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The Struggle Bus: Self-Care, Mental Health, and Other Hilarious Stuff

Sally Tamarkin and Katharine Heller

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The Struggle Bus is an advice show about mental health, self-care, and just getting through the damn day. Co-hosts Katharine Heller (@spkheller) and Sally Tamarkin (@sallyt) answer listener questions about family, friends, work, mental health, love, ...Show More
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Episode 167: Hot Spies

1:01:04 | Aug 16th

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber a LOT. They talk about how spies are generally really hot and what it’s like to get a standing ovation from a dog. They also talk about therapy, easy breezy gratitude practices, and one-minute meditations....Show More
Episode 166: Know Your Seasons

1:09:54 | Jul 26th

On this episode, Kate talks about raging in therapy and Sally talks about ruthlessly managing her social life. They talk in detail about the Al Franken story in the New Yorker and the very good reactions that it has spawned. Then they answer an email...Show More
Episode 165: Not Enough Big Cats

58:34 | Jul 10th

On this episode, Kate tells a story about how sometimes you just need to hear the truth and Sally talks about being tested by god. They also talk about asking for help when you need it and doing housework as self-care. Finally, they answer an email f...Show More
Episode 164: Authentic Nancy

1:12:20 | Jun 14th

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about J*e B*den, the Tony Awards, and video games. Then they talk about taking Xanax to fly on airplanes. Finally, they answer a listener email about what to do when your job isn’t going well and is draggi...Show More
Episode 163: 54 American Years Old

1:01:32 | May 30th

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Moby’s alleged creepiness as a person and also as an instagram user. Then they talk about Game of Thrones and shows about pets that are actually about humans. Finally they answer an email from someone who wan...Show More
Episode 162: I’m a Full Adult

1:04:04 | May 17th

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about slaying childhood dragons, being a reactive fan of Game of Thrones, and the nest-building behaviors of house finches. Then they answer an email about whether to cut toxic friends out of your life. If you're w...Show More
Episode 161: Mercury’s in Mantrograde

45:30 | May 3rd

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Buffy and Game of Thrones fandom. Then they explain how to find a struggle buddy. Sally talks (at length) about being aggrieved by many people. Katharine explains the origin of #strugglepodbuds420. Then they…...Show More
Episode 160: Lost in the Shuff

55:28 | Apr 18th

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about being tired, using earplugs, meeting celebs we admire, and canceling therapy. Then they answer listener emails about telling a crush you’re crushin’, whether you need to tell your parents everything, and wha...Show More
Episode 159: More Like No Biden

52:58 | Apr 4th

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Joe Biden’s creepy handsiness, Sally’s birthday, and Katharine’s upcoming show about how we participate in rape culture. Then they answer a letter from a listener writing in about their partner’s weight. 00:0...Show More
Episode 158: Learning to Learn

54:28 | Mar 21st

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Theranos, the college admissions scam, the NPR podcast It’s Been a Minute, and the NY Neo-Futurists. They chat about face masks and to-do lists as self-care, and answer a listener email about giving an employ...Show More
Episode 157: Tooth Time with Katharine and Sally

56:13 | Mar 7th

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about their new Patreon, the documentary Leaving Neverland, Luke Perry (RIP), birthdays, and going to the dentist. Then they answer an email from a listener who’s trying to figure out if they should stop going to t...Show More
Episode 156: Kids These Days

59:17 | Feb 19th

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about “the magical thinking of guys who love logic” and Ryan Adams (and similar creeps). Then they talk about catching up on sleep and going to the dentist. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who’s tryin...Show More
Episode 155: Antarctica, Iowa

49:55 | Jan 31st

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about white guys who taunt, Fyre Festival, Rent Live, flying, and coping with flying. Then they answer a listener email about how to let a former friend know they’re not invited to your wedding. 00:00 Welcome to Th...Show More
Episode 154: Bring in a Ringer

56:27 | Jan 11th

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about millennial burnout, Louis CK et al, migraines, blood pressure, and going to the doctor. Then they answer a listener email about what to do when your loved one is dating someone you reallllly don’t like. 00:00...Show More
Episode 153: Don't Worry About the Wolf in The Woods

42:37 | Dec 20th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about separating artists from their art, a very smart and sassy parrot, and self-care in the form of stretching and kettlebells. Then they answer an email from a listener asking for advice on whether they should st...Show More
Episode 152: Half-Inch Bangs

49:22 | Dec 13th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about the happy/infuriating binary as it applies to Lena Dunham, Jason Momoa, and using polyamory to manipulate your partner. Then they jibber jabber about learning how to play guitar and setting boundaries with fa...Show More
Episode 151: Don’t Feed Hot Duck

52:41 | Nov 29th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the holidays, Hot Duck, and video games. Then they read a listener email with very useful feedback and answer a listener email from someone who’s asking for advice coping with their suicidal thoughts...Show More
Episode 150: Showing Up

46:58 | Oct 25th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for an extended period of time and talk about making doctor’s appointments and (not) working out. Then they answer a listener email about feeling abandoned when a therapist doesn’t come back from maternity...Show More
Episode 149: The Speakeasy of Podcasts

51:49 | Sep 20th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the NY Neo-Futurists, Anita Hill, and why we recommend therapy all the ding dang time. Then they answer questions about recovering from a breakup and an emotionally abusive relationship and how to de...Show More
Episode 148: Don’t Ride the Cyclone, Eat Fruit, and Dance

