39:35 | May 3rd, 2018

In this episode, I talk about options for depression that just does not seem subside despite your best efforts. If you have tried therapy, medication, and all of the other things that we are supposed to do to tackle depression, but you still can't pu...Show More

106: Sakinah on Severe Mental Illness and Advocacy

1:05:29 | Apr 26th, 2018

Today's episode is a very interesting interview with "The Muslim Hippy" herself, Sakinah. I love this interview for several reasons. First off, we covered some great topics and Sakinah was totally open and real about her struggles with severe mental ...Show More

105: Different Types of Therapy

44:33 | Apr 19th, 2018

This is a deep dive episode of the Hardcore Self Help mental health podcast that was prompted by an email question that I got. In this episode, I talk about the different types of therapy that are available. Of course, I don't cover every single one,...Show More

104: Dr. Andrea Letamendi on Comics and Psychology

1:03:58 | Apr 12th, 2018

Hello! This is a special episode. I got the chance to interview Dr. Andrea Letamendi. She is a clinical psychologist and the host of the Arkham Sessions podcast. She uses comics, nerdom, and pop culture as a vehicle to explain psychological concepts....Show More

103: Flashbacks, Borderline vs Bipolar, Pressure to Have Sex

33:16 | Apr 5th, 2018

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode. Next week will be an interview with the amazing Dr. Andrea Letamendi all about comic books, pop culture, and mental health.  I would really appreciate it if you would rate the show on iTune...Show More

102: Dr. Ron Holt on Coming Out Safely as LGBTQ

44:50 | Mar 29th, 2018

Today I have an interview with an amazing guest. Dr. Ron Holt is a psychiatrist who stepped away from direct clinical practice to focus directly on advocacy work related to LGBTQ issues. As a proud gay man, he describes his experience growing up and ...Show More

101: Work Boundaries, Autistic Burn Out, Social Memory

32:09 | Mar 22nd, 2018

Hello, everybody! We are back to the normal question and answer format this week. I really enjoyed episode 100, in which my friend Dan Fields interviewed me as a guest. If you haven't checked that one out yet, I suggest it! Next week will be another ...Show More

100: Special Episode - Me Interviewed as a Guest!

59:35 | Mar 15th, 2018

Hello, friends! This is episode 100 of the podcast and as such I wanted to do something a little different. I invited my friend Dan Fields from the Save It For The Show podcast on to interview ME as a guest. We had a really interesting conversation a...Show More

99: Erez Sheck on Bipolar, Bullying, and Social Media

54:14 | Mar 8th, 2018

Episode 99, guys! Next week is big 100. I'll be doing something a bit different for that episode, so make sure you tune in for that one. This week is my first interview of the year. In this episode, I talk to Erez Shek about his experiences with bull...Show More

Episode 98: All About Exposure for Anxiety

37:22 | Mar 1st, 2018

This episode is actually ripped from a long video that I recorded. I have been thinking a lot about exposure for anxiety lately for multiple reasons. For one, I'm in the middle of creating my online course for anxiety and recently wrote the content f...Show More

Episode 97: Finding a Male Role Model, Discussing Trauma, Hydrocephalus

38:13 | Feb 22nd, 2018

Today's episode is sponsored by Sudio headphones. To see some seriously stylish headphones with great functionality check out and use the code SELFHELP for 15% off of your purchase.  This episode is a normal Q & A. My voice prog...Show More

Episode 96: Moving, Tolerating Insecurity, Anxiety Procrastination

38:01 | Feb 15th, 2018

Hello, friends! I'm back from my paternity leave. Thank you for the support, the great feedback, and the patience during my absence. Excited to be back at it. Some exciting stuff coming up in the coming months including some really awesome guests. Lo...Show More

Episode 95: Moving on from Trauma at 66

13:00 | Feb 8th, 2018

Heyoooo! This is one more mini-episode where I am answering a single question rather than 3. If all goes according to plan, this will be the last episode of my paternity leave and I'll be back to normal next week. Thanks for your patience! Keep sendi...Show More

Episode 94: Should I Have a Relationship with My Abusive Parent?

