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Paul Colaianni: Anxiety, Depression, Stress, Narcissism, Manipulation, Emotional Abuse, Relationship, Infidelity, self-worth, self-esteem, obsessive thoughts, personal development

Anxiety, depression, fears, obsession, panic, or any relationship, marriage or family issues, this show will help you achieve less stress and more happiness. Become empowered and honor yourself so that you can make decisions that are right for you. M...Show More
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Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day

42:06 | May 26th

Passive aggressive behavior is a way to convey anger and upset to someone indirectly. It takes the form of comments that are meant to hurt, but hard to spot as hurtful. They are forms of poisonous communication that can erode love and connection. ...Show More
BONUS re-release: When Panic Attacks - The Anxiety Episode

1:05:54 | May 23rd

Anxiety is the excessive worrying about future events, based on a story that you tell yourself. However, it's hard to change the story when you actually believe it will happen. On top of that, the more you believe it will come true, the more like...Show More
Utilizing your dysfunctions to work for you instead of against you

50:41 | May 19th

Dysfunctions typically don't serve us, they usually get in the way. People pleasing, super perfectionism and responsibility, allowing personal boundaries to be crossed, and so many more behaviors can be obstacles to fulfillment and joy. Some peop...Show More
Criticisms and hurtful comments from others don't apply when you are in alignment with your inner compass

57:30 | May 12th

When someone puts you down by criticizing or making you feel bad, is their criticism accurate? Do you believe it to the point where you can't let it go? When you get into alignment with yourself morally, ethically, and sometimes even legally, you...Show More
When you can't enjoy life because you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop

1:17:20 | May 5th

It's hard to enjoy life if you are weighed down with the belief that something bad is going to happen. How can you appreciate today if you believe tomorrow will bring misery? There is a path to a better today. This episode will give you some tools to...Show More
Purging negative emotions as soon as they happen

51:45 | Apr 28th

Wouldn't it be great to be able to release the negative feelings that come up after someone upsets you? Or after you do something stupid and start all that inner dialogue? You shouldn't have to walk around for days or weeks carrying around the em...Show More
Wanting your partner to just stop doing that thing. Are Jealousy or other feelings creeping in?

1:03:09 | Apr 21st

What do you do when you're partner does something you don't like? Do you stay focused on their behavior and try to make them change it? Or do you shift your focus on what you can control and do what you can for yourself so that your partner can no lo...Show More
Dissolving love and connection by repressing thoughts and emotions with those you love

1:06:12 | Apr 14th

If you are driven by a fear of being alone and choose to repress your thoughts and feelings, avoiding conflict and trying to keep the peace, you'll find your relationships slipping into the abyss. The ones you are closest to should be the ones you ca...Show More
Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction

1:02:11 | Apr 7th

If you show compassion toward someone who then takes advantage of that compassion, do you back off on being kind, helpful, and accommodating? Or do you try even harder by showing them even more compassion in hopes they will finally "see the light"? ...Show More
When you're told to just accept your partner's emotional affair

54:46 | Apr 1st

If your partner were having an emotional affair, would you know it? What would happen if their ex came into the picture, and they shared laughs and quality time together, would it bother you? Today is jam packed with a lot of lessons about this s...Show More
The regrets and upsets from the past that you just can't seem to get over

57:00 | Mar 24th

Do you have any regrets? Are you upset about your behavior or a loved one's behavior from long ago and just can't seem to get over it? Who you were in the past doesn't equate to who you are today. If you are going to get past some of the regrets ...Show More
Always Defending Yourself - Introduction to the Love and Abuse podcast

25:13 | Mar 21st

The Love and Abuse podcast is about poisonous communication and toxic behavior. This is a bonus episode on The Overwhelmed Brain feed just in case you haven't had a chance to tune into Love and Abuse. This episode is about always defending yourself w...Show More
The sacred components of personal boundaries and why you should define and enforce them whenever possible

1:01:49 | Mar 17th

When you learn what your boundaries are and why enforcing them makes you a happier, more fulfilled person, your life changes. It's time to change your life!
How to create the life you want

48:03 | Mar 10th

If you want true happiness, you might have to do the scariest thing imaginable: Show up and express the most authentic version of yourself. That can be scary and difficult, and that's why it's important to address and figure out what it entails and h...Show More
When tiny compromises lead to resentments

57:43 | Mar 3rd

Do you make small compromises with the people you love so that they will like or love you more? There are two ways to compromise: One has attached resentments, the other doesn't. I'll give you one guess which method of compromise works better for...Show More
When you can't fully commit just in case there's something better

54:17 | Feb 24th

What if there's a better job or partner out there for you? Why in the world would you commit to what you have when there's a chance someone or something better could come along? Why commit to anyone or anything ever again when you are plagued with th...Show More
When fear is the primary obstacle in your life

46:04 | Feb 17th

Many fears you have can probably be traced back to a lack of knowledge or exposure. Overexposure to what you don't want creates fear. Underexposure to what you don't want also creates fear. So what does it take to become more fearless? More knowledge...Show More
How family drama can teach you a lot about personal boundaries

1:12:12 | Feb 10th

hen your family has dysfunction, family gatherings can be quite a challenge. What do you do in the midst of family drama? Do you recoil and transform into the old, pre-personally-developed you? Or do you stand firm in who you are today and love then ...Show More
Part 2 - Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all

19:19 | Feb 6th

Part 2 of "Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all". Obsessive thoughts and over analyzing can lead to terrible (or no) decision making causing you to stay in a rut that you can never get out o...Show More
Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all

1:08:44 | Feb 3rd

Obsessive thoughts and over analyzing can lead to terrible (or no) decision making causing you to stay in a rut that you can never get out of (or get out of really, really slowly). In this episode, I talk about what it takes to make decisions that ar...Show More
Enduring the spotlight of humiliation, embarrassment and criticism

1:11:48 | Jan 27th

What can you do when you are getting humiliated or criticized? Are there practical methods of dealing with embarrassing situations? How about hurtful criticism? There's a lot to unpack here. This episode gets into the challenge of dealing with humili...Show More
When a guilty conscious interferes with your decisions and keeps you unhappy

1:03:23 | Jan 20th

When a guilty conscience stops you from living a fulfilling life, it's time to do something about it. In part 1, I talk about an email I received from a woman who was in an emotionally abusive relationship and feels guilty because she thinks she may ...Show More
Should you leave or stay in a toxic environment - Is it ever wrong to leave the toxic person, place or thing

58:53 | Jan 13th

When is the right time to leave that toxic person, place or thing? You can have a toxic job, you can live in a toxic city, you can be married to that toxic person, but do you leave? Should you leave? I address something that I believe plagues us all ...Show More
When people take advantage of you

48:18 | Jan 6th

What do you do about the freeloader hanging out taking advantage of your time, energy and money? How about people that just don't respect you? Do you care enough about yourself to make sure people don't treat you less than you deserve? An important e...Show More
Seven little habits that will change your life - special episode featuring Optimal Living Daily

0:00 | Jan 2nd

Want to change your life? These habits may be just what you need to create the life you want. This is a small departure from your typical Overwhelmed Brain content because in this episode I introduce you to another podcast called Optimal Living Daily...Show More
More self-help variety - The origin of upset, standing up to loved ones, apologies and forgiveness, shame and anger around death and more

1:00:30 | Dec 30th, 2018

Lots more to explore in part two of the self-help variety show. What you are upset about has an origin from the past, exploring that can heal the present. Do you stand up to your family for your significant other? Is it a good idea? How do you handle...Show More
Self-help variety - Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!

1:07:47 | Dec 23rd, 2018

I answer several questions about overcoming jealousy, people that impose their values on you, self-worth and self-esteem, getting over insecurities about body comments, letting go of intrusive, distressing thoughts, expressing yourself and more! It's...Show More
When your career doesn't fit right

47:47 | Dec 21st, 2018

Some careers just don't fit. You can be happy-ish, but not necessarily happy. Or, you could be downright miserable. I invite Scott Barlow from Happen to Your Career on the show to talk about what it takes to find a career you can be happy in AND succ...Show More
Second chances - How do you know if it's safe to take someone back into your life?

1:10:15 | Dec 16th, 2018

Do you give someone a second chance after there's been a conflict, toxic relationship, betrayal or something else that you swore you'd never do again? What are some positive signs that someone has changed and deserves a second chance? What should you...Show More
What to look for when starting a new relationship

1:05:57 | Dec 9th, 2018

How do you know if the relationship you're starting (or the relationship you're in) is everything you want it to be? How do you know you aren't getting led into yet another heartbreak? Learning the signs of a healthy, functioning, and even happy rela...Show More
Giving up your power to toxic people

1:14:54 | Dec 2nd, 2018

As the holidays come around, you will likely meet up with family and friends. And you may also run into that toxic person or people that you don't look forward to seeing again. Dealing with toxic people requires a few tools so that you can make it th...Show More
Living life on your terms

1:13:58 | Nov 25th, 2018

How many decisions do you make in your life that are actually based on what you want instead of how someone else will respond? Sometimes it takes a swift kick in the emotional behind to get moving on your decisions so that you can get out of the emot...Show More
The 'take care of you' episode: Showing up as the best version of yourself

1:24:55 | Nov 18th, 2018

What does it take to become the best version of you? What do you need to do for yourself so that you become more happy and more fulfilled? This episode is all about you and what it takes to become the most supportive, compassionate person to your...Show More
Avoiding vulnerability and stuffing down emotions

1:08:52 | Nov 11th, 2018

When you carry around an inability to be vulnerable, you can build up an emotional resistance increasing the negativity inside of you. When this happens, you end up living a life that isn't as happy or fulfilling as it could be. I explain this proces...Show More
Why don't people understand me? Taking responsibility for the meaning of your communication

1:10:48 | Nov 4th, 2018

It can be frustrating when someone doesn't understand what you're talking about. In fact, there are probably people in your life that you try to communicate with but keep ending up in arguments. In order to communicate with some people, you have to m...Show More
The Silent Treatment

55:26 | Oct 28th, 2018

Silence is golden until it isn't. There are three main levels of silent treatment: 1. Processing time to figure out what you're going to do with what you just learned. 2. Cool down time as a way to regulate what might normally be a heightened ...Show More
Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?