1:16:27 | Sep 6th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about roller coasters, fruit, and dancing. Then they answer listener emails about how to open up to people and living with roommates who aren’t being good friends to you. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus ...Show More
Episode 147: Monster Cereal

59:03 | Aug 23rd, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the New York Neo-Futurists and lesbian fiction. Then they answer listener questions about breakups, feeling alone and isolated, and how to deal when you’re being bullied and/or feel left out. 00:00 W...Show More
Episode 146: Questions for Veterinarians and Veterinarians Who Treat People

1:16:27 | Aug 1st, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a real nice long time. Then they answer listener emails about rebound dating, dealing with panic disorder, and whether to date a friend. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 6:05 Opening Jibber Jabber 13:...Show More
Episode 145: Financial Crisis on Mushrooms

56:04 | Jul 5th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about all the TV and movies they’re watching. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when you know you need to open up but feel like you can’t, and the ins and outs of coming out and labeling yo...Show More
Episode 144: Mistake-Not Mistake Binary

46:02 | Jun 14th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about phantom earthquakes. Then they answer listener questions about how to know when to bail on trying to make a relationship work, when to tell a new person about your trauma, and how to deal with feelin...Show More
Episode 143: Beautiful, Sexy, and Confident

1:01:44 | May 24th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a while about misogyny (of course) and reaching out to friends. Then they answer listener questions about what to do when you feel totally stalled in your career and how to deal with a partner who won...Show More
Episode 142: Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

59:18 | May 10th, 2018

On this episode, special guest co-host Hilary Asare (@HilaryAsare) and Kate jibber jabber about readjusting sleep schedules and PTSD. Then they answer listener questions about going back to a job with an abusive boss, supporting loved ones without ov...Show More
Episode 141: Standing on the Shoulder of Giants

54:12 | May 3rd, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about what to do with trash men and Rachel Dolezal. Then they answer listener questions about how to break up with a partner and whether to intervene in a situation your partner is going through. 00:00 We...Show More
Episode 140: Oprah Would Be An Amazing Surgeon

1:04:56 | Apr 26th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about empathy and the movie Coco. Then they answer emails about how to deal with the possibility of running into your toxic ex, staying social while living alone, and getting over a breakup with someone w...Show More
Episode 139: Sob Your Way To Your Therapist

1:05:40 | Apr 19th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about wearing dresses and being grateful. Then they answer listener emails about stopping harmful thoughts, how to not be a performative ally, changing meds, and friend breakups. 00:00 Welcome to The Stru...Show More
Episode 138: I Deserve A Treat

48:18 | Apr 12th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about appendicitis, treats, and doing all the things for self-care. Then they answer emails about creating art about your past, getting over a breakup, and what to do when you’re worried about being a bad...Show More
Episode 137: It’s Dad Week

59:54 | Mar 29th, 2018

On this episode, special guest co-host Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel) and Sally jibber jabber about pregnancy and Passover. Then they answer emails about dads and how to deal with with them they’re distant or difficult. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus...Show More
Episode 136: The Carousel of Progress

49:18 | Mar 22nd, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about boxing and smashing the patriarchy. Then they answer listener emails about your family not being supportive when you leave an abusive partner, and how to get over an amicable breakup when there's no ...Show More
Episode 135: Asshole Breakdown Extravaganza

46:49 | Mar 15th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the Upper East Side and International Women’s day. Then they answer listener questions about making friends and being aromantic. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 3:41 Opening Jibber Jabber 12:49 A T...Show More
Episode 134: This Better Be Very Important

55:46 | Mar 8th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally recap Katharine’s birthday and Sally’s first week at her new job. Then they answer listener emails about dealing with a disappointing parent, whether it’s time to leave your relationship, and binge eating. Content note:...Show More
Episode 133: Thirsty Alertsy

1:02:18 | Feb 28th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally do some venting and some celebrating about Kids These Days. Then they answer listener emails about dating and making friends. Finally, they discuss thirst vis-à-vis the United States Special Counsel, Robert Mueller, an...Show More
Episode 132: Oh, Canada

47:47 | Feb 21st, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about birthday blues and unpacking the fuck out of stuff with the help of therapy. Then they answer a listener question about processing and recovering from grief after losing a pet and going through a tough break...Show More
Episode 131: Hot Dads of Riverdale

1:00:56 | Feb 14th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about Drapering, and why friends and therapists are so important. Then they answer listener emails about how to deal with being overwhelmed with work and life, and healing from past trauma in your current, healthi...Show More
Episode 130: Trifecta of Humiliation

53:53 | Feb 8th, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally Talk about being sick and polarizing tweets. Then they answer listener emails about a partner who isn’t living up to their potential and how to deal with a toxic parent. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 5:19 Opening J...Show More
Episode 129: The Right Tool For The Job

49:40 | Jan 31st, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about Riverdale and the Bourne movies. Then they answer listener emails about advice for supporting your partner when you both experience chronic mental illness, and how to deal when you have a therapist who’s…fin...Show More
Episode 128: We Get Heavy

1:00:10 | Jan 24th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally get into some heavy jibber jabber. Then they answer listener emails about how to decide if you should quit college and what to do about a boyfriend who’s become an MRA.  00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 5:04 Opening Ji...Show More
Episode 127: This Is It Guys, We Did It

1:01:22 | Jan 17th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber at length about all things #MeToo. Then they answer listener emails about how to decide whether to let go of a friendship and how to process/rebound from a shitty coming out experience. 00:00 Welcome to Th...Show More
Episode 126: Let’s All Cry It Out

