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Relationships & Love

U Up?

Betches Media


In this modern dating podcast presented by Betches Media, Jordana Abraham of Betches and Jared Freid discuss their take on modern dating issues ranging from apps to hook ups to relationships. What makes something a red flag versus a dealbreaker in th...Show More

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How to Get A Guy To Go Down On You Ft. Violet Benson of Daddy Issues

1:14:09 | Jan 9th

The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and New York dating scenes. At 10:00 Violet talks about her experience dating professional athletes. At 17:45 a...Show More

Does The Person I’m Dating Care About My Instagram Brand?

1:10:45 | Jan 2nd

The J’s are here to help you shake off your 2018 hangover. They start by answering a DM that Jared received from a listener wondering if guys are turned off if you have too many thirst traps on your Instagram. At 17:00 a listener writes in wondering ...Show More

Should You Be Mad If Someone You're Seeing Is Still Updating Their Dating App Bio?

1:17:56 | Dec 26th, 2018

The J’s are back and the Christmas break isn’t slowing them down. At 7:20 a listener writes in asking if lying about your age on dating apps is acceptable. At 22:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week in which a listener breaks he...Show More

Did Carrie And Big Have An Abusive Relationship?

1:11:21 | Dec 19th, 2018

The J’s are back just in time for Christmas. At 6:50 they discuss the best way for a single person to approach the dreaded New Year’s Eve kiss. At 14:50 a listener writes in wondering if she should give her bf permission to get a happy ending massage...Show More

Why are Millennials Having Less Sex than Our Parents' Generation? Ft. Kate Julian

1:27:21 | Dec 12th, 2018

J and J are back and joined by author of the cover story for The Atlantic’s December edition, “The Sex Recession”, Kate Julian. Kate’s research led her to the conclusion that millennials are having less sex than older generations. At 3:20 they talk a...Show More

What's The Best Way to Tell My Significant Other That They’re Getting Fat?

1:23:54 | Dec 5th, 2018

J and J are back. This week they start the show with a question from a listener who asks if it’s possible to date without social media in 2018. Jared thinks that someone who quits social media usually does it because they’re going through something. ...Show More

Were Ross and Rachel On A Break?

1:28:06 | Nov 28th, 2018

J and J are back. With the holiday in their rearview, they wonder, is Thanksgiving Eve the best night of the year to hookup? At 10:15 they discuss their first classic rom-com scenario breaking down the iconic Ross/Rachel break argument from “Friends....Show More

Is It Too Soon To Take A Trip With My BF?

1:08:58 | Nov 21st, 2018

J and J are back and they’re coming to a city near you! With upcoming shows in Brooklyn, DC, and Philadelphia the audience has some questions. At 6:30 a listener writes in wondering if it’s too soon to bring her new BF to UUp Live. At 25:05 they talk...Show More

Why Aren’t Stable Relationships Sexy?

1:20:32 | Nov 14th, 2018

The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the hypothesis of why cheating and relationships have changed from generation to generation. Older generations ...Show More

Are Dating Apps Bad For Society? Featuring Nancy Jo Sales

1:19:24 | Nov 7th, 2018

J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales. Nancy’s documentary explores the landscape of dating in the era of swipe apps and social media for bette...Show More

Is Halloween the Best or Worst Hook-Up Night?

1:17:26 | Oct 31st, 2018

Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that couples costumes are all about ownership. At 12:45 they discuss a controversial article proclaiming th...Show More

What Do I Do If My Significant Other Is Texting Their Ex? Ft. Johnny Bananas

1:29:41 | Oct 24th, 2018

J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agree that weddings are much different for single people than they are for couples and it affects whether o...Show More

How Do I Make the First Move Without Coming Off Desperate?

