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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savageloveca...Show More

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Savage Love Episode 635

48:58 | Dec 25th, 2018

Gather round the Lovecast Christmas tree children, and see what audio gifts we have for you! Why, here's a question from a power bottom who pees when he gets fucked!  And look! A woman's boyfriend won't use sex toys on her if they've been used before...Show More

Savage Love Episode 339

46:01 | Apr 23rd, 2013

Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match?  Over at ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 338

45:22 | Apr 16th, 2013

Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.c...Show More

Savage Love Episode 337

48:02 | Apr 9th, 2013

A woman caring for her father with dementia discovers that he is a pedophile, though she thinks he never acts on his desires. Should she tell her mom? The nurses in his house?  A man needs to think about lesbian relationships before he can nod off to...Show More

Savage Love Episode 336

50:53 | Apr 2nd, 2013

What a chatterbox Dan Savage is this week! He speaks with a foot model about creepos in the foot fetish community, and tears 14 new…apertures into a misbehaving drunky lass who just doesn't get straight privilege.  Confidential to Drunky McBlackout l...Show More

Savage Love Episode 335

46:30 | Mar 26th, 2013

Meet Naughty Dr. Pee-Pee and the Patient with a Secret. Those of you in the medical or dental professions will find this episode most… illuminating. A man is feeling hella anxiety over the fact that his girlfriend makes a lot more money than he does....Show More

Savage Love Episode 334

44:50 | Mar 19th, 2013

This week Dan speaks again with Slate reporter Daniel Engber now that Gilberto Valle, AKA the Cannibal Cop, has been found guilty. Sleep a little easier, ladies everywhere.  Also, how to get your lover to open up a (consensual) can of whup-ass on you...Show More

Savage Love Episode 333

48:58 | Mar 12th, 2013

It seems like everyone is angry at the gays. Hear the super-sad tale of a father outed and then hated by his own daughter. But she doesn't hate him too much to accept his financial aid... And, 4 years after proposing on the top of the Eiffel Tower to...Show More

Savage Love Episode 332

56:36 | Mar 5th, 2013

How does one go about inviting a man over for dinner, when you really want to initiate the three-way sequence?  Pointy-headed science writer Jesse Bering speaks with Dan about the ubiquity of fantasies involving power and control.  And, squirm along ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 331

58:47 | Feb 26th, 2013

This week Dan welcomes two guests. Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" talks about sex in your golden years. And John Schwartz author of "Oddly Normal" speaks with Dan about the challenges of raising a gay teen.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720 Th...Show More

Savage Love Episode 330

49:08 | Feb 19th, 2013

This is the live taping of the freaky show we did at the Neptune Theater featuring Simon Rich, Mistress Matisse, Audrey from Babeland and others. Have a listen, close your eyes and use your twisted imagination.  206-201-2720  This episode is brought ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 329

47:52 | Feb 12th, 2013

A young lesbian is offended that her parents won't let her have her best friend, also a lesbian, join her for a sleepover. Are her parents being homophobic? Or just parents?  Another lesbian's conservative Christian parents have moved from bald unacc...Show More

Savage Love Episode 328

48:26 | Feb 5th, 2013

Dan desperately tries to convince a young gay man to use a condom when hooking up with random hot Australians.  The amazing Buck Angel speaks with Dan about dating FtM transsexuals.  And sex educator Amy Lang helps explain how to teach your son to av...Show More

Savage Love Episode 327

52:07 | Jan 29th, 2013

All hail Planned Parenthood! On today's show the Lovecast welcomes Dr. Anna Kaminski, senior physician for the venerable organization, who can calmly explain to Dan that scabies are not spiders, and consider the dangers of drinking blood without runn...Show More

Savage Love Episode 326

49:45 | Jan 22nd, 2013

Tales of addiction; A woman in recovery worries that if she introduces S&M into her relationship that it will consume her life like booze or heroin. And, Dan speaks with Dr. Marty Klein on challenging the myth of sex addiction.  A woman with homophob...Show More

Savage Love Episode 325

45:42 | Jan 15th, 2013

Dan welcomes very special guest star Mistress Matisse to discuss S&M when you're really, really mad. Also Dan goes into the finer details of hickey etiquette, and clears up once and for all whether mutual masturbation is fact or fiction. Call, call, ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 324

47:26 | Jan 8th, 2013

A gay man started his coming out process by announcing that he was bi to his parents. Now that he knows he's a full 'mo, how can he convince his skeptical parents?  The ultimate revenge: a woman and her ex-fiance are long broken up. But his super-hot...Show More

Savage Love Episode 323

40:21 | Jan 1st, 2013

Welcome to 2013 where the sexual landscape seems just as freaky as it did in 2012. Highlights from todays show: a woman dating a closet asexual, a daughter who realizes that both she and her mother are subs, a man whose boyfriend rejects him because ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 322

