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James Altucher: Your daily dose of inspiration on how to Choose Yourself / Self Publishing / Startups / Writing

Hi I'm James Altucher host of The James Altucher Show. I've been a successful entrepreneur, investor, board member, and the writer of 11 books including the recent WSJ Bestseller, "Choose Yourself!" (foreword by Dick Costolo, CEO of Twitter). I've s...Show More

28:53 | Oct 8th, 2015

James credits at least some of his success to his guest's new company, Product Hunt.   Erik Torenberg a founding team-member at Product Hunt, co-founder of, and associate at Queensbridge Venture Partners joins James today.   Product Hunt seem...Show More

27:43 | Oct 7th, 2015

Do you need a vacation? How about a place that has such a lingering bad reputation that it's the perfect place to get away to? Interested? Today, James and Claudia call our good friend and the original co-host of Ask Altucher, Aaron Brabham, to fi...Show More
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1:00:04 | Oct 6th, 2015

James spent an hour interviewing his wife and business partner, Claudia Azula Altucher. They went back to 1999, when Claudia first started to learn about yoga. She knew very little about it, but wanted a discipline that would be physical and get her...Show More

16:41 | Oct 5th, 2015

James gives his friend Mitch Joel a call today to talk about a subject that scares the heck out of him — public speaking. James asks Mitch about his philosophy on public speaking. Mitch breaks down public speakers and presenting into three styles o...Show More

18:41 | Oct 2nd, 2015

James gives his good friend Chris Brogan a call today to talk about the real value of doing a podcast. James asks Chris... Is podcasting worth the time and effort? Chris says "no... and yes." There's no real money in it, but the other benefits are ...Show More

27:16 | Sep 30th, 2015

Brian Koppelman is back today to continue the fascinating discussion he and James started on his last visit. As Brian says, "Non-fiction books answer a series of questions, whereas fiction books raise a series of questions." On the last show, James...Show More

11:43 | Sep 29th, 2015

Today's question is a tough one, as one of our listeners writes in... "My girlfriend has decided to concentrate on her career and wants to take a break from our relationship. How can I support her while satisfying my own needs?" James and Claudia d...Show More

16:50 | Sep 25th, 2015

Today's question... "I feel like the life I knew is falling apart before my eyes and my next steps are critical. I would deeply appreciate guidance and support. Here is what's happening. I'm a twenty-year-old college student starting an online busi...Show More

42:29 | Sep 24th, 2015

John Ruhlin joins James and Claudia to talk about what it means to be a great salesman and John has decided to take it to a new level. Before you can sell you have to get in the door. So he introduces himself with a very special gift. Like the ti...Show More

41:04 | Sep 22nd, 2015

Of all the assets that you could possibly sell, I bet you've never thought of selling your future . . . but Jason is doing just that. Jason Zook (formerly JasonSurfrapp, Jason Headsetsdotcom and Jason Sadler) is a crazy-at-heart salesman . . . benea...Show More

34:24 | Sep 18th, 2015

Derek Coburn is the master at networking. Derek says, "Going to networking events is a waste of time." You can go to networking events two or three times a week and never realize how much time you're wasting. Traditional networking isn't working an...Show More

12:53 | Sep 17th, 2015

Everyone at some point in their career hates their job. For some people it's just temporary, but for others, it gets so bad that they quit. If you decide to quit, everything suddenly changes. The stability of your old job is gone. Now you're on you...Show More

11:21 | Sep 16th, 2015

Do you know what the secret mistake that most first time entrepreneurs make? If you’re an entrepreneur than its so to know it. If you don’t you could already be out of business and not even know it.   Listen to James and hear his secret.

18:28 | Sep 15th, 2015

Most books are "business card" books. A "business card" book is a book that helps the author establish credentials. It works as a business card. But today, James wants to talk about "braingasm" books. Your brain has an orgasm while you're reading t...Show More

12:33 | Sep 11th, 2015

Just don't do it. In honor of National Suicide Prevention Week, Claudia and James felt it was very important to record this podcast. Claudia, being a victim of living through her mother's suicide when she was just a teenager, is passionate about pr...Show More

13:42 | Sep 10th, 2015

This question came in from the Choose Yourself Facebook group: "I've been passed over for my next promotion. I feel like 'the poor employee' instead of "the 'rich employee.'" James says being "The Rich Employee" is a mindset, and this person is alr...Show More

16:12 | Sep 9th, 2015

Get ready – this one is going to be very controversial. You went to college. You took out huge student loans to get your degree. You can barely make ends meet, and your monthly student loan bills are now due. What can you do? Ask for help. Listen...Show More

14:51 | Sep 8th, 2015

Should you "fire" a really terrible customer? Well, that depends... If that customer happens to be 99% of your business, you have a big problem. But today, James addresses what to do with those customers who won't break your business. You could de...Show More

55:23 | Sep 4th, 2015

Do you want to be a professional speaker? Does having to get up on stage in front of a group of people scare the heck out of you? Today James and Claudia invite Brian Rashid to join them to give us a couple of quick tips to help you if you want to b...Show More

13:58 | Sep 3rd, 2015

Why did James self-publish his new book, The Rich Employee? He wanted total control over the marketing. The old way of the legacy book publishers is to get the author to march around the country doing book signings at the few book stores that still...Show More

15:22 | Sep 2nd, 2015

Why did James feel that he had to write his new book, The Rich Employee? He wanted to set the record straight. For the average employee, income is going down while inflation goes up. Industry, knowledge, and management are all being outsourced chea...Show More

1:02:20 | Sep 1st, 2015

Chris Brogan was gracious enough to allow us to repost an interview he did today with James to talk about, everything…including the release of James brand new book; The Rich Employee that hit the Amazon bookstore today. They jumped onto a platform n...Show More

56:05 | Aug 31st, 2015

This weekend Dr. Wayne Dyer passed away. James wants to recognize the influence Wayne Dyer has had on his life. We're very sad about his passing. Here is one of the last interviews Wayne Dyer has done and it is with James...  During that interview...Show More

50:16 | Aug 28th, 2015

A few months ago Frank Curzio interviewed James on his Top 10 iTunes podcast Wall Street Unplugged. We thought a lot of our new listeners might have never heard this interview and so I decided to publish it today. I really think you’ll enjoy this i...Show More

24:45 | Aug 27th, 2015

Most small businesses fail. In fact, about 85% of them do. Is it the business, or is it the people behind the business that fail?   Listen here today as James talks about how not to fail as a small startup business.

