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Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

Jen Lumanlan

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Jen Lumanlan always thought infancy would be the hardest part of parenting. Now she has a toddler and finds a whole new set of tools are needed, there are hundreds of books to read, and academic research to uncover that would otherwise never see the...Show More
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097: How to support gender-creative children

1:13:28 | Aug 18th

Recently a listener posted a question in the Your Parenting Mojo Facebook group asking about research related to children who are assigned to one gender at birth, but later realize that this assigned gender doesn't match the gender they experience. ...Show More
096: How to prevent sexual abuse

55:12 | Aug 6th

This is another of those topics I really wish I didn't have to do.  In this interview with Dr. Jennie Noll of Pennsylvania State University, we discuss the impacts that sexual abuse can have on a child (even many years after the event itself!), and w...Show More
095: Ask the American Academy of Pediatrics!

1:04:12 | Jul 21st

A couple of months ago, when I was interviewing listener Rose Hoberman for her Sharing Your Parenting Mojo episode, she casually mentioned after we got off air that her father in law - Dr. Benard Dreyer - is the immediate past present of the American...Show More
SYPM 004: Conflicting cultures! with Dovilė Šafranauskė

31:49 | Jul 14th

My guest on today's episode in the Sharing Your Parenting Mojo series is Dovilė Šafranauskė, who joins us from Lithuania. Dovilė has discovered respectful parenting and her husband is on board, but many of the central tenets of RIE go very much again...Show More
094: Using nonviolent communication to parent more peacefully

1:05:22 | Jul 7th

Today's episode pulls together a lot of threads from previous shows, and will also give you some really concrete new tools using what's called Nonviolent Communication to support you in your parenting.  It’s not like these are concepts that we’ve nev...Show More
SYPM 003: Responding Mindfully with Seanna Mallon

25:45 | Jul 1st

Today we talk with listener Seanna Mallon about her struggles to be mindful when responding to her two spirited young sons (and I can confirm from direct experience that they are indeed spirited - we actually had to re-record the episode after we sim...Show More
093: Parenting children of non-dominant cultures

0:00 | Jun 23rd

We've done a LOT of episodes specifically for white parents by now: White privilege in parenting: What it is and what to do about it White privilege in schools Talking with children about race Teaching children about topics like slavery a...Show More
092: Fathers’ unique role in parenting

57:03 | Jun 9th

This episode began out of a query that I see repeated endlessly in online parenting groups: "My child has a really strong preference for me.  They get on great with the other parent (usually the father, in a heterosexual relationship) when I'm not ar...Show More
091: Do I have privilege?

48:40 | May 26th

Each time I think I'm done with this series on the intersection of race and parenting, another great topic pops up! Listener Ann reached out to me after she heard the beginning of the series to let me know about her own journey of learning about h...Show More
090: Sensory processing disorder

42:20 | May 12th

This episode comes to us courtesy of my friend Jess, whose daughter has Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) and who is on a mission to make sure that as many parents as possible learn about it.  She says that every time she describes it to a parent the...Show More
SYPM002: Sugar! with Rose Hoberman

32:39 | May 5th

In this second episode of Sharing Your Parenting Mojo we talk with Rose Hoberman, who is American but lives in Germany, about discussing math with girls - as well as with managing her daughter's sugar intake. Here's Rose's blog, where she discusse...Show More
089: Teaching children about issues related to race

1:05:00 | Apr 29th

In this episode we continue our series on the intersection of race and parenting, which we started with Dr. Margaret Hagerman on the topic of white privilege in parenting; then we covered white privilege in schools with Dr. Allison Roda and what pare...Show More
SYPM 001: Mindfulness with Jess Barnes

20:35 | Apr 21st

Welcome to the first episode in a new series that I'm calling Sharing Your Parenting Mojo, where I interview listeners about what they've learned from the show as well as the parenting challenges they're facing.  Today we talk with Ontario, Canada-ba...Show More
088: Setting loving – and effective! – limits

45:40 | Apr 14th

The way we set limits has such profound implications for our parenting: it's the difference between parenting in a constant state of anxiety, and being truly calm and confident that you're making the right decisions as you move through your day. I...Show More
087: Talking with children about race, with Dr. Beverly Daniel Tatum

59:53 | Mar 31st

We've laid a lot of groundwork on topics related to race by now: we learned about white privilege in parenting, and white privilege in schools, and even how parents can use sports to give their children advantages in school and in life. Today my l...Show More
086: Playing to Win: How does playing sports impact children?

45:25 | Mar 17th

Individual sports or competitive?  Recreational or organized?  Everyone gets a trophy or just the winners? And why do sports in the first place?  Granted there are some physical benefits, but don't we also hope that our children will learn some ki...Show More
085: White privilege in schools

48:38 | Mar 3rd

Public schools are open to all children, no matter what their race, so where's the privilege in schools? In this episode we'll learn more about how even (and perhaps especially) well-meaning liberal white parents perpetuate inequalities in schools...Show More
084: The Science of RIE

1:06:31 | Feb 17th

"Is RIE backed by scientific research?" It's a question that comes up every once in a while among parents who use the Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) approach to raising their children, and then they all (virtually) look at each other kind of...Show More
083: White privilege in parenting: What it is & what to do about it

54:13 | Feb 3rd

This episode launches a series of conversations on the intersection of race and parenting.  I spent a month wading around in the psychological literature on this topic and deciding how best to approach it, and eventually decided to split it into four...Show More
082: Regulating emotions: What, When, & How

38:03 | Jan 21st

We've already covered emotion regulation a few times on the show: there were these older short episodes on Three Reasons Not to Say "You're OK!" and Modeling Emotion Regulation, as well as the more recent one on Dr. Stuart Shanker's book Self-Reg. ...Show More
081: How can I decide which daycare/preschool is right for my child?