1:00:31 | Oct 21st, 2018

Do you enable behavior that you don't like? Is it possible that the people that cause you stress do so because you are allowing it in some way? This is a very important topic that may help you get your power back if you adopt and apply the message.
Decrease Social Anxiety

21:02 | Oct 17th, 2018

Social anxiety can be debilitating. In this bonus mini-episode, I talk about one way to start thinking about it differently so that it doesn't have such a grip on you. Take the social anxiety survey at to share your e...Show More
I'm right you're wrong: The sides we take that create division and distress

1:10:10 | Oct 14th, 2018

If they're not like you, you don't like them. If you're not like them, they don't like you. You have opinions, so do they, but should your differences separate you and cause you so much stress that you would rather lose relationships than accept peop...Show More
Finding your true path so you don't end up living a false life

1:00:52 | Oct 7th, 2018

Trying to find happiness is hard enough, but trying to do it when other people are in your life (or are interfering with your life) is even harder. The first email I read is from someone who has a problem with his girlfriend smoking pot. He wants the...Show More
Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment

1:22:23 | Sep 30th, 2018

Hurtful people do a really good job of causing us to feel bad about ourselves. Not only that, we end up repeating what they said or did to us in our mind over and over again. The emotional trauma can last for months or years. In this episode I help t...Show More
How to avoid miserable relationships by knowing how to make better choices

1:05:22 | Sep 23rd, 2018

When you end up in a miserable relationship, who's to blame? Do you feel powerless as the relationship gets worse and worse? It's vital to see the signs at the beginning, but it's even more important what you do later on when you are heavily invested...Show More
The phobia of commitments and making decisions

1:14:52 | Sep 16th, 2018

If you're a commitment-phobe or someone who has trouble making and committing to decisions, you probably notice your life coming to a standstill more often than you want. The solution may be a simple change that's a challenge to implement, but could ...Show More
Investigating gut feelings in relationships

1:01:04 | Sep 9th, 2018

When you get that suspicious feeling that a friend, family member or partner is doing something deceptive, do you investigate further or take their word when they say nothing is going on? When you have that gut instinct kicking in, it's time to liste...Show More
Loosening the Emotional Grip Problems Have on You

1:07:46 | Sep 2nd, 2018

How difficult is it to experience life to the fullest when you have a dark cloud of problems and challenges? In this episode, I help you tackle the problems in your life with many questions designed to loosen the grip emotional challenges have on you...Show More
The fear that you'll never experience something ever again

1:11:42 | Aug 26th, 2018

The best relationship, job or event in your life flashes by and now you are afraid that's the best there ever was and it will never be that good again. When you use the words, "never", "ever", and "always", you set up your present and future for a da...Show More
Signs that you are a difficult person for others

1:17:19 | Aug 19th, 2018

How do you know if you are the difficult one in any relationship? Whether it's at home, with friends, or family, when everyone seems a bit unhappier than you think they should be, perhaps the common denominator is you.
The mess of mixed messages

1:07:43 | Aug 12th, 2018

In any relationship, mixed messages are the key to diminishing trust and certainty. When communication is based on deception to make others think one thing while you do or say another, you introduce confusion and sometimes even a bit of insanity.
When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

1:19:06 | Aug 5th, 2018

Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up. When you are raised by those who couldn't love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed ...Show More
People pleasing your way to unhappiness

1:13:44 | Jul 29th, 2018

People pleasing can be exhausting. Spending time and energy trying to be what you believe other people want you to be destroys relationships and wears on your emotional well-being. In this episode, I help you understand just how damaging people pleas...Show More
Withdrawing love and affection

1:16:47 | Jul 22nd, 2018

If you withdraw your emotions or give others the silent treatment, you may not be surprised to hear that this behavior, if repeated over and over again, can drain your relationship of love, affection, and intimacy. Over time, if not addressed, the re...Show More
When you just can't figure out why you're unhappy

1:11:47 | Jul 15th, 2018

What do you do when you've done a lot of work on yourself and feel like you've addressed the toughest issues in your life but still feel as if there is something missing? What's the secret to figuring out what's keeping you from feeling fulfilled? ...Show More
Is Your Negative Self-Perception Making You Believe in Lies?

1:20:53 | Jul 8th, 2018

When you find yourself throwing away compliments in place of beliefs and self-perceptions that aren't true, you stay in a self-perpetuating cycle of negativity and may never get out until you are ready to give up that sometimes you are just plain wro...Show More
Increasing intimacy in your relationships and a comment on obsessive thinking

1:23:19 | Jul 1st, 2018

If you have difficulty being intimate, it might be time to stop looking at all the top ten lists on how to get closer to those you love and listen to this episode. I dive into what you need to do to increase your connection and intimacy with the peop...Show More
Should you leave your partner if the future seems bleak?

1:18:46 | Jun 24th, 2018

If you think something is wrong with the relationship but aren't sure if you should leave or if you should work on things, perhaps it's time to get an answer so that you can have some closure. In this episode I help you access the resources you need ...Show More
Pulling out of the emotional rut

1:14:24 | Jun 17th, 2018

There is a path out of the rut of depression, feeling unworthy, unlovable, stupid, and any of a number of other thoughts and feelings that can permeate your life. If you're in that miserable, stuck state, this episode may be a path to a door that shi...Show More
When you can't let go of guilt

50:27 | Jun 10th, 2018

If guilt holds you back from enjoying life and making good, healthy choices for yourself, it's time to let it go and gain some forward momentum. Guilt suspends happiness and keeps you from doing what you really want to do in life. Could letting i...Show More
The vulnerabiliity of full self-expression

1:07:31 | Jun 3rd, 2018

One of the main disadvantages of stuffing negative emotions is that, quite simply, you are probably not happy most of the time. Walking around with so much negativity can lead to mini explosions in your relationships. The key to clearing these obstac...Show More
I don't let anyone get close to me

1:12:40 | May 27th, 2018

How much are you willing to risk to have the greatest relationship you can have? How much emotional connection do you want? It seems the more the reward, the higher the risk. In this episode, I talk about how staying emotionally closed up or closed o...Show More
When your parent doesn't make you feel worthy

1:02:28 | May 20th, 2018

Where does your self-worth come from if it isn't instilled in you from your parents or caretakers? There is a path to a higher sense of self-worth and self-esteem. It may not be an easy path, but it does exist.
Are you capable of emotional abuse?

1:08:14 | May 13th, 2018

Would you know if you were being emotionally abusive? There is a question you can ask yourself to determine if you are being emotionally abusive or not. Once you know the question, you can change how you communicate with anyone.
Learning the process of figuring out problems

1:17:31 | May 6th, 2018

What are the steps to figuring out the challenges that come into your life? Is there a process? What happens when someone you know is going through a particular challenge, do you know what questions to ask? Join Matthew Bivens and I as we talk about ...Show More
What to do about the challenges at work

17:29 | Apr 30th, 2018

When work is a challenge, sometimes it takes a bit more than emotional intelligence to get through it. I talk about a podcast I discovered called Safe For Work that helps you through work challenges, along with sharing my own work challenge. Visi...Show More
Releasing the fears and pain by walking the path of enlightenment

1:14:25 | Apr 29th, 2018

Whatever fears, pain, shame, guilt and other negative emotions are lingering inside of you are preventing you from reaching empowerment and walking the path of enlightenment. This episode is all about starting that path and releasing the stream of ne...Show More
Empowering yourself to fearlessness

1:04:46 | Apr 22nd, 2018

If you're stuck in a state of constant fear, what can you do to become more fearless and more confident so that you can feel good instead afraid of what's around every corner?
When you feel unlovable and unworthy

53:40 | Apr 15th, 2018

If you've ever come out of a relationship feeling unlovable and unworthy, it's time to consider the source of this false belief and how you are sabotaging yourself for future relationships. Also, I read an email about conditional versus unconditional...Show More
When your partner changes their mind about your life plans

1:02:36 | Apr 8th, 2018

What happens to the relationship if after you make life plans together, one of you changes their mind? I received a letter from a woman who said that she and her husband planned on having a baby, but he has now changed his mind and no longer wants on...Show More
The life decision you regret - Never find true love again - Do you value yourself

1:12:49 | Apr 1st, 2018

1. That one decision you regret that changed your entire life for the better… or would it have been worse? 2. You lose the love of your life, now you know you'll never be happy again. Can you recover from losing "the one"? 3. You filter you e...Show More
Life changing lessons and working through introversion

54:36 | Mar 28th, 2018

What are the best life lessons to learn along your journey? How do you know what your next step is? What if you're a little too introverted and can't seem to find the courage to take steps that you believe you need to take? Matthew Bivens and I have ...Show More
Exploring infidelity - Can the relationship survive the affair