58:21 | Jan 10th, 2018

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about rescheduling therapy and meditating in the bath. Then they answer listener emails about starting your own business, if/how to tell a friend you like them-like them, and how to handle betrayal and a breakup. 0...Show More
Episode 125: The Two Handed Flip

44:37 | Jan 3rd, 2018

On this episode, Kate and Sally discuss their holidays and the joy of doing nothing. Then they answer listener emails about having anxiety over making new friends, and when/how to tell a person you're in a new relationship with about your depression....Show More
Episode 124: Blast From The Past

55:55 | Dec 27th, 2017

Happy Holidays! Kate and Sally were unable to record this week, so we are re-releasing episode 28 from December 23rd 2015! On this episode, Kate and Sally suggest making a 5-year plan that starts with dumping your partner, the weird dynamic of men th...Show More
Episode 123: A Dorgi Named Cider

55:26 | Dec 20th, 2017

On this episode, Kate and Sally discuss being sick and meditating on death. Then they answer listener emails about a friend in an abusive relationship, getting through the holidays while dealing with anxiety and depression, and moving in with a frien...Show More
Episode 122: Royals Fever

49:40 | Dec 6th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk for while about Lady Bird and audiobooks. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when it feels like the universe is ruining your life and how to handle a partner who’s not being awesome about your mental...Show More
Episode 121: It Was Not Chill

54:18 | Nov 29th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about solidarity square dancing and going to sleep. Then they answer listener emails about internalized homophobia, how to start over when you’ve lost everything, and tips for finding a new therapist. 00:00 Welcome...Show More
Episode 120: What A Week

1:03:47 | Nov 22nd, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about allyship and crying. Then they answer listener emails about how to deal with sexual harassment when you’re worried about retaliation, coming to terms with being single for a while, and feeling insecure about ...Show More
Episode 119: Distrust of Men Sundae

1:04:35 | Nov 15th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about Roy Moore, Louis CK, and their feelings and opinions about the news cycle of late. Then they answer listener emails about figuring out how to trust men and what to do when you hate your city and are ...Show More
Episode 118: Lots Of Feelings

52:38 | Nov 8th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber extra long. Then they answer a listener email about what to do when your best friend starts dating an abusive ex. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 2:49 Opening Jibber Jabber 5:04 - 15:55 Opening Jibber Ja...Show More
Episode 117: No Jacket Required

54:51 | Nov 1st, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the recent Kevin Spacey allegations. Then they answer questions about working two part-time jobs, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and how to make friends with cool people online. 00:00 Welcome to The St...Show More
Episode 116: Start With A Snake - The Struggle Bus LIVE!

59:21 | Oct 29th, 2017

This is a recording of The Struggle Bus LIVE with special guests Josh Gondelman, Mychal Denzel Smith, Molly Knefel and surprise guest, ADVICE GIVING PUPPET Carl Mudgeon! Recorded on Wednesday, October 25th at Union Hall, Brooklyn, NY.  Special thanks...Show More
Episode 115: Bro Bingo

52:59 | Oct 19th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about #metoo and talk about self-care. Then they answer listener emails about shitty men in the workplace, traveling with family you can’t deal with, and how to be a better ally as a white, cis, able-bodie...Show More
Episode 114: Trust Muscle

49:56 | Oct 11th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about Harvey Weinstein and talk about needing to fix their sleep problems. Then they answer questions about improv and learning how to trust, and what to do when your best friend seems to be distancing the...Show More
Episode 113: Self-Criticism Bender

47:29 | Oct 4th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about toxic white masculinity and planetary influences. Then they answer questions about deepening friendships, making transition-related decisions, and processing toxic friend drama. 00:00 Welcome to The ...Show More
Episode 112: Feminist Baby

57:15 | Sep 27th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about doctors sometimes being great and guesting on other podcasts. Then they answer listener emails about getting back into dating, the agony of trying to land a job in your field, and anxiety about your ...Show More
Episode 111: Rage Is A-OK

55:26 | Sep 20th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally get a little enraged and then talk a bit about self-care. Then they read an email from a listener sharing insight about abusive relationships. Finally they answer listener emails about dealing with a shitty ex you have ...Show More
Episode 110: I Like Myself

1:02:02 | Sep 13th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally have a very exciting announcement! Then they jibber jabber, talk about self-care, and answer listener emails about dating someone in an open relationship, a toxic sibling, and how to deal when your meds make you feel gr...Show More
Episode 109: For A Minute There I Lost Myself

52:40 | Sep 6th, 2017

On this episode Kate gives an update about her recent doctor’s office catastrophe and Sally admits to not having anything to jibber jabber about. Then they answer listener emails about figuring out your life in the aftermath of losing a parent, and h...Show More
Episode 108: Life Is What Happens When You’re Busy Making Podcasts

1:01:45 | Aug 30th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about going through hell to get birth control, and terrible people on Twitter. Then they answer listener emails about trying to figure out if your mom was emotionally abusive and what to do when your friends say me...Show More
Episode 107: Layer Cake of Problems

1:13:21 | Aug 23rd, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally discuss Tina Fey and sheetcakegate. They then answer listener emails about dealing at work after you’ve reported someone to HR, how to respond when someone comes out to you, and what to do when it’s easy for you to main...Show More
Episode 106: We’re Back And We Missed You

