Social Science

Awesome Etiquette

The Emily Post Institute


Hosts Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning answer audience questions about modern etiquette with advice based on consideration, respect, and honesty. Like their great-great-grandmother, Emily Post, Lizzie and Dan look for the reasons behinds the tradi...Show More

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Episode #169: Please, Shhhhhhh

45:02 | Dec 4th, 2017

On today’s we take your questions about long hallway hellos, how a caregiver can speak up, what to call a widow, sample language for a college student who wants to meditate and season ticket holders who want others to shhhhhh. Plus your feedback, eti...Show More

Episode 144: Gentleman First???

52:46 | Jun 12th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie answer your etiquette questions on whose name comes first, cat sitter thank yous, and dinner guest no shows. Plus feedback, an etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on Family Gatherings.

Episode #118: Family Guest Gluttony

1:04:02 | Dec 12th, 2016

You love to entertain family and friends and you are generous to a fault. But there's one family member in particular who always succeeds in eating and drinking you out of house and home and is offended by hints to curb his appetite. When is it time ...Show More

Episode #113: Post Election Etiquette

1:02:07 | Nov 7th, 2016

One of the most bitter, divisive elections in modern history is over. Whether your candidate won or lost, can good etiquette heal a wounded nation?

Episode #229: Phone call faux pas

50:29 | Jan 28th

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your questions on calling out adult children, phone call faux pas, dining out with toddlers, engagement gifts for old friends, and tipping for non-taxi car services. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette sal...Show More

Episode #228: Dress Details

54:29 | Jan 21st

On today’s show we take your questions on delicate dress details, an address conundrum, who gets the armrests, when your host doesn’t serve dinner, and a formal luncheon flop. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment inspired by ...Show More

Episode #227: Brunch Anyone?

56:03 | Jan 14th

On today’s show we take your questions on gifts that aren’t great for kids, being called out on body language at the table, thank yous for recommendations, condolence cards between family members and how to handle brunch after a wedding when no one’s...Show More

Episode #226: No Girls?

57:31 | Jan 7th

On today’s show we reply to ladies being left off invitations, trouble with visitors, thank you notes as gifts, and thanking you for a generous favor. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on travel etiquette. The sustaining m...Show More

Episode #225: Happy 2019!

47:18 | Dec 31st, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on buying wine for the booze-bus, gift card quandaries, fold over cards, unexpected visitors during naps, and a question about saying thank you instead of I’m sorry. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and post...Show More

Episode #224: Family Gifts

59:02 | Dec 24th, 2018

We take your questions on the family gift exchange, long lost thank-yous, texting "no" to casual parties, ring around the baggage carousel, and wearing earbuds at home. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on gifting. The sus...Show More

Episode #223: New Address

49:35 | Dec 17th, 2018

We take your questions on alerting others to your new address, sick kiddos coming to parties, noise and neighbors, saying no to parties, and handling rude comments made by family. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript segment on setting...Show More

Episode #222: Here's Looking at You

54:21 | Dec 10th, 2018

We take your questions on cracking joints in public, saying no problem, plus one problems, eye contact at dinner, and friends who text favor requests. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Holiday Cards. The members extra q...Show More

Episode #221: Gift to Who?

49:14 | Dec 3rd, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on who should you gift to, what family name to use, greeting guests at the door, not wanting people to accommodate your food restriction and how long you should talk with other guests. Plus your feedback, etique...Show More

Episode #220: Soup Spoon Sipping

44:58 | Nov 26th, 2018

On today’s show we take on sipping from soupspoons, a friend’s generosity, being asked to host a baby shower last minute and receiving holiday cards for a deceased parent. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript segment on ...Show More

Episode #219: Happy Thanksgiving

45:04 | Nov 19th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on casual Thanksgiving dinner invitations, saucy knives, who pays for broken gifts, requesting gift cards as payment and hand delivering mail. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on "tu...Show More

Episode #218: Holiday Hosting

53:01 | Nov 12th, 2018

We take your questions about names on Holiday cards, how to insist on cooking the meal?, recommendations - after a few years and cultural differences in wedding plans. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript segment on “The Courteous No”....Show More

Episode #217: Staggered Start

1:00:43 | Nov 6th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on coffe shop meet-up strategies, debating dinner out "On us", how to respond to unintentionally rude exclamations, steping in to organize as an in-law, and whether or not to use staggered party start times to m...Show More

Episode #216: Stationery Gifts

55:57 | Oct 29th, 2018

We take your questions on double invitations, buying gifts for the boss, eye contact etiquette, interrupting your server while they read specials and a question about stationery as a gift. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript segment f...Show More

Episode #215: Who's Invited?

50:37 | Oct 22nd, 2018

We take your questions on saying thank you after a raise, if your partner is invited to a co-workers party, when a chivalrous act feels forced, replying to thank yous, and then even more questions on thank yous. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute a...Show More

Episode #214: Coffee Favors

50:57 | Oct 15th, 2018

We take your questions on offering to grab someone a coffee, living in your childhood home, your holiday guest list and asking for BIG favors. Plus feedback, etiquette salute and postscript from a listener on discussing infertility. The sustaining me...Show More

Episode #213: Mix and Mingle

47:35 | Oct 8th, 2018

We take your questions on awkward introductions, the problem with no problem, grandma was upset we opened our wedding gifts early, and how to thank a group at work. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript where we explore the mix and ming...Show More

Episode #212: Chilly Warm Wishes

49:21 | Oct 1st, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on critiquing your roommates cooking, reassuring a bride that yes she can have a 2nd reception, should you call friends before coming to town and what to do when your in-laws well wishes seem cold. Plus your fee...Show More

Episode #211: Interrupting Who

55:07 | Sep 23rd, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on receiving a b-day card, interrupting, posthumous thank you notes, canning jars returns and work relationships. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about being better at parties. For sustaining...Show More

Episode #210: They and Them

56:36 | Sep 17th, 2018

We take your questions on they/them pronouns, sending married monogrammed thank-yous before you’re married, handling a couple who is asking you to chip in on their wedding, who should go first walking through doors and how to let those you’ve been ta...Show More

Episode #209: Thank You for Your Support

39:22 | Sep 10th, 2018

On today’s show Lizzie and Guest host Puja Senning take your etiquette questions on informing a host they made you sick, timing for thanking those giving donations, showing appreciation to your boyfriend’s generous family, how long do you have to giv...Show More

Episode #208: After the "M_"

42:56 | Sep 3rd, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on writing on behalf of your daughter, gifts for those who throw a shower, who gets served first in a family, the 'M' on a reply card and minimizing Christmas gifts. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette ...Show More

Episode #207: At the Pump

46:50 | Aug 27th, 2018

We take your questions on gas pump etiquette, separate bedrooms, sending one thank you for all your wedding gifts, hanging out with just one of part a couple, and avoiding the subject of your divorce at your dad’s wedding. Plus your feedback, etiquet...Show More

Episode #206: What Do You Do?