14:15 | Feb 1st, 2018

Hello, everyone!  Today is a mini-episode. I'm still on my paternity leave, so I'm coming at you with a single question and answer, rather than my typical 3 per episode. I hope you enjoy this quick bite of information and I also hope that you're taki...Show More

Episode 93: Dr. Amber Baker Answers Anxiety Questions

46:08 | Jan 25th, 2018

Hey, friends! I'm currently off on paternity leave, so my friend and fellow psychologist, Amber Baker, Ph.D., is stepping in to answer your questions today. The episode is very similar to my normal question and answer episodes, just with a different ...Show More

Episode 92: Burn Out Prevention, Vertigo Anxiety, Signs of a Good Guy

38:01 | Jan 18th, 2018

Hello, friends! It's only been like 3 episodes since I've done a Q&A, but it feels like it has been forever. Super happy to be back here answering your mental health questions. The next 3 episodes will be a bit different due to my paternity leave, wh...Show More

Episode 91: The Wife Part 2

58:08 | Jan 11th, 2018

My wife, Joelle is back on the podcast today. We talk about lots of stuff including anxiety and pregnancy, our plans for the new baby, communication within our relationship, and we also answer some listener questions. Enjoy!  Next week will probably ...Show More

Episode 90: New Year Reflections

28:10 | Jan 4th, 2018

Here we are. It's 2018. Crazy. In this episode, I reflect on the past year and talk about my hopes and goals for 2018. I talk a bit about my personal life, my professional life, and this podcast. Please stop by Twitter or Facebook and let me know wha...Show More

Episode 89: A Guided Relaxation for the Holidays

25:00 | Dec 21st, 2017

I know I already did a holiday themed episode, but I figured you guys could use a little more love as you continue through the holiday season. Rather than answering your questions today, I'm going to lead you through a guided relaxation designed to h...Show More

Episode 88: Recognizing Abuse & Raising Children With Mental Illness

29:18 | Dec 14th, 2017

Today is a question and answer episode. I'm doing two questions instead of three today, just because I've gotta get up early for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. I think these are two really great questions though. In one of the questions, I reference a v...Show More

Episode 87: Surviving Disasters

35:34 | Dec 7th, 2017

Hey, friends. I'm not sure if you saw the news, but southern California is on fire. I'm safe, but a lot of friends and acquaintances are not. I'm in this eerie spot where we are very close to the fires, but at very low risk, so "normal" life continue...Show More

Episode 86: Too Nervous to Call Therapist, Phobia of Vomiting, Depression in High School

43:59 | Nov 30th, 2017

Hello, my friends! This episode is just a straight forward question and answer episode with some really awesome questions. This week I am also working on a book proposal for a traditional publisher, which means that you would be able to buy this pote...Show More

Episode 85: How to Survive the Holidays

29:14 | Nov 21st, 2017

The holidays are crazy for everybody and they can be particularly stressful if you deal with any mental health issues. In this episode of the podcast, I share a few tips that can help you stay afloat during the Holiday season.  If you have other tips...Show More

Episode 84: Triggers and Trigger Warnings

31:47 | Nov 9th, 2017

This is a deep dive episode where I spend the entire time talking about one topic of interest rather than taking questions from the audience. In this episode, I cover something that I've been meaning to talk about for a while, which is the word "trig...Show More

Episode 83: Bipolar Depression, Firing a Bad Therapist, Forgetting Family Members

38:32 | Nov 2nd, 2017

Thanks for having some fun with me for the Halloween episode last week. This one will be a regular Q&A episode. I wanted to give a quick shout out to my buddy Speeks Geak for hooking me up with the new intro and outro beat. Check him out over at: htt...Show More

Episode 82: Spooky Psychology Experiments

21:32 | Oct 26th, 2017

This week we are doing something a little different. I wanted to get into the Halloween spirit, so today on the podcast, I tell you the story of 4 spooky psychology experiments that reveal the darker side of the human condition.