31:12 | Jan 7th

I regularly receive questions from listeners asking me whether they should put their child in daycare or preschool and my response has typically been that there isn’t a lot of research on the benefits and drawbacks for middle class children on whethe...Show More
080: Self-Reg: Can it help our children?

50:11 | Dec 23rd, 2018

Emotion regulation: It's one of the biggest challenges of childhood (and parenthood!).  We all want our children to be able to do it, but they struggle with it so much, and this is the root of many of our own struggles in parenting. But instead of...Show More
079: What is RIE?

32:55 | Dec 9th, 2018

What is - WHAT? Resources for Infant Educarers, or RIE (pronounced like Rye bread) is the parenting approach that we use with our daughter Carys which is grounded in respect for the child.  I've wanted to do an episode on this topic ever since I s...Show More
078: You have parenting goals; do you know what they are?

48:13 | Nov 26th, 2018

We all have goals for our children, even if these are things that we've never formally articulated and are ideas we've inherited from half-remembered bits of parenting books and blogs (and the occasional podcast) and the way we were parented ourselve...Show More
077: Are forest schools any better for children than regular schools?

52:06 | Nov 11th, 2018

If you've been following the show for a while now, you'll know that my daughter and I LOVE to spend time outside.  I looked at the research on the benefits of outdoor play for young children, and in my interview with Dr. Scott Sampson on his book How...Show More
076: How to rock your parent-teacher conference

53:21 | Oct 28th, 2018

Parent-Teacher conferences are about to be underway in many places, so I thought it might be helpful to give you some resources to make these as productive for you and your child as possible. In this episode we talk with Dr. Margaret Caspe and Dr....Show More
075: Should we Go Ahead and Heap Rewards On Our Kid?

1:12:00 | Oct 14th, 2018

A couple of months ago, an article by journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer - whose work I normally greatly respect - started making the rounds on Facebook.  Then (knowing my approach to parenting) a couple of readers emailed it to me and asked me what I t...Show More
074: Attachment: What it is, what it’s not, how to do it, and how to stop stressing about it

54:40 | Sep 30th, 2018

Is attachment the same as bonding?  Can I have a healthy attachment with my baby if I don't breastfeed? Do I have to babywear to develop an attachment to my baby? Will being apart from my baby disrupt our attachment relationship? Is co-sl...Show More
073: What to do when your child refuses to go to school

1:01:26 | Sep 16th, 2018

We're a couple of weeks into the new school year by now and I hope that for most of you the morning drop-offs have gotten a bit easier than they were in the beginning. But some of you may still be struggling with a child who doesn't want to go to ...Show More
072: Is the 30 Million Word Gap Real: Part II

1:03:23 | Sep 3rd, 2018

This episode revisits the concept of the 30 Million Word Gap concept, which we first covered in an interview with Dr. Doug Sperry a few weeks back. After she heard that I was going to talk with Dr. Sperry, Dr. Roberta Golinkoff - with whom we disc...Show More
071: How your child can benefit from intergenerational relationships

53:02 | Aug 19th, 2018

We recently did an episode on the impact of intergenerational trauma, which was about how the ways we were parented, and even the ways our parents were parented, ends up influencing the relationship we have with our children - and often not in a posi...Show More
070: Why isn’t my child grateful?

46:00 | Aug 6th, 2018

"I spent the whole morning painting and doing origami and felting projects with my daughter - and not only did she not say "thank you," but she refused to help clean up!" (I actually said this myself this morning:-)) "We took our son to Disneyland...Show More
069: Reducing the impact of intergenerational trauma

57:17 | Jul 22nd, 2018

Ever get red-hot angry at your child for no reason, or out of proportion to the incident that provoked it?  Have you wondered why this happens? The way we were parented has a profound impact on us - it's pretty easy to 'fall into' parenting the wa...Show More
068: Do I HAVE to pretend play with my child?

49:07 | Jul 8th, 2018

Pretty regularly I see posts in online parenting groups saying "My child loves to pretend, and they always want me to participate.  I dare not tell anyone else, but I CAN'T STAND PRETEND PLAY.  What should I do?" In this final (unless something el...Show More
067: Does the Marshmallow Test tell us anything useful?

51:35 | Jun 25th, 2018

The Marshmallow Test is one of the most famous experiments in Psychology: Dr. Walter Mischel and his colleagues presented a preschooler with a marshmallow.  The child was told that the researcher had to leave the room for a period of time and the chi...Show More
066: Is the 30 Million Word Gap real?

58:17 | Jun 10th, 2018

You all know that on the show we pretty much steer clear of the clickbait articles that try to convince you that something is wrong with your child, in favor of getting a balanced view of the overall body of literature on a topic. But every once i...Show More
065: Why storytelling is so important for our children

38:35 | Jun 3rd, 2018

"Storytelling? I'm already reading books to my child - isn't that enough?" Your child DOES get a lot out of reading books (which is why we've done a several episodes on that already, including What children learn from reading books, How to read wi...Show More
064: Compassion (and how to help your child develop it)

55:09 | May 20th, 2018

"Social and Emotional Learning" is all the rage in school these days, along with claims that it can help children to manage their emotions, make responsible decisions, as well as improve academic outcomes. But what if those programs don't go nearl...Show More
063: How family storytelling can help you to develop closer relationships and overcome struggles

27:20 | May 7th, 2018

"How much can there really be to learn about storytelling?" I thought when I started on this mini-series. It turns out that there's actually quite a lot to learn, and that family storytelling can be a particularly useful tool for parents.  We're a...Show More
062: Why we need to let our kids need to take more risks

38:46 | Apr 22nd, 2018

We should protect our children from risks, right?  Isn't that our job as parents? This episode comes mid-way in an extended series on the importance of play for children.  The first episode in the series was an interview with Dr. Stuart Brown of t...Show More
061: Can Growth Mindset live up to the hype?