47:31 | Aug 20th, 2018

We answer your questions on following up a RSVP decline, being a chronic canceller, the question of what do you do, partners making individual social plans and invitations from familiar strangers. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript o...Show More

Episode #205: Two Plates One Check

46:16 | Aug 13th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on friends and communication, thank you notes for twins, tipping on split meals, a lack of celebration for a college grad and how to handle a moving away gift. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscri...Show More

Episode #204: Gossip or Good Story

37:04 | Aug 6th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on offering additional sympathy, accessible bathroom etiquette, to stand or not during dinner introductions, thanking group donors and gossip or a good story. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscrip...Show More

Episode #203: A Moving Honesty Crisis

56:01 | Jul 30th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on no thank-you but requests for gift receipts, handling major offenses at work, a crisis of honesty, food shaming and rude comments about your young age. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript on p...Show More

Episode #202: Bare Naked Hellos

49:04 | Jul 23rd, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on accepting 'people' compliments, locker room hellos with coworkers, worrying about potential wedding guests’ behavior, and receiving cool congratulations from a close coworker – plus your feedback, etiquette s...Show More

Episode# 201: Free to Roam

46:15 | Jul 16th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on asking if your ex is attending a wedding, helping others use your child’s full name, new tipping experiences and asking children not to roam in your home. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript a...Show More

Episode #200: 200!

54:46 | Jul 9th, 2018

Lizzie and Dan take your questions about Wedding etiquette follow ups, when annual parties don’t happen, asking strangers to watch your stuff and leaving a surprise party early. Plus feedback, an etiquette salute and postscript from Emily Post’s refl...Show More

Episode #199: New Neighbor Niceties

50:42 | Jul 2nd, 2018

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about accepting compliments about your dog, how to act as the NEW neighbors, wedding guests wanting to bring their own guests and whether or not to give a wedding gift when you contributed ...Show More

Episode #198: Recommendation for the Dogs

45:10 | Jun 25th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions about celebrating Mom’s wedding while keeping it low key, living down a bad recommendation, gifts when you decline a wedding invitation, and daters who offer to pay and then ask for half. Plus your feedback, eti...Show More

Episode #197: Pool Party

52:51 | Jun 18th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions about tablet tipping, a reflection on a short date, assuming someone has a child when they don't, and new pool owners wanting to know how to pool host. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript seg...Show More

Episode #196: Essential Oil Invasion

49:01 | Jun 11th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions about Mom’s love for essential oils when visiting, graduation invitations and announcements, ordering for your partner, and learning to navigate the drama at a new job. Plus your feedback, salute, and a postscri...Show More

Episode #195: On Maple Syrup

57:37 | Jun 4th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions about attending a party when you had a falling out with the hosts, registries for elopements, leaving a living situation and a classic on how to split the check. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postsc...Show More

Episode #194: Let me Tell You How

57:21 | May 29th, 2018

On today’s show we take questions on radios in Ubers, talking with friends about your partner, gifts you can’t bring home, a family whose language is instruction and gifts for graduates degrees. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript s...Show More

Episode #193: Wedding Attire Color Codes?

51:13 | May 21st, 2018

On today’s show we take questions on wedding attire color codes, thanking hospice workers, tech rules at the table, when to include sentiment in a wedding ceremony and should shower hosts give gifts? Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscr...Show More

Episode #192: Name Games

48:47 | May 14th, 2018

On today’s show we take your questions on how to eat strawberries, helping when you overhear a problem at work, when you almost have the name of someone famous, and receiving other people’s emails. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscrip...Show More

Episode #191: Civility for Servers Please

49:24 | May 7th, 2018

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on being served raw food, getting called Dr., offering condolences when the recipient might not remember you, ordering politely and pet free friend visits.

Episode #190: Bowl Trends

1:00:29 | Apr 30th, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on dining in bowls, being unnamed on a wedding invitation, personal favours and professional requests, generous hosts serving generous guests, and family who make decisions for you. Plus your most exc...Show More

Episode #189: Stay off my lawn

58:09 | Apr 23rd, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on bridesmaids and bachelorette parties, children playing on your lawn, potlucks that don’t specify on the invitation, not noisy neighbors being blamed for noise and how to answer repeated questions a...Show More

Episode #188: It's Two Thirty O'clock!

47:45 | Apr 16th, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on two finger food questions, is two thirty o'clock a thing?, zits at the dinner table, party guests not paying attention to invitations and gifts that you don’t really like from someone you really lo...Show More

Episode #187: A Stepmom's Step One: The Wedding

55:36 | Apr 9th, 2018

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on keeping communications simple, dealing with favors you don’t like, helping kids combat shyness, flying first class when senior business colleagues aren’t, and whether or not to invite your future st...Show More

Episode #186: A Shrimpy Situation

47:45 | Apr 2nd, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on rejecting kind offers, how to handle first and middle names on a wedding invitation, Aafollow up question from episode 182 on belated 2nd receptions, how to handle in lieu of gifts for an 80th birt...Show More

Episode #185: Honorifics and Chivalry

57:38 | Mar 26th, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on pictures of engagement rings, community dinner displeasures, honoring honorifics, yoga class guests, and elevator and door chivalry at work. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and...Show More

Episode #184: Weekend Woes

56:52 | Mar 19th, 2018

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on knives as pushers, questions about homeschooling, which job am I interviewing for, no wedding reply card and ski weekend woes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript se...Show More

Episode #183: Dish Me The Info!

55:45 | Mar 12th, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on babies and weddings all at once, a roommate who thinks your kitchen ware is hers, a manager who dumps a problem back on your plate, asking folks for addresses in the digital age, and how to get you...Show More

Episode #182: Slippery Situations

58:54 | Mar 5th, 2018

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on 2nd wedding receptions, soap being swiped from the ladies rest room, offering guests your master bedroom, attending only one of two baby showers, and how much repsonisiblity is on a host to manage g...Show More

Episode # 181: Is It The Right Response?

49:52 | Feb 26th, 2018

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on keto dietary restrictions, thanking folks when travel makes it hard, declining a boss’s casual lunch invite, a wedding guest who is frustrated by a bride’s response, and how not be an answering serv...Show More

Episode #180: Is it Boasting or not?

55:04 | Feb 19th, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on not being the office therapist, when you have too many people to invite to your birthday, who pencils who in when scheduling, and is it boasting or not. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette...Show More

Episode # 179: These Gifts, Please!

50:14 | Feb 12th, 2018

On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on getting the gifts you want at a shower, saying thanks for a thank you gift, what to do with too many bridal shower offers, and how to handle the age old question about age. Plus your mo...Show More

Episode #178: Thanks, But No Thanks!

47:18 | Feb 5th, 2018

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions about tiny tummies and hosts that notice them, condolences and contributions to funerals, a very special question from the hosts of the Home Hour Podcast and how to handle gifts when boundaries have b...Show More

Episode #177: Surprise We're Married!