1:13:02 | Mar 25th, 2018

Cheating might be the end of most relationships, but many couples have survived and thrived after the affair. There are many components to infidelity. In this episode, I explore the basics of cheating and what will allow your relationship to survive ...Show More
The life-altering mistake - Controlling others can lead to betrayal - Things narcissists do

1:02:21 | Mar 18th, 2018

One huge mistake can change your life. When it's time to make up for that mistake, prioritize what's most important. Sometimes that means losing something you love. Controlling someone causes them to seek their needs from someone else. What start...Show More
Emotionally unavailable - Express and heal - Cancelling Criticism

46:51 | Mar 11th, 2018

1. If your brain or your heart closes up at the thought of sharing your feelings about someone else, this first segment is for you. 2. It's vital to have someone or somewhere to express the deep negative emotions. Finding that safe person with who...Show More
When you lose your mentor - The biggest problem in the relationship - Control and Responsibility

1:06:13 | Mar 4th, 2018

1. What do you do when you lose your mentor? Here's a trick you may think is a little out there. 2. What is the biggest problem in your relationship? Cheating or worse? To heal, you may have to work on something else first 3. You can only control ...Show More
Find the Right Teacher - Everything is failing, nothing is working out

1:15:11 | Feb 25th, 2018

Have you ever listened to a motivational teacher to the point where you were ready to make huge changes in your life, but after a couple days you lost all that motivation? Motivational teaching is great for building you up, but where do you go after ...Show More
Controlling upset toward others - Feeding dysfunctional people - Full commitment then re-evaluation

1:11:46 | Feb 18th, 2018

1. When you get angry or upset toward someone else, how quickly do you recover? Would you like to recover faster and get into a better space? I'll walk you through questions you can ask yourself that lead to change. 2. How do you feed the dysfunctio...Show More
Changing someone's life - Tackling your insecurities

1:01:12 | Feb 11th, 2018

1. If you want to change someone's life, sometimes all it takes is a heartfelt "Thank You" or compliment. But not in passing. A thank you or compliment that makes them stop and process it can be quite powerful. 2. If you are dealing with insecurit...Show More
Breaking up for newbies - Enabling your own terrible relationship - Dating the emotional abuser

1:16:31 | Feb 4th, 2018

1. Without a history of breakups, your first major one can seem devastating and life ending. I help the newbie get through all the effects of the first major heartbreak. 2. When you think your relationship is horrible and you find yourself taking...Show More
Valuing Your Partner's Values for Relationship Longevity

34:49 | Jan 31st, 2018

Do you value what your partner values? If not, you may be in for a rude awakening when they suddenly get upset with you for seemingly no reason. What's important to you may not be important to them, and vice versa, but it might be a good idea to ...Show More
Handling a Rejection - Combining logic and emotion - Leaving doesn't mean not loving

1:01:59 | Jan 28th, 2018

1. How do you handle "no"? Do you suffer hoping the other person would follow you to the ends of the earth, or do you welcome the opportunity to be free of someone that didn't want to be with you? 2. How much of your emotions need your logic? How...Show More
Stupid questions that heal - Dealing with the Sociopath - Endless codependence

57:34 | Jan 21st, 2018

Asking yourself stupid questions may be the path to healing and moving through the hard stuff in your life. We often have choices when it appears we don't - stupid questions may lead to more choices. Sociopathic people in the workplace and at hom...Show More
Will letting go of my narcissistic mom destroy my self-worth?

54:51 | Jan 17th, 2018

Letting go of a narcissistic parent can seem like cutting off a limb to some people, but what happens right after the moment you make the decision to cut them out of your life? Matthew Bivens of the Having it A.L.L. podcast joins me today to disc...Show More
Getting along with everyone - Stuck in the marriage - Get offline to stretch your mind

1:08:59 | Jan 14th, 2018

1. Race, culture and background can dictate personality and behavior. A listener writes in and asks how to get along with almost everyone. 2. A woman asks if I have any words of wisdom for her regarding a drifting marriage and isolation from fami...Show More
Getting the career you want with Scott Barlow

38:44 | Jan 13th, 2018

Getting into alignment with a career you want is a whole lot more fulfilling then trudging through each day trying to make the career you're in work. I talk with Scott Barlow, a regular of The Overwhelmed Brain, on finding work that fits and crea...Show More
An Addict's Mind - Is Suffering Optional - Avoid Healing by Judging Others

54:09 | Jan 7th, 2018

1. The addict has a different perspective of the world according to a recovering addict that writes in to the show. 2. We're told that suffering is optional. I make an argument against it and for it. 3. Every judgment you have is a lack of ac...Show More
Resolving Before New Years - Are You The Problem - Free Will or Destiny - Get Ready for Next Year

1:02:28 | Dec 31st, 2017

1. Resolving issues before New Year's resolutions is a better practice for some people. If you can't keep your resolutions, it's time to change when you make them. 2. Is she is toxic like her boyfriend's ex's or is he the common denominator? 3...Show More
They love you but don't like to say it - Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex - You can manipulate but should you

1:11:35 | Dec 24th, 2017

Saying I love you shouldn't be hard, but if it's something that you or your partner can't do, there is a path to love that doesn't involve words. When you think about how you treated your ex, do you feel guilty? If so, segment 2 will help you cop...Show More
The Adapting Chameleon Personality - When they hurt you to get rid of you - Accepting or denying toxic family members

1:08:05 | Dec 17th, 2017

1. Are you a chameleon? Do you change as needed for every person and situation? If so, is it really serving you? 2. If someone has ever hurt you so that you would let them go, this segment may tell you why. Fear of your reaction is usually the ca...Show More
When your partner sides with their family against you

1:04:41 | Dec 13th, 2017

If your partner's family is against you and your partner sides with them, what do you do? When you can't feel safe in your own relationship because your partner's priority is his or her own family, you may have some hard choices to make. An emotional...Show More
The cheater who went from kind to cold when caught - Ex won't return even after I improve - Your intuition needs closure

1:10:02 | Dec 10th, 2017

1 She caught her husband cheating and blamed her & her family for the affair. He used to be loving and supportive. Now that he can't get his way, he is cold & manipulative. 2 She wants her ex back but all he wants is sex. She complies but feels em...Show More
Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going

1:33:21 | Dec 6th, 2017

When you find out a lie that your partner has been holding on to for months or years, where does that leave the relationship? What if it's a minor lie and your relationship has been going great? Or what if it's a massive lie that you cannot get past?...Show More
Attracting higher quality partners - Feeling sorry for those that abuse you - Try, try again or do or do not

1:02:56 | Dec 3rd, 2017

1. Do you attract the worst partners? What does it take to find a normal person to date? There is a path to attracting quality partners but it may involve facing your fear of loss. 2. If you feel bad for your emotional abuser, you are more likely...Show More
Escaping the Real World - Kids and the Narcissistic Parent - The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

1:00:07 | Nov 26th, 2017

Are you a daydreamer? Is it healthy? Do you do it to avoid reality? It's not all bad, is it? I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways. In #2, I go over some ways to deal wit...Show More
Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves

57:35 | Nov 19th, 2017

Black or white thinking can lead you to be untrusting of people and the world in general. If you've loved and lost and cannot figure out how to love as deeply as you once did, it could be a general distrust you carry around - seeing people as either ...Show More
Freeze instead of fight or flight - Learning what didn't work with the ex - Healing the hole in your heart

1:07:29 | Nov 12th, 2017

Do you freeze when you get stressed? Learn what you can do to stop the freeze before it happens. What didn't work in your last relationship that you can take with you into your next one? These questions will help you become wise for the future. ...Show More
The abuse victim's perspective - Step-parents and step-children - When honoring yourself leads to loneliness

1:16:25 | Nov 5th, 2017

Why don't abuse victims leave the relationship? I talk about the perspective of the abuse victim and no matter how much sense it makes to us for them to leave the abuser, it's an entirely different reality for the victim.   How can step-parents con...Show More
Keeping Your Relationship from Slipping into Dysfunction

1:08:32 | Oct 29th, 2017

If you've had ups and downs with your relationship and you're ready to keep it on track so it doesn't start slipping back down, I'll tell you ten steps you can take to make sure it stays healthy and continues to blossom.
Stonewalling - Expectations of friends - Emotional abuse follows you - Get away to get closer to people

1:03:26 | Oct 22nd, 2017

Stonewalling is damaging to a relationship and can make it fail if whatever is shut down is never brought up to be resolved.   Do you set expectations in your friendships? Should friendships be an equal, two-way street? It doesn’t have to be - not ...Show More
How to feed your brain - Why do abusers abuse? - Too scared to be in a relationship - Everything is temporary

1:12:13 | Oct 15th, 2017

The more you expose yourself to new things, the smarter you get and the more your thought processes change. Why does one abuse? This important segment will help you understand the perspective of the one who abuses.    How can you enjoy your rel...Show More
Guilt stops growth - Dad's new girlfriend - Enabling the freeloader

58:41 | Oct 8th, 2017

When you feel guilty for wanting to leave your partner because of their bad behavior, it's time to transform that guilt into something more productive. What happens when you lose a parent and the one left behind wants to date again? Is this somet...Show More
Those "think positively" people - Little problems that lead to explosive reactions - What is a toxic person?