44:33 | Apr 9th, 2018

Growth mindset is everywhere these days.  Dr. Carol Dweck's research showing that a growth mindset can help children to overcome academic struggles is being incorporated to curriculum planning across the U.S. and in many other countries, and school d...Show More
060: What do children learn from reading books?

53:57 | Mar 25th, 2018

We’ve done a couple of episodes on reading by now; episode 3 (which seems so long ago!) asked whether you might have missed the boat on teaching your toddler to read.  Of course, we know that you’ve only missed the boat on that if you think that sitt...Show More
059: How to Raise a Wild Child

44:31 | Mar 11th, 2018

So you listened to episode 58 and you're convinced of the benefits of outdoor play. But you're a grown-up. You don't play outdoors. And you don't know anything about nature.  How can you possibly get started in helping your child to play outdoors mor...Show More
059: How to Raise a Wild Child

44:31 | Mar 11th, 2018

So you listened to episode 58 and you're convinced of the benefits of outdoor play. But you're a grown-up. You don't play outdoors. And you don't know anything about nature.  How can you possibly get started in helping your child to play outdoors mor...Show More
058: What are the benefits of outdoor play?

33:39 | Feb 25th, 2018

This is the second in our extended series of episodes on children's play.  We kicked off last week with a look at the benefits of play in general for children, and now we're going to take a more specific look at the benefits of outdoor play.  Really,...Show More
058: What are the benefits of outdoor play?

33:39 | Feb 25th, 2018

This is the second in our extended series of episodes on children's play.  We kicked off last week with a look at the benefits of play in general for children, and now we're going to take a more specific look at the benefits of outdoor play.  Really,...Show More
057: What is the value of play?

44:43 | Feb 11th, 2018

Does play really matter? Do children get anything out of it? Or is it just messing around; time that could be better spent preparing our children for success in life? Today we talk with Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play,...Show More
057: What is the value of play?

44:43 | Feb 11th, 2018

Does play really matter? Do children get anything out of it? Or is it just messing around; time that could be better spent preparing our children for success in life? Today we talk with Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play,...Show More
056: Beyond "You’re OK!": Modeling Emotion Regulation

12:55 | Jan 28th, 2018

I hear a huge crash. It’s my favorite glass vase. I hear “I didn’t mean to hurt it, Mommy! It just fell!” as I run full-pelt from the other end of the house. It was a family heirloom passed down by my grandmother. I’ve asked her not to touch...Show More
056: Beyond “You’re OK!”: Modeling Emotion Regulation

12:55 | Jan 28th, 2018

I hear a huge crash. It’s my favorite glass vase. I hear “I didn’t mean to hurt it, Mommy! It just fell!” as I run full-pelt from the other end of the house. It was a family heirloom passed down by my grandmother. I’ve asked her not to touch...Show More
055: Raising Your Spirited Child

52:21 | Jan 12th, 2018

Is your child 'spirited'?  Even if they aren't spirited all the time, do they have spirited moments?  You know exactly what to do in those moments, right? No? Well then we have a treat for you today.  Dr. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, author of Raising...Show More
055: Raising Your Spirited Child

52:21 | Jan 12th, 2018

Is your child 'spirited'?  Even if they aren't spirited all the time, do they have spirited moments?  You know exactly what to do in those moments, right? No? Well then we have a treat for you today.  Dr. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, author of Raising...Show More
054: Three reasons not to say “You’re OK!”

14:52 | Dec 31st, 2017

“I hear parents on the playground all the time saying “You’re OK!” after their child falls over. Often it does make the child stop crying…but doesn’t it invalidate the child’s feelings?” It turns out that this question is related to a skill that p...Show More
054: Three reasons not to say "You’re OK!"

14:52 | Dec 31st, 2017

“I hear parents on the playground all the time saying “You’re OK!” after their child falls over. Often it does make the child stop crying…but doesn’t it invalidate the child’s feelings?” It turns out that this question is related to a skill that p...Show More
053: Sleep! (And how to get more of it)

46:39 | Dec 17th, 2017

"HOW DO I GET MY CHILD TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT?!" is the thinly-veiled message under the surface of many of the emails that I get about sleep. And I don't blame you. I don't claim to be a magician in this regard, although I did get incredibly, a...Show More
053: Sleep! (And how to get more of it)

46:39 | Dec 17th, 2017

"HOW DO I GET MY CHILD TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT?!" is the thinly-veiled message under the surface of many of the emails that I get about sleep. And I don't blame you. I don't claim to be a magician in this regard, although I did get incredibly, a...Show More
052: Grit: The unique factor in your child’s success?

41:23 | Dec 3rd, 2017

In Professor Angela Duckworth's TED talk, she says of her research: “One characteristic emerged as a significant predictor of success.  And it wasn’t social intelligence.  It wasn’t good looks, physical health, and it wasn’t IQ.  It was grit.” The...Show More
052: Grit: The unique factor in your child’s success?