47:22 | Aug 16th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally reunite (via Skype) after three weeks apart. They talk about Charlottesville and its aftermath, and then answer listener emails about how to explain to people that you don’t talk to your parents, and whether it’s OK to ...Show More
Episode 105: The Love Industrial Complex

1:05:40 | Jul 26th, 2017

Download Episode 105 Subscribe On iTunes On this episode Kate and Sally talked about massage and meditation and then answer listener emails about how to break up with a friend and dealing with a crappy coming out experience. 00:00 Welcome to The Stru...Show More
Episode 104: Well, Well, Well

1:08:15 | Jul 19th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about concussions and Game of Thrones. Then they answer listener emails about alleged abuse in activist communities and how to forgive yourself for mistreating an ex. 00:00 Welcome to The Struggle Bus 4:37...Show More
Episode 103: Freudian Slip ’n Slide

1:14:37 | Jul 12th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally lean into jibber jabber after a week off. Then they answer listener emails about coming out when you’re in a heteronormative relationship, what to do when your therapist goes away, and deciding between careers in academ...Show More
Episode 102: Everything's Temporary

1:00:12 | Jun 28th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about bedbugs and taking your own advice. Then they answer listener questions about what to do when your life is great on paper but you feel like you’re underachieving, balancing making art with making enough money...Show More
Episode 101: These Broken Wings

54:39 | Jun 21st, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about how terrible the world is rn, and also Philip K. Dick. Then they answer emails about an emotionally abusive partner, deciding when to leave home when it might be better for your mental health, and tips for br...Show More
Episode 100: 10,000 Diamonds

58:38 | Jun 14th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally celebrate their ONE HUNDREDTH EPISODE by sharing some fun and meaningful memories of episodes past. They jibber jabber about the MTA and the anniversary of the Pulse nightclub shooting. Then they answer listener emails ...Show More
Episode 99: Three's Company Eleganza

41:07 | Jun 7th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about getting married, breaking the world, and then fixing it. Then they answer listener emails about working on a relationship with a difficult parent and when the right time is to make a cross-country mo...Show More
Episode 98: Casing the Joint

58:35 | May 31st, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about how sleep is wonderful, inside and out of blanket cocoons. Then they answer listener emails about being on a board of directors with ~complicated~ people and how to handle (and help your kids handle) the suic...Show More
Episode 97: Opportunity to Practice

56:13 | May 24th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about self-care in the form of meditation and writing strongly-worded letters. Then they answer listener emails about sexual abuse between children, living with an emotionally abuse parent when you’re an adult, and...Show More
Episode 96: Is That All There Is?

54:43 | May 17th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about two debuts: Katharine in New York Neo-Futurists and Sally on the Babes Watch Buffy podcast. Then they answer questions about how to chill with compulsive social media and app checking and how to cope...Show More
Episode 95: Katharine Invented Time Stamps

58:01 | May 10th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for a pretty long time. Then they answer emails about negotiating cleanliness standards when you’re living with your partner and the pressure of being a perfect role model queer couple. 00:00 Welcome to Th...Show More
Episode 94: Sleepy Weather

1:17:42 | May 3rd, 2017

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk about sleeping, zoning out, and the Baby Worship Industrial Complex. They answer listener emails about dealing with men when you’ve had toxic ones in your past, dealing with a history of child sexual abuse by a si...Show More
Episode 93: Barren Emotional Hellscape

53:26 | Apr 26th, 2017

On this episode, Kate and Sally talk quite a bit about the death of pets. :( Then they answer questions about dealing with a partner who’s financially supporting their twin, feeling you have no friends, and having to spend a summer in the same town a...Show More
Episode 92: Tuck and Roll Away From Your Toxic Friends

1:03:04 | Apr 19th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally share rad updates about their own lives. Then they read listener emails about mental health issues in relationships, whether you can love someone else if you don't love yourself, and how to deal with toxic friends and w...Show More
Episode 91: Kate's Morning Seduction Voice

1:11:41 | Apr 12th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about flies, magic, and video games. Then they answer listener emails about being a woman who works in tech bro hell, whether you should throw away an object that’s become problematic, and whether it’s a r...Show More
Episode 90: Fount of Sagely Wisdom

1:09:14 | Mar 29th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about nightmares and sleep. Then they answer listener emails about white dudes trying to create safe space, identifying as a feminist as a trans man, dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault, helping t...Show More
Episode 89: We Almost Sistine Chapeled

1:19:52 | Mar 22nd, 2017

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about dudes who violate your personal space and drinking water as self-care. Then they answer listener emails about repairing a strained friendship, mental health-related money troubles, and how to deal w...Show More
Episode 88: Don’t Be Afraid Of Anger

1:00:13 | Mar 15th, 2017

On this special snowstorm episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about magicians, new iPhones, and phone dates with besties. Then they answer listener emails about toxic workplaces, reaching out to your biological dad’s family, and when’s a good time ...Show More
Episode 87: What Sally Said / What Katharine Said

1:04:11 | Mar 8th, 2017

On this episode, Kate and Sally jibber jabber about male feminists and dealing with allegations of abuse in progressive communities. Then they answer emails about being a 30-something divorced woman and loving it, and what to do when you and your liv...Show More
Episode 86: This Is Norway

23:07 | Mar 1st, 2017

On this short episode Kate and Sally have a quick heads up to listeners, and then they jibber jabber about Kate’s childhood stardom, A Few Good Men (THE MOVIE), and answer a letter about dealing with moving stress and a short-term but still toxic wor...Show More
Episode 85: Check Your Compass