46:27 | Dec 25th, 2012

Well, well, well. What heartwarming tales have we to share on our very special Christmas Lovecast? Why, here's one about the crippling guilt and shame a woman can't shake from her promiscuous past. And look! A lad who snooped on his twin brother's ph...Show More

Savage Love Episode 321

47:11 | Dec 18th, 2012

There's a lot of cheating in this episode. Through the miracle of audio, you'll experience the world through the eyes of a former cheater, an aspiring temptress and the judgmental sister of a home-wrecker.  And just to make sure you feel some feeling...Show More

Savage Love Episode 320

44:19 | Dec 11th, 2012

Is there reasonable etiquette regarding the casual eating of pussy? A man refuses to go down on ladies he doesn't know well. Does this make him an asshole?  When she was 14, she made up a violent rape and milked the lie for drama to her boyfriend at ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 319

50:22 | Dec 4th, 2012

Lesbians! Have you noticed that wherever you go you run into your lover's ex and your friends are all the same and there's only one lesbian bar in town? Thought so.  The continuum of culpability; when is infidelity a misdemeanor and when is it a felo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 318

50:11 | Nov 27th, 2012

A bride-to-be faces a problematic wedding guest list. Should she invite her gaggle of gay friends and let them commingle with her conservative, bigoted relatives and coworkers? Hear the complicated tale of the not-quite-out lesbian and her chattering...Show More

Savage Love Episode 317

53:36 | Nov 20th, 2012

A man receives a mysterious image of a woman's pregnant belly, accompanied by a simple message telling him he's the father. Does he have the right to ask for proof? A conversation with Jillian Keenan, whose article in the New York Times explores her ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 316

50:20 | Nov 13th, 2012

Cock blocked! A man's friend did his best to steal the girl. How can the caller tell his "buddy" to get lost?  Can Dan Savage prevent a potentially disastrous three-way from occurring?  A man ruined his chances with a lovely lady by getting a little ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 315

43:38 | Nov 6th, 2012

Hear a nail-bitten, wretched Dan Savage counsel the lovelorn despite a wracking flu, and election day jitters. Topics! Coming out at your cousin's bar mitzvah. Introducing your ugly new boyfriend to your friends. Telling your jerko ex-boyfriend that ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 314

41:49 | Oct 30th, 2012

Face-eating zombies, infested snacks, and buckets and buckets of blood! It's the Lovecast Halloween show, featuring true tales of sex-related horror. Plus an interview with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Listen only if you dare.  206-201-2720 Th...Show More

Savage Love Episode 313

48:58 | Oct 23rd, 2012

Dad likes to wear women's clothing. This doesn't bother his daughter, but she doesn't want to hear much more. (But knowing his dress size might come in handy over the holidays.) When your "straight" friend appears on a gay online dating site, does th...Show More

Savage Love Episode 312

47:55 | Oct 16th, 2012

An autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let f...Show More

Savage Love Episode 311

49:07 | Oct 9th, 2012

Paging Miss Manners! A man's mother detests his wife's mother so much, that she wants to exclude her from the baby shower. How can he tip-toe his way through this field of turds?  A woman very much wants to pursue amorous relations with a hot fireman...Show More

Savage Love Episode 652

50:47 | Apr 23rd

A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets...nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 651

55:21 | Apr 16th

A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 650

51:20 | Apr 9th

Look at her. She's only a lesbian when she's drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she's had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry Prince Charming. He is so wonderful in every way. Exc...Show More

Savage Love Episode 649

45:44 | Apr 2nd

A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he's not bored. What up? A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids' clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the i...Show More

Savage Love Episode 648

50:29 | Mar 26th

A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed w...Show More

Savage Love Episode 647

43:56 | Mar 19th

A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 646

53:53 | Mar 12th

Yowsers! It's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophilia, incest, snuff porn, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Je...Show More

Savage Love Episode 645

55:44 | Mar 5th

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned o...Show More

Savage Love Episode 644

44:03 | Feb 26th

A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was c...Show More

Savage Love Episode 643

51:56 | Feb 19th

When bisexual friends go wild: A lesbian has been buddies with a bi woman for a while. Guess what happened when they got drunk! Now, the bi friend is asking her boyfriend for a hall pass to sleep with the lesbian friend. But will their friendship be ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 642

50:51 | Feb 12th

A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about ...Show More

Episode 184: Dan’s Back!