41:23 | Dec 3rd, 2017

In Professor Angela Duckworth's TED talk, she says of her research: “One characteristic emerged as a significant predictor of success.  And it wasn’t social intelligence.  It wasn’t good looks, physical health, and it wasn’t IQ.  It was grit.” The...Show More
051: How to handle social exclusion

47:33 | Nov 19th, 2017

"I don't want to play with you." "You're not my friend." "We're playing families.  If you want to play, you have to be the dog." Seems like everyone can remember a time when something like this happened to them as a child, and how much it hu...Show More
051: How to handle social exclusion

47:33 | Nov 19th, 2017

"I don't want to play with you." "You're not my friend." "We're playing families.  If you want to play, you have to be the dog." Seems like everyone can remember a time when something like this happened to them as a child, and how much it hu...Show More
050: How to raise emotionally healthy boys

56:20 | Nov 5th, 2017

"Be a man." "Boys don't cry." "Don't be a sissy." Boys hear these things all the time - from parents, from teachers, from friends and peers. What does it do to their emotional lives when they crave close relationships but society tells them to ...Show More
050: How to raise emotionally healthy boys

56:20 | Nov 5th, 2017

"Be a man." "Boys don't cry." "Don't be a sissy." Boys hear these things all the time - from parents, from teachers, from friends and peers. What does it do to their emotional lives when they crave close relationships but society tells them to ...Show More
049: How to raise a girl with a healthy body image

51:40 | Oct 22nd, 2017

Folks, this one is personal for me. As someone with an ~ahem~ family history of disordered thinking about body image, it is very, very high on my priority list to get this right with my daughter. Dr. Renee Engeln, author of the book Beauty Sick, he...Show More
049: How to raise a girl with a healthy body image

51:40 | Oct 22nd, 2017

Folks, this one is personal for me. As someone with an ~ahem~ family history of disordered thinking about body image, it is very, very high on my priority list to get this right with my daughter. Dr. Renee Engeln, author of the book Beauty Sick, he...Show More
048: How to read with your child

54:52 | Oct 9th, 2017

Waaaay back in Episode 3, we wondered whether we had missed the boat on teaching our babies to read (didn't you teach your baby how to read?). We eventually decided that we hadn't, but given that many parents have a goal of instilling a love of read...Show More
048: How to read with your child

54:52 | Oct 9th, 2017

Waaaay back in Episode 3, we wondered whether we had missed the boat on teaching our babies to read (didn't you teach your baby how to read?). We eventually decided that we hadn't, but given that many parents have a goal of instilling a love of read...Show More
047: How to raise a bilingual child

50:18 | Sep 10th, 2017

Do you have to start teaching a second language from birth? Does it help to get a nanny who speaks a second language? Is there any way your child will retain the language you speak even though you're currently in a country where another language is...Show More
047: How to raise a bilingual child

50:18 | Sep 10th, 2017

Do you have to start teaching a second language from birth? Does it help to get a nanny who speaks a second language? Is there any way your child will retain the language you speak even though you're currently in a country where another language is...Show More
046: How to potty train a child

44:51 | Aug 27th, 2017

When should I start potty training? What books should I read? Can I do it in a day (or a week)? Do I need stickers (for rewards)? Does it have to be stressful? I get these kinds of questions pretty often, and I'd resisted doing an episode on p...Show More
046: How to potty train a child

44:51 | Aug 27th, 2017

When should I start potty training? What books should I read? Can I do it in a day (or a week)? Do I need stickers (for rewards)? Does it have to be stressful? I get these kinds of questions pretty often, and I'd resisted doing an episode on p...Show More
045: How parenting affects child development

49:36 | Aug 13th, 2017

Isn't it kind of a "well, duh?" that parenting affects child development? But do we know how? Are there really links between a family's emotional expressiveness and the child's later academic performance? We know it's not good to have really big f...Show More
045: How parenting affects child development

49:36 | Aug 13th, 2017

Isn't it kind of a "well, duh?" that parenting affects child development?  But do we know how?  We know it's not good to have really big fights in front of the kids, but do spousal quarrels screw them up too?  Are there really links between a family'...Show More
044: How to introduce your child to music (even if you can’t play or sing)

49:32 | Jul 30th, 2017

I can't play any instruments (unless the recorder counts?).  I certainly can't sing.  But my daughter really enjoys music, and there are a whole host of studies showing how playing music benefits children's brain development.  So what's a non-music p...Show More
044: How to introduce your child to music (even if you can’t play or sing)

49:32 | Jul 30th, 2017

I can't play any instruments (unless the recorder counts?).  I certainly can't sing.  But my daughter really enjoys music, and there are a whole host of studies showing how playing music benefits children's brain development.  So what's a non-music p...Show More
043: How to talk with children about death

46:16 | Jul 16th, 2017

The topic of today’s episode comes courtesy of my good friend Sarah, who fortunately hasn’t yet had any reason to use this knowledge, but asked me to do an episode on how to help children cope with illness, death, and grief, so she can be ready in ca...Show More
043: How to talk with children about death

46:16 | Jul 16th, 2017

The topic of today’s episode comes courtesy of my good friend Sarah, who fortunately hasn’t yet had any reason to use this knowledge, but asked me to do an episode on how to help children cope with illness, death, and grief, so she can be ready in ca...Show More
042: How to teach a child to use manners

39:42 | Jul 2nd, 2017

I actually hadn’t realized what a can of worms I was opening when I started the research for today’s episode, which is on the topic of manners and politeness. It began innocently enough – as an English person, for whom manners are pretty important, I...Show More
042: How to teach a child to use manners

39:42 | Jul 2nd, 2017

I actually hadn’t realized what a can of worms I was opening when I started the research for today’s episode, which is on the topic of manners and politeness. It began innocently enough – as an English person, for whom manners are pretty important, I...Show More
041: Siblings: Why do they fight, and what can we do about it?

41:55 | Jun 18th, 2017

Hot on the heels of our last episode on whether only children really are as bad as their reputation, this week's episode is for the 80% of families (in the U.S., at least) who have more than one child. How do siblings impact each other's developme...Show More
041: Siblings: Why do they fight, and what can we do about it?

41:55 | Jun 18th, 2017

Hot on the heels of our last episode on whether only children really are as bad as their reputation, this week's episode is for the 80% of families (in the U.S., at least) who have more than one child. How do siblings impact each other's developme...Show More
040: Only children: Are they as bad as advertised?

29:38 | Jun 4th, 2017

Today's episode comes to us as a result of a listener who wrote to me saying she and her partner don't want another child but are worried about the potential impact on their daughter of growing up without siblings. Personally I don't have this pro...Show More
040: Only children: Are they as bad as advertised?