12:01 | Aug 26th, 2015

Why do anything if you're going to die anyway? It's an evolutionary thing. Our brains have been setup to reward us for those things that trigger well-being. When the chemical dopamine is triggered in your brain,  it makes you feel great.   Listen...Show More

21:57 | Aug 25th, 2015

China is having problems... The Fed may raise interest rates next month. And the market is down about 10%. But this is not 2009. The world is not falling apart. Today James gives you some companies you may want to think about.   Listen here tod...Show More

13:08 | Aug 24th, 2015

Before you start your podcast, should you have a specific niche in mind? James says no – you can do whatever you want, whenever you want. If it works, great. If not, then you can close it down and start another. Just do it for fun. Listen here tod...Show More

1:06:51 | Aug 21st, 2015

I've been saving this recording for the day when James' schedule became so crazy he just couldn't record your daily dose of Ask Altucher. Today is that day... This is a presentation that James gave recently at the NJ Tech Meetup. WARNING: This rec...Show More

38:09 | Aug 20th, 2015

Are you willing to disobey your parents? Cassey Ho came from a typical Asian family. They gave her three choices for her career... doctor, lawyer or engineer. She had to bring honor to her family. But that wasn't Cassey's calling. She had the entr...Show More

13:49 | Aug 19th, 2015

Do you fear the nothingness of death? That last thought, that last breath... James doesn't. Pain scares him, but not death. Listen here today as he and Claudia discuss the unknown. Regards, David Newman   P.S. This Thursday, August 20th, Jame...Show More

19:45 | Aug 18th, 2015

What if the consequences of saying "no" are so strong, you feel like you just have to agree? James gives an example: Your boss demands that you change your plans at the last second and spend the weekend traveling for business, instead of doing what ...Show More

41:59 | Aug 17th, 2015

What if someone told you that your behavior was controlled by a powerful, invisible force? Nick Morgan, the author of Power Cues, joins James today to tell the fantastic story of how, after a serious concussion that left him in a coma for about 10 d...Show More

17:36 | Aug 14th, 2015

What's an effective way to deal with complainers? James says help the complainer focus on other things, and if they're a chronic complainer, then just remove yourself from the conversation. You'll notice the complaints will slow down. Why doesn't Ja...Show More

19:15 | Aug 13th, 2015

Are you writing a thousand words a day, every day? You better be if you want to write a great book. Are you doing great research? Have you immersed yourself in the story? Are you writing everything down? James says you should start off with a momen...Show More

17:00 | Aug 12th, 2015

We’re not talking about having enough money to take care of your human needs; we’re talking about getting rich. Today’s question comes from a twenty-year-old who says that’s all he can think about. The key to getting rich is to ask, who did I help ...Show More

12:37 | Aug 11th, 2015

James delves into the mind of his 13-year-old daughter Mollie today. We start off with James asking Mollie about her favorite music, movies, and TV shows. They then talk about school. James has made Mollie an offer: She will never have to go to sch...Show More

17:20 | Aug 10th, 2015

Claudia "The Snake Killer" has today's question, which is, how does James retain the information from all the books he reads? James usually reads about five books at the same time, making it through 20% of each book daily. If something interests him...Show More

13:53 | Aug 7th, 2015

I hate my boss. He's a real tyrant, but I can't quit because I need the money. James says, in order to become the rich employee, you need to tie your success to the success of the company. Encourage the people around you, as hard as that may seem. ...Show More

14:40 | Aug 6th, 2015

What's the best way to get your dream job? A listener wrote in to say that he has been sending his "out-of-the-box ideas" to his company, but he hasn't heard back. Suddenly, the company has posted a job opening for something similar that he can do....Show More

13:50 | Aug 5th, 2015

Today, James, Claudia, Mollie, and Josie are podcasters in cars going to Whole Foods. Often, the biggest gatekeeper you'll run up against is in your own mind. You believe you have to use gatekeepers to become successful. What if you want to be a st...Show More

17:26 | Aug 4th, 2015

Good television tells great stories... In fact, James believes television is the best art form out there right now. It's better than the best movies and even better than most books. But they both do love to watch funny movies Here's a list of the 1...Show More

10:41 | Aug 3rd, 2015

First, what is good character?  A person who takes responsibility has good character. Listen to hear James and Claudia talk about whether society is dying because of a lack of character. Be impeccable in your word… Regards, David Newman P.S. NO...Show More

13:51 | Jul 31st, 2015

When is enough enough? Whenever money is your main goal, it will always disappoint you. At the end of the day, it's more important to ask yourself: "Who did I help today?" Regards, David Newman P.S. NOT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THE REST OF YOUR LIFE...Show More

14:12 | Jul 30th, 2015

James answers a few questions in rapid-fire fashion. The first question is whether you should edit as you write. James says never. Your first draft is always terrible. Just race to the end. Write it, write it, and write it... Race to the end, and ...Show More

19:45 | Jul 29th, 2015

James and Claudia celebrate five years of marriage on today's show. They talk about what marriage is really all about. It's not about your sex life, the money, or almost anything else... It's about becoming friends and handling problems. If there ...Show More

38:34 | Jul 28th, 2015

James recently hired someone to completely rewrite Fifty Shades of Grey using a thesaurus to change every word. Unfortunately, he found out there are laws against this, so of course, he never published it James' guest, John Havel, joins him today to...Show More

12:35 | Jul 27th, 2015

Love can be tough – especially when it's unrequited or unreturned. We've all been there... Are you sure that what you're feeling is love? If you truly care about someone, then you want the best for them. The best for them may not be the best for y...Show More

15:21 | Jul 24th, 2015

In school, in order to get an "A" you have to get 90% of the questions right. But in business, if you make just 50% of your decisions correctly, you're an "A+" leader. Do most of you really need to learn trigonometry, algebra or geometry? Why to the...Show More

14:57 | Jul 23rd, 2015

What is doubt? James says doubts are all in your head. "If I X, then the result of Y may not be great" – that's a doubt. Don't let doubt control you. Instead, use it as a tool. Action is the only thing that will make you successful. Living in your...Show More

13:14 | Jul 22nd, 2015

James once played poker for more than 365 days in a row. He was obsessed. He’d just sold a business and had a ton of cash in his pocket, but he had no friends. He thought he could make both money and friends by taking up poker. He quickly learned t...Show More