Episode 81: Feelings for Your Therapist, Journaling for Anxiety, Helping a Friend with Depression

33:55 | Oct 19th, 2017

Today we have another question and answer episode featuring some super interesting questions. Don't forget to sign up for my newsletter to get the free resources mentioned in the episode. Here are the questions... What happens when you have feelings...Show More

Episode 80: Harnessing the Power of Your Phone

43:04 | Oct 12th, 2017

Hello, friends! This is a deep dive episode all about your phone. I share some apps and general principles that you can use with your phone to improve your mental health and overall life progress. Unfortunately there is one abrupt cut toward the end ...Show More

Episode 79: Gaming Advice, ADHD Tests, Obsession with Suicide

33:41 | Oct 5th, 2017

Hello, friends! Apologies for the unexpected lapse in episodes last week. Had some family stuff come up on my normal recording night and I was slammed with clinical work for the rest of the week. I'm back with a great Q&A episode this week though! He...Show More

Episode 78: Boundaries, PMS Anxiety, Symptom Relapse

44:59 | Sep 21st, 2017

Hello, everyone! Thanks so much for joining me again. This is another question and answer episode featuring the following questions: How can I set boundaries and communicate better with my introverted partner? I've been doing well until recent chang...Show More

Episode 77: Avoidant Personality, Skin Picking Fidgets, Dwelling on Hospitalization

39:54 | Sep 14th, 2017

Hello, friends! Thanks for joining me again for another Q&A episode. I was recently interviewed about anxiety on the Sexy Fit Podcast, which you can check out here: I also wanted...Show More

Episode 76: Midlife Crisis, Flotation Tanks, Fleeting Suicidality

42:14 | Sep 7th, 2017

Hello, friends! This episode is coming at you a little late today, which I explain at the beginning. It's important to be honest with yourself and exercise control over your situation to avoid burnout. Here are the awesome questions in this episode: ...Show More

Episode 75: Violent thoughts, Relationship with Mom, Bipolar

50:37 | Aug 30th, 2017

Another Q&A episode today! Some really great questions and I get pretty detailed about a few diagnoses. Before that, be sure to check out the private facebook group for the HCSH community at: Look out ...Show More

Episode 74: How to get the most out of therapy

44:04 | Aug 23rd, 2017

Today we are doing a deep dive episode all about ways that you can maximize your progress in therapy. Whether you are a seasoned therapy veteran or barely thinking about getting started, this will be good information for you to keep in the back of yo...Show More

Episode 73: Multiple Personalities, Sleep Procrastination, Being the Codependent Friend

47:46 | Aug 16th, 2017

Hello, everyone! Just off the top, given the BS going on in the world at the moment, I need to reaffirm that everyone is welcome here regardless of race, ethnicity, cultural background, gender identity, sexual orientation etc. Just needs to be said. ...Show More

Episode 72: 10 Common Thinking Traps

38:11 | Aug 9th, 2017

This is a deep dive episode all about common thinking traps and pitfalls that we encounter as human beings. In the field, we refer to these as "cognitive distortions". In this episode, I break down ten of them for you and talk a bit about how to use ...Show More

Episode 71: Self-Criticism, "Functional" Anxiety, Forgiving Abuser

34:47 | Aug 2nd, 2017

Hello, friends! Just another awesome question and answer episode for you. Two short questions and one more complicated question: How can I overcome my self-criticism and low self-esteem? What does my family member mean when she says that she has "fu...Show More

Episode 70: I Don't Need Therapy, Talking About Self-Harm, Being a Fraud

42:10 | Jul 26th, 2017

Hey, friends! Before I get into the questions for this episode, I wanted to let you know that I recently posted a video and blogpost in which I share an entire chapter from my book about suicide. You can check that out and share it at http://duffthep...Show More

Episode 69: Life before depression, Masturbation, Aneurysm

48:23 | Jul 19th, 2017

Wide variety of questions this time! I love it. Please continue sending me your questions and look forward to some "guest hosts" in the future! Also thanks so much for the reviews on iTunes. It's greatly appreciated! Here are the questions covered in...Show More

Episode 68: Heat Anxiety, EMDR, Social Media, Boundaries in Therapy

50:37 | Jul 12th, 2017

Packed episode this week! I didn't realize it when I constructed the episode, but I included two double questions for a total of 5 questions answered this episode, haha! Really interesting stuff though. If you have a minute, please head over to itune...Show More