1:08:28 | Feb 22nd, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about thigh-mashing, choosing self-care when you need a break from being political for just a hot second, and Garfield. Then they answer emails about coping with sexual assault and friends who aren’t suppo...Show More
Episode 84: Countess Katharine and Princess Diamond

1:10:37 | Feb 15th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber for an extra long time. Then they answer emails about how to figure out your next move when your art career doesn’t seem to pan out and what to do when an abusive ex is still in your group of friends.
Episode 83: Phone a Friend

54:19 | Feb 8th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about accidental and intentional self-care. Then they answer emails about how to advance professionally in an unfriendly workplace, what to do when you want your partner to be way more out, and how to deal...Show More
Episode 82: Sinceriously

1:05:48 | Feb 1st, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally jibber jabber about the state of the US right now and how to stay engaged while taking care of yourself. Then they answer emails about how to bring up ~sex stuff~ with a prospective partner, how to cope when the shit hi...Show More
Episode 81: Hierarchy of Creeps

58:05 | Jan 18th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about leveling up their self-care. Then they answer listener emails about what to do when you find out that a friend is pretty much a creep and how to deal with the realization that you have codependent tendencies.
Episode 80: The Struggle Bus Backwards

1:08:59 | Jan 11th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about the weather and revisit the topic of couples massages. Then they answer listener emails about coming out as bisexual to your partner and dealing with self-destructive parents.
Episode 79: Bacon Bros

1:10:55 | Jan 4th, 2017

On this episode Kate and Sally are joined by the one and only Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel), co-host of awesome progressive political podcast Radio Dispatch. Kate, Sally, and Molly discuss couples massages, new year’s resolutions, and Sex and the City....Show More
Episode 78: 50/50 Adorable Terrifying

53:54 | Dec 21st, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about sick beds and sick presents. Then they answer listener emails about dealing with gaslighting and manipulative people and how to cope with depression.
Episode 77: Ghosting But Telling You

59:57 | Dec 14th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Christmas trees and out of office days. Then they answer listener emails about trigger warnings, how to know if your therapist is on your political wavelength, starting meds, and possibly initiating a long di...Show More
Episode 76: RUFKM

1:03:01 | Dec 7th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about amazing live performances and hot chocolate candles. Then they answer listener emails about marriage troubles and libido mismatch.
Episode 75: Emotional Backpocket

1:14:57 | Nov 30th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally debrief about how their Thanksgivings went. Then they answer listener emails about how to maybe cut off an emotionally abusive dad and keeping your morale up during an endless job search.
Episode 74: We Keep Going

1:03:38 | Nov 23rd, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk even more about talking about the election. Then they answer listener emails about how to handle spending the holidays with your family when you’re expecting some ~static~.
Episode 73: Lots of Feelings, Lots of Opinions

1:02:49 | Nov 16th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk a bunch about current events and related topics (and feelings). Then they answer listener emails about how to argue with a bigot and how to live with your ex.
Episode 72: Election Ballyhoo

39:10 | Nov 8th, 2016

On this special short episode Kate and Sally wax nervous but optimistic on the election and self-care. (Many apologies for the "crackling noise" on Kate's end. Unless you liked it in which case YOU'RE WELCOME.)
Episode 71: Make Three Discoveries

1:00:31 | Nov 2nd, 2016

On this episode: Gremlins (the movie and the IMDB page), the greatness of Phoebe Cates, plus listener emails about dealing with brain fog and how to cope with feelings of extreme jealousy.
Episode 70: What Good Things Happened in 2016?

46:19 | Oct 26th, 2016

On this episode: Taking care of your body-ody-ody with p.t. and massage, salvaging a friendship that’s been through it, and how to deal with life stress when 2016 feels like the worst year ever. Also, exciting news about how to support TSB! BECOME A ...Show More
Episode 69: Killer Metaphors

1:18:30 | Oct 12th, 2016

On this episode: Extended jibber jabber on the debate and related topics (sorry), plus listener emails about living with an ex and supporting a non-binary partner with an eating disorder.
Episode 68: Thank you, Dr. Zizmor

1:01:45 | Oct 5th, 2016

On this episode: The mind body connection and misogyny in comedy. Plus listener emails about weird energy between friends who might like-like each other and how to deal with missing your old therapist so much.
Episode 67: Pure Imagination

1:04:58 | Sep 28th, 2016

On this episode: Taking a day off of work, cycling in Manhattan, awesome therapists, and why light roast coffee is trash. Plus listener emails about whether you should give up on your dreams and how to trust when you have a history of sexual assault ...Show More
Episode 66: Put All Your Feelings Into Me

1:00:24 | Sep 21st, 2016

On this episode: Fear and loathing re: the state of the world. Plus listener emails about: friends who don’t seem to get what you’re going through mental health-wise and parenting your partner’s kid.
Episode 65: There Go All My F%*ks

1:14:24 | Sep 14th, 2016

On this episode: Extra long and rambling jibber jabber, plus listener emails about setting boundaries with parents, people who mistreat service personnel, and healing from/processing rape.
Episode 64: Queer Reading Club

57:30 | Sep 7th, 2016

On this episode: Coming out as non-binary, porn and feminism, and patching things up with a friend who might be emotionally unstable.
Episode 63: Springsteening

59:43 | Sep 1st, 2016

On this episode: late bloomers, work stress and processing PTSD, caring for traumatized kids, and creating emotional distance from a toxic parent.
Episode 62: AOL Dot Chat