51:22 | Feb 6th

Dan Savage returns to help Eli Sanders and Katie Herzog deal with Trump’s very weird and upsetting State of the Union address. Also discussed: Nancy Pelosi’s epic clap-back and Stacey Abrams’s delivery of the official Democratic response to Trump’s s...Show More

Savage Love Episode 641

54:59 | Feb 5th

Hey uncircumcised fellas! Would you get cut because your girlfriend wanted you to? Because she thought that it made your dick bigger? Would you really? This guy did. Hear the tale of a man's sexual adventure in Las Vegas, and how he can't seem to fin...Show More

Savage Love Episode 640

47:52 | Jan 29th

Therapy is good right? It gets you in touch with your feelings. Unless...those feelings you are getting in touch with are jealousy, paranoia and possessiveness. Sometimes it's time to BACK AWAY FROM THE FEELINGS. Anyway, here's the kind of question y...Show More

Savage Love Episode 639

47:56 | Jan 22nd

Let's call this the BAD BEHAVIOR show, because some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particula...Show More

Savage Love Episode 638

52:13 | Jan 15th

A gay man is sick of always having to initiate with his new boyfriend. The boyfriend is a big guy, but very submissive. How can the caller get the dude to make a move now and again? A woman caught her fiancé wanking to photos of his exes. Now she fee...Show More

Savage Love Episode 637

51:34 | Jan 8th

A Jewish woman is bringing her boyfriend to the Hanukkah party. Great, right? But as always, there's a problem. He has a HITLER MUSTACHE. Because he "likes the look." Dan chats with this woman, and you get to listen. A young man's parents discovered ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 636

50:04 | Jan 1st

The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex wri...Show More

Savage Love Episode 634

50:12 | Dec 18th, 2018

Dear Australia, Hi! This is the Savage Lovecast. Listen. Do you guys refer to the very common sexual position where a man enters a woman from behind while she is on all fours as ..."Doggity Style?" No? We didn't think so. (Both Dan and Nancy are gobs...Show More

Savage Love Episode 633

47:03 | Dec 11th, 2018

A woman had sex with a pre-op transwoman. But she didn't make the caller come, or even try. Now the caller wonders if this is a "vagina-bodied" vs "non vagina-bodied" problem, or just a "jerk" problem. A married gay man with kids begs Dan for a quick...Show More

Savage Love Episode 632

50:19 | Dec 4th, 2018

A man has tried group sex a couple times. But when he shows up his dick doesn't. What is going on here? Oh this story! A girl started seeing her therapist at age 17. At age 19, she confessed to her 45 year-old therapist that she loved him. So, natura...Show More

Savage Love Episode 631

47:46 | Nov 27th, 2018

Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A coup...Show More

Savage Love Episode 630

47:46 | Nov 20th, 2018

We have a word for a woman who sleeps with a straight couple. That's a unicorn, of course. But what should we call a man who provides the same service? Cuz we have a male caller who is totally down. A woman has reconnected with an old high school chu...Show More

Savage Love Episode 629

49:36 | Nov 13th, 2018

Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On th...Show More

Savage Love Episode 628

51:13 | Nov 6th, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when...Show More

Savage Love Episode 627

47:40 | Oct 30th, 2018

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 626

53:59 | Oct 23rd, 2018

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, thin...Show More

Savage Love Episode 625

48:54 | Oct 16th, 2018

A couple adopted a disturbed dog, hell-bent on destroying their sex life! It jumps on the bed, and barks when they try to get busy, and whimpers, barks and whines when left outside the door. Dan "Dog Whisperer" Savage leaps to the rescue. Speaking of...Show More

Savage Love Episode 624

52:10 | Oct 9th, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 623

52:28 | Oct 2nd, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this co...Show More

Savage Love Episode 622

50:58 | Sep 25th, 2018

Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 's...Show More

Savage Love Episode 621

51:15 | Sep 18th, 2018

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan en...Show More

Savage Love Episode 620

47:28 | Sep 11th, 2018

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he want...Show More

Savage Love Episode 619

50:46 | Sep 4th, 2018

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her sibli...Show More

Savage Love Episode 618

52:00 | Aug 28th, 2018

We start this week's adventure with a couple who have a secret unicorn at their beck and call. The wife in the couple doesn't want anyone to know. But the unicorn lass has already told some friends and wants to be more open about the relationship. Wh...Show More

Savage Love Episode 617

50:30 | Aug 21st, 2018

A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 616

51:19 | Aug 14th, 2018

Come hear the sordid tale of the couple who invited a woman over, only to have her wet the bed so thoroughly that she soaked right through to the mattress. Bad unicorn! Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy?" is on to review her husband's fave new toy. What ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 615

51:51 | Aug 7th, 2018

A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before s...Show More

Savage Love Episode 614

49:12 | Jul 31st, 2018

"Dan? If someone sticks a lollypop in my vagina, will I get a yeast infection?" Sincerely, the very first caller. A married woman was horrified to discover raunchy pics of her husband's first cousin on his phone. Would this horrify you? On the Magnum...Show More

Savage Love Episode 613

50:57 | Jul 24th, 2018

A woman who lives in a group house likes listening in when someone is having sex near her. Handwringing ensues. Is this unethical? Should she feel guilty? Should she stop? A woman who has gone from eating way too little to eating way too much, wrestl...Show More

Savage Love Episode 612

49:06 | Jul 17th, 2018

A lesbian is a divorcée at age 20. How can she tell her future girlfriends that she had spectacularly bad judgement when she was of a tender age? Hey everyone! Meet Jason, the offended gay Christian! He wishes Dan wouldn't be so derisive of religion....Show More