Episode 67: Perfectionism, Finding Passions, Encountering an Abuser

37:33 | Jul 5th, 2017

Hello, friends! Sorry for the lapse in shows. I did that re-posting of my interview on the Cognitive Rampage podcast a couple weeks ago and this past week I got super sick and completely lost my voice! No bueno. I'm feeling a lot better now and I'm b...Show More

Episode 66: My Interview on the Cognitive Rampage Podcast

1:04:25 | Jun 21st, 2017

Hey, friends. This episode is a little different. I didn't have time to record a full Q & A episode this week due to life and work. However, I think I found a nice alternative here. Recently I was on Adam Lowery's podcast called Cognitive Rampage. He...Show More

Episode 65: Vicarious Trauma, Lifelong Panic, Mental Health and the Internet

42:21 | Jun 14th, 2017

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode for you. Hey, I'd appreciate it so much if you'd send me some honest open-ended feedback about the podcast to with the subject line "podcast feedback". As long or shor...Show More

Episode 64: Trying Therapy Again, Breaking Up, Blushing and Social Anxiety

39:01 | Jun 7th, 2017

Hello again, friends. This is another Q&A episode with some really great questions. Wanted to let you know that I am now doing a bonus question each week on youtube and facebook. I also mention the video about finding a therapist online. You can find...Show More

Episode 63: Electroshock, Low Grade Depression, Terminal Illness

43:09 | May 31st, 2017

Hello, my friends! Another awesome Q & A for you this week. Couple links that I mentioned in the show. Here's the cognitive rampage podcast: and here is that episode about TMS therapy that I mentioned: http://psychsess...Show More

Episode 62: Self-Harm as Coping, Depression as an Excuse, Recurring Depression

48:18 | May 24th, 2017

Hello, friends. We are back to the Q&A this week. Thanks so much for your super awesome feedback on the last episode with my wife. If you'd like to hear more from her, let me know! At the start I ramble a little bit about the importance of advertisin...Show More

Episode 61: MY WIFE on mental illness, motherhood, and hospitalization

49:39 | May 17th, 2017

Very special episode this week for you! I've been meaning to get my wife on the show for a good while now. This is the first time that I've ever interviewed her about her experiences with mental illness. I have talked about her in my TEDx talk and my...Show More

Episode 59: Delayed grief, Toxic relationships, Agoraphobia

47:39 | May 3rd, 2017

Hello, friends! Good news - your boy is official! I finally passed all of the hurdles and paid all of my money and got my license as a clinical psychologist in California. It's super meaningful for me and I appreciate you being a part of the journey....Show More

Episode 58: Graves disease anxiety, Fears of hospitalization, How I get so much done

35:07 | Apr 26th, 2017

Hello, friends. Thanks for joining me again for another question and answer episode. Wanted to let you know that I've been doing instagram stories over at Check them out if you would like a little snapshot into my d...Show More

Episode 57: High IQ and Anxiety, Hiding Feelings, Getting Help as a Young Person

32:38 | Apr 19th, 2017

Hello, friends! Thanks for tuning in. In this episode, I take 3 more awesome question from you listeners. There are a couple questions from younger people, which I think is awesome. I decided to livestream this episode on my facebook page. I will try...Show More

Episode 56: My Personal Psychology Journey

29:06 | Apr 12th, 2017

Hey, friends! In this episode, I do something a bit different. I guess you could say that this is a deep dive episode that was prompted by a listener question. Someone wrote in and wanted to know more about what got me into the field of psychology in...Show More

Episode 55: Recovering From a Cult, Polyphasic Sleep, Preparing for Therapy

40:42 | Apr 5th, 2017

Hello, friends! I just want to take a minute to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to listen and for sending in questions to help me create this content. Also wanted to give you a heads up that I will be off of social media for...Show More

Episode 54: Lying, Religious Therapists, Prioritizing Topics in Therapy

30:28 | Mar 29th, 2017

Hello, friends! Another Q & A episode for you today. If you are not yet, please follow me on facebook at I've been doing some cool content over there that I talk about at the top of the episode.  Here are the question...Show More

Episode 53: All About Confidentiality In Therapy

53:06 | Mar 22nd, 2017

Hey, friends! Thanks for the patience during my week off. I talk about about that at the beginning of this episode. The remainder is dedicating to helping you understand the issue of confidentiality in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what in...Show More

