The Virtual Couch Podcast
1) Ep74 Listening Skills - Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Are you a good listener? Studies show that you most likely believe that you are, even if your listening skills are rooted in pop-psychology, with no real evidence to back them up. Learn What Great Lis...Show More
AUDIO REMOVED: The podcast creator has removed the audio for this episode.2) The Power (and Struggle) of Honest Communication in Relationships - Tony Answers Your Questions
Tony addresses a listener's question about feeling anxious due to a communication lapse with her husband. He delves deep into the nuances of relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of honest...Show More
3) Your Goals Aren't Yours—That's Why They Don't Stick (ACT for Lasting Change)
What if your New Year's resolutions keep failing because they were never really yours to begin with? Most goals we set aren't chosen—they're inherited from magazines, social media, parents, or that ve...Show More
Your Goals Aren't Yours—That's Why They Don't Stick (ACT for Lasting Change)
1:13:37 | Dec 31st, 2025
4) The Family Butterfly Effect: How Your Uncle Ray Changed Everything—And How You Can Change It Back
Every family has an origin story—and it's not always the one told at holidays. In this episode, Tony explores the fascinating concept of the butterfly effect and how it applies to famil...
5) Stop Managing Your Partner's Emotions: How One Couple Broke Free From the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
Have you ever found yourself calculating what to say when your partner is upset—choosing words to manage their emotions rather than speaking your truth? In this episode, Tony shares the br...
6) Why You Fell for Your Partner (and Why You Keep Fighting Them) — Part 2
In Part 2 of Why You Fell for Your Partner (and Why You Keep Fighting Them), Tony Overbay, LMFT, continues the story of Jack and Jill — a fictional couple built from hundreds of real couples he’s work...Show More
7) Why You Fell for Your Partner (and Why You Keep Fighting Them) pt. 1
What if the way you love — and the way you fight — were both written long before you met your partner? Tony Overbay, LMFT, reveals how your nervous system learned to react to love, conflict, and vulne...Show More
8) Why You're Actually Fighting With Yourself (And Blaming Your Partner)—The Psychology of Projection
Ever wonder why your partner's innocent behavior feels like a personal attack? What if the stories you're telling yourself about their intentions say more about you than about them?
9) On the Other Side of the Couch: What I Learned Losing My Mom
What happens when the person who usually has the answers finds himself sitting in the unknown? In this deeply personal episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Tony Overbay shares ...
10) Would You Rather Be Liked—or True to Yourself? The High Cost of Integrity in Marriage, Parenting, Faith, and Work
Would you rather be liked—or be true to yourself?It sounds simple, but what happens when staying true to your values could cost you your job, your marriage, your faith community, or your friendships? ...Show More