1:01:11 | Aug 24th, 2016

On this episode: Dancing and not dancing, therapy dogs, inconsiderate partners, being triggered by a co-worker’s shenanigans, and awkward situations with a former friend.
Episode 61: Patriarchy / Comedy / Burn It Down

52:58 | Aug 17th, 2016

On this episode: Patriarchy in comedy (and also everywhere), recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship, wtf is talent anyway, and feeling torn between multiple career/life paths.
Episode 60: Reconnoiter

59:02 | Aug 10th, 2016

On this episode: the “friend zone” (LOL), parents are (sometimes awful) people, too, being friends with someone you want to date, your friend’s terrible partner, and a toxic ex who demands closure.
Episode 59: Just Asking Questions

1:05:05 | Aug 3rd, 2016

On this episode, Kate and Sally answer listener emails about sexual assault, sex drive mismatch, and dating with depression.
Episode 58: The Adventures of Loopy and Peanut Butter

1:02:39 | Jul 27th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about dealing with an unreliable friend who lies a lot, handling the end of a long relationship, and dealing with a difficult dad.
Episode 57: Take What You Need

1:01:28 | Jul 20th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about dealing with disrespectful relatives, whether you should intervene in a workplace outing, and body image/self-love.
Episode 56: Pluto Truther

37:49 | Jul 13th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about how to respond to a friend’s declaration of love/attraction, and staying in touch with siblings who live with the parents you’re no longer talking to.
Episode 55: BONUS EPISODE! Celebrities' Dogs and Celebrity Dogs

59:42 | Jul 9th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about listener-suggested topics including: dog park adventures, living in NYC, dealing with breakups, performative allyship, happy life moments, and more!
Episode 54: Well Let Me Ask You This

55:46 | Jul 6th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: recovering from the suicide of a loved one, figuring out if that flirtatious person likes you, and what to do when your co-workers are the worst.
Episode 53: Drapering

1:02:03 | Jun 29th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about Orlando, allyship, and Pride. Then they answer listener emails about: stress management when you hate your job and are looking for a new one, figuring out your gender identity, and how to deal with feeling li...Show More
Episode 52: Know When To Edit The Scene (Grab Bag Bonus Episode!)

58:47 | Jun 15th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally talk about all kindsa stuff listeners asked us to discuss: age differences in relationships, emotional vampires, how the hell to have a healthy relationship, setting boundaries, and also a buncha stuff about themselves!
Episode 51: Dip Your Toe In It

52:04 | Jun 8th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: coming out and whether you even "have to,” what to do when you’re not sexually attracted to your partner, and how to deal with feeling isolated and longing for intimacy and connection.
Episode 50: A Heap of Flaming Garbage

1:11:47 | Jun 1st, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about an age difference in a relationship, the importance of supportive friends in the aftermath of abuse, and what to do about therapyfail after therapyfail.
Episode 49: Step Dave

1:11:13 | May 25th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about body positivity, life and job anxiety, and helping a partner find a therapist.
Episode 48: Actually

1:06:23 | May 18th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: how to move on from past relationships, the question "Am I a mansplainer?," and how to deal with a condescending--ahem--mansplainer in your group martial arts class.
Episode 47: Welcome To The Clown Show

1:13:52 | May 11th, 2016

On this episode super special guest co-host Mara Wilson (@MaraWritesStuff) joins Kate and Sally to answer questions about: how to deal with feeling super hopeless, telling your therapist about a (possible) eating disorder, and what to do when you hat...Show More
Episode 46: Emotional Explosion

1:11:55 | May 4th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about toxic family situations, resources for a partner who's transitioning in a small rural town, and the whys and hows of contacting exes.
Episode 45: Molehills Out Of Mountains

56:27 | Apr 28th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: helping a partner who’s burning out, relationships with big age differences, and toxic, racist a-holes in your friend group.
Episode 44: That's What She Said

50:07 | Apr 20th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about: loving community but loathing groupthink, how to handle your partner’s unhealthy relationships, and how being in therapy impacts your relationship. Tweet at Kate and Sally or the podcast! ...Show More
Episode 43: The Toxic Comfort Zone

1:05:05 | Apr 13th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally share some listener updates and feedback and answer emails about people who judge your reproductive choices, difficult mothers-in-law, and leaving the toxic comfort zone of your parents’ home.
Episode 42: Mrs. Coach

56:41 | Apr 6th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about a possibly toxic roller derby community, when and why you shouldn't intervene in someone else’s problems, moving away from home for the first time, and body image issues.
Episode 41: Molly's Bachelorette Party

1:05:24 | Mar 30th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally welcome a very special guest co-host: Molly Knefel (@mollyknefel) of Radio Dispatch. They answer questions about dealing with a guy who is maybe kind of a creep, libido mismatch in a relationship, and resources for tran...Show More
Episode 40: The Hot Mess Express

50:41 | Mar 23rd, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally answer listener emails about academic trouble mixed with impostor syndrome and how talk to a friend with benefits about pursuing a relationship. Also! Lots of new ways/places to follow us online and interact with other ...Show More
Episode 39: Field of Tubbs' Dreams

54:20 | Mar 16th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally announce an exciting new thing. Then they answer emails about choosing a career path, being a trans ally and dealing with TERFs, and how to spend your free time doing stuff that makes you feel enriched and productive. A...Show More
Episode 38: The Situationship

1:06:22 | Mar 9th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss working with someone you want to date, how to start dating at all, getting closure and whether that’s even a thing anyway, and how to deal with boundary-less people/communities.
Episode 37: Winona Ryder

47:25 | Mar 2nd, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss what to throw or break when you’re in an uncontrollable rage. Then they answer emails about figuring out dating, siblings with addiction, and how to do self-care when you’re depressed.
Episode 36: Lean In

43:20 | Feb 24th, 2016

On this episode Kate and Sally answer emails about open relationships, making a huge and scary life change, and overbearing parents. They also mispronounce "Neko Atsume" over and over.
Episode 35: Corgi in a Bowtie

57:10 | Feb 15th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally re-cap the live show and answer emails about supporting an unambitious partner, grieving the loss of a companion animal, and dealing with the stigma of a mental illness diagnosis.
Episode 34: Sorry, Birdie (TSB Live!)