1:08:20 | Oct 1st, 2017

Positive thinking leads to denial which creates negative emotions in your body eventually leading to depression. What? Sounds like a great first topic. Little spats in a relationship that lead to massive blowups have an origin. Unspoken words are ...Show More
Mother treats me badly - Early warning signs in relationships - You are not that - Bypassing intuition

1:07:00 | Sep 24th, 2017

Mom criticizes her, makes her feel unworthy, yet this listener still wants a relationship.   What happens when there are warning signs at the beginning of your relationship but you ignore them?   Do you change for someone else to keep them in y...Show More
When "I Know" prevents healing - How to be a safe partner - When others bypass your intuition

56:03 | Sep 17th, 2017

When you are so knowledgeable about your problems, you may have a tendency to be closed off to the solution. The "I know" syndrome can keep you from finding out the root of your emotional distress.   When your partner can't seem to trust you compl...Show More
The no-win conversation - Lashing out at others - Blame the cheater not yourself

1:05:47 | Sep 10th, 2017

Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say? I share how to avoid and get out of the double binds that show up in your relationship. Where does lashing out come from? I...Show More
Success via stress - Never too old - judging others when you do the same thing - The guilt of the infidel

58:10 | Sep 3rd, 2017

Is succeeding in a stressful way better than not succeeding? Creating a deadline with accountability keeps you on task and even makes you more creative. It's never too late to honor yourself. She did so with a toxic family member and is now starti...Show More
Obsessing about people - Can your marriage heal if you grow - Online shaming

1:18:14 | Aug 27th, 2017

Obsessing about those you want in your life. What can you do? There may be a way out of obsessive thoughts and behavior. Can your relationship survive if you heal and grow but your partner is toxic? I read an email from someone in a manipulative ...Show More
See me, Judge me - Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing - What is No Contact?

1:30:34 | Aug 20th, 2017

Standing up for your boundaries can have the consequence of being called out. I address a criticism from a listener who calls me out. Can someone with a fear of abandonment be in a romantic relationship with someone who has a fear of commitment? I...Show More
Trusting Your Gut - Can You Reconcile with Someone You've Hurt - Making Decisions Easier

1:11:05 | Aug 13th, 2017

Do you trust your gut? Do you want to? I tell you how in this first segment where I share how I almost got conned by a store clerk. In segment two, high school sweethearts get married then divorced ten years later. After a lot of emotional abuse ...Show More
Blaming Others for Everything - Does time heal? - The overworking ADD partner - Hanging up on family

1:19:13 | Aug 6th, 2017

You will get the results you want as soon as you accept responsibility for your role in every problem in your life. Segment 2 talks about how almost every relationship issue you have with others is what needs nurturing in you. In segment 3 I ...Show More
Wanting someone who doesn't want you - The price of inauthenticity - When you want someone to get help

1:00:13 | Jul 30th, 2017

When you pursue someone you want romantically but they don't want you, the result is often hurt feelings or worse. In segment two, I read an email from a woman who eats out of anger because her husband doesn't want to be with her sexually. Now sh...Show More
Criticism and how you are like them - How to start the therapeutic process - The damage to the soul when someone dies

1:10:58 | Jul 23rd, 2017

What do you go through when someone points out something that you did wrong? How do you handle negative or critical feedback? How do you start the therapeutic process for yourself? I outline the steps to I suggest to starting a journey of getting ...Show More
So What You're Afraid - Avoiding Unavoidable People - To Start Anew or Wait for the Old

1:08:35 | Jul 16th, 2017

Honoring your boundaries can be the hardest step to take in your personal development, and it's also one of the fastest ways to start creating a life without toxicity and dysfunction. But what if you're too scared to do it? Getting to a place where f...Show More
Feeling Unworthy by Comparison - Your Partner's Controlling Parent - Breakdown of Narcissism - Recycling Dysfunction

1:18:51 | Jul 9th, 2017

Comparing yourself to other people is the fastest way to low self-worth and self-esteem. And why do we always compare ourselves to people that are better looking, wealthier, healthier and have more success in areas of life that we are still working o...Show More
Handling negative feedback - Stop worrying about everything - Enabling is disabling - Guilt and apologies

1:08:33 | Jul 4th, 2017

How do you handle negative feedback? There's a golden opportunity to sink or swim when someone puts you down. Their comments don't have to equal pain and a hit on your self-worth or self-esteem. In fact, maybe it's possible that the one person you re...Show More
Does Authenticity Make You Cringe - Getting Past Your Partner's Past - Building Rapport with People

1:09:07 | Jun 25th, 2017

When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they're sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confiden...Show More
Rekindling with toxic family - The long-term results of honoring yourself - Even the victim plays a role - Contact or no contact your ex

1:09:22 | Jun 18th, 2017

How do you go about rekindling with toxic and / or dysfunctional family members? Is it worth "going home" and starting up those old, dysfunctional, family get-togethers again? Is it possible to avoid the toxicity of family past? There is a way to ret...Show More
All those years wasted with your ex - When hope works against you - Under the stream of negative emotions

1:15:15 | Jun 11th, 2017

How can you possibly forget an ex that "wasted" years of your life? How can you possibly forgive them either?   In this first segment, I read a letter from someone who married a big problem, and now she is upset at him for "stealing" so many years o...Show More
Identifying Your Sense of Self - Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser - Diminishing Emotional Triggers

1:08:43 | Jun 4th, 2017

Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trau Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and / or dysfunction. Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of ...Show More
When You Haven't Achieved Life Goals Yet - Walking the Line Between Partner and Consoler - Waiting for Your Ex to Return to the Relationship

1:21:41 | May 28th, 2017

What happens when you reach that age where you thought you would have accomplished certain things in life but are nowhere close to what you set out to do 10, 20, 30 or more years ago? Do you get depressed? Do you have a mid-life crisis? Or… maybe you...Show More
Starting Sex Before the Bedroom - Achieving Closure After the Breakup - Attracting Authentic People

1:16:04 | May 21st, 2017

When does sex really start? When you're taking off your clothes? The heated kissing or "petting" or… is there a lot more to it? If you are emotionally connected, you already know when sex starts - way before you ever step into the bedroom.   If you ...Show More
Fear-Based Decision Making - Wanting more than friendship - Giving it all away for free

1:06:49 | May 14th, 2017

Do you make decisions based on what's in alignment with the highest intention for yourself, or do you make them based on fear. One path almost always leads to turmoil, and the other leads to getting what you want out of life almost every time.   In ...Show More
Holding on to regrets and resentments - What is healthy communication? - When it can't get any worse

1:28:52 | May 7th, 2017

What resentments or regrets are you holding on to? Sometimes years can go by while you keep a firm grasp of what causes you stress simply because you can't let go of the idea that you could have made different choices in life. Or, could you have made...Show More
When it's time to call it quits in a relationship - Weaning family off you - Finding Purpose

1:12:18 | Apr 30th, 2017

Is it time to call it quits in your relationship? When do you know? Are there signs that you can look at and say, "Hey, that's happening to us! Maybe we should split up." Yes but it doesn't mean you have to split up. In fact, listen together if you t...Show More
Don't Want You in My Mind - Spouse's Parents Don't Like Me - Most Important Relationship Lessons - Standing in Other's Shoes

1:02:16 | Apr 23rd, 2017

That person just keeps popping into your head - someone you don't like. They are a mind-nuisance and they just won't go away. It's bad enough you see them or hear about them, but why do you have to constantly think about them?   In segment one of to...Show More
What are Guilt and Shame - Fearing Rejection and Abandonment - Solving All Your Problems

1:09:35 | Apr 16th, 2017

Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external. Internally, you can feel guilt for something you've said or done. Externally, you can feel the shame by witnessing others judging and blaming you for what you've done...Show More
Suicidal Thoughts - You're Not Alone - The Big Picture in Relationships - Taking Time to Heal Loneliness

1:21:51 | Apr 9th, 2017

Suicidal thoughts aren't usually discussed out loud. They fester inside and sometimes the people around you have no clue what's going on until it's too late. However, I don't believe suicidal thoughts in themselves are necessarily unhealthy. In fact,...Show More
Emotionally Needy People - Tapping into your Foundation - I Didn't Ask For Your Advice - Fighting Desires

1:10:37 | Apr 2nd, 2017

What if you're in a relationship where you need an emotional connection from someone else but they don't seem to be in the same space as you. Sometimes the one you love will come home after a long day and you just want to shower them with love, but t...Show More
Failing the Challenge - Silent Abuse in Relationships - Depressed and Unmotivated - Appreciating What Works

1:14:30 | Mar 26th, 2017

What do you do when you face a challenge you believe you're prepared for, but you fail instead? The feelings of failure can be debilitating, especially when you've spent a lot of time and energy working on self-improvement. It can feel like you've ta...Show More
Committing to a Decision - Chronic Pain and Suffering - Trouble Receiving - Expanding Beyond You

1:11:40 | Mar 19th, 2017

Can you commit to a decision? How do you know if you're making the right decision? Follow your heart is great advice… if you even know what's in your heart. Segment 1 of this episode is all about making the decisions that work in your life without go...Show More
Surviving the Crisis - Self-Perpetuating Abuse - Building Resilience Through Criticism

1:15:18 | Mar 12th, 2017

In crisis, is there anything you can do to bring you into a calmer, more peaceful place? Actually, not usually. In fact, you may have to experience the full impact of the crisis before any calm or comfort can be had. However, you may be able to prepa...Show More
Are you annoyed with your career? Let's talk about work