14:43 | Jul 21st, 2015

There are about 250,000 podcasts available today, but what's the business model? Business models don't have to come first, but problems that you solve and your passion to solve them should. Listen to today's episode and learn why James and Claudia ...Show More

11:27 | Jul 20th, 2015

Today we're going to have some fun... James and Claudia share a list of their 11 top TV shows: 1."Arrested Development" 2."Breaking Bad" 3."Better Call Saul" 4."Peep Show" 5."Madmen" 6."Louie" 7."Veep" 8."Silicon Valley" 9."Freaks and Geeks...Show More

14:23 | Jul 17th, 2015

How can you build your network of influencers? Ignore the obvious. Don't do what everyone else is doing. Don't send the people congratulations on their birthdays. Everyone else is doing that. Instead, notice them and acknowledge their work. James ...Show More

16:23 | Jul 16th, 2015

Your friend's spouse is cheating and you know about it. What should you do? This exact situation happened to James once and he decided to stay out of it. By saying something, he would have injected himself into his friend's relationship. He thought ...Show More

25:03 | Jul 15th, 2015

Scott Young spent $2,000 and got a "degree" from MIT... And he never had to leave his house. He calls it the "MIT Challenge." Scott believes you might learn better without having to go to college for four years. He spent four years getting a busin...Show More

09:24 | Jul 14th, 2015

I can't seem to make new friends... Today's question is from someone who's recently out of prison and can't find a true friend except his wife. James and Claudia each define what a true friend is. To find new friends, you have to put yourself out ...Show More

15:26 | Jul 13th, 2015

Claudia is upset... United Airlines grounded all their flights recently due to a computer glitch. This glitch had nothing to do with their airplanes. People just couldn't check in. United probably has layers and layers, and more layers, of new soft...Show More

17:22 | Jul 10th, 2015

Did mastering chess change James life?  Yes. It has opened all sorts of doors for him and taught him to look at everything a little differently. He spent his youth studying everything about chess.  He learned how to learn, and he learned how to lo...Show More

48:30 | Jul 9th, 2015

Taylor Pearson talks with James today about The End of Jobs, he wrote the book on it. James says about Taylors book “ The most important thing about The End of Jobs is that entrepreneurship is not a choice you can make at your leisure”. “This is so...Show More

12:54 | Jul 8th, 2015

James' practice of working to improve four areas of his life (physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental) just 1% a day led to today’s question: How does James' daily practice turn into money? He turns this question around. What if you did the exact...Show More

10:43 | Jul 7th, 2015

So, you've gone ahead and created 10 great ideas, sent them over to a company to try to help them, and someone from the company has written back and said... We don't need your ideas. James is curious about what his original letter said. What you sa...Show More

1:04:16 | Jul 6th, 2015

Mac Lethal (born David McCleary Sheldon) is another overnight success, 17 years in the making. In November 2011, he released a video on YouTube of him rapping over the beat to "Look at Me Now" while he prepared pancakes in his kitchen. The video be...Show More

05:03 | Jul 3rd, 2015

Happy Fourth of July. To celebrate, James and Claudia wanted to give everyone a present. Listen to today's show and click here to get your special present. Regards, David Newman P.S. NOT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?   A great ne...Show More

12:33 | Jul 2nd, 2015

James and Claudia touch on a controversial subject today... opinions. James says whenever he has a strong opinion about something, everybody gets angry. As you probably already know, James has some pretty strong and controversial opinions about a l...Show More

15:45 | Jul 1st, 2015

James starts off today with a productivity hack, and it involves looking at Claudia. Today's question asks for James' opinion on the best technique to teach someone something. James starts off with a quote from Bruce Lee. "I fear not the man who h...Show More

11:44 | Jun 30th, 2015

James wants to catch up before he leaves for his silent retreat to finish his new book. His phone has been exploding with questions and today he's trying to get through a few of them. (If you listen closely you'll hear him tell Claudia not to be so ...Show More

10:24 | Jun 29th, 2015

James was giving a talk to 150 people in Hoboken, New Jersey last week. Before the talk, he took a walk to prepare, settled into a café, took out his waiter's pad, and jotted down notes. A few tables away at the café, a dad read a newspaper while h...Show More

25:57 | Jun 26th, 2015

Today is a huge day for all of us at The Choose Yourself Network. Today we're publishing our 300th episode of Ask Altucher. What started as an experiment has now become a way of life for so many people, including us. So from James, Claudia, myself,...Show More

15:39 | Jun 25th, 2015

"Dr. Altucher" is in the house today. Well he's not really a doctor but he plays one on Twitter. Today's question is, "What is the best way to teach your kids about business?" James has a few very interesting nonconventional ideas. First, walk up ...Show More

14:32 | Jun 24th, 2015

James 13-year-old daughter explains to him today that the safest way to make money is to get a job with a steady salary. As you can imagine, James disagrees. He says DON'T focus on a salary. If you have a salary you can still get fired at any time,...Show More

08:46 | Jun 23rd, 2015

Don't try to predict the future. When you're 19 years old, you're going to make every mistake possible. We all do it, but that doesn't mean that your relationship isn't meaningful. Don't regret. Don't be anxious. Stay focused on the present. List...Show More

11:03 | Jun 22nd, 2015

"Can a person be too humble," was the question asked of James today. James says he doesn't think that's the real question. The real question should be, "Should I be so humble that I let people walk all over me?" The easy answer is, "No." But there...Show More

14:01 | Jun 19th, 2015

Yesterday, James noticed on Amazon that there was a second version of The Choose Yourself Guide to Wealth. Someone had hacked James' book and made himself the editor so he could sell it and get paid. Claudia called Amazon and went ballistic when no...Show More

38:42 | Jun 18th, 2015

Hal Elrod died. We're not talking metaphorically; he actually died in a head-on car accident. Driving home in his new car he was hit head on by a drunk driver. He bled to death on the side of the freeway. After six days in a coma he woke up to find...Show More

17:57 | Jun 17th, 2015

James has a list... First, having any opinion at all is a mistake for any young person. Second, you were not put on this earth for any special purpose. Stop searching for your purpose in life. It only causes unnecessary stress. Just do want you wa...Show More