49:17 | Jan 29th, 2018

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on wedding announcements, managing messaging apps at work, whether or not to write a thank-you note to your SO’s family, how to handle naming a 6th, wedding regrets and finally a very special question....Show More

Episode #176: Welcome Puja

39:31 | Jan 22nd, 2018

On today’s show Dan and Puja take your etiquette questions on managing multiple birthdays, hand delivering cards, hosting guests with allergies and apologizing for the first mistake. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on th...Show More

Episode #175: The Party's Over

45:45 | Jan 15th, 2018

Dan and guest host Cindy Post Senning take your questions on wrapping up a party, lending a hand without giving offense, sending condolences during the holidays and how clean to keep a home. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segme...Show More

Episode #174: RSVP Fails

40:44 | Jan 8th, 2018

We take your etiquette questions on groomsmen expenses, reclining seat backs, bringing wine when you’re already bringing wine and electronic RSVP fails. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on napkins from Margaret Visser's T...Show More

Episode#173: Happy New Year

45:02 | Jan 1st, 2018

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about not getting together with sick friends, a doozy of social awkwardness, travel for bridesmaids and what to do with serious dietary restrictions and food related work events. Plus your ...Show More

Episode #172: Merry Christmas

47:24 | Dec 25th, 2017

Happy holidays from all of us at The Emily Post Institute. We answer your etiquette questions, hear your most excellent feedback, share an etiquette salute and offer a postscript segment on keeping holidays personal.

Episode #171: Prime time Predicaments

56:15 | Dec 18th, 2017

On today’s show we take your questions about primetime predicaments, commenting on other’s food, Christmas parties with co-workers, "No Boxed Gifts" and how to handle missing a marriage announcement by 8 years. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute an...Show More

Episode #170: Booing The Refs

42:22 | Dec 11th, 2017

We take your questions about junior vs. Jr., standing up for greetings once you’re an adult, booing the refs, reluctant hosts and how to address holiday cards to families with multiple names. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segm...Show More

EP #168: The Houseguest & The Hedgehog

51:07 | Nov 30th, 2017

We take your etiquette questions about gifts with the wrong monogram, gifts of gratitude, friends with champagne tastes who complain, and a question about apps - the kind you eat. Your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment where we catc...Show More

Episode #167: Happy Thanksgiving!

51:54 | Nov 20th, 2017

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about invitation trepidation, what’s a lemon-hater to do?, changing gift traditions and post wedding blues. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Thanksgiving week etiquette ...Show More

Episode #166: No Drama

45:53 | Nov 13th, 2017

We take your questions on being an unexpected host via video, honoring wedding co-hosts, handling drama when you’re not dramatic, and "dude, where’s my car?" Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on 'How to Bungle a Dinner' Party from...Show More

Episode #165: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Stylist Edition

42:15 | Nov 6th, 2017

We take your questions on breaking up with your hair stylist, setting boundaries during the grieving process, ending evenings out with friends, and bringing up your budget when RSVPing. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postsc...Show More

Episode #164: Take Home Scotch

43:17 | Oct 30th, 2017

We answer your questions on guests inviting extra guests, how to bring good scotch to a party and get to bring some home, baby gender-reveal parties, and a classic about wedding gift obligations. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript...Show More

Episode #163: When Favors Become Expected

43:28 | Oct 23rd, 2017

Dan and Lizzie answer questions about not eating when others do, invitation woes, extending a favor and dressing up for Grandma. Plus we hear your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Emily Post's birthday.

Episode #162: Happy Birthday, No Gifts Please

50:10 | Oct 16th, 2017

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on neighbors crossing your property, babies in small apartments hoping for "no gifts please", how to be caring but not intrusive when friend are experiencing hard times, and a doozy of a mo...Show More

Episode #161: Cruise Conundrum

48:20 | Oct 9th, 2017

We take your questions on exiting a bridal shower, friends encroaching on your cruise, religious inquiries at work and what to expect when lending out your vacation homes. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Visser's Th...Show More

Episode #160: Trail Manners

47:39 | Oct 2nd, 2017

We take your questions on social media hijacking, housewarming invitations and replies, confusingly broad wedding invitations and how to teach gregarious children about self-introductions. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the ...Show More

Episode #159: Ghosting a Host

42:06 | Sep 25th, 2017

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on prompt party pick up, balancing grieving and celebration, 'ghosting' your host, and hurricane etiquette. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and the second half of our Postscript seg...Show More

Episode #158: Give a Friend a Lift

47:23 | Sep 18th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on compliments at work, stripping a bed, paying your way at a rehearsal dinner, sharing a ride, and how to handle many parties in your honor. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and part one of a postscri...Show More

Episode #157: Boutonnière Judgment

43:47 | Sep 11th, 2017

Your etiquette questions on a specific shoes-on shoes-off household, handling ex’s on Facebook, the clean plate club (...or not), boutonnière judgment, and being invited to pay for a party. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segmen...Show More

Episode #156: Better Late...

58:13 | Sep 5th, 2017

Etiquette questions on obligations: aisle seat obligations, wedding invitation obligations, online dating obligations, baby shower hosting obligations, and guest clean up obligations. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on s...Show More

Episode #155: Because It Is My Name

46:44 | Aug 28th, 2017

Your questions on names and titles for widows and divorcees, breast pumping rooms being used by non-moms, an inclusive bachelor party, and responding to assumptions that you’re pregnant. Plus your feedback about, etiquette salute and a Postscript seg...Show More

Episode #154: New to the Neighborhood

43:36 | Aug 21st, 2017

We take on your questions on what to include in a thank-you note, sending really late thanks yous, daughter in law disputes, and how to introduce yourself to new neighbors. Plus your most feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on “white ...Show More

Episode #153: Compliment Conundrum

50:32 | Aug 14th, 2017

We answer questions on why it’s rude to comment on someone being single and pretty, what to do when your team isn’t including you on meetings, and a guest who wont’ leave. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment from Emily Post’...Show More

Episode 152: Declining Seconds

54:05 | Aug 7th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie take on your questions about cutting in line, being asked to sing duets, declining seconds and revealing personal changes to friends. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and (spoiler alert) a postscript segment on spoil...Show More

Episode 151: Introducing The Philosophy of Etiquette

48:08 | Jul 31st, 2017

The Posts take your questions about sending late engagement gifts, people who talk too much about themselves, a mother-in-law not respecting names, and another question about ordering pizza. Plus feedback on divvying up the pastries at work, an etiqu...Show More

Episode # 150: Yes 150!

44:11 | Jul 24th, 2017

Lizzie and Dan take your questions about long distance bridal showers, when to un-friend a friend’s ex’s, all the trimmings for encore weddings, and email timing issues. Plus your enthusiastic feedback - Zipper merge -, a handwritten etiquette salute...Show More

Episode #149: Half Cake

40:48 | Jul 17th, 2017

Lizzie and Dan take your questions about sharing cakes, mic lists at rehearsal dinners, how to both host and participate at a party and announcing an elopement. Plus feedback, a friendship focused etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segmen...Show More

Episode #148: Invited back?