Episode 52: Do I Deserve To Get Better, How Do I Know If I Am Bad Enough For Help, On Stage Panic Attack

33:54 | Mar 8th, 2017

Okay, my friends! I think this was a great episode. I got to cover some really interesting questions that I am sure apply to many of you out there. Don't forget to check out my TEDx talk at Here are the questions that ar...Show More

Episode 51: Biological Anxiety, Cues for Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder

32:17 | Mar 1st, 2017

Hello, friends! First off, please go check out my TEDx talk at it would mean the world to me. This episode is another question and answer session. I'm getting sick, so pardon any sniffles or brain farts. Here are the ques...Show More

Episode 50: VICTORY!!

30:28 | Feb 22nd, 2017

Episode 50, guys! Woohooo!!! Man. Crazy stuff. Thank you SO FREAKIN MUCH for your continued collaboration on this podcast. Your questions and inspiration keep it going. In this episode, I reflect a bit on the journey so far and then share a few victo...Show More

Episode 49: Suicidal Friend, Telling Work about Depression, Anxiety from Weed

32:34 | Feb 15th, 2017

Hey, everyone! Please continue to send me in your mental health success stories both big and small. I have a few good ones, but I want more! I will be reading them on the next episode, which is freakin' episode 50!!! SO AWESOME WTFBBQ!!! Ahem. Here a...Show More

Episode 48: Overcoming Sexual Assault, Trouble Sleeping With Other People, What's It Like Having A Mentally Ill Spouse

44:09 | Feb 9th, 2017

Hello, friends! GASP! I forgot to record a podcast. I mean... I remembered, but I didn't remember in time for my usual midnight upload time. Oh well. You probably don't care. HEY! I would love to hear your personal mental health success stories big a...Show More

Episode 47: My Tips for Public Speaking

27:36 | Feb 1st, 2017

This episode is another deep dive episode. I decided at the last minute to go ahead and do a little rundown of my personal tips for public speaking. In particular these are tips that help me with memorization, managing stress, and knocking it out of ...Show More

Episode 46: Genetics and mental health, Abusive daughter, Codependent friend

33:43 | Jan 25th, 2017

Hello, my friends! Just wanted to say thanks again so much for always sending in such awesome, honest, and brave questions. You guys are amazing. In this episode I take a couple questions that are related to dealing with significant others who have m...Show More

Episode 45: Can IQ change, Saving a marriage, Normal anxiety level

35:45 | Jan 18th, 2017

Hello, friends! In this episode I take three new awesome questions. We cover the whole board from going heavy into some complicated terminology about neurobiology and testing all the way to hitting you with some hard truths about "saving" a relations...Show More

Episode 44: Hypnotherapy, Global Climate, Childhood Medication

41:27 | Jan 11th, 2017

Alrighty, folks! Got another 3 questions to answer for you today. First off I wanted to say thanks for the recent influx of questions. I have many to choose from, which is awesome. Keep sending them in!  As a reminder, you can find info about my book...Show More

Episode 43: Suicidal Thoughts, Agoraphobia, Relationship Paranoia

44:54 | Jan 4th, 2017

Heavy hitting questions today. Love it! I'm a little sick in this episode, so please pardon any congestion etc. That said, there are some really good points in this episode, particularly in relation to the first question.  I dropped a couple links in...Show More

Episode 42: What to Expect from Medication, Money Anxiety, Motivating a Depressed Partner

32:01 | Dec 28th, 2016

Hey everyone! Back with another question and answer episode after a nice little holiday. I am slightly scatter brained this episode because people kept ringing the door and interrupting me. Grrrrrrr! This episode has some great questions though, so I...Show More

Episode 41: Three Stolen Ideas

25:43 | Dec 21st, 2016

In this episode I do something pretty different. Rather than take mental health questions, I present three ideas that I "stole" from people in fields OTHER than psychology. However, these are ideas that I think have great applications to life, emotio...Show More