10:58 | Jun 16th, 2015

Everyone's happiness is different, special, and customized just for them by them. Is happiness something inside you or is it outside of you? James and Claudia explain the difference. Regards, David Newman P.S. NOT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THE REST O...Show More

35:32 | Jun 15th, 2015

Last week in our Ask Altucher episode #286: Help I'm Homeless and episode #283: Will You Go Broke Choosing Yourself? James and Claudia talked about being homeless. Today they interview Maja Gray who is living, as she calls it, location independent. ...Show More

07:36 | Jun 12th, 2015

James and Claudia tackled todays question about too many choices a little differently today. Claudia thought you should begin with focusing and James felt you should instead just pick anything and get going.  Do the first, simplest thing you can fi...Show More

17:45 | Jun 11th, 2015

You can't be productive all day every day. First, you must read. When you read, you get the distilled, curated life of the writer. The author becomes your virtual mentor. Second, you must sleep. If you don't get enough sleep, your brain just isn't ...Show More

37:05 | Jun 10th, 2015

Mark Messick dropped out of school at age 11 and that's when his real education began. It wasn't his choice. He was comfortable in his "normal" life but his family was about to make a few quick, short-term moves and it was easier for him to be home ...Show More

14:10 | Jun 9th, 2015

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I want to start a business, but I'm afraid I'm going to go broke?" Somehow, when you work for someone else, you feel more stable. But that's just not the case. They can fire you at any time. There's no stability i...Show More

13:39 | Jun 8th, 2015

Last Thursday on our Ask Altucher Episode #283: Will you Go Broke Choosing Yourself? James said: "How many homeless people do you know? It's harder to become homeless than you think." And while he still believes that to be true, James had a long-ti...Show More

16:15 | Jun 5th, 2015

"Dr. Claudia" is in the house today. Back pain is a major problem for many people, yet for most it's easily curable. Here are a few quick exercises that may help. 1.Back away from your desk. While you're still sitting, open your legs and let your ...Show More

09:33 | Jun 4th, 2015

Do you feel anxious when you're not working, or not studying? Anxiety is built into all of us. It's in our DNA. We had to be anxious or we'd be eaten. When you feel anxious, think about it, realize it, notice it and relax. Most anxiety is pretty u...Show More

17:56 | Jun 3rd, 2015

James has shut up. He's not talking... except on this show. He's saving his voice for a special project. Today's question is an important one. It's about fear. The fear of becoming homeless if you choose yourself. How many homeless people do you kn...Show More

13:03 | Jun 2nd, 2015

Another podcast on the go today... James received a text from a young listener who wants to earn a quick $5,000 so he can travel to Thailand. He asks, "What's a quick and easy way to make some fast money?" The easiest way is to do something online...Show More

11:57 | Jun 1st, 2015

We want to thank Jerry Seinfeld for coming up his original show, "Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee." Today we ripped off the title. James and Claudia are on the way to a dance recital for James' daughter and decided to try something new today. A po...Show More

31:24 | May 29th, 2015

"Ocean's 13" and "Rounders" writer Brian Koppelman talks with James today about why reading fiction is so valuable. No matter what field you're in there's tremendous benefit to reading fiction as part of the diet of what you read. Brian says, ficti...Show More

28:01 | May 28th, 2015

Two entrepreneurs, Robert (Bobby) Edwards and his mother, Judy Edwards who presented on Shark Tank talk with James today about what life is like after the show. They did a deal with Lori Greiner that was a game-changer for them. Their product, Squa...Show More

11:53 | May 27th, 2015

"It's important to lack focus." Both Newton and Einstein were fans of this idea... Let your mind drift off and see what happens. Maybe your best ideas come while you're in the shower or as you're drifting off to sleep. Claudia keeps a pen and pape...Show More

10:14 | May 26th, 2015

If you put yourself into the public domain, be prepared. There are a lot of haters out there. No matter who you are, one in 10, one in 20, or one in whatever will hate you. Nobody is above it. It will happen. And it hurts... So what should you do...Show More

18:53 | May 22nd, 2015

We're lucky... We're living at a very special time in history. Startup companies have so much cash that if you're smart, you can legally grab a bunch of it. Greg Muender did. He became a part-time Uber and Lyft driver to help put his wife through me...Show More

24:57 | May 21st, 2015

Do you carry around a dream in your back pocket? Rollie Peterkin did. He left a cushy job on Wall Street to go to Peru and get punched in the face... And he loved it. So what's next? His world is now wide open. Listen to Rollie's story in today'...Show More

13:07 | May 20th, 2015

Someone once asked Mohammad Ali how many push-ups he does. He said he has no idea. He doesn’t start counting until it starts hurting. How do you think about work? Do you get tense, anxious and overwhelmed? The key is find one thing that you really ...Show More

14:48 | May 19th, 2015

Exercising is something you have to constantly work on. It's not something you can do for a while and then never need again. First, unclutter. Give away anything you really don't need. Second, remove from your life the people that drag you down. T...Show More

1:01:01 | May 18th, 2015

One of the most frequently asked questions we get relates to how to make more money.  Today, James and Claudia talk to Alex and Mimi Ikonn who've figured out one of the formulas.  They took a simple idea, something that really resonated with them p...Show More

10:09 | May 15th, 2015

James flips this question around and asks Claudia, "What have you learned?"  They talk about many of the misconceptions that exist about the things you've "learned." Including how to learn quickly. Listen as James and Claudia talk about what you s...Show More

07:53 | May 14th, 2015

What does James want people to say at his funeral? He could care less... We all have two lists: your résumé list and your eulogy list. No one is going to stand up at your funeral and read your résumé. Instead, they're more likely to stand up and t...Show More

12:48 | May 13th, 2015

To write well, you need to continually exercise your brain muscle. As James says, one of the best books on writing is Stephen King's book, On Writing. King says that after a bad bicycle accident, he stopped writing for a few weeks while he healed. ...Show More

10:37 | May 12th, 2015

This week on Quora both James and Claudia answered the same question, which was, "What is the one word you need to know to make you rich? The funny thing is, their answers appeared to be exact opposites. Claudia's answer was "Yes" and" and James' a...Show More

07:35 | May 11th, 2015

James is thinking about giving up e-mail. His kids are only using Telegram and he wants to see what will happen. Claudia believes she has a better idea… and it's changing her life already. She stopped all notifications on her phone. She says it's g...Show More