29:38 | Jun 4th, 2017

Today's episode comes to us as a result of a listener named Sylvia who wrote to me saying she and her partner don't want another child but are worried about the potential impact on their daughter of growing up without siblings.  But why would there b...Show More
039: What to do when your toddler says "No, I don’t wanna…!"

33:28 | May 21st, 2017

It’s no secret that I do some episodes of the podcast altruistically for you, dear listeners, because I’m not facing the situation that I’m studying – or at least not yet. (Eyebrows were raised in our house when I started researching the impact of di...Show More
039: What to do when your toddler says “No, I don’t wanna…!”

33:28 | May 21st, 2017

It’s no secret that I do some episodes of the podcast altruistically for you, dear listeners, because I’m not facing the situation that I’m studying – or at least not yet. (Eyebrows were raised in our house when I started researching the impact of di...Show More
038: The Opposite of Spoiled

38:22 | May 15th, 2017

We’re concluding our mini-mini series today on chores – and on paying children to do chores, which leads us to larger conversations about money. If you missed the first part of this then then you might want to go and listen to last week’s interview w...Show More
038: The Opposite of Spoiled

38:22 | May 15th, 2017

We’re concluding our mini-mini series today on chores – and on paying children to do chores, which leads us to larger conversations about money. If you missed the first part of this then then you might want to go and listen to last week’s interview w...Show More
037: Generation Me

34:07 | May 7th, 2017

This episode is on a topic that I find fascinating – the cultural issues that underlie our parenting. I actually think this issue is so important that I covered it in episode 1 of the podcast, which was really the first episode after the introductory...Show More
037: Generation Me

34:07 | May 7th, 2017

This episode is on a topic that I find fascinating – the cultural issues that underlie our parenting. I actually think this issue is so important that I covered it in episode 1 of the podcast, which was really the first episode after the introductory...Show More
036: The impact of divorce on a child’s development (Part 1)

25:14 | Apr 30th, 2017

This is the second of a short series of episodes on issues related to divorce. The first was our "All Joy and No Fun" episode, where we talked about how parenting today can be the most joyful thing in our lives - even if it isn't always a whole lot ...Show More
036: The impact of divorce on a child’s development (Part 1)

25:14 | Apr 30th, 2017

This is the second of a short series of episodes on issues related to divorce.  The first was our "All Joy and No Fun" episode, where we talked about how parenting today can be the most joyful thing in our lives - even if it isn't always a whole lot ...Show More
035: Parenting: All joy and no fun?

23:36 | Apr 23rd, 2017

Today's episode is about a book I read way before I started the podcast, called All Joy and No Fun by Jennifer Senior. I actually got a question from a listener recently asking me whether there’s any research on whether and how her divorce might have...Show More
035: Parenting: All joy and no fun?

23:36 | Apr 23rd, 2017

Today's episode is about a book I read way before I started the podcast, called All Joy and No Fun by Jennifer Senior. I actually got a question from a listener recently asking me whether there’s any research on whether and how her divorce might have...Show More
034: How do I get my child to do chores?

42:11 | Apr 16th, 2017

We have a pretty cool mini-mini-series launching today. I’ve been seeing a lot of those “chores your child could be doing” articles showing up in my social media feeds lately, and I was thinking about those as well about how children in other culture...Show More
034: How do I get my child to do chores?

42:11 | Apr 16th, 2017

We have a pretty cool mini-mini-series launching today. I’ve been seeing a lot of those “chores your child could be doing” articles showing up in my social media feeds lately, and I was thinking about those as well about how children in other culture...Show More
033: Does your child ever throw tantrums? (Part 2)

21:41 | Apr 8th, 2017

Well this took a bit longer than I'd planned... WAY BACK in episode 11 I did Part 1 of a two-part series on tantrums, and was expecting to release the second episode in short order. Then I got inundated with interviews from awesome guests, which I ...Show More
033: Does your child ever throw tantrums? (Part 2)

21:41 | Apr 8th, 2017

Well this took a bit longer than I'd planned...  WAY BACK in episode 11 I did Part 1 of a two-part series on tantrums, and was expecting to release the second episode in short order.  Then I got inundated with interviews from awesome guests, which I ...Show More
032: Free to learn

1:02:14 | Apr 1st, 2017

Professor Peter Gray was primarily interested in the motivations and emotions of animals before his son Scott started struggling in school, at which point Professor Gray’s interests shifted to developing our understanding of self-directed learning an...Show More
032: Free to learn

1:02:14 | Apr 1st, 2017

Professor Peter Gray was primarily interested in the motivations and emotions of animals before his son Scott started struggling in school, at which point Professor Gray’s interests shifted to developing our understanding of self-directed learning an...Show More
031: Parenting beyond pink and blue

51:18 | Mar 26th, 2017

Today I join forces with Malaika Dower of the How to Get Away with Parenting podcast to interview Dr. Christia Brown, who is a Professor of Developmental and Social Psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies the development of gender...Show More
031: Parenting beyond pink and blue

51:18 | Mar 26th, 2017

Today I join forces with Malaika Dower of the How to Get Away with Parenting podcast to interview Dr. Christia Brown, who is a Professor of Developmental and Social Psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies the development of gender...Show More
030: On Education (And on Betsy DeVos)

32:52 | Mar 19th, 2017

I've thought about doing this episode for a while but I sat on it for a few weeks because it's still in motion.  But now Betsy DeVos is confirmed as Secretary of Education I wanted to offer some thoughts on her work on educational issues, charter sch...Show More
030: On Education (And on Betsy DeVos)

32:52 | Mar 19th, 2017

I've thought about doing this episode for a while but I sat on it for a few weeks because it's still in motion. But now Betsy DeVos is confirmed as Secretary of Education I wanted to offer some thoughts on her work on educational issues, charter sch...Show More
029: Why we shouldn’t ban war play

55:16 | Mar 12th, 2017

This episode comes to us by way of a suggestion from my friend Jess, who told me she had joined an outing with some children in her three-year-old son’s preschool class. She said some of the slightly older children were running around playing that th...Show More
029: Why we shouldn’t ban war play

55:16 | Mar 12th, 2017

This episode comes to us by way of a suggestion from my friend Jess, who told me she had joined an outing with some children in her three-year-old son’s preschool class. She said some of the slightly older children were running around playing that th...Show More
028: How do children form social groups?