Savage Love Episode 611

51:51 | Jul 10th, 2018

A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new...Show More

Savage Love Episode 610

49:38 | Jul 3rd, 2018

A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the fat...Show More

Savage Love Episode 609

55:00 | Jun 26th, 2018

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Worko...Show More

Savage Love Episode 608

48:12 | Jun 19th, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 yea...Show More

Savage Love Episode 607

51:55 | Jun 12th, 2018

A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the bud...Show More

Savage Love Episode 606

49:21 | Jun 5th, 2018

Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other ever...Show More

Savage Love Episode 605

48:55 | May 29th, 2018

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way f...Show More

Savage Love Episode 604

51:25 | May 22nd, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the wom...Show More

Savage Love Episode 603

46:52 | May 15th, 2018

A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little ...Show More

Dating an asexual.

46:09 | May 8th, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the g...Show More

Savage Love Episode 601

53:51 | May 1st, 2018

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A wom...Show More

Savage Love Episode 600

52:07 | Apr 24th, 2018

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she thinks it's true ...Show More

Savage Lovecast #599

46:35 | Apr 17th, 2018

"Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she re...Show More

Savage Love Episode 598

49:53 | Apr 10th, 2018

The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she lam...Show More

Savage Love Episode 597

50:31 | Apr 3rd, 2018

A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristin Mark on how to ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 596

53:25 | Mar 27th, 2018

A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with...Show More

Savage Love Episode 595

46:15 | Mar 20th, 2018

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. O...Show More

Savage Love Episode 594

52:40 | Mar 13th, 2018

After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to di...Show More

Savage Love Episode 593

46:40 | Mar 6th, 2018

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear...Show More

Savage Love Episode 592

56:51 | Feb 27th, 2018

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym'...Show More

Savage Love Episode 591

53:26 | Feb 20th, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires...Show More

Savage Love Episode 590

52:01 | Feb 13th, 2018

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing...Show More

Savage Love Episode 589

51:41 | Feb 6th, 2018

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,)  is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning...Show More

Savage Love Episode 588

53:17 | Jan 30th, 2018

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of P...Show More

Savage Love Episode 587

51:54 | Jan 23rd, 2018

Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman! This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America."  They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy,  and kids sticking things up their butts, among other...Show More

Savage Love Episode 586

48:58 | Jan 16th, 2018

This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's...Show More

Savage Love Episode 585

51:54 | Jan 9th, 2018

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great dat...Show More

Savage Love Episode 584

46:31 | Jan 2nd, 2018

A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 583

51:23 | Dec 26th, 2017

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radi...Show More

Savage Love Episode 582

48:12 | Dec 19th, 2017

A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a lo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 581

49:17 | Dec 12th, 2017

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away so...Show More

Savage Love Episode 580

48:26 | Dec 5th, 2017

A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will t...Show More

Savage Love Episode 579

51:44 | Nov 28th, 2017

"Why won't my girlfriend go down on me?!" asks this nice man, who goes down on her plenty. Does she not like it? What? Nancy and Dan wring their hands together about words, and Nancy reveals something truly horrible about herself. On the Magnum, Dan ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 578

47:31 | Nov 21st, 2017

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. S...Show More

Savage Love Episode 577

44:55 | Nov 14th, 2017

It appears we have reached a cultural moment when we need "The Ten Dick Commandments." Dan chisels a few in the tablet. Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's Wi...Show More

Savage Love Episode 576

44:58 | Nov 7th, 2017

Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains a...Show More

Savage Love Episode 575

48:40 | Oct 31st, 2017

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together a...Show More

Savage Love Episode 574

53:16 | Oct 24th, 2017

A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography...Show More

Savage Love Episode 573

52:26 | Oct 17th, 2017

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years.  But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 572

49:41 | Oct 10th, 2017

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a documentary about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On th...Show More

Savage Love Episode 571

51:00 | Oct 3rd, 2017

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 570

46:51 | Sep 26th, 2017

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Wou...Show More

Savage Love Episode 569

56:04 | Sep 19th, 2017

This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get h...Show More

Savage Love Episode 568

53:18 | Sep 12th, 2017

A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 567

49:48 | Sep 5th, 2017

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan ch...Show More

Savage Love Episode 566

46:53 | Aug 29th, 2017

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-20...Show More

Savage Love Episode 565

47:05 | Aug 22nd, 2017

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we h...Show More

Savage Love Episode 564

48:10 | Aug 14th, 2017

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A  woman has started dating a man who tra...Show More

Savage Love Episode 563

50:32 | Aug 8th, 2017

On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr...Show More

Savage Love Episode 562

50:42 | Aug 1st, 2017

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, D...Show More

Savage Love Episode 561

52:07 | Jul 25th, 2017

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter?  A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 560

51:37 | Jul 18th, 2017

A man's girlfriend won't let him watch Game of Thrones due to all the violence against women. Does she have the right? Should we all be boycotting the show? Salon's Amanda Marcotte is here to weigh in. A lesbian is exploring dom/sub play with her gir...Show More