31:36 | May 8th, 2015

Gillian Zoe Segal joins James and Claudia today to talk about how you can get any mentor in the world. She interviewed "everyone" for her new book Getting There: A Book of Mentors. People like Warren Buffett, Sarah Blakely, Michael Bloomberg, Kathy ...Show More

14:17 | May 7th, 2015

Last week James was invited to do a video for Business Insider on whether you should put money into your 401(k). People went crazy attacking James. Not his arguments against saving within a 401(k), they attacked him personally. Here's the scenario ...Show More

12:44 | May 6th, 2015

One of our past Ask Altucher guests Matt Capala from episode 245 emailed Claudia with our question of today. Matt wants to know how to get the skills and passions he used to have, but that he has let slip recently For Matt specifically, chess was s...Show More

11:06 | May 5th, 2015

Claudia loves this quote and James hates it. Today they debate this famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt and what it means to each of them. In the broadest sense of the word, this quote can seem a little ridiculous, but as they talk about it – and rep...Show More

14:15 | May 4th, 2015

How can you say "no" without hurting someone's feelings? If your immediate reaction isn't "hell yeah," than you should probably say "no." Unless your career is speaking, then don't say "yes" just because you're being paid. There is a right way to s...Show More

11:16 | May 1st, 2015

The most engaged article on LinkedIn last year was James' article on the "10 Reasons You Have to Quit Your Job in 2014." But today, James is going to tell you why you might want to keep your job. One reason may be that you're creating your own new ...Show More

12:56 | Apr 30th, 2015

Recently, James met with one of the current presidential candidates and came away with nothing new. He realized that everyone is out for themselves and for their own self-interests. That's something he already knew. James had the opportunity to ask...Show More

08:58 | Apr 29th, 2015

Today’s question is going to be a controversial one.  Our listener is under water on his mortgage and wants to know if he should stop paying it. James says, absolutely. When you took out a mortgage you signed a contract. If you can’t pay it than s...Show More

12:38 | Apr 28th, 2015

What makes a good leader? A lot of people give advice on this topic, but should you take their advice? Maybe not... James says... A good leader should give everyone who works for them a detailed plan on what they should be doing and what their goa...Show More

11:29 | Apr 27th, 2015

James says it's not focus that matters the most. It's "decluttering" that really makes the biggest difference. Get rid of negative people, stop arguing with people, don't go to meetings or conferences that are marginal, and follow Warren Buffett's 5...Show More

13:11 | Apr 24th, 2015

Today's question is a delicate one. A listener texted in to ask what James thinks about abortion. James says that there are a few topics that no matter which side you're on, everyone hates you. This is one of those questions, but it's a very import...Show More

19:16 | Apr 23rd, 2015

Claudia showed James "the perfect resume" yesterday. After taking a look at it, James had to agree. This should be the standard resume anyone should use going forward. The resume was from a woman named Nina, who wanted to work at Airbnb. So, she cu...Show More

17:49 | Apr 22nd, 2015

Yesterday, James and Claudia covered a bunch of myths that have been drilled into us. Here's a link to listen to yesterday's episode if you missed it. Today, they talk about the myths we believe in regarding money, family, government, wars, and reli...Show More

15:53 | Apr 21st, 2015

James likes to beat his kids (you’ll have to listen to find out why) But that's not today's question. Today, James and Claudia cover a bunch of myths that have been drilled into us. Listen to hear how many of these myths you've fallen for. Regard...Show More

10:54 | Apr 20th, 2015

James is so excited that he can hardly handle it... James has used "The Force" to help him solve a major business problem he experienced in one of his earlier companies. He decided not to be angry, and he wasn't going to be scared. He calmed down a...Show More

12:06 | Apr 17th, 2015

If you're in a service business, you need to give your friendship away for free at first. But be careful, and make sure the friendship is reciprocal. Take each individual client on a case-by-case basis. Every client is different. Regards, David ...Show More

13:05 | Apr 16th, 2015

Claudia threw out all of her dinner plates since she wants to live longer, but that's not today's question. Today, James wanted to talk about creativity and the power of a partnership. 1 + 1 = Teamwork Teamwork can help you become a creative geniu...Show More

10:31 | Apr 15th, 2015

Your boss has a good reason to hate you. Too many employees don't want to be proactive. They want more money and bigger titles, but they don't want to tie their own success to the success of the company they work for. Figure out a way to tie your s...Show More

13:57 | Apr 14th, 2015

Yes, money was a factor, but not the most important factor. Listen to what was the most important thing. Regards, David P.S. As you can tell, James is fiercely committed to helping people lead happier, wealthier, and more fulfilling lives.   Th...Show More

08:06 | Apr 13th, 2015

Who do you want to do business with – honest, forthright, and trustworthy people or aggressive sharks? James says honestly pays every time. Being a shark is a terrible strategy. In the long term, it will always catch up with you. Regards, David ...Show More

16:45 | Apr 10th, 2015

The average successful multimillionaire has roughly seven to 10 streams of income. Becoming an entrepreneur often means that you only have one; it may be a very large income but it's usually from just one source. James recommends working on multipl...Show More

27:05 | Apr 9th, 2015

How can I make money on my blog is a question James gets over and over and over again. So today he and Claudia call an expert in the field of SEO, Matt Capala, to learn some of the secrets. James and Claudia visited Matt in his NYU class last week ...Show More

15:00 | Apr 8th, 2015

When are you most creative – when you're working alone or when you're working in a team? James used to work alone, but in about 2010, Claudia gave him some feedback, a "spark." And as he says, "he's never looked back," and his work is much better. ...Show More

27:42 | Apr 7th, 2015

Mancal Denton went to prison. Not jail... prison. He was sent to the Texas State Penitentiary and served a six-month prison term there. He joins James today to talk about the mistakes he made and why he did it. He was convicted of stealing about 1...Show More

17:13 | Apr 6th, 2015

Ben from London is skeptical that writing down your 10 ideas a day and then giving them away will really help you generate income. James explains that this type of thinking comes from our evolutionary instinct towards scarcity. Life is not a zero-s...Show More

54:17 | Apr 3rd, 2015

We sent you Part 1 of this amazing interview with Mark Ford on Tuesday and today we're releasing Part 2. If you've not listened to Part 1 click here to start there.   Make sure you go to and learn how you can claim your free copy o...Show More