1:13:02 | Oct 17th, 2018

J and J are back and this week the show’s theme relates to initiating romantic contact with a guy without coming on too strong. At 13:25 a listener writes in asking how to make a romantic introduction with an old college crush who she has always had ...Show More

Bonus U Up?: Live At Canton Hall Ft. Raven Gates

1:45:45 | Oct 12th, 2018

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live in Dallas, TX. At 8:15 they talk about the best opening lines to use on dating apps. At 22:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lis...Show More

What’s The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being “In Love?”

1:16:13 | Oct 10th, 2018

The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. A...Show More

How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Acting Like a Drunk Asshole? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat

1:19:19 | Oct 3rd, 2018

The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’...Show More

What’s The Best Way to Get Someone to Stop Texting You?

1:09:20 | Sep 26th, 2018

The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounte...Show More

Did Instagram Ruin My Relationship? Ft. Corinne Fisher

1:20:26 | Sep 19th, 2018

The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using h...Show More

Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (10 PM Show) Ft. Michelle Wolf

1:51:08 | Sep 14th, 2018

The duo of Js returns with another bonus ep from their unreal night at the Comedy Cellar’s Village Underground. It’s a wild one. The topic this time around: what to do if a guy booty calls you after a date? At 8:08, they read an email about a Hinge d...Show More

When Do You Introduce Your S/O To Your Friends?

1:16:38 | Sep 12th, 2018

The Js return with an episode about meeting your S/O’s friends. At 11:17, they take an email from a listener who has gone on a few great dates, but then ends up at loud bars surrounded by her date’s friends. Is this normal? Also when is it OK to leav...Show More

Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (8 PM Show) Ft. Matteo Lane

1:35:41 | Sep 7th, 2018

J Squared is back with a bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: How to be an excellent stalker. At 6:02- A listener writes in wondering if it’s flattering to find out that your current ...Show More

Is It Crazy to Call Someone Out After Stalking Their Instagram Story?

1:07:56 | Sep 5th, 2018

Jor and Jar return for an amazing episode about going deep into peoples’ social media profiles. Jared says you know you’ve gone too far when you hit a bar mitzvah. At 16:57, they take a letter from a listener who went on several dates with a guy only...Show More

How to Know You're Chasing The Wrong People

1:16:02 | Aug 29th, 2018

Dub-J are back with an episode you don’t want to miss. At 3:54, they take an email from a listener who went to block a male creeper, but when she saw her blocked list, there were several girls only her BF of a few months could’ve put there. This segu...Show More

Is a Cheap Guy a Dealbreaker?

1:20:16 | Aug 22nd, 2018

J squared are back. They start off discussing "Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, a book that casts people into three groups: the anxious, the avoidant, and the secure. At 30:04, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl ...Show More

To Text or Not To Double Text

59:36 | Aug 15th, 2018

J and J are back. At 3:00, they take their first email about when to double text - if ever. Is sending five iMessages in a row the same as two texts? This segues into a general discussion about texting strategies. At 19:12, they take their Weird Sexu...Show More

Should I Swipe Right on Someone I Know IRL?

1:09:19 | Aug 8th, 2018

After a brief discussion of "k" texts, J squared agrees that "Kk" is polite while "k" is extremely aggressive. At 12:37 they take a letter from a listener who is unsure if he should continue small talk with a suitor on a date that's a week in advance...Show More

Can I Go Through My S/O's Texts?

58:06 | Aug 1st, 2018

J and J are back. At 3:11, they take an email about a boyfriend who has yet to post a picture of her on his Instagram. The thing is he posts A LOT. At 18:55 they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man wearing a retainer seems to mi...Show More

Why Do Guys Stop Putting Effort Into Long Term Relationships? Ft. Hinge Founder Justin McLeod

1:04:25 | Jul 25th, 2018

Jared and Jordana talk about the general state of U Up? which is now recommended by some therapists. Jared tells the story of a good friend who is in a bit of an Insta situation. He thinks a girl might be into him but then she seemingly hid her Insta...Show More

Why Do Guys Really Send Dick Pics?