1:01:43 | Mar 7th, 2017

A career can take up over half your life, so why would you settle for one that makes you miserable? I've settled a lot over the years and I got so burnt out. I didn't realize there was a formula to finding something I'd like and that might even pay w...Show More
Overcoming General Unease - When Nothing Works Out in Life - Questioning Trust in Relationships

58:01 | Mar 5th, 2017

Are you walking around with an undertone of fear, anxiety, panic, or nervousness? What do you feel when nothing in general is happening in your life? What's your balance point or "homeostatic state"? When an uncomfortable or sad cloud follows you aro...Show More
The Abused Mind and Mixed Signals in Relationships - Still Mourning - Overcoming Your Overwhelmed Brain

55:35 | Feb 26th, 2017

Sexual and physical abuse survivors develop an abused mindset which they take into relationships. This mindset sets them up to be strung along and tolerate bad behavior. Often, former abuse victims end up with abusers in intimate relationships. Abuse...Show More
Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts - Is Everyone Toxic? - The Real Issue in the Relationship

1:10:42 | Feb 19th, 2017

When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won't go away, what can you do? You might feel better knowing that won't mean a thing in a 100 years, but if resolving them isn't that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them ...Show More
Bad Luck and Great Fortune - Stuck with No Way Out - Small Lies and Big Problems - Advice For Life

1:04:19 | Feb 12th, 2017

When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and...Show More
Judging Others - Moving from Guilt to Great - Guilt is a Path to Compassion

1:02:49 | Feb 5th, 2017

Judging others is a sign of something you're struggling with or haven't healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven't yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people. You can say, "What t...Show More
When love isn't enough - Will marriage fix dysfunction? - Untying selfishness from personal boundaries - Tolerating abuse

1:20:06 | Jan 29th, 2017

Is love enough? Will it overcome anything that happens in your life? Financial struggles, family problems, arguments, abuse and more... will your faith in love be enough to get you through the tough times? I read a letter from a young man who wonders...Show More
Racism does not make good rapport - Can Separation save your relationship_ - The standards of a good relationship

1:04:16 | Jan 22nd, 2017

Racial sensitivity is prevalent in the first segment of the show as I read a letter from a woman who was slightly offended at my use of stereotypical language in the last episode. Lots to discuss here. I go over that and more on ways to communicate w...Show More
Why do we dream - The baggage of new love - You either give or take

1:02:42 | Jan 15th, 2017

What's in a dream? Are there literal interpretations or is there deeper meaning that isn't often explored? As always on this show, I go where others rarely do and look at dreams as a representation of emotions. What emotions are present in your dream...Show More
The Formula for Friendship - Tuning Into the Yellow Flags of Betrayal - Trusting Relationships

1:12:35 | Jan 8th, 2017

Friendships are created and can last a lifetime, but they can also disintegrate, never to be rekindled. What makes a friendship? How do you know if your friends are truly the ones that will be there with you and for you through all the good and bad t...Show More
Forget New Years Resolutions, Let's Talk About Commitment and Compatibility

1:09:42 | Jan 1st, 2017

Tune in to every other New Year's podcast if you want to hear about resolutions. I'd rather talk about something you can think about the entire year when it comes to improving your life. Today's episode is all about compatibility and how you can look...Show More
A Journey into Jealousy - The Dysfunctional Family Holiday Season - Their Emotions are not Your Responsibility

1:17:39 | Dec 25th, 2016

Jealousy is a multi-faceted beast that can motivate you to say or do things that you may not normally say or do. It involves many emotions and can run (and ruin) your life if you don't address the real reasons you get jealous. Sometimes a fantasy is ...Show More
The Emotional Healing Journey - To Express or Not To Express - Focus on Yourself

59:09 | Dec 18th, 2016

The emotional healing journey consists of many ups and downs. A listener asks me how I managed to get through my journey and what I can share with others on what to expect. Whether you're starting your healing journey from scratch or still on a hot p...Show More
The partner who'd rather be anywhere but home - Honoring myself everywhere but home - The present moment

1:00:34 | Dec 11th, 2016

What do you do when your partner wants to spend more time away from home than with you? Is that a sign that there's something wrong in the relationship? Is there a more serious issue, perhaps they don't feel safe with you? In the first segment, I rea...Show More
The Toxic Episode - The toxic relationship - Validating toxic friends - Enabling Toxic Behavior

1:07:06 | Dec 4th, 2016

Toxic relationships - friends, family, coworkers, and more. What can you do if you can't get away from them? Do you even know how to get away from them? How can you continue the relationship when you have no choice but to be with a toxic person? This...Show More
The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present - Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom - Alone on the Holidays

1:12:36 | Nov 27th, 2016

There's a spiritual or philosophical correlation between an event that happened to you in your past and what is happening to you today. You may not recognize the significance of your behavior today, but when you are able to make the connection betwee...Show More
Getting better at receiving - Recovering from abusive love - Living with the affair

48:23 | Nov 20th, 2016

Giving can feel so good, but receiving can too so why do so many people have trouble receiving? Do you reject gifts or other offers? If so, why would you take the honor to give away from the giver? If you've not thought about it like that before, thi...Show More
Selfish or self-sustaining? - The mom who wasn't there for me - Obsession about my partner's history

1:07:07 | Nov 13th, 2016

What is acceptable to you and what is not? What is considered self-sustaining and what is selfish? I read an email from someone who's in constant battle in his mind, unsure if he's honoring his personal boundaries or just being completely self servin...Show More
How personal values affect your work - My interview on Bombshell Business Podcast

44:19 | Nov 9th, 2016

What you value in life overflows into your business, relationships and everything else. Join me as I get interview by Amber Hurdle of the Bombshell Business Podcast ( and she shares her experience with me guiding her to a completely n...Show More
Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse

49:08 | Nov 6th, 2016

Sexual abuse should not be taboo. Survivors carry the shame, pain and guilt when the reality is that the perpetrators should be the one carrying those things. The pain of past abuse is real and is doesn't go away without acceptance, letting it come u...Show More
The Meaning of Communication - Guilt by Manipulation - Obsessing Over the Ex

1:10:05 | Oct 30th, 2016

What you say isn't always what they hear. What they understand isn't always what you conveyed. Who is responsible for the communication, you? Them? Both? Neither? It's time to explore this topic. On Ask Paul part 1, I read a message from someone who ...Show More
The Pattern of Anxiety - Saving Anger Only For Those Closest to You

1:08:27 | Oct 23rd, 2016

With General Anxiety Disorder, is there a chance of getting free of the consistent feelings of anxiety and panic? Is there a remote chance of feeling better or even making it go away completely? Maybe... Also, I get a letter from a girl whose boyfrie...Show More
Laughing at Criticism - There Are No Terrible Children - Fixing Your Own Toxic Behavior

1:13:08 | Oct 16th, 2016

Can you laugh at criticism? Do you believe in yourself enough so that when someone calls you anything less than you really are, you can shrug it off without those sometimes hard to avoid feelings? When you get to a place inside where you are proud of...Show More
Measuring Your Worth and Esteem - Jealous and Insecure in the Relationship

1:21:45 | Oct 9th, 2016

Self-esteem stems from the level of self-worth you have about yourself. That's great to know, but how do you raise either or both so that you can walk through life confidently and assert yourself when needed? There's "street knowledge" then there's b...Show More
The Silent Treatment - The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior - Permission to Hate

1:21:33 | Oct 2nd, 2016

The silent treatment is like an acid that disintegrates trust and love because of the withdrawal of emotions (emotional withdrawal). I can't trust you with my emotions because when you withdraw, I feel betrayed and abandoned. I also talk about the dr...Show More
Indecision and Stagnation - Realizations of a New, Bad Marriage - Music and Emotions

1:07:58 | Sep 25th, 2016

Permanent decisions are not always permanent, we just think they are. Even marriage nowadays isn't permanent, as much as we want it to be. And even when everything is going great, "stuff" happens and makes things not so great anymore which forces us ...Show More
Losing Your Identity in the Relationship - The Brilliant, Worthy You - Exes as Friends - The Right Partner

1:10:06 | Sep 18th, 2016

Nurturing yourself while you're in a relationship decreases the impact breaking up has if and when it happens. The more you keep the connection with yourself and don't lose a part of you in the relationship, the healthier you stay. You lose your iden...Show More
Thoughts about thoughtfulness - Too toxic to stay in the Marriage - Desensitizing Rejection

1:00:57 | Sep 11th, 2016

Thoughtfulness doesn't come easy to some people. Sometimes you need to go to the extreme opposite and become a people pleaser just to get closer to being thoughtful. There are other ways too of course. Also, I read a letter from someone in a highly t...Show More
The Bad First Impression - Living with Debilitating Pain - Fear of Doing Whats Right For You

1:09:31 | Sep 4th, 2016

Making a bad first impression is not necessarily your fault. You could be well dressed, have a great hair day, good breath, and even the best personality, but that mole behind your ear makes them think of their mean uncle and suddenly their first imp...Show More
The Yeah But Mentality - Life After Abuse - Rejecting Former Friends

1:17:44 | Aug 28th, 2016

Ever have a friend that said "Yeah But..." to every good suggestion you made? How about when they actually ask for your advice, you give it, but they don't do it because their excuse machine activates? There are two types of people I talk about in th...Show More
Building emotional deficit - Can't find or keep friends - In Love But Still Cheated