41:56 | Mar 6th, 2017

How social groups are formed has profound implications for what we teach our children about our culture. Professor Yarrow Dunham of Yale University tells us how we all group people in our heads according to criteria that we think are important - i...Show More
027: Is a Reggio Emilia-inspired preschool right for my child?

46:43 | Feb 27th, 2017

This episode is the final in our mini-series that I hope will help you to think through the options you might have for your child's preschool. In previous episodes we looked at Waldorf and Montessori approaches to early childhood education; today...Show More
027: Is a Reggio Emilia-inspired preschool right for my child?

46:43 | Feb 27th, 2017

This episode is the final in our mini-series that I hope will help you to think through the options you might have for your child's preschool. In previous episodes we looked at Waldorf and Montessori approaches to early childhood education; today ...Show More
026: Is my child lying to me? (Hint: Yes!)

46:53 | Feb 20th, 2017

Your kids don't lie, right?  And if they did, you'd be able to tell, right? News flash: they do.  And you probably can't. Dr. Kang Lee - who is one of the world's experts in lying - tells us why children lie, how we can (try to) reduce the inci...Show More
026: Is my child lying to me? (Hint: Yes!)

46:53 | Feb 20th, 2017

Your kids don't lie, right?  And if they did, you'd be able to tell, right? News flash: they do.  And you probably can't. Dr. Kang Lee - who is one of the world's experts in lying - tells us why children lie, how we can (try to) reduce the inci...Show More
025: Is a Waldorf preschool right for my child?

40:57 | Feb 13th, 2017

This episode is the second in our mini-series on making decisions about preschools, which I know is on the minds of a lot of parents of young children at this time of year. Today we speak with Beverly Amico, the Director of Advancement at the Associ...Show More
025: Is a Waldorf preschool right for my child?

40:57 | Feb 13th, 2017

This episode is the second in our mini-series on making decisions about preschools, which I know is on the minds of a lot of parents of young children at this time of year.  Today we speak with Beverly Amico, the Director of Advancement at the Associ...Show More
024: How (and when) does my child understand fairness?

43:29 | Feb 5th, 2017

We talked a while ago about sharing, and how you can understand the developmental processes that your child needs to go through before s/he truly understands what it means to share. One of the inputs to sharing behavior is an understanding of what...Show More
024: How (and when) does my child understand fairness?

43:29 | Feb 5th, 2017

We talked a while ago about sharing, and how you can understand the developmental processes that your child needs to go through before s/he truly understands what it means to share. One of the inputs to sharing behavior is an understanding of what...Show More
023: Is a Montessori preschool right for my child?

42:20 | Jan 29th, 2017

It's that time of year: daycare and preschool tours start ramping up and parents have to try to figure out which is the right option for their child. And many parents are overwhelmed by the options. Montessori? Waldorf? Reggio Emilia? How are th...Show More
023: Is a Montessori preschool right for my child?

42:20 | Jan 29th, 2017

It's that time of year: daycare and preschool tours start ramping up and parents have to try to figure out which is the right option for their child.  And many parents are overwhelmed by the options.  Montessori?  Waldorf?  Reggio Emilia?  How are th...Show More
022: How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: Author Interview!

41:24 | Jan 19th, 2017

Have you read the now-classic book How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk?  Ever wished there was a version that would help you with younger children who perhaps aren't quite ready for a detailed problem-solving session? Well...Show More
022: How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: Author Interview!

41:24 | Jan 19th, 2017

Have you read the now-classic book How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk?  Ever wished there was a version that would help you with younger children who perhaps aren't quite ready for a detailed problem-solving session? Well...Show More
021: Talk Sex Today!

43:24 | Jan 15th, 2017

I was scrolling down my Facebook feed recently when I saw a post in a parenting group saying “My two year-old daughter seems to have a “special relationship” with her rocking horse.  Is she masturbating?”  And I thought to myself “Whoa, two year-olds...Show More
021: Talk Sex Today!

43:24 | Jan 15th, 2017

I was scrolling down my Facebook feed recently when I saw a post in a parenting group saying “My two year-old daughter seems to have a “special relationship” with her rocking horse. Is she masturbating?” And I thought to myself “Whoa, two year-olds...Show More
020: How do I get my child to do what I want them to do?

19:46 | Jan 8th, 2017

Parenting is tough, huh?  Sometimes it feels like we spend a lot of our time asking our daughter to do things...and asking again...and finding a more creative way to ask.  We're going to get some great advice on this next week from Julie King, co-aut...Show More
020: How do I get my child to do what I want them to do?