1:17:59 | Jul 18th, 2018

J and J are back with an amazing 90 minute episode. At 4:40, a listener writes that she was “blindsided” by her boyfriend’s choice to end their relationship because he did not feel “needed." She asks what’s the right balance between being chill and n...Show More

Bonus: U Up? Live at the Comedy Cellar (10PM Show) Ft. Liza Treyger

1:26:01 | Jul 13th, 2018

J Squared is back with another bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: how to deal with the early period of dating. At 2:51, they take a letter from a very busy female listener, asking w...Show More

What's The Ideal Day of the Week for a First Date?

1:04:02 | Jul 11th, 2018

Everyone's favorite Js are back discussing early date activities. At 5:39, they take a letter from a listener asking about what's "too much" to ask for on a second date. Are there certain date activities you should hold off on until later in a relat...Show More

Do You Have To Break Up If They're Not The One?

1:04:53 | Jul 4th, 2018

It's summer fling and fun season. The Js start things off fast this Independence Day. At 3:40, they take a letter from a girl who's 6'1" and thinks she falls higher on the attraction scale. Are guys really intimidated by her height? This segues into ...Show More

Bonus: U Up? Live at the Comedy Cellar Ft. Andi Dorfman

1:08:37 | Jun 29th, 2018

Don't miss this very special bonus episode of U Up? where Jared and Jordana take letters and play games in front of a sold-out crowd at NYC's legendary Comedy Cellar. Jordana starts things off with a story of being on a date when a homeless man asks ...Show More

Should You Tell Your Partner About A Time You “Almost” Cheated?

1:08:31 | Jun 27th, 2018

Jared and Jordana are buzzing after their sold-out live show. They talk about a Twitter thread by a girl describing the perfect behavior from the perfect first date. Is high-fiving your dog a likable gesture or a romantic fairy tale IRL? They discuss...Show More

How Important Is It That Your Significant Other Likes Your Family?

1:01:54 | Jun 20th, 2018

Jared and Jordana deem guys who get into relationship mode too fast, "the male thirst trap." At 6:33, they take a letter from a listener on the topic who has dealt with guys who want to hold hands or kiss foreheads immediately. At 16:11, they receive...Show More

Can You Start a Real Relationship From an Instagram Thirst Trap?

1:02:51 | Jun 13th, 2018

Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking about Instagram thirst traps. Do they come off as desperate? Do they work? After, they debut a new segment: Weird Sexual Encounter of The Week where a guy describes a balloon situation that is tr...Show More

When's The Right Time To Talk About Your Sexual History? Feat. Taylor Strecker

1:01:45 | Jun 6th, 2018

Jordana and Jared talk about the Dobler-Dahmer Theory from How I Met Your Mother. The theory states that a big romantic gesture is either creepy or amazing based on how into the person you are. This segues into a poem-letter a listener received that ...Show More

Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?

58:42 | May 30th, 2018

Jordana and Jared talk Plan B, condoms and more in this particularly intimate episode. They take a letter from a listener who has been using the pull-out method and is having some issues. She breaks it to her partner that she’s not on BC. His reactio...Show More

Is It OK to Ask How Many People They’ve Slept With? Feat. Andy Cohen

1:18:32 | May 23rd, 2018

J and J talk about U Up? live shows (be sure to follow @uuppod on Instagram for updates and ticket info). They take a letter from a listener who had his heart broken using the apps in the NYC dating scene. He’s unsure how to regain his confidence wit...Show More

How Do You Handle The First Fart In a Relationship? (Ft. Jax Taylor)

1:20:03 | May 16th, 2018

Jared and Jordana take a letter from a listener asking about the right time to start posting pictures with a new partner. A listener asks how to get out of the block/unblock cycle with an old fling. Another listener asks how to handle "the first fart...Show More

How Long Should I Put Up With a Guy Texting Me Without Asking Me Out?