Savage Love Episode 559

49:23 | Jul 11th, 2017

If your Tinder guy can't get it up, should you move on, or give him a chance? A woman is dating a man 13 years her senior. Is this sort of age difference inherently immoral because...Woody Allen? On the Magnum, a deep dive into trans world with Buck ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 558

52:51 | Jul 4th, 2017

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 557

52:26 | Jun 27th, 2017

A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New D...Show More

Savage Love Episode 556

52:39 | Jun 20th, 2017

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight.   A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, t...Show More

Savage Love Episode 555

48:10 | Jun 13th, 2017

A woman is engaged to be married. She has been with about 80 lovers, and he has never been with anyone but her. He begs her to tell him all about her adventures to the point of obsession. Why does he wants to hear it all, and does she have to tell hi...Show More

Savage Love Episode 554

50:50 | Jun 6th, 2017

A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 553

52:17 | May 30th, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel, that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man ha...Show More

Savage Love Episode 552

53:13 | May 23rd, 2017

A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, lovely body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life....Show More

Savage Love Episode 551

54:48 | May 16th, 2017

A man and a woman used to date, but now they're just friends. The woman got married and doesn't want her rich husband to know that she used to date the caller. Is it because she's embarrassed that the caller doesn't make enough money? From three-way ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 550

48:34 | May 9th, 2017

A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came b...Show More

Savage Love Episode 549

50:06 | May 2nd, 2017

A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move? A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 548

53:08 | Apr 25th, 2017

A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight frien...Show More

Savage Love Episode 547

48:35 | Apr 18th, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 546

52:02 | Apr 11th, 2017

Gather round, Lovecast listeners. Hear the tale of the pansexual housecleaner and the nasty surprise. Can a giant penis instigate menstrual bleeding? Is there anything a giant penis can't do? Ob/gyn and activist Leah Torres, is here to answer. On the...Show More

Savage Love Episode 545

49:26 | Apr 4th, 2017

A man gets turned on by the sight of his girlfriend smoking. The problem is, she doesn't smoke. We get our monthly sex toy review by the delightful (and knowledgable) Erika Moen. This week: a big ole vibrator called The Doxy. On the Magnum, Dan inter...Show More

Savage Love Episode 544

49:37 | Mar 28th, 2017

A straight man is into pre-op transwomen in an odd way. He wants nothing to do with their penises, but just likes knowing they're there. In another penis-obsessed call, a man with big 'un is dismayed when a lady fails to swoon at the sight of his fla...Show More

Savage Love Episode 543

50:53 | Mar 21st, 2017

A woman's father is planning to go to Russia to fetch his new mail-order bride. How can the caller convince her delusional father that this is not such a good idea? Hear the sordid tale of the Ambien-befuddled, drunky, but also kind of hot step-mothe...Show More

Savage Love Episode 542

52:26 | Mar 14th, 2017

For all you Belle fans out there, a little advice: For god's sake, don't sleep with the beast! Dan and Salon journalist Amanda Marcotte tear down Disney's latest. Dan consoles a man whose employee immediately slept with his ex-girlfriend, right after...Show More

Savage Love Episode 541

49:06 | Mar 7th, 2017

Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan ta...Show More

Savage Love Episode 540

51:41 | Feb 28th, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan help...Show More

Savage Love Episode 539

50:56 | Feb 21st, 2017

Savage Lovecast #539 A gay man has had small breasts ever since he was a kid. His lovers aren't so into it. He doesn't want to get them removed because he feels they are a part of him. How should he explain his extra bells and whistles? A woman getti...Show More

Savage Love Episode 538

50:44 | Feb 14th, 2017

A couple tricky pregnancy situations on this show: A newly pregnant woman has discovered that her boyfriend snoops through her personal stuff with no apology.  Should she dump him and embrace single motherhood? Our other pregnant woman misjudged the ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 537

49:56 | Feb 7th, 2017

A man's girlfriend moved to NYC to become a ballerina. But instead she's been boozing and eating food! Is it his place to tell her that ballerinas don't actually, you  know, eat? A transwoman has moved heaven and earth to get herself through college,...Show More

Savage Love Episode 536

52:52 | Jan 31st, 2017

    A married Canadian lesbian is about to meet the Syrian refugees that her parents are hosting. But she worries that they will not approve of gay people. How should she present herself and her wife to these traumatized people from a different cultu...Show More

Savage Love Episode 535

52:36 | Jan 24th, 2017

"Boyfriend, boyfriend, there's a lump in your testicle!" Should the caller deliver this news bluntly or keep her discovery to herself? A mother's 9-year old son wants to be a stripper when he grows up. How can this mom advise him and keep her cool? E...Show More

Savage Love Episode 534

47:31 | Jan 17th, 2017

We are totally Trumping it up this week, guys. First Dan explains why it could be possible that DT is into piss despite his claim of being a germo-phobe. He gets an assist from The Gist's Mike Pesca. Then! Angel Padilla from the brilliant Indivisible...Show More