19:46 | Jan 8th, 2017

Parenting is tough, huh?  Sometimes it feels like we spend a lot of our time asking our daughter to do things...and asking again...and finding a more creative way to ask.  We're going to get some great advice on this next week from Julie King, co-aut...Show More
019: Raising your Child in a Digital World: Interview with Dr. Kristy Goodwin

42:20 | Jan 1st, 2017

Did your child receive a digital device as a gift over the holidays? Have you been able to prise it out of his/her hands yet? Regular listeners might recall that we did an episode recently called “Really, how bad is screen time for my child?” whe...Show More
019: Raising your Child in a Digital World: Interview with Dr. Kristy Goodwin

42:20 | Jan 1st, 2017

Did your child receive a digital device as a gift over the holidays?  Have you been able to prise it out of his/her hands yet? Regular listeners might recall that we did an episode recently called “Really, how bad is screen time for my child?” whe...Show More
018: The Spiritual Child: Possibly exaggerated, conclusions uncertain

25:54 | Dec 26th, 2016

Someone in a parenting group on Facebook suggested I do an episode on The Spiritual Child, by Dr. Lisa Miller.  My first thought was that it didn't really sound like my cup of tea but I was willing to read it and at least see what it had to say. I...Show More
018: The Spiritual Child: Possibly exaggerated, conclusions uncertain

25:54 | Dec 26th, 2016

  Someone in a parenting group on Facebook suggested I do an episode on The Spiritual Child, by Dr. Lisa Miller.  My first thought was that it didn't really sound like my cup of tea but I was willing to read it and at least see what it had to say....Show More
017: Don’t bother trying to increase your child’s self-esteem

27:41 | Dec 19th, 2016

  Self-Esteem When I first started researching this episode I thought it would be a bit of a slam-dunk.  Self-esteem is a good thing, right? I was really surprised to find that there’s little evidence that self-esteem helps children to do bett...Show More
017: Don’t bother trying to increase your child’s self-esteem

27:41 | Dec 19th, 2016

Self-Esteem When I first started researching this episode I thought it would be a bit of a slam-dunk.  Self-esteem is a good thing, right? I was really surprised to find that there’s little evidence that self-esteem helps children to do better ...Show More
016: Listening, Growth, and Lifelong Resilience

36:57 | Dec 11th, 2016

Have you ever wondered why your child acts up?  Is it because they really want to annoy you or because they're trying to tell you something? In this conversation Dr. Claudia Gold helps us to understand that what we call ADHD - an extreme example o...Show More
016: Listening, Growth, and Lifelong Resilience

36:57 | Dec 11th, 2016

Have you ever wondered why your child acts up? Is it because they really want to annoy you or because they're trying to tell you something? In this conversation Dr. Claudia Gold helps us to understand that what we call ADHD - an extreme example ...Show More
015: How to support your introverted child

25:58 | Dec 4th, 2016

Do you think your child may be introverted?  Or are you not sure how to tell?  Around one in three people are introverted so if you have two or three children, chances are one of them is introverted.  While Western - and particularly American - socie...Show More
015: How to support your introverted child

25:58 | Dec 4th, 2016

Do you think your child may be introverted? Or are you not sure how to tell? Around one in three people are introverted so if you have two or three children, chances are one of them is introverted. While Western - and particularly American - socie...Show More
014: Understanding the AAP’s new screen time guidelines

27:10 | Nov 28th, 2016

The American Academy of Pediatrics just updated its screen time recommendations - and, for the first time, we can actually see and understand the research on which the recommendations are based.  They're a bit more nuanced than the previous versions,...Show More
014: Understanding the AAP’s new screen time guidelines

27:10 | Nov 28th, 2016

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) just updated its screen time recommendations - and, for the first time, we can actually see and understand the research on which the recommendations are based. They're a bit more nuanced than the previous ver...Show More
013: Vanessa Merten of the Pregnancy Podcast

21:45 | Nov 20th, 2016

Are you pregnant? Thinking about getting pregnant? Do you love Your Parenting Mojo and wish there was a show that could help you to understand how scientific research can help you make decisions about your pregnancy? Well, there is! In this ep...Show More
013: Vanessa Merten of the Pregnancy Podcast

21:45 | Nov 20th, 2016

Are you pregnant?  Thinking about getting pregnant?  Do you love Your Parenting Mojo and wish there was a show that could help you to understand how scientific research can help you make decisions about your pregnancy?  Well, there is! In this epi...Show More
012: It’s not about the broccoli: Dr. Dina Rose

51:25 | Nov 14th, 2016

Does your child eat any food under the sun...as long as it's cheese?  Do you find yourself worrying that you'll never get all the nutrients into her that she needs?  Dr. Dina Rose approaches eating from a sociologist's perspective, which is to say th...Show More
012: It’s not about the broccoli: Dr. Dina Rose

51:25 | Nov 14th, 2016

Does your child eat any food under the sun...as long as it's cheese? Do you find yourself worrying that you'll never get all the nutrients into her that she needs? Dr. Dina Rose approaches eating from a sociologist's perspective, which is to say th...Show More
011: Does your child ever throw tantrums? (Part 1)

19:22 | Nov 6th, 2016

So, does your child ever throw tantrums?  Yes?  Well, the good news is that you're not alone.  And this isn't something us Western parents have brought upon ourselves with our strange parenting ways; they're actually fairly common (although not unive...Show More
011: Does your child ever throw tantrums? (Part 1)

19:22 | Nov 6th, 2016

So, does your child ever throw tantrums? Yes? Well, the good news is that you're not alone. And this isn't something us Western parents have brought upon ourselves with our strange parenting ways; they're actually fairly common (although not unive...Show More
010: Becoming Brilliant – Interview with Prof. Roberta Golinkoff

42:41 | Oct 31st, 2016

In just a few years, today’s children and teens will forge careers that look nothing like those that were available to their parents or grandparents. While the U.S. economy becomes ever more information-driven, our system of education seems stuck on ...Show More
010: Becoming Brilliant – Interview with Prof. Roberta Golinkoff

42:41 | Oct 31st, 2016

In just a few years, today’s children and teens will forge careers that look nothing like those that were available to their parents or grandparents. While the U.S. economy becomes ever more information-driven, our system of education seems stuck on ...Show More
009: Do you punish your child with rewards?

