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Relationships & Love

How to Be a Girl

Marlo Mack

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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.

0:00 | Sep 28th, 2016

When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I've never really asked him how he feels about this.  So I did.  And this is what...Show More

0:00 | Jun 30th, 2016

I never thought a bathroom bill - the kind they passed in North Carolina - would come to my home state.  But it did.  They're trying to pass one where I live, and this is the story of my fight (so far) against it.  ...Show More

0:00 | Jan 25th

I sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween. MUSIC CREDIT: “Little Girl” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

0:00 | Dec 31st, 2018

A new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan.MUSIC CREDITS:“Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair” by Steve Rice (Courtesy of Audiosocket)“Chill Wave” by Kevin MacLeod “The Reckoning” by Podington BearPlease cons...Show More

0:00 | Nov 29th, 2018

Are the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she's transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I seek expert advice from a new friend in the Bible Belt. MUSIC CREDITS:“Morning” by Nicole Reynolds, ...Show More

0:00 | Nov 6th, 2018

Need to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here's the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me hope (and is my personal pick for the first transgender president). MUSIC CREDITS: "Halflight," “G P...Show More

0:00 | Oct 30th, 2018

In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she's transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over.MUSIC CREDITS: ...Show More

0:00 | Aug 20th, 2018

My daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month.  It's a fresh start, where no one knows that she's transgender.  How do I handle this? How do I advise her?  Should she keep her transgender status to herself or be more open? At the end of t...Show More

0:00 | Jul 31st, 2018

We've moved.  To the suburbs.  We're getting to know the new neighbors, and we're wondering: Will they accept us here? MUSIC CREDITS:  "Glitter" and "Chauncy" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC B...Show More

0:00 | May 17th, 2018

Did you know there's a wedding coming up, uniting an Englishman with an American bride?  Listen now for ALL the juicy details on this intercontinental couple's forthcoming nuptials! (And hear what my daughter thinks of her soon-to-be stepdad.)MUSIC C...Show More

0:00 | May 10th, 2018

In this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes.  Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famous transgender teen in the world.  Her mom Jeanette is as brave as they come. ...Show More

0:00 | Apr 26th, 2018

Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually.  But that didn't make it any easier when it did.  Mus...Show More

0:00 | Apr 19th, 2018

After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back!  The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week.  Here's a little taste of what's to come.   ...Show More

0:00 | Dec 25th, 2017

This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! Music credits:Dee Yan-Key,  "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4...Show More

0:00 | Jul 6th, 2017

How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite.  ...Show More

0:00 | Feb 22nd, 2017

I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state. Music credits: "Telling Me So" an...Show More

0:00 | Feb 18th, 2017

This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious.  I also have some news.  Plus, cat videos. (KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-listenin...Show More

0:00 | Feb 1st, 2017

I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me:  A transgender big sister.  ...Show More

0:00 | Jan 11th, 2017

In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close.  I hadn't been in much of a rush to chan...Show More

0:00 | Dec 21st, 2016

It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time.  What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager? ...Show More

0:00 | Nov 30th, 2016

She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy.  How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother?  ...Show More

0:00 | Nov 21st, 2016

My 8-year-old transgender daughter is not giving up.  She's eating popcorn and singing and telling jokes and she has some advice for you. 

0:00 | Nov 9th, 2016

When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I'm terrified. She's the bravest woman I know.  ...Show More

0:00 | Oct 19th, 2016

My daughter has lots of friends, and she's big on play dates with other little girls.  But sometimes we need to book a special play date, because sometimes you just need to hang out with somebody who's just like you.   ...Show More

0:00 | Sep 4th, 2016

This isn't a full episode.  Just a little update on what we've been up to, with some very silly audio of my daughter. (What can I say? It's been a silly summer!)  There's also an important announcement about the future of this podcast and some news o...Show More

0:00 | Mar 24th, 2016

This is a continuation of Episode IX. It tells the rest of the story of what happened when my transgender daughter started second grade at a new school. ...Show More

0:00 | Mar 9th, 2016

This episode has been six months in the making, because that's how long it took for this story to play out. It's the story of my daughter entering second grade at a new school where we knew no one, almost no one knew her secret, and I had no idea how...Show More

0:00 | Aug 5th, 2015

Earlier this year, my daughter got to meet the transgender TV star Laverne Cox. I wrote about it for my blog, and that heart-warming, feel-good post went crazy viral on the internet.  But there's more to the story.  Here it is. ...Show More

28:05 | Jun 30th, 2015

When my "son" first started saying that "he" was actually a "she," I went looking for information. I wanted hard numbers. I wanted data. I wanted science to tell me to do. This is what I discovered.

0:00 | Dec 25th, 2014

This episode is a little different from the others I've made. It's mostly just my daughter talking, answering my questions about what it's like being a transgender six year old.  

0:00 | Nov 20th, 2014

She's six years old and transgender.  I'm a single mom.  This is what happens when we both hit the dating scene and compare notes about it. Music credits: "Night Owl" by Broke for Free, "Is This What Mama Meant" by Michaela Anne.

0:00 | Aug 24th, 2014

How girlie do you have to be to secure your spot in the girl club?  And what happens when your own mother questions your girl credentials? Bonus: The Origins of Acrobat Girl: Music credits:  "Action" and "Eastern" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com...Show More

0:00 | Jul 8th, 2014

Am I insane?  How can I be so sure that my young child is transgender?Music credits: "Her Love Comes in Air" by soundZcapa, "Gato" by Rod Hamilton, "Kaikou" by Satori.

10:00 | Jun 7th, 2014

What's it like raising a transgender child? How did your family respond? What about school? How in the world does this work? This episode gives you the low-down on what daily life is really like for us.

07:16 | Jun 7th, 2014

When he was three years old, my son informed me that she was actually my daughter. I'm now the mother of a happy, confident little transgender girl, but it took a while to get here.