1:00:13 | May 9th, 2018

Jar-dana get a letter from a listener who is the only single person in a friend group of couples. Another listener feels stuck in a pen pals situation. When does the texting stop and the real life action start? When should you quit texting back? Anot...Show More

How Do You Extend a Vacation Hook-Up?

1:08:31 | May 2nd, 2018

Jordana's returned from Coachella. jared's decided that the people who hate on Coachella have officially become more annoying than the people who go. After a tangent into how much Jordana loves tans (a lot, but only natural) a listener asks how to e...Show More

What Do I Get a Guy For His Birthday If We've Only Been Dating a Month?

59:30 | Apr 25th, 2018

Jor and Jar start with a listener asking if it's a red flag that dudes always ask her for a pic over the apps. A girl in a new relationship asks for the protocol on her suitor of one's month's birthday - is that a gift or a dinner sitch? A pretty boy...Show More

The Reason Guys Don’t Make Plans in Advance

1:08:17 | Apr 18th, 2018

Jor and Jar talk about scenes in different cities like comedy, music, and magic (are there magic open mics?). After they move on to the complications of hooking up with an ex, they take a letter from a listener who likes her new guy, but has serious ...Show More

What's The Proper Post Breakup Protocol?

52:12 | Apr 11th, 2018

Jor and Jar are joined by hilarious comedian, Matteo Lane for this special ep. Matteo brings a new perspective to the pod as someone who's seasoned at "trolling Grindr." They take a letter from a listener whose friend is convinced that her boyfriend ...Show More

How Do I Tell Someone I'm Seeing That I'm a Virgin

52:47 | Apr 4th, 2018

J-Train and Jordana answer an email from a listener who is struggling with their virginity. Double J explain that it's just not as big of a deal as it may seem. Jordana advocates not even necessarily telling his suitor. A second female listener is a ...Show More

How Soon Should I Get Back on Dating Apps After a Breakup? Ft. Hannah Bronfman

1:09:11 | Mar 28th, 2018

Jordana and Jared field a letter from a listener who wonders why past boyfriends refused to put their relationship on Facebook. Another letter asks what to do if you're hooking up with a guy but you have your period. A guy asks how to handle the apps...Show More

Should I Hide the Fact That I Smoke Weed on a Dating App?

1:00:30 | Mar 21st, 2018

Jared and Jordana field a letter from a listener who is both weirded out by the guy who doesn’t ask for the date on a dating app and the guy who asks too soon. Another letter asks how prominent weed should be in her dating profile (esp. when it’s pa...Show More

Is It Messed Up That My Boyfriend Goes to Strip Clubs?

1:03:27 | Mar 14th, 2018

J&J start with a letter from a listener who sent a "Red flag or dealbreaker" as an opening line on a dating app and revealed he doesn't respect girls who put out on the first date. Jared talks about his tendency to post pics of his insane messages t...Show More

What Do Guys Really Think of Fake Boobs?

54:18 | Mar 7th, 2018

Jared and Jordana discuss their partying and drinking habits. J&J agree on rose. Jordana confesses to being the type of drunk that loves to start fights. After they take a letter from a listener asking why girls talking about boob jobs is so taboo. ...Show More

How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Adding Someone On Instagram?

1:03:54 | Feb 28th, 2018

Jared has an awkward hook up after masturbating 700 times. A listener tells the story of watching a gay porn and hearing familiar music, namely the 'U Up' theme song. Another fan asks when the right time to add a dating partner on social media might ...Show More

How to Plan a Date Without Looking Desperate

51:03 | Feb 21st, 2018

Jordana and Jared start off talking about the heart DM on Instagram (is it sincere?). Then they take a letter from a compulsive planner who is curious how far ahead it's appropriate to plan in a dating context. After a listener asks what he should if...Show More

Stop Instagram Stalking Your Exes with Whitney Cummings

1:20:50 | Feb 14th, 2018

After talking about various verbal dealbreakers such as “golly” and “oh my gosh,” Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking how to act if she runs into a 25-year-old college student after he ghosted her. They talk about Instagram stalki...Show More

Do Women Have More to Gain From Marriage Than Men?