Episode 40: Self-Care vs Laziness, Friend Jealousy, Mental Health at 17

32:58 | Dec 14th, 2016

This episode has some tough questions! I'm glad you aren't going easy on me. Keep them coming, please! Here is what I cover: How can you tell the difference between self-care and just being lazy or avoiding? What can I do when I am jealous of my fri...Show More

Episode 39: Anxiety and Physical Symptoms

26:37 | Dec 7th, 2016

On this episode I do a deep dive into physical symptoms and cues that are related to anxiety. Often people feel a physical sensation and their brain misinterprets it for anxiety, which prompts those familiar feelings of panic. We talk all about that....Show More

Episode 38: Asking Mom for Help, Therapist Abandoned Me, Chronic Pain

43:29 | Nov 30th, 2016

Great variety of questions this week. I start the episode off by sharing some of my personal strategies for coping with stress and anxiety. Then it's straight into the questions. In one of the questions, I mention an earlier episode focusing on inter...Show More

Episode 37: Emotional Abuse, Word Finding, and Cutting Ties

37:31 | Nov 23rd, 2016

Thanks for your patience with my little break last week. I needed to allow myself to be human for a bit. Hopefully you enjoyed and made good use of the guided relaxation. This week it's back to the questions. I take some tough but important questions...Show More

Episode 36: A Guided Muscle Relaxation

17:47 | Nov 16th, 2016

Things have been weird over here in the states. I need a break from podcasting this week and I think we could all use a little relaxation. Whether this relaxation is to help you cope or to rejuvenate you to get back out there and keep at it... you de...Show More

Episode 35: Brother with OCD, Social Anxiety in Therapy, and Stressful Job

31:28 | Nov 9th, 2016

Thanks so much to those of you who recently left iTunes reviews. I really appreciate it. These are the three episodes that I took on this episode: What can I do to help my brother with OCD? What if social anxiety gets in the way of therapy? How can ...Show More

Episode 34: How to Find a Therapist, Do You Need Pain to Change Behavior, Setting Boundaries with Parent

33:23 | Nov 2nd, 2016

Hello! A nice wide ranging set of questions this time. Don't be afraid to send in any questions that you have. There are no bad questions (within reason...)!  Here's what we cover in this episode: How do you find a therapist who meets certain demogr...Show More

Episode 33: Self-Care With Alcoholic Partner, Chatty Therapist, Self-Improvement When Overwhelmed

29:30 | Oct 26th, 2016

Another great episode full of your questions. We start off pretty heavy and then move to some lighter questions. I did record this in the middle of the day and my son started having a meltdown upstairs, so if you listen close you can hear some of him...Show More

Episode 32: All About ADHD

34:13 | Oct 19th, 2016

You asked for it! Here's a deep dive episode all about Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I briefly mention this, but I didn't give nearly enough emphasis to the fact that you can have the primarily inattentive type, the hyperactive/impulsive ...Show More

Episode 31: Group vs 1 on 1 Therapy, Emotionally Open Parenting, Being Comfortable in Depression

35:33 | Oct 13th, 2016

I'm back from a quick little vacation and ready to get back into the grind! This episode, I took three questions from the same person. Thought it would be an interesting thing to do and they sent in a nice variety of questions. Here's what is covered...Show More

Episode 30: Friend with Schizophrenia, Bipolar Ex, and Confronting Therapist

36:37 | Oct 5th, 2016

I know I saw this every week, but we have some awesome questions today. I get the opportunity to give into some tough questions and hopefully provide a little insight into some of the more difficult mental health issues.  Don't forget to check out ht...Show More

Episode 29: Professional Talk All About Dementia

1:08:23 | Sep 28th, 2016

In this episode, I do something a bit different. Earlier today (9/27/16) I gave a professional talk to a group of people about dementia. The point of my talk was to give them a thorough understanding of dementia in general and to describe some of the...Show More

Episode 28: Voices, Emotional Abuse, and Breakup with Money Invovled

37:08 | Sep 21st, 2016

Hello, friends! As always thank you for continuing to supply me with a wealth of super awesome, honest, and candid questions. Today is no exception. I cover three really great listener questions in depth. I need your feedback! What topics would you l...Show More

Episode 27: Male Anorexia, Imaginary Friends, and Dealing with Friends' Burdens

35:36 | Sep 14th, 2016

I really enjoyed the variety of questions in this episode. Please keep sending me in such awesome questions because they keep the show fresh and interesting. This is your show too!  I share a little secret about the Audible Trial in this episode, so ...Show More

Episode 26: All About Sleep!