23:18 | Oct 24th, 2016

I’ve never said the words “good job” to my toddler. I was lucky – I stumbled on Alfie Kohn’s book Punished by Rewards early enough that I was able to break the habit before my daughter had really done anything much that might be construed as requirin...Show More
009: Do you punish your child with rewards?

23:18 | Oct 24th, 2016

I’ve never said the words “good job” to my toddler. I was lucky – I stumbled on Alfie Kohn’s book Punished by Rewards early enough that I was able to break the habit before my daughter had really done anything much that might be construed as requirin...Show More
008: The impact of stress and violence on children

16:58 | Oct 17th, 2016

  I’m afraid this is an episode I wish I didn’t have to record. When I launched the podcast I asked anyone who has a question about parenting or child development that I might be able to answer by reviewing the scientific literature to reach ou...Show More
008: The impact of stress and violence on children

16:58 | Oct 17th, 2016

I’m afraid this is an episode I wish I didn’t have to record. When I launched the podcast I asked anyone who has a question about parenting or child development that I might be able to answer by reviewing the scientific literature to reach out and...Show More
007: Help! My toddler won’t eat vegetables

16:22 | Oct 10th, 2016

  (Believe it or not, this is Carys' "I freaking love homemade spinach ravioli with broccoli" face!)   I was sitting in a restaurant recently with half an eye on a toddler and his parents at the next table. The parents were trying to get the...Show More
007: Help! My toddler won’t eat vegetables

16:22 | Oct 10th, 2016

(Believe it or not, this is Carys' "I freaking love homemade spinach ravioli with broccoli" face!)   I was sitting in a restaurant recently with half an eye on a toddler and his parents at the next table. The parents were trying to get the todd...Show More
006: Wait, is my toddler racist?

24:51 | Oct 3rd, 2016

I'd always assumed that if I didn't mention race to my daughter, if it was just a non-issue, that she wouldn't grow up to be racist.  Boy, was I wrong about that.  It turns out that our brains are wired to make generalizations about people, and race ...Show More
006: Wait, is my toddler racist?

24:51 | Oct 3rd, 2016

I'd always assumed that if I didn't mention race to my daughter, if it was just a non-issue, that she wouldn't grow up to be racist.  Boy, was I wrong about that.  It turns out that our brains are wired to make generalizations about people, and race ...Show More
005: How to "scaffold" children’s learning to help them succeed

18:59 | Sep 26th, 2016

When I started talking with people about the idea for this podcast, one theme that came up consistently was the idea of supporting our children’s growth and development. A friend of mine summed it up most concisely and articulately by asking “how do ...Show More
005: How to “scaffold” children’s learning to help them succeed

18:59 | Sep 26th, 2016

When I started talking with people about the idea for this podcast, one theme that came up consistently was the idea of supporting our children’s growth and development. A friend of mine summed it up most concisely and articulately by asking “how do ...Show More
004: How to encourage creativity and artistic ability in young children – Interview with Dr. Tara Callaghan

38:19 | Sep 18th, 2016

I'm so excited to welcome my first guest on the Your Parenting Mojo podcast: Professor Tara Callaghan of St. Francis Xavier University in Nova Scotia.   Professor Callaghan has spent a great number of years studying the emergence of artistic ability ...Show More
004: How to encourage creativity and artistic ability in young children – Interview with Dr. Tara Callaghan

38:19 | Sep 18th, 2016

I'm so excited to welcome my first guest on the Your Parenting Mojo podcast: Professor Tara Callaghan of St. Francis Xavier University in Nova Scotia.   Professor Callaghan has spent a great number of years studying the emergence of artistic ability ...Show More
003: Did you miss the boat on teaching your toddler how to read? (Me too!)

16:41 | Sep 12th, 2016

So did you teach your toddler to read yet? And if not, why not? I’m just kidding, of course. I wanted to write this episode on encouraging literacy in middle to older toddlers, but the more I researched the more I found the issues go much furth...Show More
003: Did you miss the boat on teaching your toddler how to read? (Me too!)

16:41 | Sep 12th, 2016

So did you teach your toddler to read yet? And if not, why not? I’m just kidding, of course. I wanted to write this episode on encouraging literacy in middle to older toddlers, but the more I researched the more I found the issues go much furth...Show More
002: Why doesn’t my toddler share?

17:24 | Aug 18th, 2016

Imagine this: you’re with your toddler son or daughter at a playground on a Saturday afternoon so there are a lot of people around.  You’re sitting on a bench while your child plays in the sandpit where several others are playing as well.  You’re hal...Show More
002: Why doesn’t my toddler share?

17:24 | Aug 18th, 2016

Imagine this: you’re with your toddler son or daughter at a playground on a Saturday afternoon so there are a lot of people around.  You’re sitting on a bench while your child plays in the sandpit where several others are playing as well.  You’re hal...Show More
001: The influence of culture on parenting

15:22 | Aug 18th, 2016

Have you ever thought about how common the murder of children has been in societies we now call “Western” in the past, as well as societies all over the world today? In my naivete as a parent I figured there would be some differences in how people...Show More
001: The influence of culture on parenting

15:22 | Aug 18th, 2016

Have you ever thought about how common the murder of children has been in societies we now call “Western” in the past, as well as societies all over the world today? In my naivete as a parent I figured there would be some differences in how people...Show More
000: Philosophy (aka “What’s this Podcast All About?”)

15:27 | Aug 15th, 2016

I always thought the infant phase would be the hardest part of parenting, when all the baby does is eat and sleep and cry.  Now I have a toddler I'm finding it's harder than having a baby, some of the support systems that I had when she was a baby ar...Show More
000: Philosophy (aka "What’s this Podcast All About?")

14:31 | Aug 15th, 2016

L1051860 (1) I always thought the infant phase would be the hardest part of parenting, when all the baby does is eat and sleep and cry. Now I have a toddler I'm finding it's harder than having a baby, and some of the support systems that I had when...Show More