1:06:43 | Feb 10th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally and special guests Janeane Garofalo and Chemda Hennessy answer audience questions at the first-ever Struggle Bus LIVE. Complete with lots of laughs and a doozy of a blooper. Recorded at Union Hall in Brooklyn on Februar...Show More
Episode 33: Neko Atsume

56:21 | Feb 2nd, 2016

In this episode a fan from Norway teaches Kate and Sally how to properly pronounce Lykke Li’s name. Then they discuss Neko Atsume, how to talk to people about old self-harm scars, friendship triangles in which one friend might be abusive, and going t...Show More
Episode 32: White Privilege III

48:36 | Jan 28th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally get kinda loopy. They answer emails about looking for jobs when you’re gender non-conforming, flirting outside of your relationship, and what to do when a friend makes out with your crush. Plus, show bloopers! Get tick...Show More
Episode 31: Shame Shell

55:58 | Jan 22nd, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally talk self-care, support networks, and squirrels. They answer emails about disclosing mental health stuff to employers, life after toxic families and what therapy is like, and leaving your shame shell to embark on a new ...Show More
Episode 30: State of the Union

51:55 | Jan 11th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally have a VERY BIG announcement about their live show on February 8 at Union Hall in Brooklyn. Buy tickets at strugglebuspodcast.com! Then they answer emails about how and when to talk to your partner about the longterm, w...Show More
Episode 29: Forty Wonderful

51:48 | Jan 5th, 2016

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about movies and not making new year’s resolutions. Then they discuss why it’s NBD to not have much sexual/romantic experience, how to prevent co-dependence from taking root in a super intimate friendship, and know...Show More
Episode 28: 10 Seconds

57:56 | Dec 23rd, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally suggest making a 5-year plan that starts with dumping your partner, the weird dynamic of men thinking you’re hitting on them when you’re super not, how to get through a tough break, and the hellishness that is dealing w...Show More
Episode 27: A Cappella

37:18 | Dec 14th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about dealing with the ghosts of emotional vampires past, how to deal when you’re feeling alone and miserable in your current environment, and attending events where someone who abused you will also be present. Ha...Show More
Episode 26: Super Special Holiday Special

1:23:54 | Nov 19th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally make a very special announcement about The Struggle Bus. They then answer listener emails about dealing with colleagues who are monsters, parents who aren’t accepting, and how to make tricky career decisions. Then they ...Show More
Episode 25: Lots of Feelings and A Good Deal Of Opinions

51:23 | Nov 4th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally introduce a new recommendation segment. (Please help them name it!) They then answer emails about choosing between the security of a job you hate and the riskiness of pursuing your dream, dealing with preachy mansplaine...Show More
Episode 24: Bouts of Happiness

50:00 | Oct 22nd, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about Friday Night Lights. Extensively. They then answer emails about open marriages, pursuing “taboo" sexual attractions, and coming out to friends about being depressed.
Episode 23: Autumn Awakening

48:48 | Sep 30th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about how gratitude is important but is also hippie garbage. They then answer an email from a listener who is wondering how to start coming out as genderqueer in their conservative environment. They then discuss an...Show More
Episode 22: Pump Up The Self-Care

48:41 | Sep 16th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally give advice to a listener who suffers from panic attacks and needs help figuring out how to deal until they can get to a counselor. Then they answer an email from a listener who is a high-functioning schizophrenic strug...Show More
Episode 21: The Facts of Life

42:16 | Aug 27th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally answer an email from a listener who recently suffered a bummer of a romantic heartbreak and is wondering how to make sense of it. Then they discuss an email from someone who is worried about being able to maintain frien...Show More
Episode 20: Sometimes It's Just A T.P. (A "Their Problem")

37:43 | Aug 12th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally answer an email from a listener who wants some advice on how to deal when people constantly mislabel their sexuality. Then they respond to a listener who’s weighing the pros and cons of entering a 12-step program for th...Show More
Episode 19: Taking It An Hour At A Time

48:50 | Jul 24th, 2015

In this episode Kate shares some mental health updates and Sally responds to a listener’s email about queer allyship. Then they answer an email from someone who needs advice on how to deal with life stuff while also being overwhelmed by life stuff, i...Show More
Episode 18: Extra Long Super Special Episode (With Bonus Rants!)