1:04:21 | Jul 10th, 2017

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions about merging traffic lanes, sharing office space, inviting bad guests back again, and sorry but we're talking about saying sorry. Plus your most excellent feedback on sales emails, an et...Show More

Episode #147: The Rainbow of Truth

49:09 | Jul 3rd, 2017

Dan and Cindy Post Senning take your questions about dogs on vacation, backing out of a group weekend, sharing costs on the road and plus one wedding gifts. Plus feedback, etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segment on the beauty of truth ...Show More

Episode #146: Listen please

58:58 | Jun 26th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie answer your questions on in lieu of flowers requests, communicating about Celiac, how to handle food stealing spouses and inviting your stylist to your wedding. Plus your excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on...Show More

Episode #145: Share and Share Alike

47:00 | Jun 21st, 2017

Lizzie and Dan take your questions on Family Only Vacations, The use of MBA in a title, Divvying up the pastry box at work, and how to tell your sister her house smells. Plus feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript on exiting a party from 'The Ri...Show More

Episode #143: Good to be home!

48:44 | Jun 5th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie answer your questions on bike shares, skipping a wedding reception, no gifts (but college contributions please) for a first birthday and doggie bag dilemmas.

Episode #142: The Bride's Week or My Vacation?

47:29 | May 29th, 2017

Reimbursement for season tickets, responding to sales emails, Balancing time with the bride and friends during a wedding week trip, Handling reactions from coworkers about you leaving your job, and traveling with other people.

Episode #141: Yay Dad!

57:32 | May 22nd, 2017

Peter Post co-hosts with Lizzie while Dan is away. The father daughter duo talk about reciprocating as a guest, adult only parties & self invitations, sympathy notes, Regular or decaf, and olive pits

Episode #140: Wee Ones At Weddings

49:40 | May 15th, 2017

rehearsal dinner invitations, wee ones at weddings, being a good graduation weekend guest, potluck problems, and a postscript segment on planning a wedding reception seating chart!

Episode #139: Send a Telegram

40:37 | May 8th, 2017

Bill Post co-hosts with Lizzie while Dan is away. Bill and Lizzie cover questions on Community Dinner Contributions, Group Houseguest Gifts, Email Introductions and Retirement Party Gifts.

Episode #138: Welcome To The Show Puja!

1:06:46 | May 1st, 2017

Dan and Lizzie tackle questions about contractors and quotes, invites for second receptions, sending gifts late, and a primer on roommates plus a postscript segment on managing expectations around a new baby

Episode #137: Fore!

56:31 | Apr 24th, 2017

Questions about doodling at work, The annual "wearing white" to weddings question, how to greet clients in groups, and knowing when a dinner party is done? All that plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a special postscript inspired by The Unwritt...Show More

Episode #136: Your Stationery Wardrobe

53:07 | Apr 17th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie take on your questions on Caller ID, re-allocating the kindness of strangers, your cat is cheating on you, and sopping up all the amazingly tasty sauce at dinner. Plus your feedback on iced-tea spoons and shoes off policies, your etiqu...Show More

Episode #135: Missing the Party

43:17 | Apr 10th, 2017

Your etiquette questions on the device excuse, cc email etiquette, just who is included in an invitation to the whole family, and how long is too long for sending condolences. All that plus your feedback, salute and a surprise postscript pop quiz.

Episode #134: Dear Katherine, I would love to attend your tea...

54:17 | Apr 3rd, 2017

Etiquette questions on awkward gift give-backs, how to RSVP, charging for a dinner party, and whether to put practicality above consideration for a wedding shower.

Episode #133: Salon Sanctuary

54:05 | Mar 27th, 2017

Etiquette questions on posting guest lists publicly, how to ascertain if you’re being asked on a date or to go out as friends, asking for silence at the salon and a great question about greeting guests in your home. Plus feedback, an etiquette salute...Show More

Episode #132: May I offer you an arm?

54:36 | Mar 20th, 2017

What side to walk on when escorting a lady, iced tea spoons, meals at regular group gatherings and feeling over exposed when others post pics of your home.

Episode #131: Here a cough, there a cough

45:20 | Mar 13th, 2017

Coughing fits, group gifts, accountant friends and their services, thanking season staff, tipping pools

Episode #130: Pay it forward

49:36 | Mar 6th, 2017

Thanking strangers, cards for holidays, public thank-yous, entertaining, inviting exes, plus a postscript segment on wedding planning

Episode #129: Save the date details

56:21 | Feb 27th, 2017

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie dive into save the date cards and what location to list when the ceremony, reception, and lodging are all in different towns. Also covered: - multiple tank you notes - somehow we find more to talk about on this subjec...Show More

Episode #128: Do you want to be my friend?

52:36 | Feb 21st, 2017

Toasting, Social media grammar police, Business relationships turn to friendships, Saying no to sales parties, a postscript segment for job seekers

Episode #127: He's Here! (Short Questions Show)

53:23 | Feb 13th, 2017

Short questions show tackles etiquette questions with solid answers, from when to begin eating to using commas with suffixes, plus Cindy Post Senning returns to finish discussing how etiquette relates to the developemental stages of childhood.

Episode #126: She's here!

58:21 | Feb 6th, 2017

Cindy Post Senning joins Lizzie to answer questions on Sweet Sixteens, Birthday gifts, Wedding gifts, and more!

Episode #125: A Poo On Both Your Houses!

51:31 | Jan 30th, 2017

Bill Post joins Lizzie Post to answer your questions on Wedding Budgets, Wandering Dogs, Thanking commitees, and more!

Episode #124: Wishy Washy Guests

47:52 | Jan 23rd, 2017

Dan and Lizzie take on a host who was disappointed by wishy washy guests backing out of dinner plans. Also mentioned: Splitting the check, TSA Precheck, A sticky business question about working on teams, Plus your feed back, salute and a post scrip...Show More

Episode #123: Happy New Year for How Long?

34:00 | Jan 16th, 2017

Dan and Lizzie take on greetings when they help a listener determine how far into the new year do you say "Happy New Year!" Also Covered: Should ladies cross their legs at the knee or the ankle? What is the etiquette in estate divisions? Is a hos...Show More

Episode #122: Prof. What Do I Call You?

52:03 | Jan 9th, 2017

On this show, Dan and Lizzie delve into spoons and their roll in the place setting, how to handle boundaries around birth, a question of email familiarity and in person formality.

Episode #121: Regret-Free Money Lending

1:04:05 | Jan 2nd, 2017

A really good friend has emotionally confided that she is in financial difficulty. You decide to lend her some money, expecting she'll use it to pay some bills. She happily lets you know she's bought holiday gifts instead. What should your reaction b...Show More

Awesome Etiquette Prequel Show

04:15 | Dec 30th, 2016

Welcome to the new home of the 'Awesome Etiquette' podcast. We are so glad you are here. Join hosts Lizzie Post and Dan Post Senning, great-great-grandchildren of manners maven Emily Post, as they begin the next phase of the Awesome Etiquette podcas...Show More

Episode #120: Making Amends for Over-Imbibing

59:53 | Dec 26th, 2016

At a recent pre-holiday weekend gathering with friends, you had too much to drink and spoke and behaved in a manner you regret. How do you own up to your mistake? Should you make a blanket apology or apologize individually? And how should you word yo...Show More

Episode #119: Lesbian Wedding Guest List Challenges

1:01:19 | Dec 19th, 2016

You and your partner have decided to tie the knot. How do you handle wedding invitations when some of your relatives have openly disapproved of your relationship? Are there points of etiquette that will allow you to be magnanimous and discerning when...Show More