14:24 | Apr 2nd, 2015

No matter how you invest, James says the best investment is to invest in yourself. But today he and Claudia cover 401(k)s. You'll hear Claudia's story about how hers never made her any money. But James says that's not the "scam." The real problem i...Show More

30:15 | Apr 1st, 2015

Dorie Clark is a marketing strategy consultant, professional speaker, and frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Entrepreneur,and the World Economic Forum blog. Recognized as a "branding expert" by the Associated Press, Fortune,...Show More

53:48 | Mar 31st, 2015

Today we have a very special show for you.  James hopped a plane to Palm Beach and recorded this two-part show from this gentleman’s waterfront mansion. He’s is a true legend in the field of entrepreneurship and investing having started over 100 com...Show More

39:35 | Mar 30th, 2015

Drew Canole – a nutrition specialist, transformation specialist, and national spokesperson for the benefits of juicing vegetables for health and vitality – joins James and Claudia today to talk about getting healthy. Drew goes way beyond just eating...Show More

25:07 | Mar 27th, 2015

Steve DiNisio joins James today to explain how, by helping liquidate failed businesses, he's created a seven-figure income for himself. Today they dig into some of the basic reasons why business fail and what they should be doing at the very beginni...Show More

34:22 | Mar 26th, 2015

Today is a very special episode of Ask Altucher. Our original co-host, Aaron Brabham, is back for a long-overdue reunion. Aaron decided a few months ago to "choose himself." He moved from snowy Baltimore to sunny San Diego to work on the projects he...Show More

12:56 | Mar 25th, 2015

James hits Claudia with another idea today. As he says, you are allowed to have bad ideas. Today's idea is called "The Lottery Diet." You'll have to tune in to find out what his idea is all about. Today's question comes from a listener who wants to...Show More

10:32 | Mar 24th, 2015

Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know, "Should I quit my job and open a yoga studio?" James says, "If you're leaving your job, don't start a yoga studio." The goal to choosing yourself is to make money while you sleep. The probl...Show More

08:30 | Mar 23rd, 2015

Today's question came from a listener who wants to know "How much money do I need before I quit my job?" James says, "ZERO!" But James recommends staying with the job you already have while you start your new business. You need to create a second s...Show More

09:53 | Mar 20th, 2015

Today's question came from a listener who wants to know if you should trust your friends in business. James says you should never go into business with people you don't trust. Or to take it a step farther, you shouldn't have friends you can't trust....Show More

13:10 | Mar 19th, 2015

Today's question came from a listener who was laid off after 10 years at his last company. He's interested in the wine business and is wondering if he can make a living in the wine e-commerce space. James first says... Congratulations! First, think...Show More

06:53 | Mar 18th, 2015

For those who are interested, I decided to launch a new monthly newsletter, The Altucher Report. It's going to be a little more specific and much more tactical than my free blog posts. It's brand new and I'm selling it for just $39 per year with a ...Show More

10:32 | Mar 17th, 2015

Today, James is going to fire off quick answers to a bunch of questions. He talks about karma, investing, and relationships. He answers a question about his goals. We'd love to hear about your "Choose Yourself" stories. Send your stories to: askjam...Show More

09:38 | Mar 16th, 2015

James always says that you should over-promise and over-deliver. Though, most people say you should under-promise and then over-deliver. The over-promise gets you beyond what people think you might be able to do. Yes, it's stressful, but you'll stan...Show More

09:56 | Mar 13th, 2015

Today's question for James is, would he home school his children? James says absolutely, but only after the sixth grade. Well, sort of... Instead he would "un-school" his kids. All they'd have to do is read one book per week and then discuss it wit...Show More

10:13 | Mar 12th, 2015

Is James' daily practice a way out of an addiction? James says yes and no... First, you need to become physically healthy. You need to sleep well, eat well, and exercise at least a little. Listen today as James talks through becoming emotionally h...Show More

08:18 | Mar 11th, 2015

Today's questioner wants to know if James' daily 1% improvement comes from doing something brand new. His answer is yes, and no... Plus, today James answers a second question about how to format an e-mail and write a subject line so it gets opened ...Show More

11:58 | Mar 10th, 2015

Is it ethical to just walk out of a meeting, quit your job, and never return? Today, James talks about your legal and ethical responsibilities. When James walked out, he felt it was the best thing to do for all parties involved. Click here to liste...Show More

09:12 | Mar 9th, 2015

What's the deal with The Paleo Diet? James says screw it, it's just another marketing message. Our lifestyle is so different from that of our ancestors. We sit at work all day and watch TV all night, between trips to the refrigerator. Today, James...Show More

08:24 | Mar 6th, 2015

How do I execute on my ideas?   It's extremely hard to come up with an idea worth executing. Execution is just a subset of ideas.   When you have a good idea, the next day you should make list of 10 ideas on how to move your idea forward.   I w...Show More

07:07 | Mar 5th, 2015

Alan wants to know why I leas my car instead of buying it. I'm  a bit conflicted about which is better – buying or leasing. Today a car is really a computer with a bunch of metal wrapped around it. With technology moving so quickly, I don't want to...Show More

09:32 | Mar 4th, 2015

Don't Run Over a Baby in the Middle of the Snow by James Altucher   The car started to skid and swerve and we couldn't stop. It was all my fault. I had sped up while going into a sharp curve. I was just fooling around. The entire road was ice. My...Show More

12:25 | Mar 3rd, 2015

My new book, The Choose Yourself Guide To Wealth, is now available. I've been working on this book all my life. I believe this is the financial book for today's new economy and for my members. Every month, I'll be sending them updates. Listen to to...Show More

06:29 | Mar 2nd, 2015

What can you do if someone steals your website? Amazingly, this is more common than you think. James says to just move on… There's nothing you can do. No one can compete with you being you. If you have the passion and the enthusiasm for your busin...Show More

11:06 | Feb 27th, 2015

James says suffering is extremely important, yet it's always horrible. But a lot of people believe that through their suffering, they've paid their dues. James doesn't see it this way. It's important to learn from your suffering. If you just suffer...Show More

1:11:07 | Feb 26th, 2015

Kevin Kelly is Senior Maverick at Wired magazine. He co-founded Wired in 1993, and served as its executive editor from its inception until 1999. He is also editor and publisher of the Cool Tools website, which gets half a million unique visitors per...Show More

13:18 | Feb 26th, 2015

Uber is popping up everywhere and it's a lot more than just a new way to hire a ride.   Jon Youshaei todays guest on Ask Altucher, shares his great story first published in Forbes about the "Uberpreneur" Gavin Escolar.