56:59 | Jul 3rd, 2015

In this extra long episode Sally rants her face off about marriage equality and intersectionality. Then Kate tells a story about dealing about a restaurant guest who customersplained why she was undertipping. They then answer listener emails about: h...Show More
Episode 17: Online Dating Profiles, DWIs, and #Veganproblems

42:42 | Jun 19th, 2015

In this episode Kate’s and Sally answer an email from a listener who needs help with his OkCupid profile, from the conceptualizing to the writing. They then discuss an email from a listener who is dealing with guilt and self-loathing after getting a ...Show More
Episode 16: When the Going Gets Rough

39:57 | Jun 8th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally read an update from a listener about her limp handshake and the mainsplainer who mansplained it to her. Then they answer emails asking about trigger warnings, sexuality stuff, what to do when the going gets very rough, ...Show More
Episode 15: Surprise, Assholes! (On Coming Out)

44:00 | May 18th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss all different kinds of coming out, answering emails from: a married man who cross dresses and wants his partner to understand who he is, a semi-closeted lesbian living in a conservative, religious community, and...Show More
Episode 14: How to Deal with Mansplainers, Women Who Don’t Want To Be Hit On, and Relationships

48:01 | May 1st, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss a listener’s question about how she dealt with a mansplainer. They then help a lost listener understand how to rethink his approach to talking to women. Finally they give a listener strong opinions about her lon...Show More
Episode 13: Advice for Self-Aware Teenagers And How Dating is a Numbers Game

46:52 | Apr 13th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about loss, grief, and migraines and then answer an email from a listener about being a senior in high school dealing with…all kinds of stressful life stuff. They then respond to a listener who wants some advice ab...Show More
Episode 12: On Eating Disorders and Meddling Mothers, Dating While Queer, and Navigating Tricky Sibling Situations

40:50 | Mar 30th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about those rare beautiful moments when you realize everything is (sort of) okay (for now). Then they answer a listener email about dealing with an ~intense~ mom when a history of disordered eating is in the mix. N...Show More
Episode 11: Taking a Therapy Hiatus as Self-Care and Hell is (Almost All) Other People For One Reason Or Another

40:47 | Mar 16th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about why rainy days are the best days and how taking a break from therapy is the ultimate self-care. They answer listener emails about making friends when you’re socially awkward, dealing with people when you hate...Show More
Episode 10: On Weaponizing Heteronormativity and How No One Knows How to Do Relationships

35:41 | Feb 27th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally catch you up on their lives, from how charming and wonderful Norm Lewis is to friend breakups that suck. They discuss emails from a couple of listeners, including one who has figured out the perfect way to trick aggress...Show More
Episode 9: WTF You're Supposed To Do When A Bully From Your Former Life Is Back In Your World and WTF Therapy Is Really Like

38:24 | Feb 13th, 2015

In this episode: Kate and Sally read some incredible iTunes reviews, unveil a brilliant new way to incorporate your questions into the show, and get excited about Norm Lewis. They then read a letter from a listener who wants advice on how to deal wit...Show More
Episode 8: Caring For a Partner (Who Sometimes Faints or Falls Down) and Porn, Sex, and Mismatched Sex Drives. Plus, EMDR and labels

38:20 | Jan 30th, 2015

In this episode Kate and Sally share some recent health scares (everyone’s fine!) in their lives and their feelings about how complicated relationships become when one partner cares for the other. They then discuss a listener’s letter about being str...Show More
Episode 7: A Dab of (Talk About) Bisexuality, Why It’s Never Too Late To Start Over Even Though It Always Feels Like It Is, and Dealing with Jealousy and Control in Relationships (No Matter Where You Live)

38:39 | Jan 20th, 2015

In this episode: The Zin is in and the shoes are off (literally). Sally talks about her first ever Christmas and Kate's eventful (not in a good way) New Year's Eve. Next up, Kate and Sally respond to a young single parent who wants to explore a new c...Show More
Episode 6: Double Decker Struggle Buses, the Perfect Word to Describe Your Sexuality to Everyone (Does Not Exist), and (More) Clarifications on Catcalling

44:34 | Dec 8th, 2014

In this episode Kate and Sally thank listeners for writing and tweeting amazing things and for reviewing the podcast in iTunes and giving it 5 stars (hint). Kate shares her recent trip on the struggle bus and Sally vents about white people performing...Show More
Episode 5: Awful People from Your Past, Struggle Buddies, and Wanderlust on a Budget

39:43 | Nov 21st, 2014

In this episode Kate and Sally respond to a listener’s question about what to do when an awful person from her past is internet-famous for being a great guy. Plus: Don't ride the struggle bus alone! Use #strugglepodbuds to find other listeners who wa...Show More
Episode 4: Emotional Vampires, Misanthropy, Getting Yourself the Hell to Therapy

41:00 | Nov 5th, 2014

In this episode Kate and Sally discuss "emotional vampires," answer listener questions about how to approach someone you like, and how to not hate the world. PLUS Sally recommends a song to get you through the day. Also, news about an upcoming live s...Show More
The Struggle Bus: Episode 3

33:56 | Sep 30th, 2014

In this episode, Kate and Sally discuss siblings, horrible professors and getting out of unhealthy situations. Also, Kate tells an embarrassing story and Sally doles out some wisdom from RuPaul. Theme song by Marty Scanlon!
The Struggle Bus: Episode 2

34:26 | Aug 28th, 2014

In this episode Kate and Sally talk about some of their struggles this week, and answer a listener question about finances and friendship. Plus, what not to do when you see a table full of women at a restaurant. And a new theme song by Marty Scanlon!
The Struggle Bus: Pilot Episode!

31:14 | Aug 4th, 2014

Hosts Kate and Sally discuss how they met, what not to say to someone who has just gone through a break up, and give advice about helping friends through other tough times. Plus, they answer their first listener question!