Episode #117: Good First Impression Gifting

1:05:35 | Dec 5th, 2016

This Christmas, you're flying halfway across the country to meet your boyfriend's family for the first time. What gift(s) can you bring to take on the plane or send beforehand that will say "thank you for having me" and make a good first impression? ...Show More

Episode #116: Re-Gifting Dos and Don'ts

59:34 | Nov 28th, 2016

Lizzie and Dan review the rules for re-gifting. One is to proceed with caution, and be aware of the possible repercussions

Episode #115: Kick Out Your Guests

52:33 | Nov 21st, 2016

The holidays are the biggest party season of the year. You and your fiance love to throw them, but lately, there’s been a problem; guests who overstay their welcome. What are some subtle and not-so-subtle hints to let your guests know the party is ...Show More

Episode #114: Vegan Thanksgiving

58:32 | Nov 14th, 2016

Your vocal vegan auntie’s anti-meat attitudes are disrupting your family’s Thanksgiving gathering. How do you ease tensions, respect dietary choices, and still embrace the bird?

Episode #112: AWOL at the In-Laws

59:59 | Oct 31st, 2016

Your brother-in-law is hosting a family party. His plan is for everyone to watch a movie you’ve seen, and you’re disappointed you can’t spend the time talking with relatives. You leave to do some chores, but you return. Is anyone in the wrong?

Episode #111: Handshake Anxiety

46:07 | Oct 24th, 2016

Germophobes may be anxious about shaking hands, especially during the cold and flu season. Is there ever a polite way to deny a handshake?

Episode #110: Standing Up For Your Baby Name

44:37 | Oct 17th, 2016

You’ve been open about your quest to find the perfect baby name. A friend hears your tentative choice and sends you another list of names to consider. Is she being helpful, or is something else at play?

Episode #109: Mother/Son Political Polarization

56:49 | Oct 10th, 2016

A mother and son with opposing political views can work it out by agreeing not to discuss them. But what happens when the mother violates that agreement by posting her strident opinions on her son’s Facebook wall?

Episode #108: Dealing with Unwanted Advances

57:23 | Oct 3rd, 2016

Let’s say you’re repeatedly hit on at a club or bar. You’re not interested, but you’re also not one to humiliate the prospective suitor. Your friends want you to be more aggressive. What’s the best way to say no?

Episode #107: Cat/Car Quandary

48:44 | Sep 26th, 2016

We need listener input on this one. A woman generously loans one of her parking spots to a neighbor, who then complains about the woman’s cat sitting on a car the neighbor is trying to sell. What to do?

Episode #106: Accidental Overexposure

45:12 | Sep 19th, 2016

An exhausted, multi-tasking mom greets her nice, new neighbors at the door…underdressed, let’s say. Should she apologize, or just let it go?

Episode #105: Birthday Neglect, Family Tension

49:30 | Sep 12th, 2016

Your brother and his wife have a wonderful gift-giving tradition to celebrate your twin daughters’ birthday. But this year they forgot and didn’t even send a card. Should you respond in kind when their kids’ birthdays roll around?

Episode #104: Divorce Drama at the Annual Campout

47:53 | Sep 5th, 2016

Handling divorce drama at your annual campout, resolution on the “too much perfume at the office” issue, and more.

Episode #103: Not Enough Cooks in the Kitchen

51:44 | Aug 29th, 2016

You’re used to dining out with friends, but then they invite you over for a home-cooked meal. You learn pretty early into the appetizers that they aren’t the most skilled in the kitchen. In fact, it’s pretty bad. Do you say anything to them?

Episode #102: Etiquette in Action!

45:01 | Aug 22nd, 2016

Ever been floored by someone’s perfume/cologne/scent? What about at work, where you can’t get away? Dan and Lizzie go deep with a demonstration of their 5-step etiquette process when they help out a young woman in the above situation.

Episode #101: Consideration, Respect, and Honesty

49:43 | Aug 15th, 2016

Want to know how Lizzie and Dan come up with the answers to the variety of questions on the show? On this episode, they break down their process of applying consideration, respect, and honesty to situations in the world so you can do it yourself.

Episode #100: Episode 100!

56:51 | Aug 8th, 2016

On the centennial episode, Lizzie and Dan give the definitive answers to some classic etiquette topics – thank you notes, wedding gifts, dining settings and utensils, and dealing with other people’s bad etiquette.

Episode #99: More Like the Friendship Episode Than an Episode of Friends

56:03 | Aug 1st, 2016

Friendship! Lizzie and Dan talk all about it with questions like this: Friends are telling lies about another friend…so what’s an appropriate response?

Episode #98: Thank You Very Little

53:38 | Jul 25th, 2016

Someone has asked you to do them a big, last-minute favor to get them out of a major bind. You do your best, but instead of an enthusiastic thanks, you get criticism of the work you did. What do you say back?

Episode #97: I’ve Got the Next Round

42:27 | Jul 18th, 2016

You’ve got a friend who loves to be a part of the crowd. But you’ve noticed that whenever it’s their turn to buy the next round, they’ve suddenly had enough for the night, or have to go somewhere. Should you call them on it, or butt out?

Episode #96: The Clean Plate Club’s Only Member

48:21 | Jul 11th, 2016

You’re at a restaurant, and you’re the first person to finish your meal. Everyone else is still enjoying theirs and chatting. Should the server come and get your plate immediately, or wait for the rest of your party to finish?

Episode #95: Let’s Never Do This Again Sometime

44:01 | Jul 4th, 2016

You’re out with an acquaintance you don’t see very often. You suddenly hear yourself say “That was fun … we should do it again soon.” But you know you don’t mean it. Are you just following accepted social custom, or are you being rude and disingenuou...Show More

Episode #94: Rent Asunder

51:33 | Jun 27th, 2016

The paint is still fresh on the walls, and some unpacked boxes are still sitting in the corner, but you are already getting the dreaded question: ‘Nice place … how much are you paying?

Episode #93: You Are What You Eat

45:08 | Jun 20th, 2016

Eating with dietary restrictions can be tricky when you aren’t cooking for yourself. On the show this week, Lizzie and Dan tackle a range of questions about food choices.

Episode #92: Forever Hold Your Peace. Please.

45:46 | Jun 13th, 2016

Everyone has an opinion about your wedding. And you’ve tried being nice. So how do you get people to keep their ideas to themselves and let you enjoy your engagement?

Episode #91: Politically Impolite

45:47 | Jun 6th, 2016

A listener feels like they are being respectful when talking politics with a friend who supports the other side. But they feel that that respect isn’t being reciprocated. Can they keep having conversations, or will they blow up before November?

Episode #90: An Affair to Remember (and Boycott)

41:54 | May 30th, 2016

A listener’s brother is recently divorced due to his wife’s infidelity with a local restaurateur. She wants to boycott the man’s establishments when going out with friends, but also keep her brother’s secret. How can she stay true to family but not b...Show More

Episode #89: It’s Not a Character Flaw, It’s a Math Problem

44:31 | May 23rd, 2016

A listener has recently moved to a bigger city, and is wondering how to deal with the people they see on the street who look like they might be experiencing homelessness.