10:17 | Feb 25th, 2015

Today James does the show in Spanish... Just kidding. Roma wrote to James asking him where his daughter can publish her work. Whether it's a written piece, a video, or an audio recording, it doesn't matter. There's so much opportunity for kids to g...Show More

08:52 | Feb 24th, 2015

A listener from Brazil writes in and asks James what's on his bucket list. James says he purposely doesn't have a bucket list. Instead he wants to focus on every day. "Was I creative today?" Did I follow my daily practices today? Did I surround mys...Show More

14:17 | Feb 23rd, 2015

What businesses can be created to take advantage of the lack of privacy in the times we live in? James tells us you have to assume privacy is gone. He tells us of an idea he has to build a business and Claudia has an idea for a privacy product.   ...Show More

14:32 | Feb 20th, 2015

Are you a great negotiator? Most people think they are. But the reality is most people are terrible negotiators. James says first, the better negotiator will have a big list. The list needs to be big enough so you can give away some of the items fro...Show More

14:49 | Feb 18th, 2015

Whenever Claudia gets an email asking for feedback from a service she's recently used, she responds with "10 Ideas." She has been using 99Designs recently to design the covers for the new Special Bonus Reports to go along with the launch of James' n...Show More

53:26 | Feb 17th, 2015

Andy Weir followed his dream. Ever since he was a small boy he wanted to be a writer, but it took him a long time to find success. His first short story, The Egg, brought him a bit of notoriety. This thousand-word story got passed around on blog sit...Show More

11:55 | Feb 17th, 2015

Today's show is very special. The first question comes from one of our listeners about making business deals through mergers and acquisitions. James says the real work begins after both parties decide on the deal. It's always about the personalitie...Show More

27:00 | Feb 13th, 2015

James and Claudia talk with Ari Whitten, author of the book The Low Carb Myth,to talk aboutwhy people get fat and get unhealthy. Do carbohydrates make you fat? His conclusions are surprising. He disagrees strongly that we get fat because we are la...Show More

12:41 | Feb 12th, 2015

What's a "Choose Yourself" meet-up? When a group of people get together and share ideas... well that's a great start. Claudia shares her thoughts on how to get involved and keep the meet-up moving in the right direction. •Participate •Speak up ...Show More

12:52 | Feb 11th, 2015

Did you miss us? Yesterday was so crazy that James and Claudia just couldn't do an Ask Altucher show. You'll hear why on today's show. But today James had a great question. "Why not save?" James says, don't go buy a big house or a college educatio...Show More

08:27 | Feb 9th, 2015

Claudia, Claudia, Claudia asks James "What's the difference between a loser and a winner?" James loves this question and thinks it through with us today. A winner starts with a basic idea. We've all encountered some stressful moments in our lives. ...Show More

50:51 | Feb 5th, 2015

How we step outside of our comfort zone to achieve success? It is a question James gets asked all the time. His recent discussion with Seth Godin really dives into it... a problem many of us constantly deal with. Seth tells James that he had to wri...Show More

12:27 | Feb 4th, 2015

When everything is going wrong, James says to... subtract. Listen today and you'll understand. Plus, today's show has a little bit of everything thrown into it. First you'll get a list of a couple of new books James has been reading, a hint of a c...Show More

06:20 | Feb 3rd, 2015

James' youngest daughter Mollie joins him again and asks James what he does in the afternoon? James tells her he spends the first few hours of every day reading; he has a cup of coffee and then does his writing. From 8am to 11am your brain is at its...Show More

08:33 | Feb 2nd, 2015

James youngest daughter Mollie joins him today to talk about what technology young teenagers are interested in today.  Mollie than asks James today’s question,  “What you should do if you’re shy?” James tells her you need to practice talking to peo...Show More

39:17 | Jan 30th, 2015

Casey Neistat is an American film director, producer, and creator of popular YouTube videos. While he has worked in almost every aspect of video making, he tells James that YouTube is his absolute passion. He chose to leave mainstream media for You...Show More

12:07 | Jan 29th, 2015

Does the self-help industry help? James says they're 99% useless but Claudia disagrees. They do both agree that you need to take time to focus on yourself before anything else.   It's a very important discussion, I promise it will make you think.

10:23 | Jan 28th, 2015

As an entrepreneur, you're going to make more bad decisions than good ones. Even the smartest entrepreneurs constantly make decisions they have to undo. There's an extremely small difference between a bad entrepreneur and a really great one. Today...Show More

10:26 | Jan 27th, 2015

You've been asked to give a speech, so how can you capitalize on this to be asked back? First, nix the Power Point. Second, always be a storyteller. Tell a story that relates to your talk. People will relate to you if you tell a great story. Third...Show More

08:45 | Jan 26th, 2015

How can I build a media empire? James says, first you have to realize it takes years. Find a writing voice, write constantly, and put that article everywhere you can. People will write back to you and eventually you'll get those all-important testi...Show More

33:29 | Jan 23rd, 2015

Nicole Lapin, known for being the youngest anchor ever at CNN and then going on to claim the same title at CNBC – where she anchored "Worldwide Exchange" and contributed to "Morning Joe" and "The Today Show" – joins James on today's special edition o...Show More

05:53 | Jan 22nd, 2015

Today we're going to do something a little bit different. Hi, my name is David Newman and I'm the Executive Producer for all of James' podcasts. Yesterday, while Claudia and James were having lunch, she turned on her phone and recorded their conver...Show More

28:16 | Jan 21st, 2015

Building connections and building relationships are how you bring real value to the world around you. Jayson Gaignard is a super-connector. He's two degrees of separation from anyone you want to meet. Broke and $250,000 in debt, Jayson thought abou...Show More

12:34 | Jan 20th, 2015

Claudia and I threw out everything we owned this weekend. We threw out 98% of everything. There are about 30 garbage bags and another 20 boxes filled with stuff. "Stuff." We had just spent six weeks traveling around and except for the stuff we were...Show More

14:12 | Jan 19th, 2015

Should you buy a home? No... Almost never. Time is always more valuable than money and you're going to spend a huge amount of your time repairing your home. Things constantly break and they're expensive in both your time and your money to get fixe...Show More