29:58 | Sep 7th, 2016

This episode is a deep dive look into how you can suck less at sleeping. Sponsored this week by audible. Check out for a free month of audible and one free book.  Here are the cliffnotes of this episode: Good habits rela...Show More

Episode 25: Telling My Therapist About past Self-Harm, Getting Too Close, and Self-Destruction Through Relationships

34:34 | Aug 31st, 2016

Super awesome and very brave questions today with some common themes between them. Thank you all so much for continuing to be active participants in this show. Not only are you doing something great for yourself by asking your questions, but you may ...Show More

Episode 24: Depersonalization, Toxic Friend, Knowing vs Believing

35:52 | Aug 24th, 2016

Before I talk about the episode, get your buns over to so that you can enter to win some awesome free stuff. Ending this week. Anyway, this was another awesome possum question and answer episode. Super pleased with th...Show More

Episode 23: Psychologist vs Psychiatrist etc.

23:23 | Aug 17th, 2016

This is another deep dive episode where I focus on one topic and give you more in depth information than I typically do on the Q&A episodes. In this one, I talk all about the different terminology related to mental health treatment. I talk about the ...Show More

Episode 22: Heather Gray on RE-Choosing a Happy Life

51:45 | Aug 10th, 2016

On this episode, I talk with Heather Gray from about how she has been able to overcome the very difficult speed bumps in her life by being brave and re-choosing to live a happy life. She is a super strong woman and I think that ...Show More

Episode 21: Anxiety vs Normal Teens, Dad with Body Issues, Feeling Guilty for Mental Health

40:17 | Aug 3rd, 2016

Another FANTASTIC grouping of questions today. This one is a little on the longer side, but I think there is a lot of valuable content to be had here. Above all I think that these questions were very BRAVE. Keep them coming!  Don't forget to check ou...Show More

Episode 20: Pokemon Go and Mental Health

32:46 | Jul 27th, 2016

This was a fun one for me. In this episode, I do a "deep dive" into Pokemon Go and mental health. I talk about why the game is so effective and addicting as well as how that can be used in a very real way to combat mental health issues. I also addres...Show More

Episode 19: Do My Friends Care?, PTSD from Medical Treatment, and Is it Worth it to Try?

28:40 | Jul 20th, 2016

This episode fought back! My computer crashed when I recorded it the first time and I lost everything. Oh well. No biggie. Re-recorded it for you here and I don't mind at all because the questions were so great! Here's what we cover: -Why don't my fr...Show More

Episode 18: Avoiding Panic, Resilience, and Repressed Memories

27:29 | Jul 13th, 2016

I'm not sick anymore! Yayyyy! This is another Q&A episode with some of my favorite questions yet. Don't forget to check the new merch at: Here are the questions covered: -Is it ever smart to just avoid situations that might tr...Show More

Episode 17: Audiobook Chapter from F**k Depression

29:07 | Jul 6th, 2016

I'm sick! Therefore I am going to save my voice and skip the Q & A this week. Instead, I have a treat for you. This is a full chapter from my upcoming audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression. It is chapter 8 entitled Be Nice To The Future Y...Show More

Episode 16: Anonymous on Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse and Self-Harm

49:13 | Jun 29th, 2016

So this is interesting. I have my first Anonymous guest on the show. This person offered to come on and talk about their experiences with many different topics such as self-harm, childhood sexual abuse, and learning to take chances with the support o...Show More

Episode 15: Binge Eating, Panic Attacks, and Firing Therapy Clients

31:02 | Jun 22nd, 2016

Welcome to another question and answer episode. Some really fantastic questions this time around. Thank you so much for sending them in. I also give a little update about my next audiobook! Here's what is covered in this episode: -How to deal with bi...Show More

Episode 14: Andrea on Overcoming Self-Harm

50:05 | Jun 15th, 2016

This week is another fantastic interview. I got the chance to sit and talk with a friend of mine, Andrea Gustafson, about her experiences with self-harm. More specifically, we talk about non-suicidal cutting, which means slicing yourself with a razor...Show More