Episode #88: A Prom-Posed Problem

36:18 | May 16th, 2016

A shy girl just prom-posed to a boy she likes. And he said yes! But then he finds out the prom is on the same night as his mother’s 50th birthday. What’s a boy to do?

Episode #87: When ‘Nice to Meet You’ Isn’t So Nice

44:19 | May 9th, 2016

A listener is an attorney whose job requires meeting people during very difficult times in their lives. Dan and Lizzie help with language on how to greet new clients in a way that doesn’t imply: You’re getting divorced. Will you be using cash or cred...Show More

Episode #86: It’s Just How I Was Brought Up

43:51 | May 2nd, 2016

A listener feels like she comes across as being judgmental and reprimanding to her friends when discussing the manners with which she was brought up. Lizzie and Dan talk through strategies on how to talk about your upbringing.

Episode #85: The Grumbling Groomsman

39:57 | Apr 25th, 2016

A listener suspects that a groomsman invitation is less about friendship and more about compensating for a less-than-responsible best man. Communication has been spotty. Plus, the costs are starting to pile up. Is it too late to back out?

Episode #84: So … How Did It Turn Out?

51:57 | Apr 18th, 2016

We check in with listeners who’ve had their questions answered to see what happened after the advice was given.

Episode #83: When You Want to Bring Home the B You BYO’d

49:47 | Apr 11th, 2016

A listener loves a liqueur. And loves to spread the love. But do they have to donate an expensive bottle to the party every time they BYOB? Or can they take it back at the end of the evening?

Episode #82: What’s That Smell??!? I’m Working Here!!

49:09 | Apr 4th, 2016

A listener was greeted in the office kitchen by a note dictating what co-workers could and could not heat up in the microwave for lunch. So, who has the authority to say so, and who has the authority to eat what they want?

Episode #81: NBA? Nevermind!

42:59 | Mar 28th, 2016

A listener and her fiancé were gifted some basketball tickets, but the game was on a day she couldn’t attend. After the fiancé invited a mutual friend, he realized that he had the day wrong, and she could go. So, who gets the ticket?

Episode #80: Consulting an Authority

51:48 | Mar 21st, 2016

Lizzie and Dan hear from several listeners who might need to bring in someone with more authority. They tackle roommate issues, talking about people behind their backs, and when you’ve done as much as you can and have to consult someone else.

Episode #79: It’s My Party and I’ll DJ If I Want To

38:21 | Mar 14th, 2016

The audience weighs in when a dinner party host asks how to deal with guests who want to add songs to the evening’s playlist. We also hear from Rico and Brendan from the Dinner Party Download on the subject.

Episode #78: Johnny On the Spot (And He’s Not Leaving)

43:54 | Mar 7th, 2016

When a blizzard consumed Baltimore, a listener became frustrated when neighbors began claiming street parking spots after digging them out. So who has the etiquette right when reserving the parking spot you worked so hard to dig out?

Episode #77: Being Polite On Both Sides of the Mason-Dixon Line

39:31 | Feb 29th, 2016

A southerner and a New Englander ask for suggestions on raising their kids to say “sir” and “ma’am,” understanding that those terms have very different meanings and expectations in each of their home regions.

Episode #76: Destination: Expensive

36:19 | Feb 22nd, 2016

A listener has been invited to the destination wedding of a co-worker, and is concerned about the cost. Lizzie and Dan discuss whether it’s rude to force your wedding guests to spend a lot to get to your event.

Episode #75: The Mystery of the Unsent Postcards

33:39 | Feb 15th, 2016

Lizzie and Dan need your help with what to do! A listener bought an item secondhand, and in it has come across some items personal to someone else’s life. What should the listener do with the postcards in the book?

Episode #74: Gifts? Yes, Please!

36:55 | Feb 8th, 2016

A listener thinks that some gifts from guests would be nice at her party celebrating a milestone event in her life. But she’s worried that “no gifts, please” has become de rigueur on modern party invitations for adults.

Episode #73: Spoiler Alerts Spoiler Alert

39:42 | Feb 1st, 2016

It’s a question as old as cinema itself – how long does a movie have to have been out to be OK to talk about openly?

Episode #72: Whose Invitation Is It, Anyway?

36:38 | Jan 25th, 2016

A listener is torn over her invitation to the wedding of her son’s childhood friend. The boys had a fight, so her son isn’t invited, but the invitation came from the friend’s mother, whom the listener has been friends with for years.

Episode #71: Is It Pronounced PWNHAMMER?

37:46 | Jan 18th, 2016

A listener isn’t sure about the etiquette of hosting online friends for a meat space get-together, and whether or not it’s okay to use in-game names instead of real names.

Episode #70: I’ll Have What You’re Having On My Pizza

41:43 | Jan 11th, 2016

Lizzie and Dan debate the complicated issue of a listener who was reprimanded for choosing the “wrong” slice of pizza after clearly saying he didn’t care which toppings were chosen.

Episode #69: Keeping It in the Family

35:51 | Jan 4th, 2016

A listener’s young son was confided in by a friend on some family business. Should the listener now reach out to the family during their hard time, or stay out of it?

Episode #68: It’s Not About You, It’s About My Baby

40:20 | Dec 28th, 2015

After learning of an accidental pregnancy, a listener is worried about the judgment from people who had previously said she’d change her mind about not wanting to have children.

Episode #67: Shoes On or Shoes Off in the House?

38:24 | Dec 21st, 2015

Lizzie and Dan feature some of the extensive feedback they received on the great shoes on or off in the house debate. This one touched a nerve, and people offer some heartfelt perspectives from around the globe.

Episode #66: Awesome Holiday Etiquette

53:57 | Dec 14th, 2015

The holiday season can be a minefield when it comes to good behavior. Lizzie and Dan will talk with friends and special guests about etiquette throughout the season, including John Besh, Judith Hill, and Andrew Walsh.

Episode #65: ‘Tis the Season for Regifting

38:45 | Dec 7th, 2015

A listener writes in with one of the most blatant regifting stories ever told, spurring conversations about how to handle receiving a clearly regifted present, and how to avoid being tactless if you choose to do some regifting of your own.

Episode #64: Blood Is Not Thicker Than Facebook

33:24 | Nov 30th, 2015

A listener has been unfriended by a family member on social media. Lizzie and Dan talk about what that might mean, and what should be done (or not done) in response.

Episode #63: Holiday Party Obligations

35:24 | Nov 23rd, 2015

Happy Thanksgiving! On the show this week, an introverted and socially awkward listener has been invited to, but doesn’t want to attend, several office holiday parties. Is she obligated to go? Lizzie and Dan talk about the social obligations of work ...Show More

Episode #62: A Handshake Will Do

36:30 | Nov 16th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan field a question from a listener who is new to the professional world and is seeking advice for how to curtail the amount of hugs she gets at work. Especially from older male colleagues.