1:27:14 | Aug 21st, 2016

Should you receive for everything you give? You bet, but maybe not in the way you're thinking. You can build an emotional deficit by giving and giving and not receiving in the way you'd like. Resentment can build and you can get very tired of being a...Show More
My Partner Changed But Is It Too Late - Guilt About Leaving the Marriage - More Manipulative People

1:10:21 | Aug 14th, 2016

I talk a little more on manipulative people and share with you what might make them that way in the first place. Association and dissociation may play a role in their behavior. If you're not familiar with those terms, you will be after this episode. ...Show More
The Dysfunction of The New Normal - Offending Defensive People

1:06:27 | Aug 7th, 2016

Has dysfunction become the new normal for you? Are you in a relationship where your toleration for bad behavior is so high that you don't even recognize what's bad for you anymore? That sounds like a topic for discussion if you ask me! Also, I read a...Show More
Strength in vulnerability - What if divorce is a mistake? - Never happy without someone else in my life

1:18:56 | Jul 31st, 2016

Vulnerability is the final step into your strength. Your emotional core contains all of your emotions, your shame, fear, guilt embarrassments, sadness and also your joy, happiness, peace and lot of other good feelings. But in childhood, we learn to c...Show More
Are you with a manipulative person - Indecision and regret

1:05:21 | Jul 24th, 2016

Manipulative people do whatever they can to make you feel bad, guilty or ashamed. If you know they're doing something wrong, they will skillfully turn it around and convince you that it's your fault. They purposefully string you along using delay tac...Show More
The choice to confront - Release the pressure of negativity - can long distance love work

1:06:25 | Jul 17th, 2016

Confronting friends, family, the boss, the spouse, or any other dangerous people ;) can cause anxiety, fear and panic... but why? Why do we fear expressing what we want to anyone in our lives? If you're brought up to shut your mouth and keep your ear...Show More
When people don't like you - Is it time to get a divorce - Some family isn't healthy to keep

1:15:56 | Jul 10th, 2016

Not everyone is going to like what you bring to the table. Sometimes people have high expectations of you and you don't deliver causing them to have a critical view of you. Is this your fault or the fault of the person who set up expectations that yo...Show More
The secrets that we keep - Feeling overexposed and hollow inside - Lonely when you are not alone

1:02:51 | Jul 10th, 2016

Where do you go when you have a secret that you believe someone else needs to know? Are you loyal to the secret teller? Do you tell the person who should know the secret? It's a question to ponder, where do your loyalties lies and what should you do ...Show More
Getting control back - The small door out of depression - The unforever soulmate - Emotionally disconnected partners

1:25:38 | Jul 3rd, 2016

Are you at a job that feels like you are being dominated or controlled? Is there a way out of this without quitting? There may be. I get a response from a listener who wrote before who took my advice for her about her work situation and everything tu...Show More
You still have to do the work - Protecting your kids from dysfunction - The chain of thoughts

1:06:09 | Jun 18th, 2016

All this personal growth work is great and all, but you have to actually do the work in order for your life to get better. The main reason is because you need feedback from your environment. You test, observe, test again, take action. You learn throu...Show More
Orlando Shooting - A terrible tragedy and one lesson we can take away - June 12th 2016

19:11 | Jun 15th, 2016

The shooting at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida brought terror to the forefront once again. As devastating as this was, there's a valuable lesson that we can all take away. It doesn't mean we can necessarily prevent such an event next time, b...Show More
Taking the opposite advice - I feel unlovable and unwanted

1:50:05 | Jun 12th, 2016

Anxiety, anger, sadness and other emotional advice on the internet seems to be the same where ever you look: Think positively, breathe, count to 10, etc. I'm generalizing of course, but many times, it'll seem like you're reading the same article over...Show More
Learning your boundaries - Utilizing anger in a healthy way - Accepting the limitations of others

1:38:14 | Jun 5th, 2016

Anger can rise in you because of a violation of your personal boundaries, but do you even know what your boundaries are? Sometimes we feel anger and we aren't even sure why. It's a good time to learn what your boundaries are and at what point you can...Show More
Acting from Integrity - Balancing personal growth with relationship growth - Knowing when you are out of love - Making the right choices

1:30:06 | May 29th, 2016

A listener calls me out and tells me, "You couldn't take a couple minutes to answer me personally?" I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity... did I mess up? Also, I received an email from...Show More
The Kids Episode - For Kids And The Kid In You

1:32:09 | May 22nd, 2016

Kids get overwhelmed brains too. After hearing from a few kids that listen to the show, I decided to dedicate an episode talking about the hardships that kids face. From school and getting made fun of to home and some of the dysfunctions that can be ...Show More
Healing from New Age Thinking - The fears in honoring yourself - The stolen childhood of Adult Children of Alcoholics

1:32:48 | May 15th, 2016

Are you annoyed by affirmations? It's how I start off every show. I take a few minutes to explain why that is. Also I talk about positive thinking and bridging the gap between emotions and reason. Next when you fear honoring yourself, what can you do...Show More
Happy Mothers Day

04:17 | May 9th, 2016

If you're a mom, you may or may not have someone there to say Happy Mother's Day - so I'm here to say it! Whether you're a mom or not, we all had one and we can take a moment to honor her. Enjoy this very short, special Mother's Day episode.
The relationship you have with yourself - Wanting the anxiety to go away - Enabling abusive people

1:22:56 | May 8th, 2016

When we talk to ourselves, we really are communicating with another part of ourselves, a deeper subconscious part that has within it a deeper understanding of what really motivates us in life. Sometimes we don't want to communicate with a part of our...Show More
The Process of Self-Sabotage - You don't have to forgive everyone - Anxiety all the time

1:22:58 | May 1st, 2016

Why do we fall off course so easily? When you prioritize tasks that take your time away from the things you want to accomplish, you fall back farther and farther until you are no longer making progress. In fact, you might even end up going backwards....Show More
Finding a career that works for you with Scott Barlow

44:43 | Apr 27th, 2016

Do you like the career path you are on? I invite Scott Barlow, an expert in life and career mentoring to help you get an understanding of knowing the path you want to take in life. He's offering a free 8 day video course at More
How your needs drive your behavior and motivation

40:00 | Apr 24th, 2016

Are all of your needs met? Do you know why you make the decisions you do? Our needs motivate our behavior. If you respond to life's events from a low level of survival, it'll be more difficult to succeed in a loving relationship or keep steady employ...Show More
Codependency: The Subtle Erosion of Love and Connection

53:21 | Apr 24th, 2016

Codependence is when two or more people fulfill a need for each other that strengthens a dysfunction between them. You usually see this kind of thing between a helper / people-pleaser and a drug addict or an alcoholic. Of course, even someone who is ...Show More
Depending on Abusive People - When Physical Pain Will Not End - Should You Take Someone Who Desperately Wants You

1:09:25 | Apr 24th, 2016

Being in abusive relationship of any kind, especially where you have a dependency on the abuser for one reason or another leaves you in a tough spot. Can you leave and still be okay, or are you so dependent that leaving will put you in a worse situat...Show More
You Are Not Alone in Your Challenges But May Feel Alone in Your Relationship

1:09:32 | Apr 17th, 2016

Have you ever felt alone in your struggles? Just when you thought you were the only person experiencing what you're going through, it's hard to imagine anyone else dealing with the same thing. Yet, there are many. And I receive a lot of messages from...Show More
Self-Compassion and Accepting the Consequences No Matter What - My Interview on Rise Up For You

39:17 | Apr 13th, 2016

Why don't you stand up for yourself? Turns out if you're okay with the consequences no matter what, you can make any decision you want from an empowered place. So even when things turn out bad, you're still okay with everything. Sure, it's a process ...Show More
The Passive-Productive Response to Difficult People - The God vs Science debate in a relationship - The Kid in You

1:32:40 | Apr 10th, 2016

How you react to someone is the level of drama you want to get sucked into when you react. In other words, if you react with resistance or force, that's typically what you'll get back. However if you're able to redirect their force so it flows past y...Show More
Taking responsibility for your role in the dysfunction in your relationship - My interview on Having it A.L.L. with Matthew Bivens

1:12:32 | Apr 6th, 2016

I judged every partner I've ever been with. My judgments started soon after I left home, where I learned how to be a super-perfectionist and extremely critical of others behaviors, especially my romantic partners. Essentially, I destroyed every relat...Show More
Resolving Emotions Mindfully - I'm Not Cheating So Whats The Big Deal

1:11:10 | Apr 3rd, 2016

I watched a recent Ted Talk with Dr. Judson Brewer who teaches mindfulness to cure addictions. I was surprised to learn that I actually did the process he talks about to cure my addiction to sugar many years ago. I share that story and what you can d...Show More
Personal Empowerment and Emotional Expression - My Interview on Joel Boggess Relaunch Show

32:14 | Mar 30th, 2016

What does empowerment mean? How do you learn to make the right decisions for you? Is it okay to feel certain emotions? All these I address and more in this Minutes to Momentum episode. I get interview by Joel Boggess of the Relaunch podcast, and we t...Show More
Keep Showing Up and Bringing Value - Dealing With The Pain of Lost Love and Starting the Healing

1:12:39 | Mar 27th, 2016

I got nervous when I was invited to speak on a world record breaking authority summit... but I did it anyway. But why was I nervous? I host a show that thousands listen to every week, so why is it different? When there's no Edit button, things get r...Show More
Kids Humiliating Kids - My Boss is Irrational - Enablers Give Their Dependents a Free Ride - The Meaning of Spirituality