Savage Love Episode 533

49:31 | Jan 10th, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work,...Show More

Savage Love Episode 532

53:37 | Jan 3rd, 2017

A 45 year-old man has observed his 21 year-old niece putting up suggestive pics on Instagram. Would it be the correct avuncular gesture to talk to his niece about the folly of her actions? Meanwhile, a woman's boyfriend's cousin called her a "fuckin'...Show More

Savage Love Episode 531

47:43 | Dec 27th, 2016

In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes do...Show More

Savage Love Episode 530

49:45 | Dec 20th, 2016

It's the happiest time of the year here at the Savage Lovecast, as we gather in Portland and also Seattle (somehow) for our annual-ish Christmas Special Extravaganza! Come for the snarky sex-advice, stay for the magnificent <a href="http://www.shirle...Show More

Savage Love Episode 529

54:12 | Dec 13th, 2016

A woman is living at her boyfriend's house with his parents while he is away. Guess what! The dad has started kissing her on the mouth and tries to slip her the tongue. Should she tell her boyfriend that his father is a loathsome fiend? Speaking of l...Show More

Savage Love Episode 528

47:41 | Dec 6th, 2016

A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller co...Show More

Savage Love Episode 527

54:02 | Nov 29th, 2016

A gay man wonders if it's possible to have a happy, healthy, poly triad. Can sex give you acne? Dan consults a professor of dermatology to get to the bottom of this one. On the Magnum, a special treat for you uber-kinksters. The gentlemen from the No...Show More

Savage Love Episode 526

49:08 | Nov 22nd, 2016

Here's a happily married couple. He digs exhibitionism, which she indulged after taking a deep breath. She wants to try BDSM, but he isn't having it. Is it her right to demand it, and what's his god damn problem? A married woman likes to be fashionab...Show More

Savage Love Episode 525

54:27 | Nov 15th, 2016

Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced...Show More

Savage Love Episode 524

48:33 | Nov 8th, 2016

A woman has been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years. She is considering some sort of grand gesture to win him back. Should she throw a parade? Hire a lesbian motorcycle gang to deliver one single rose? Or maybe let him go? A 22 year-old gay man has b...Show More

Savage Love Episode 523

51:17 | Nov 1st, 2016

On the worst birthday EVER, a woman learns that her beloved long distance boyfriend...has a wife. If the wife asks her, should she lie for him? A man's friend is dating a guy who gets coked up, turns the photos of her face-down and hires prostitutes ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 522

49:54 | Oct 25th, 2016

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our ca...Show More

Savage Love Episode 521

51:32 | Oct 18th, 2016

How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such...Show More

Savage Love Episode 520

52:55 | Oct 11th, 2016

A woman asks her boyfriend to tell her erotic stories when they are having sex. Is this too much to ask? He's running out of plots. A distraught woman discovers that her ex from years ago put up naked photos of her online. Is there anything she can d...Show More

Savage Love Episode 519

53:59 | Oct 4th, 2016

Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insis...Show More

Savage Love Episode 518

49:38 | Sep 27th, 2016

A woman is horrified to discover her new boyfriend's disgusting habit. This habit truly is one of the most revolting things we've ever heard, and you do know that we've heard a LOT, right? You'll have to listen to find out what it is. A woman and her...Show More

Savage Love Episode 517

49:42 | Sep 20th, 2016

A lesbian is about to go to a wedding with a bunch of conservative guests. And guess who's going to be there! You'll never guess. Ricky Santorum! How should she take advantage of this unusual opportunity? Dan chats with pro-dominatrix, writer and act...Show More

Savage Love Episode 516

47:04 | Sep 13th, 2016

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 515

50:43 | Sep 6th, 2016

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of  "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan  speaks with Profes...Show More

Savage Love Episode 514

56:05 | Aug 30th, 2016

Hey Chicago! We were in you! And we recorded the whole thing. Have a listen to our live show from last Spring at the Music Box Theatre. On the Magnum, Dan dares to argue with Heather Havrilesky (a.k.a "Ask Polly" from New York Magazine,) about the ro...Show More

Savage Love Episode 513

46:14 | Aug 23rd, 2016

A closeted bi woman, newly aware of her own bisexuality, feels guilty when she so much as hugs another woman. How can she get over it already? A lesbian is about to have her wedding. Does she have the right to exclude Trump supporters from the guest ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 512

51:09 | Aug 16th, 2016

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfrien...Show More

Savage Love Episode 511

52:03 | Aug 9th, 2016

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. S...Show More

Savage Love Episode 510

49:22 | Aug 2nd, 2016

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 509

48:43 | Jul 26th, 2016

A woman is in a new relationship with a wonderful man! But! His ex keeps coming around leaving love notes, Victoria's Secret receipts and otherwise marking her territory. How can the caller flush out the intrusive ex? What is the etiquette in asking ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 508