Episode #61: Sharing Difficult News

37:45 | Nov 9th, 2015

A listener has been diagnosed with aggressive cancer with a very poor prognosis. He wants to share the news with friends and family, but wants to know the best way to balance delivering potentially devastating personal news with compassion for those ...Show More

Episode #60: The Reluctant Host

35:16 | Nov 2nd, 2015

Without her knowledge or consent, a listener is been drafted by her family to host a big holiday get-together! What’s the best way to host it this year, and how should she make sure it doesn’t happen again next year? Lizzie and Dan weigh in on the ca...Show More

Episode #59: Is it Eavesdropping When You’re Standing at My Desk?

38:27 | Oct 26th, 2015

A listener in a small shared office wonders who is being rude when her co-worker talks with friends in their workspace. Is it better to ignore, jump in, or ask them to leave? Dan an Lizzie weigh in on social conversations in the workplace.

Episode #58: Dirty Hands, Clean Kitchen

34:31 | Oct 19th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan advise a listener who feels strongly about germs and keeps a very clean kitchen, but is unsure how to politely get her guests to clean up before jumping in to help.

Episode #57: Denying Children the Joys of Giving

42:55 | Oct 12th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan are shocked to learn of a new trend popping up: parents withholding until Christmas their children’s birthday gifts from friends.

Episode #56: When Your Friend Sees Your Selfie From Their Ex’s Wedding

39:37 | Oct 5th, 2015

Your friends have had a bad breakup, but you’re still friends with both. And now one is getting married. Do you share the wonderful day on social media and celebrate one friend? Or protect the other friend and keep your timeline quiet? Lizzie and Dan...Show More

Episode #55: Mx Lizzie and Mx Dan

40:41 | Sep 28th, 2015

The Oxford English Dictionary has recently entered a new honorific (think of it as an alternative to Mr, Ms, or Mrs) into the English lexicon, and it has a lot of practical value. Lizzie and Dan unpack all the details behind this newly accepted way t...Show More

Episode #54: Swipe Left to Keep Work at Work

32:56 | Sep 21st, 2015

It’s a crash course on mixing work and pleasure in the digital age when a listener stumbles across a co-worker on a popular dating app. Lizzie and Dan talk them through all of the many ramifications of swiping right, swiping left, or not swiping at a...Show More

Episode #53: The Short Questions Show

29:40 | Sep 14th, 2015

It’s a question-answering bonanza! Lizzie and Dan take on a whole bunch of your short questions and do their best to give short answers. They talk thank you notes, table manners, grooming at the table, AND SO MUCH MORE! Plus, the etiquette implicatio...Show More

Episode #52: Let Me Treat You to a Doggie Bag

35:34 | Sep 7th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan help out a frustrated listener who treated a colleague to lunch, then watched that colleague order with abandon and save items to take home for later. Tacky? Or within the bounds of the offer?

Episode #51: You’re Bringing What To My Wedding?

42:55 | Aug 31st, 2015

Lizzie and Dan get a question from a bride-to-be who has received an unprecedented RSVP to her upcoming wedding. Kudos are given to the bride for her flexibility.

Episode #50: Paper Anniversary

52:56 | Aug 24th, 2015

It’s our 50th episode! AND our 1-year anniversary of being a podcast! So, Lizzie and Dan take a moment to reflect on some favorite moments from the past year, take a look ahead at hopes and dreams for the upcoming year, and dive deep into the traditi...Show More

Episode #49: Fantasy Football with Chris Harris

44:37 | Aug 17th, 2015

There’s a new season coming, and six-time Fantasy Sports Writing Association award winner Chris Harris joins Lizzie and Dan to talk all things fantasy football. From not talking too much about your team, to who gets Chris’ salute for good behavior, i...Show More

Episode #48: Breastfeeding in Public

45:13 | Aug 10th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan tackle the sensitive subject of breastfeeding in public after a listener describes a rift in her friend group surrounding an incident at a birthday party.

Episode #47: There’s Crying and Yelling in Maine

55:56 | Aug 3rd, 2015

A kid was shouted at by the owner of a diner after making a scene in a restaurant. Subsequently, the upset parents took their anger online. Lizzie and Dan do a full etiquette breakdown of this viral news item from Maine.

Episode #46: The Disingenuous Date

42:00 | Jul 27th, 2015

On today’s show: plus ones, disingenuous dates, TA tattling, guests who hate kids, party anxiety, and an etiquette salute to being a good houseguest.

Episode #45: Train, in Pain

34:14 | Jul 20th, 2015

This week, Lizzie and Dan have advice for a 28-year-old woman who looks healthy, but suffers from chronic back pain and gets dirty looks and rude comments from fellow subway passengers who think she should give her seat up.

Episode #44: It’s Important to Remember What’s Behind It

46:08 | Jul 13th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan break down the difference between manners and principles. Because sometimes we can all get too focused on how a particular rule is being broken and miss that the core values of etiquette are still being shown.

Episode #43: Did You Get My Message?

45:59 | Jul 6th, 2015

Dan was late to the recording session because of extenuating circumstances. He talks with Lizzie about how to respectfully handle the inevitability of being late from time to time.

Episode #42: Shame and Weight Gain

51:25 | Jun 29th, 2015

After putting on some weight, a listener is going to return to her home town for a reunion, fully expecting upfront comments about her body. How can she handle fat shamers?

Episode #41: Very Personal Items

41:06 | Jun 22nd, 2015

A college professor asks how to give his students dignity and space in a public place when he runs into them at the drugstore buying very personal items.

Episode #40: It’s Their Party

45:56 | Jun 15th, 2015

Breakfast for dinner is an epic level move. Putting together a fun wedding is, too. Does it work to combine the two? What will the family think?

Episode #39: How a Post Gets Married

56:44 | Jun 8th, 2015

Dan got married! And we get to hear all about it. From the clothes to the food, the music to the ceremony, and the sangeet to the chuppah.

Episode #38: Can You Be Too Approachable?

33:07 | Jun 1st, 2015

When the people around you share their unasked-for opinions about politics and religion, or give detailed accounts of medical procedures they’ve undergone, you may ask the same question.

Episode #37: The Long Hallway Greeting

35:33 | May 25th, 2015

You’re walking down that long hallway at work. You see an acquaintance at the other end walking towards you, but it’s far too early to make contact. What to do, where to look, and how to handle the etiquette of the long hallway greeting.

Episode #36: Mrs. [Husband’s Name Goes Here]

49:49 | May 18th, 2015

Some say it’s still proper for a wife to be called by her husband’s name. Others call it painfully outdated. Who is right? The answer is complicated.

Episode #35: Graduation Gifts and the Treadmill Boss

38:21 | May 11th, 2015

You’re invited to a dual grad party, but you only really know one of the graduates. What is the gift-giving protocol?

Episode #34: The Accidental Date

55:38 | May 4th, 2015

You think you’re just going out for a drink. He clearly doesn’t. What is the best way to handle this without being rude?

Episode #33: Cutting The Face Painting Line

42:24 | Apr 27th, 2015

Your family has waited 90 minutes in the face painting line. A 4 year-old is trying to cut the line, and his guardian is nowhere to be seen. What do you do?

Episode #32: The Problem with “Sorry, But…”

38:29 | Apr 20th, 2015

Apologies are fine and good. Apologies that are immediately undercut by a but are not.