58:49 | Feb 7th, 2018

Jared and Jordana talk about how to handle Valentine’s Day as a single person, having reasonable standards, and what men and women have to gain from marriage. After, they discuss people who are resistant to “the apps.” Do you live in the Now? It’s ti...Show More

Is It OK to Talk About Your Ex?

59:46 | Feb 1st, 2018

Jordana and Jared have a fascinating discussion about exes, matchmaking, and being nosy about people's relationships. They take two questions posed by listeners. The first comes from a distressed lover scorned by someone who randomly started bringing...Show More

How Much Porn is Too Much Porn?

1:07:21 | Jan 25th, 2018

This week Jordana and Jared discuss micro-cheating and whether or not men and women can really be just friends. They answer questions from a listener whose boyfriend turns into a caveman when he gets angry and another listener who is offended by the ...Show More

If You’re Not On His Instagram It’s Not Official

1:08:35 | Jan 18th, 2018

This week Jordana and Jared discuss how long you should wait before putting the person you’re dating on social media. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know if she should stop having sex with a guy because he’s a Trump supporter and ...Show More

How Many Drinks Should I Have On A Date?

1:04:47 | Jan 11th, 2018

This week Jared and Jordana discuss if it’s possible to not drink while dating. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why the guy she slept with texts her all day even though he lives in in another state. They also respond to a list...Show More

What’s The Best Way To Dump Someone?

57:37 | Jan 4th, 2018

This week Jordana and Jared discuss why a girl might not have sex with a guy she lets sleep over. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why guys Snapchat her more than they text her and a guy who wants to know if it’s okay to dump a...Show More

Should You Have ‘The Talk’? The Great Debate

1:02:32 | Dec 28th, 2017

This week Jared and Jordana discuss why guys like Instagram Models’ photos. They answer questions from a girl who’s anxious she won’t get a New Years kiss and other listeners wondering when an appropriate time to initiate exclusivity is. They play ga...Show More

Blowjobs Are a Selfless Act

57:52 | Dec 21st, 2017

This week Jordana and Jared talk about what girls and guys think of oral sex. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know how many times is normal for a guy to not be able to get it up and a male listener who is ashamed of his lack of sex...Show More

Don’t Text for A Specific Response

54:00 | Dec 14th, 2017

This week Jordana and Jared discuss lingerie and who should text first after a first date. They answer questions from a listener trying to move on from a 10 month relationship and another one who has an issue with guys no longer being interested afte...Show More

Girls Trying Not To Be Crazy Is What’s Gotten Guys Laid for Centuries

53:46 | Dec 7th, 2017

Jared and Jordana discuss who should pay on dates, and what you “owe" someone you’re having sex with in terms of honesty. They answer a listener’s question who wants to know what it means when a guy who ghosted you keeps liking your Instagram picture...Show More

Is it ever okay to fake an orgasm?

42:05 | Nov 30th, 2017

Jared and Jordana discuss why girls fake orgasms and what the best solution is to get them to stop. They answer questions from a male listener who doesn’t want a relationship but finds himself doing “relationshipy” things with girls he’s hooking up w...Show More

You're Not Better Than The App

58:20 | Nov 23rd, 2017

Jared and Jordana discuss how to be put yourself out there on dating apps and whether or not a guy can ever truly be 'not in the mood.' The give advice about how to ask a guy out in a low key way and how to let go of your boyfriend's transgressions f...Show More

Guys Want a Girl That Their Dad Would Want to Have Sex With

53:21 | Nov 15th, 2017

In their premiere dating podcast, Jared and The Betches discuss how your dating app profile picture can affect what kind of guys or girls you attract and what types of photos you should avoid. They answer questions from a listener who wonders if a vi...Show More