53:09 | Jul 19th, 2016

Last week, we asked our African-American listeners to call and speak their minds. Please listen to them at the end of the show. It's  the American thing to do. A woman is married to a man she knows is a creep. He pervs at all the wrong times to all t...Show More

Savage Love Episode 507

54:00 | Jul 12th, 2016

A woman with Catholic in-laws tires to figure out whether she should cave in to them and get her little baby baptized. Dan’s advice…may shock you. Then, Dan chats with ex-muslim sex blogger and children's book author, Elynah about sex negativity in c...Show More

Savage Love Episode 506

48:25 | Jul 5th, 2016

The ins and outs of HUMP! Dan chats with Hump! Producer Tracey Cataldo about the Hump! Film Festival- what kinds of films you can expect to watch and how to make the kind of porn we want to see. What to do when your open relationship comes to a scree...Show More

Savage Love Episode 505

53:58 | Jun 28th, 2016

A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discus...Show More

Savage Love Episode 504

50:29 | Jun 21st, 2016

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 503

57:41 | Jun 14th, 2016

Please listen to Dan’s heart-rending response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about...Show More

Savage Love Episode 502

49:29 | Jun 7th, 2016

A man is dating a woman who stopped putting on make-up and fixing her hair. If he asked her to start gussying herself up again, would that make him, like…you know…an asshole? A woman asks a question that sends Dan scurrying to the red phone to call a...Show More

Savage Love Episode 501

50:44 | May 31st, 2016

Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 500

51:54 | May 24th, 2016

This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.”  Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party....Show More

Savage Love Episode 499

49:15 | May 17th, 2016

What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend t...Show More

Savage Love Episode 498

51:20 | May 10th, 2016

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. An...Show More

Savage Love Episode 497

48:32 | May 3rd, 2016

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationshipfor 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what shethinks is an unhealthy relationship?A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting inher boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wro...Show More

Savage Love Episode 496

49:12 | Apr 26th, 2016

It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock r...Show More

Savage Love Episode 495

52:49 | Apr 19th, 2016

Furries and Cheeseheads: Join us in Madison, Wisconsin as Dan loves up his old college town. He took about a million questions from the audience and messed with their Midwestern heads. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the charming hosts of Feral Attrac...Show More

Savage Love Episode 494

51:18 | Apr 12th, 2016

  A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartz...Show More

Savage Love Episode 493

55:54 | Apr 5th, 2016

Let’s just say your girlfriend gets turned on by listening to you talk to other people on the phone. Would it be so, so wrong to keep the customer service agent from Verizon on the line, just so your girlfriend can listen to you from the other room, ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 492

54:36 | Mar 29th, 2016

The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns ri...Show More

Savage Love Episode 491

48:00 | Mar 22nd, 2016

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrif...Show More

Savage Love Episode 490

52:11 | Mar 15th, 2016

Aw sheeeeeeee, guys. It’s Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY.  Dan and the gals talk about period sex, pegging, smoking weed, beards and bumpkins among other things. You’ll also hear some inside dirt about their process in making Broad City and their pla...Show More

Savage Love Episode 489

54:24 | Mar 8th, 2016

It’s the Valentine’s Day show! We recorded this at Portland’s Revolution Hall on February 14 in front of a very live audience. With musician/force of nature Rachel Lark, comedian/force of nature Bri Pruitt  and three game straight boys. 206-302-2064...Show More

Savage Love Episode 488

56:08 | Mar 1st, 2016

A man raised fundamentalist Christian has discovered the pleasures of “titty-bars” where he can behold “beautiful boobies.” Now that he’s getting divorced, how soon should he tell the lucky ladies that he plans to date about his marital status? A wo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 487

52:37 | Feb 23rd, 2016

A mature 18 year-old has somehow failed to tell her real age to her new boyfriend who thinks she’s at least 20. How can she come clean? A man is totally into being cuckolded. Does his girlfriend have to tell her other lovers that they are part of a ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 486

49:56 | Feb 16th, 2016

A woman is thinking of surprising her boyfriend with another woman to have a three-way with. Can Dan talk her out of it? An evenly bisexual man had to come out at his macho job as gay when was engaged to a man. Now that he’s dating a woman, does he ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 485

49:01 | Feb 9th, 2016

A gay man wants nothing more than to watch strong men flex their muscles for him. His straight friend is willing…but would it be too weird? A woman recently got broken up with by her boyfriend. She used to pay all the bills and float him cash. How c...Show More

Savage Love Episode 484

50:34 | Feb 2nd, 2016

If you are a straight girl, is it ok to seek friendship with a lesbian? Even if she has a girlfriend? (Actual question. Actually asked.) A young man is dating a former anorexic, former model and the sex is great. But! She is still living at home and...Show More

Savage Love Episode 483

49:52 | Jan 26th, 2016

A woman’s roommate up and left without notice, leaving  behind some expenses in the care of her sick, aged cat. Dan gets in full Judge Judy drag to help arbitrate this rather mundane dispute. Meanwhile, a lesbian wants her butt-plug back! She lent i...Show More