1:08:32 | Mar 20th, 2016

It's an Ask Paul marathon! First, I'll talk about how bullies love when you react negatively and what to do to squash the energy behind their bullying. This is from a letter from a kid who got bullied in school and was humiliated to the point where h...Show More
You Cannot Control Every Thought - Taking the Leap Into The Improved You - Making Empowered Decisions Around Family

1:11:47 | Mar 13th, 2016

The quest for happiness and staying positive is fraught with sadness and negativity, yet the existence of those things is exactly what it takes to experience the totality of a fulfilling life. You can't always be happy, and you wouldn't even know wha...Show More
The Abused Mind in Relationships - A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out - Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

1:06:25 | Mar 6th, 2016

Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship however can seem like the best thing that ever happened... unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship, sometimes. If you d...Show More
Spotting the Red Flags of Incongruent Metaphysical Teachings - Keeping Your Cool at Work - Empowering Others

1:02:29 | Feb 28th, 2016

Metaphysical malpractice was a term I was unfamiliar with until a friend of mine mentioned to me how a few metaphysical teachers were incongruent in their teachings. They say and teach one thing, but behave an entirely different way in their personal...Show More
Healing And Growing From The Dysfunction of Childhood - The Depression of Sexuality

1:21:39 | Feb 21st, 2016

Childhood is one of those times that many of us wanted to enjoy, but simply couldn't. Some of us had to suffer because of a dysfunctional upbringing, which caused us to create false beliefs about the world when we turned into adults. These beliefs ru...Show More
Aligning With Fulfillment - The Disrespecting Unloving Relationship - Brain Trick For Eliminating Negative Emotions

1:06:21 | Feb 14th, 2016

There's a reason we run into obstacles that stop us from getting what we want in life, and that has to do with what we are aligned with most at a deeper, unconscious level. When we are out of alignment with that, we fall off course and things fall ap...Show More
The Emotional Debt of Financial Debt - A Listener Works Minimum Wage and Owes Two Hundred Thousand for College - You Are a Specialist

1:07:33 | Feb 7th, 2016

Henrik Ibsen said that "Home life ceases to be free and beautiful as soon as it is founded on borrowing and debt." When I was in my first long-term relationship, I wanted to get married, and fortunately, so did she! However, I said we'll get married ...Show More
A Yes Person Can Say No - Fear While Talking to People - Even a Goldfish has Emotions

1:00:43 | Jan 31st, 2016

If you're a "yes person", you find yourself saying "Yes" to others. However, what you're really doing is saying "No" to yourself. Doing this causes you to reach burn out after a number of years. You get jaded by friends and family taking advantage of...Show More
Transforming the Jerk - Ask Paul About Waiting During a Long Distance Relationship - Making a Contingency Plan in Case of a Break Up or Divorce

1:02:57 | Jan 24th, 2016

There are jerks in our lives, at least that what we tend to call them sometimes, that just never stop getting on our nerves. We hope they act differently, but they never change their ways. Is there anything we can do? Well, we can open our hearts an...Show More
A Perspective on Living with Chronic Pain - Coming Out in the World and Broadcasting Your True Self

1:08:46 | Jan 17th, 2016

How can you live with chronic pain? How do you get through the suffering? Is there a path to freedom or is it a never-ending event that will plague you for the rest of your life? Also, in the Ask Paul segment, I receive a letter from a gay man in hi...Show More
The Snapping Point of Lasting Change and Finding Compassion When People are Petty

1:03:19 | Jan 9th, 2016

We all have a snapping snapping point and it can change our world when it happens. I remember the first time I stood up for myself. I was 10. We had just finished wrestling, as boys tend to do, and I was done... but he wasn't. I sat at the table, ...Show More
Standing Up For Yourself Is The Right Thing - Getting Resistance While Honoring Your Boundaries - A Listener Stops Listening and Calls Me Out

1:13:59 | Jan 3rd, 2016

Brene Brown said it so eloquently: "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others."Many years ago, I remember having to disappoint my bosses during my one year anniversary. They brought...Show More
Is a New Career in your Plans for the New Year?

30:55 | Jan 1st, 2016

Sometimes the new year brings new questions and new ideas like, "What am I going to do this year that I didn't do last year?"I made a decision to change from a career to what I do now about two and a half years ago. I made my new year in July because...Show More
The physical symptoms of emotional turmoil - The Unfaithful Husband and the Wife Who Never Let it Go - A Story of Giving for the Holidays

1:10:51 | Dec 20th, 2015

So much of our emotional pain that doesn't get expressed can turn into actual physical ailments that won't go away until those emotions are expressed and released. Sometimes the damage can be permanent and we'll need to seek medical attention, and ot...Show More
Finding peace when so many people are suffering - Listener email about desperately wanting to save a relationship - inner emotion expressed outwardly through voice and movement

1:23:12 | Dec 13th, 2015

With bombings, shootings and other terrorism going on, how can you find peace and see the world as a better place. The news sensationalizes the bad but never glorifies the good. It's okay to feel okay, and I'll tell you why in this episode. Also, I ...Show More
"I Want to End My Life" - A Letter from a 14 Year Old Considering Suicide - Special Episode

1:08:28 | Dec 6th, 2015

A child wants to end her life but writes to me as perhaps a last ditch effort. I read her letter on the air and talk about suicide and what else there is to consider before taking such a permanent step.
Gain Empowerment and Inner Strength by Accepting that Death Could Be The Outcome

32:04 | Dec 1st, 2015

How bad can your panic and anxiety get? I had one panic attack in my life and it was at that moment a part of me died, opening up a new way of being.  Do you resist or accept your fears? Can you accept the worst possible thing that could happen? I...Show More
Grieving the Loss Before the Loss - How You Move Through the Pain When Other's Suffer. Thanksgiving Special

38:24 | Nov 26th, 2015

When faced with a life-threatening illness such as cancer or any of a number of diagnoses, how can you be empathic and compassionate without falling into the throes of suffering yourself? How can you "be there" for others when you are also affected b...Show More
The One You Feed - The Good Wolf Interview with Eric Zimmer - Then I Talk on Depression and Beliefs then Close the Show with Gratitude.

1:08:18 | Nov 22nd, 2015

There's a parable that reminds us that there are two wolves inside us all. One is evil (anger, jealousy, greed and resentment). The other is good (joy, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and bravery). The question is, which one wins? At least, t...Show More
Changing Bad Habits, an Inspiring Letter from Someone with an Eating Disorder , and Jared Fogle and Antisocial Personality Disorder - or the Sociopath

56:38 | Nov 15th, 2015

Bad habits can be hard to change or moderate, but there are small steps you can take to make it easier to change a bad habit into a good one, or at least, a little less "bad". Also, I received an email with a heartwarming story of inspiration where ...Show More
Eliminating Negative Memories, the Yin Yang of Masculine and Feminine, and Emotional Detachment

1:16:49 | Nov 8th, 2015

Our emotions are attached to our memories. Our memories are attached to people and stuff. It's that stuff that we hold on to that sometimes makes us feel bad, so why do we still have it in our lives? Pictures are a great example of this. Why keep pic...Show More
Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want

1:09:09 | Nov 1st, 2015

Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you "chunk up" into a broader perspective instead of staying "chunked down" and embroiled in the details, you're able to step out of all...Show More
Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want

0:00 | Nov 1st, 2015

Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you "chunk up" into a broader perspective instead of staying "chunked down" and embroiled in the details, you're able to step out of all...Show More
Self-Worth, Self-Esteem and Choosing to Handle Situations as the Child or the Adult

1:06:17 | Oct 25th, 2015

Your self-worth starts when you interpret what your parents or caretakers think about you. If you interpret that they don't value you, you don't value yourself. As the years go by, your self-esteem builds from your level of self-worth. If you have l...Show More
Self-Compassion and Fearing Happiness

1:10:26 | Oct 18th, 2015

Self compassion is what you have for yourself when you stop being overly giving. And fearing happiness is another issue I talk about after receiving an email from someone who seems to have the perfect life. These two subjects go hand in hand, and re...Show More
Do You Control Fate - Recovering From The Lies You've Told - You Can Spot a Fake Laugh and inauthentic behavior

1:08:09 | Oct 11th, 2015

Is fate what we make or what we create? I talk about a quote from Carl Jung on this very topic. Today's listener email has to do with being caught in a lie with family, and what to do in the aftermath. News and you is about how we can spot fake or fo...Show More
Deception and Lies, Life After Co-Dependency, A Listener Asks about Masculinity, And a Little Mind Expansion to Top Things Off

1:05:49 | Oct 5th, 2015

Thinking about deceiving someone is a path to self-destruction. The tricky part is that the self-destruction doesn't happen immediately, it happens in tiny chunks, and the deceiver rarely sees that he himself is the one who causes his own suffering. ...Show More
The Long, Dirty Divorce Episode: Enduring The Emotional Drain of a Never-Ending Broken Marriage

1:16:50 | Sep 27th, 2015

Divorce is no fun to begin with, but when it's dragged out for months or even years, it can be brutal. The stress and anxiety of the next thing and the next thing can feel neverending, and sometimes you have to take things on by yourself. Today I re...Show More
Adapting to Change and Accepting Death

55:33 | Sep 20th, 2015

When change happens, do you grow with it or suffer hoping it goes away? Growing through the changes helps you move out of stagnation and stop repeating old behaviors.  Also, I talk about death and acceptance today too, and how accepting that death ...Show More
Do You Forgive? And a Little Bit on Shame

49:52 | Sep 13th, 2015

Forgiveness is not about other people, it's about you. When you can learn to forgive yourself, even when you aren't the one to blame, you let go of the negative emotions so that you can take the learnings into your future.  Also, I talk about John Gi...Show More
Your Beliefs Determine Your Behavior and Results - 100th Episode Special!