26:10 | Jan 16th, 2015

How do you transform your life? The answer is simple. Come up with 10 ideas a day. Every day. It doesn't matter if they are good or bad; the point is to exercise your idea muscle, to make it sweat. Today James talks with Claudia about her brand new...Show More

33:28 | Jan 15th, 2015

Branden Hampton's a master of making money on social media and today James and Claudia ask him to help them understand it. First off, James asks him what his top four social media sites are today. Hands down, Instagram is number one today, followed...Show More

28:49 | Jan 14th, 2015

Can you really travel the world if you don’t have a bunch of money?  The simple answer is yes… Today James and Claudia call their new friend Matt Kepnes who just wrote the new book How to Travel the World on $50 a Day  He shares with us many of th...Show More

08:41 | Jan 13th, 2015

James is a big fan of Apple products, but he says he's going to pay for an iPhone's older technology. He's using a Samsung Galaxy Note 4. He likes the larger screen and calls it the best phone out there. Listen here and let us know what you think. ...Show More

11:44 | Jan 12th, 2015

"How do I make money if I just got thrown out of graduate school?" Easy, you get a job... Get your feet on the ground and get to work. You'll begin to get a feeling for what people really want and you should start thinking about how you can solve t...Show More

48:40 | Jan 9th, 2015

James and Claudia call Vani Hani, author of The Food Babe, to talk about her inspiration for living a healthy life and to investigate what is really in our food, how it's grown, and what chemicals are used in its production. Do you know what's reall...Show More

13:37 | Jan 8th, 2015

“I lost my job and I’ve piled up a huge amount of credit card debt. I just got a new job but I’m only making $11/hr.  What should I do?” James says – Stop making any payments on your credit cards. You can’t afford to pay. I know this goes against w...Show More

12:53 | Jan 7th, 2015

You don't have to go to college to find your passion. College doesn't make you smarter. You make yourself smarter by studying what you're passionate about. Find a mentor and model yourself after them.   You have to find your passion and college i...Show More

14:34 | Jan 6th, 2015

Today's question is a great one. "Should I take a promotion if it means I'll have to work longer hours and sacrifice my Choose Yourself projects?" James suggests you take a good look at what this promotion really means... It means a lot more work f...Show More

10:44 | Jan 5th, 2015

"Online dating doesn't seem to be working. Is there anything wrong with me?"  James says there's nothing wrong with the woman who asks this question. Online dating has reduced the value of a relationship just due to the sheer volume and the unlimite...Show More

15:33 | Jan 2nd, 2015

James and Claudia tell their New Year celebration stories and talk about whether any of the holidays we celebrate really make sense. Halloween, Hanukkah, Easter, Independence Day, Thanksgiving... James debunks the ways we celebrate all of them. Lis...Show More

06:26 | Jan 1st, 2015

The world around us is changing rapidly and what's old is new again. James' daughter Mollie asks James why he gives away his real phone number for people to text him questions for this show. We used to contact each other via telephone, then it was ...Show More

06:57 | Dec 31st, 2014

James' daughter Mollie sits in for Claudia today and asks James... What did you learn in 2014 and how will that affect you in 2015? Success is measured in decades...   Don't get disappointed in small setbacks. Start today... a decade can pass in ...Show More

08:58 | Dec 30th, 2014

Not every couple's timetable is in sync.    Today's question comes via James' text and is a difficult one.    A man writes in...    I'm in love with my woman and we've been together for a while. She wants to have children and I don't.    Shou...Show More

16:10 | Dec 29th, 2014

You've got an idea; do you need a business plan to launch it? James says yes sometimes, but not the kind of plan you're probably used to. Forget the PowerPoint with a ton of numbers, graphs, and charts. "And don't ever tell me that there's 1.3 billi...Show More

13:38 | Dec 26th, 2014

James and Claudia are celebrating Christmas by cheating on their paleo diet.  We hope you all are enjoying yours. Is blood really thicker than water? Do you have to be around those that are bad for you? Why?   Why not make it a point to be aroun...Show More

12:19 | Dec 25th, 2014

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from all of us to all of you.  This year make sure you don’t forget to Choose Yourself… Episode #73 of The James Altucher Show was about givers and takers with Adam Grant.  This was a fantastic show and if you’ve ...Show More

13:03 | Dec 24th, 2014

Our question comes today from Holland and Claudia gives us all a quick lesson in geography. Many small entrepreneurs are great at their specialty but may not be good at or like to do the accounting or the technology or maybe hate marketing. Ask the...Show More

11:09 | Dec 23rd, 2014

The no-complaint diet says that for ten days you can't complain about anything. If you complain, you have to start again As James says, you'll never get there. It's the practice that important. Complaint bonding is an evolutionary trait that we as ...Show More

10:27 | Dec 22nd, 2014

Do you have a great idea but you're afraid that if you tell someone, they're going to steal it...   Well, as James tells us today there is no real way to protect your idea. But if you're more passionate about your idea than anyone else, then you ca...Show More

13:57 | Dec 19th, 2014

Have you set your 2015 goals yet?    James doesn't make goals. Instead he tries to improve incrementally 1% better every day... spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically.    Instead of goals, James sets themes.    Before you pull out t...Show More

11:51 | Dec 18th, 2014

Getting your movie produced through the traditional method is extremely difficult. But so is raising the money to do it yourself.   So James suggests you try both routes.   The cost of producing your own movie has gone way, way down.   Claudia ...Show More

25:01 | Dec 17th, 2014

Do you have a great idea for a product but have no idea how to raise the money to get it launched? Why not try crowdfunding?   Today James calls the expert, Clay Hebert and gives you all the tricks.   He says you need to act like the opposite of ...Show More

11:48 | Dec 16th, 2014

Today we start off with a cooking class, not really.   Claudia asks James, how did you start your day today?    James says, "The key to success in life is what you do in the morning." Turn off your phone, laptop, and TV and go to bed early. Getti...Show More

13:22 | Dec 15th, 2014

Getting that last 1% of your project finished is a problem so many of us experience.   James says it's a problem he has always had to deal with and can totally relate to. So here are a few tricks he uses to get that last 1% done.   Try these... ...Show More

09:55 | Dec 12th, 2014

When is the right time and what message does that send?    That depends...    Do you want to have a relationship or are you just looking for a sexual partner? After you have sex, your relationship changes.    Do you have any rules in place -13 ...Show More