Episode 13: Daughter with Anxiety, Sex Addiction, and Therapy Terminology

32:19 | Jun 8th, 2016

First off - super sorry about the technical glitches this past week. Had to switch to a new webhost because my old one (rhymes with shmost shmator) was being incredibly unhelpful in getting my site back up. That said, we should be in the clear now! T...Show More

Episode 12: Angel Giuffria - Amputee, Actress, Bionic Badass

1:00:07 | Jun 1st, 2016

This week I interview the lovely, talented, and down to earth Angel Giuffria. Angel is a congenital amputee who is missing a large portion of her left arm. She has used prosthetics all throughout her life and currently uses a bionic arm, which allows...Show More

Episode 11: Impostor Syndrome, Codependency, and Upset Stomach

33:41 | May 25th, 2016

I really liked the questions in this episode. Quite a variety here. Please forgive my more subdued voice - I had a long day full of talking. Anyway, here are the questions that I cover: 1 - How to overcome the impostor syndrome (feeling like you are ...Show More

Episode 10: Shannon McFarlin on Talkspace and Internet Therapy

34:48 | May 18th, 2016

This is a super interesting interview! I got a chance to speak to Shannon McFarlin who is a therapist from Talkspace. Talkspace is one of the biggest platforms for internet-based psychotherapy for an affordable price. I do private online therapy, but...Show More

Episode 9: Touch in Therapy, Bringing up Baggage, and Changing Therapists

32:08 | May 11th, 2016

Got another episode full of very thought provoking listener questions for you today. If you would like to add any thoughts to my answers, tweet me @duffthepsych and I will retweet you! The questions in this episode are: 1. Is it okay to hug your ther...Show More

Episode 8: Lindsay Istace on Rage Yoga and Being Zen as F**k

32:05 | May 4th, 2016

In this episode, I interview Lindsay Istace who is the creator or Rage Yoga ( You have probably heard of Rage Yoga already since it blew up on the news and social media. It is an alternative approach to yoga that strips away the ...Show More

Episode 7: Spouse with Depression, Breaking Down Walls, and Getting Over a Breakup

39:01 | Apr 27th, 2016

In this episode, I answer three super awesome questions that all have to do with different aspects of relationships. 1- How to cope with a severely depressed spouse when you are prone to depression and anxiety yourself. 2- How to break down the walls...Show More

Episode 6: Mike Billstrom on Unexpected Mentors, Overcoming Adversity, and Becoming Obsessed with Self-Improvement

53:11 | Apr 20th, 2016

This episode features a great interview with a new friend, Mike Billstrom from Mike talks about how he had to grow up very quickly to overcome an extremely turbulent upbringing. He found himself in the throes of depression,...Show More

Episode 5: Social Anxiety, Recovering from Sexual Abuse, and Migraine Hallucinations

29:04 | Apr 13th, 2016

Another awesome episode full of listener questions. Don't forget to send in your questions to me on twitter ( or via email ( In this episode, I cover these really interesting questions: 1- What...Show More

Episode 4: Ryan on Male Depression, Body Image, and Gaming

53:21 | Apr 6th, 2016

This is an awesome episode. I welcome my very first guest, Ryan, to the show. He is a buddy of mine from college and we talk about his experiences with depression. I am really happy with this interview because Ryan was so willing to talk candidly and...Show More

Episode 3: Anxiety Awareness, Panic Attacks, and Pets

27:09 | Mar 30th, 2016

In this episode I ask you for your reviews and take some wonderful listener questions. You can send your questions to or email them to First question: What if I am too aware of my anxiety? Sec...Show More

Episode 2: Anger, Low Cost Resources, and Cigarettes

29:42 | Mar 23rd, 2016

In this episode, I make a few short announcements and then take a fewawesome questions from listeners. You can send your questions to or email them question: How to avoid explosive anger l...Show More

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast Episode 1

24:52 | Mar 17th, 2016

In this episode I introduce you to the new podcast and take two Twitter questions and one Reddit question. You can find me on twitter at  First question: Is seven medications for anxiety and depression just crazy? S...Show More