42:28 | Sep 6th, 2015

Today introduces a new format for The Overwhelmed Brain podcast. The show is now segmented into three or four different parts so that there is a tad more variety and more organized content. I would love your feedback if you've been reading / listenin...Show More
When Panic Attacks - The Anxiety Episode

1:07:26 | Aug 30th, 2015

Anxiety is the excessive worrying about future events, based on a story that you tell yourself. However, it's hard to change the story when you actually believe it will happen! On top of that, the more you believe it will come true, the more likely y...Show More
Part 2 - The Seven Habits of Highly Overextended People

46:45 | Aug 23rd, 2015

If you find yourself overwhelmed, stressed, or completely out of control in your life, then these two episodes will have you examining what you might be doing to create the chaos. Most of the time, we overextend ourselves and actually have a choice i...Show More
Part 1 - The Seven Habits of Highly Overextended People

58:08 | Aug 16th, 2015

If you're overwhelmed or simply have no more time in your schedule, then you are probably a highly overextended person.  Today I talk about the habits that highly overextended people have and how you can avoid being overextended yourself.  This is ...Show More
The Family Curse: Do You Become Who You Are Around Family, or Who You Used To Be?

54:09 | Aug 9th, 2015

When it comes to visiting family, who you are can sometimes regress into the child they remember you as instead of the fully capable adult that you are now. How do you know this is happening?  When you're afraid to be yourself around them, it's happ...Show More
Programming Your Future for Success

47:16 | Jul 12th, 2015

When you were a child, whatever fear came up, you figured out a way to survive the moment. These survival skills were very handy in adolescence simply because they worked to keep us alive! Sure, we probably weren't going to die, but it felt like it!...Show More
What's Missing In My Life?

44:26 | Jul 5th, 2015

What's missing in your life? I honestly don't know, but I bet you do. In fact, I'm pretty sure that you've been asking the wrong question all this time. "What's missing?" isn't the question you should be asking.  The real question is What's present ...Show More
The Problem with Resisting Your Problems

42:17 | Jun 28th, 2015

Resistance to your problems is very similar to denial. Both delay closure, and both create suffering. However, resistance creates denial, after all, you wouldn't want to suffer any more than you are so you resist facing your issue and coming to a har...Show More
The 10 Components of a Satisfying, Loving Relationship - Part 2

56:01 | Jun 26th, 2015

A satisfying, loving relationship doesn't have to be hard, but there are components that need to be included in this type of relationship in order for things to work out well. This is part 2 of a 2-part episode where we talk about the last 5 componen...Show More
I'm Growing and Evolving and He Won't Change a Thing - Listener Email Answered

13:29 | Jun 26th, 2015

She loves him and he loves her, but is that really true? She does what she can to make him happy and he thinks that everything that is wrong in the relationship is her fault.  He labels her and points all the fault at her, and she feels unsupported,...Show More
The 10 Components of a Satisfying, Loving Relationship - Part 1

1:02:57 | Jun 25th, 2015

There are probably hundreds of components that make up a great relationship, but I'm going to address some of the ones that make the biggest difference.  Whether a friendship, family, or intimate partner, when you adopt and include these components i...Show More
Stop Justifying Your Poisonous Beliefs - The Curse of Denial

45:49 | Jun 21st, 2015

How many times in your life has something happened that was so hard to believe, that it actually hurt to believe it? You know what I mean... it's that truth you don't want to hear. It's like the people who can't believe the holocaust happened because...Show More
Stopping Self-Sabotage by Aligning with your Highest Values

08:18 | Jun 18th, 2015

When you are failing left and right and just can't seem to get a break in life, you are most likely making decisions and taking action in opposition of your highest values. You may think you know what's most important to you in life, but when you hap...Show More
The Deception of Perfectionism

52:38 | Jun 14th, 2015

When you suffer from perfectionism based in fear, you become more and more miserable as time goes on. In fact, the more perfect and controlling you are, the more disappointed with life you get. Does it make sense to be perfect? Is it actually more de...Show More
Expression and Vulnerability and a bit more on How to Deal with Irrational People - Jade Le interviews Paul Colaianni

1:15:31 | Jun 11th, 2015

Expressing myself is something I've learned to do quite well. I'm not talking about saying what's on my mind, I'm referring to the deeper stuff I never wanted to tell anyone. I've learned that the more I express that, the more free I feel. I can be ...Show More
Relationship Boundaries and Strengthening the Bond

58:43 | Jun 7th, 2015

There's no escaping the sometimes hard to deal with arguments, tension and turmoil that can go on in a relationship. I received an email on this topic, and I cover everything from personal boundaries to irrational people. Whether you're in a relatio...Show More
How Do You Show Up In Life?

42:19 | May 31st, 2015

How you show up for life is how your life turns out. So many people think they are a victim of circumstances, but when they connect the dots in reverse, they can the decisions and actions that led to their place in life now. How do you show up for a...Show More
Quick Tip on How To Deal With Irrational People

07:33 | May 27th, 2015

What can you do to deal with someone who is acting irrationally? The ebook was just released, so I thought I'd share a tip on one of the techniques.
Perceptions and Why You Aren't Always Right

41:16 | May 24th, 2015

What you perceive to be true and what is actually true aren't always the same. In fact, those two things can be so far removed from each other, you might wonder how you ever thought what you thought in the first place.  You're not always right, this...Show More
The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior

59:48 | May 17th, 2015

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes, and have all kinds of mannerisms that different people give different names for. In my opinion, anytime someone wants you to feel bad or forces you to do something against your will, it is bullying. I recently r...Show More
The Breakthrough from the Breakdown and a Note on Assumptions

48:19 | May 10th, 2015

Are you more important than your "stuff"? I hope you think so, because I know you are. However, when you value stuff a little too much, you tend to stress and get concerned about what will happen to you if your stuff gets damaged or disappears.  Tod...Show More
The barriers and biases stopping you from doing what you want to do

15:38 | Apr 29th, 2015

The barriers or biases that you carry from childhood can stop you in your tracks when it comes to deciding what you want to do in life. Scott Barlow joins the show once again to talk about the steps you can take to move forward in a job, career, pass...Show More
Make the Decision! Career Mentor Scott Barlow Gives Some Golden Advice

13:23 | Apr 23rd, 2015

When you make a decision, the world conforms to that decision. That is, if you actually make it! What is stopping you from making a decision and taking action? Scott Barlow of joins the show today to give some golden adv...Show More
When Those Deeper Negative Emotions Just Won't Go Away

44:56 | Apr 19th, 2015

Expressing the deep, negative emotions that you've been holding onto from your past should lead to a release of the emotional energy behind them, and free you from the burden of holding onto the pain. However, sometimes what you express, vent or rele...Show More
Setting Goals for People who Hate Setting Goals

58:15 | Apr 12th, 2015

I hate setting goals, so I had to figure out how I could get what I want in life without following the standard goal-setting steps we're always taught. Just writing down a goal makes me cringe, but why? Well, I'm not very highly organized and full o...Show More
When Others Aren't Ready for you to Evolve

1:04:10 | Apr 5th, 2015

Unfortunately, the more we grow and evolve, the more others who aren't ready to do the same will want us to stay the same. If you're around friends and family who just can't seem to get on board with you getting healthier, what do you do? Do you just...Show More
The 5 Simple Realizations of a Peaceful Mind

54:23 | Mar 29th, 2015

With so many paths to a destination that seems impossible to reach, it's hard to believe we can ever get there at all! I'm referring to peace, of course. Attaining a peaceful mind during a chaotic moment can be an exercise in futility, but is there ...Show More
What's the Point of Life Without Joy and Happiness?

50:24 | Mar 22nd, 2015

I tackle the question on finding purpose and meaning in life when you aren't experiencing joy and happiness. Inspired by a message from a listener who is in a pretty dark place. He asked, "What's the point?" There is purpose in life, and it's found ...Show More
More Motivation and Less Anxiety by Building a Healthy Ego

51:21 | Mar 15th, 2015

When so many spiritual teachers and personal growth gurus are telling us to let go of our egos, I come along and tell you to build it up! I don't disagree that letting go of ego is a fantastic place to be, but after having experienced it for a few m...Show More
Sometimes the End of a Relationship is the Beginning of a New Challenge

47:31 | Mar 8th, 2015

Relationships end, unfortunately. But sometimes what you think is the hardest part (the breakup) turns out to be tame compared to what follows. Your ex may not want it to end so they do things that make you uncomfortable. Or, the one you "dumped" is ...Show More
The Personal Emotional Challenges that Keep Us From Business Success

1:23:57 | Feb 15th, 2015

When I started The Overwhelmed Brain, I had no clue how I would be able to sustain it. But, fearlessly, I purchased audio equipment and set my sights on the target of creating a weekly radio show that would spread my message. About 6 months into it, ...Show More
Start Trusting Your Instincts

49:33 | Feb 8th, 2015

Do you trust your instincts? If not, why not? Let's get practical and talk about where they come from and why we have them. Instincts are here to protect us, but sometimes we don't listen. It's time to start trusting a part of us that knows more tha...Show More