Episode #31: The Office Wanderer and Absent Vegans

41:22 | Apr 13th, 2015

A maddening co-worker, vegans who no-show, and habitually late friends are just some of the etiquette dilemmas Lizzie and Dan tackle.

Episode #30: Wearable Tech-iquette

47:15 | Apr 6th, 2015

Lizzie’s getting a new roommate! But she knows that the best living situations are ones where norms are established and boundaries are set. Dan and Lizzie talk about how to respect the people you live with.

Episode #29: The Line Cutter

43:46 | Mar 30th, 2015

You’ve been waiting for that parking spot for a long time, and someone swoops in to take it. How do you handle it? Lizzie and Dan have the answer.

Episode #28: Sportsmanship and Burning Jerseys

47:50 | Mar 23rd, 2015

Lizzie and Dan get emotional about free agency and talk about how burning jerseys is not cool.

Episode #27: Indian Weddings

31:23 | Mar 16th, 2015

Dan returns from a friend’s Indian wedding in California – the trial run for his own Indian wedding just two and a half months away – and gushes about his bride-to-be and Indian formalwear.

Episode #26: I’m Just Gonna Be Your Mom Tonight

46:01 | Mar 9th, 2015

Lizzie and Dan talk about the houseguest/host dance done right, and Lizzie commends a flight attendant for taking care of her on the tarmac.

Episode #25: Social Media Shaming

41:38 | Mar 2nd, 2015

Is it okay for the Twittersphere to call someone out on social media, or does that create a mob mentality that does more harm than good?

Episode #24: White Lies

42:20 | Feb 23rd, 2015

In light of news anchor Brian Williams’s suspension from NBC, Dan talks about his own liberating decision to stop lying.

Episode #23: If I’m Gonna Be Sneaky, I’m Gonna Be Sneaky

45:08 | Feb 16th, 2015

Dan and Lizzie tell you whether it’s ever okay to snoop.

Episode #22: Happy Valentine’s Day!

44:15 | Feb 9th, 2015

Sharon Andrea of Modern Dating Mastery joins Lizzie and Dan to help listeners navigate the often confusing world of dating.

Episode #21: My Husband’s Feet

44:50 | Feb 2nd, 2015

How do you tell a loved one that they need to spruce up their personal hygiene without hurting their feelings?

Episode #20: My Friends Tip Too Much

30:05 | Jan 26th, 2015

What do you do when your friends tip two or three times as much as you, and expect you to do the same? Also mentioned: Returning texts, an ode to Omaha, oyster forks, and an etiquette salute to Tom Brady.

Episode #19: Coming Out at Work with Etiquette Expert Steven Petrow

1:00:14 | Jan 20th, 2015

When people at work assume you’re straight, how do you let them know you’re not? Etiquette expert and Washington Post columnist Steven Petrow helps Lizzie and Dan tackle this question.

Episode #18: Don’t Tell Anyone You’re a Mime

1:03:20 | Jan 12th, 2015

Former mime and current etiquette expert Dan advises you on dealing with people who discover your profession and ask questions that aren’t always applicable or appropriate.

Episode #17: Bourbon, No Ice

40:36 | Jan 6th, 2015

When someone invites himself to your party, is it okay to insist that he bring bourbon and ice?

Episode #16: Angry Donors, Racist Card Games, and How to Eat Bread

48:38 | Dec 22nd, 2014

On this year-end episode: A fundraiser asks how to approach an angry donor, some advice on how to eat bread, and telling your friends their card game is racist.

Episode #15: The Trapped Pool Cleaner

34:18 | Dec 15th, 2014

The story of a pool cleaner who is metaphorically trapped by her over-sharing clientele is at the heart of this episode of Awesome Etiquette.

Episode #14: The Art of ‘Please’

29:50 | Dec 8th, 2014

Can saying “please” ever be bad? Roughly 99% of the time, no. But that one percent is on Lizzie and Dan’s mind in this episode.

Episode #13: The Office Party and the Pre-Party Party

26:04 | Dec 2nd, 2014

How do you plan an office party for a co-worker when the guest would prefer that some other co-workers aren’t there? Lizzie and Dan have the answer.

Episode #12: An Awesome Etiquette Thanksgiving

25:16 | Nov 24th, 2014

It’s an all-Thanksgiving episode of Awesome Etiquette, as Lizzie and Dan tackle a slew of anonymous questions about relatives, the meal, and the new girlfriend.

Episode #11: Kate Middleton’s Hands

27:44 | Nov 17th, 2014

A listener wants to know if she should follow Kate Middleton’s example regarding what to do with her hands while standing still. Lizzie and Dan have the answer.

Episode #10: The History of Toasting

24:57 | Nov 10th, 2014

Why do we toast, and why is it called “toasting?” Lizzie and Dan have the answer, and yes, it does involve actual toast.

Episode #9: Nosy Bosses, Dietary Preferences, and Bringing the Dog

36:22 | Nov 3rd, 2014

Lizzie and Dan help you handle nosy bosses, dietary requests, and bringing your dog with you.

Episode #8: Tipping the Dog Walker

33:07 | Oct 27th, 2014

Dan and Lizzie chat with Paul the dog walker, and discuss both tipping and thank-you note etiquette for dog walkers and those who employ them.

Episode #7: Quit Touching Meggan’s Purple Hair

53:08 | Oct 20th, 2014

Megan has purple hair. Really, really purple hair. So purple that complete strangers want to touch it to see if it’s real or a wig. The Posts give her advice on how to deal with the personal space issues therein.

Episode #6: Football Scores and Tipping Protocol with Jess Walter

38:34 | Oct 13th, 2014

Lizzie and Daniel talk about spoiling the outcome of football games for those who haven’t watched them. They also take questions from their listeners, including author and fellow Infinite Guest-er Jess Walter.

Episode #5: Tipsy Hockey Players, Unwanted Attachments, and Lauren Conrad

25:39 | Sep 29th, 2014

Lizzie is wooed by a tipsy hockey player, Dan cops to an etiquette faux pas, and a salute to Lauren Conrad.

Episode #4: Yes Yes Yes

27:11 | Sep 15th, 2014

Dan has an announcement (a good one, don’t worry). Also: black-tie weddings, whispering, when to start eating, passing dishes, and RAPID FIRE ETIQUETTE.

Episode #3: Roommates and Cousins and Thank-Yous

24:25 | Sep 2nd, 2014

What’s wrong with the kids these days? Their roommates, usually. PLUS: cousins, thank-yous, knives, forks, hands, and the rise to prominence of one Emily Post.

Episode #2: Centerpieces, Louis XIV, and Celebrity Apologies

22:15 | Aug 26th, 2014

Lizzie and Daniel talk about their relationship, hazardous road trips, and a very important upcoming event in Dan’s life. Later on, they discuss the origins of the word “etiquette” in the court of Louis XIV, forks, lay offs, flowers, and Jonah Hill.

Episode #1: The Yawning and the Pinky

26:49 | Aug 25th, 2014

Is it okay to yawn at work? Are you just obeying your body’s orders, or are you disrespecting your superiors and co-workers? Until the modern workplace correctly embraces George Costanza’s under-the-desk nap zone, this question will bedevil us all.