Savage Love Episode 482

46:24 | Jan 19th, 2016

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman an...Show More

Savage Love Episode 481

53:52 | Jan 12th, 2016

What to do when your drunken cousin starts blabbing about all the affairs she’s having and all the cocaine she’s snorting and all the traffic accidents she’s having? A professor is in anguish because she is about to sleep with a much younger, very g...Show More

Savage Love Episode 480

49:59 | Jan 5th, 2016

In two separate calls, straight men are harassed by their gay male friends. One caller had his buddy drunkenly grope him. The other’s pal assails him with aggressive sexual innuendo. Knock it off fellas! A married woman has a husband who doesn’t tru...Show More

Savage Love Episode 479

50:09 | Dec 29th, 2015

A woman has started “living her passion” by working as a webcam girl. But she’s nervous about telling her mother about her new career. How can she break the news? A woman fulfilled a lifelong fantasy of having a super-hot threeway with two bi men. B...Show More

Savage Love Episode 478

51:58 | Dec 22nd, 2015

A woman’s husband makes unpleasant sexual innuendos and gropes her right in front of the kids. How can she get him to stop? Are you into puke porn? OMG so am I!  Anyway, a very kind hearted, GGG woman wants to help her husband to realize his fantasy...Show More

Savage Love Episode 477

49:58 | Dec 15th, 2015

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old wom...Show More

Savage Love Episode 476

50:03 | Dec 8th, 2015

It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex wo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 475

51:42 | Dec 1st, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 474

50:47 | Nov 24th, 2015

As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you will feel thankful:  Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father...Show More

Savage Love Episode 473

51:43 | Nov 17th, 2015

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sle...Show More

Savage Love Episode 472

48:23 | Nov 10th, 2015

Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng ap...Show More

Savage Love Episode 471

57:03 | Nov 3rd, 2015

It’s episode 420! Oh wait. No it isn’t. We totally spaced episode 420. But better late than never! Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy, At-Risk Youth journey to Denver, Colorado where we recorded a live show, baked out of our skulls. Because pot is legal ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 470

55:39 | Oct 27th, 2015

In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbe...Show More

Savage Love Episode 469

55:32 | Oct 20th, 2015

How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 468

50:25 | Oct 13th, 2015

At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfrie...Show More

Savage Love Episode 467

54:21 | Oct 6th, 2015

Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man docume...Show More

Savage Love Episode 466

50:40 | Sep 29th, 2015

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.”  He thinks this...Show More

Savage Love Episode 465

50:33 | Sep 22nd, 2015

It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the scienc...Show More

Savage Love Episode 464

48:25 | Sep 15th, 2015

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing?  Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving...Show More

Savage Love Episode 463

52:31 | Sep 8th, 2015

It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…)  And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real eff...Show More

Savage Love Episode 462

47:03 | Sep 1st, 2015

A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend?  Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby.  A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal...Show More

Savage Love Episode 461

50:18 | Aug 25th, 2015

Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks.  How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that...Show More

Savage Love Episode 460

48:42 | Aug 18th, 2015

Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- thi...Show More

Savage Love Episode 459

48:51 | Aug 11th, 2015

Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you?  A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a lov...Show More

Savage Love Episode 458

51:12 | Aug 4th, 2015

Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle.  Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst case ass sc...Show More

Savage Love Episode 457

48:09 | Jul 28th, 2015

A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 456

53:08 | Jul 21st, 2015

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different react...Show More

Savage Love Episode 455

52:02 | Jul 14th, 2015

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty.   A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he know...Show More

Savage Love Episode 454

48:07 | Jul 7th, 2015

While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start tal...Show More

Savage Love Episode 453

51:20 | Jun 30th, 2015

This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because...Show More

Savage Love Episode 452

52:02 | Jun 23rd, 2015

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and...Show More

Savage Love Episode 451

49:14 | Jun 16th, 2015

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required?  A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft wh...Show More

Savage Love Episode 450

53:47 | Jun 9th, 2015

An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea?  Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 449

53:07 | Jun 2nd, 2015

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy...Show More

Savage Love Episode 448

51:34 | May 26th, 2015

Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents?  A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what?  On the Ma...Show More

Savage Love Episode 447

47:38 | May 19th, 2015

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem?  A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 446

47:58 | May 12th, 2015

This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,”  how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and wheth...Show More

Savage Love Episode 445

48:53 | May 5th, 2015

Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers.  A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOC...Show More

Savage Love Episode 444

54:38 | Apr 28th, 2015

A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues.  How should straight men act at gay pride...Show More

Savage Love Episode 443

48:59 | Apr 21st, 2015

After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face?  A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminis...Show More

Savage Love Episode 442

51:17 | Apr 14th, 2015

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman?  Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of  theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present.  ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 441

56:01 | Apr 7th, 2015

This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu.  When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly? ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 440

49:15 | Mar 31st, 2015

Her fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage?  Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 439

53:34 | Mar 24th, 2015

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one.  Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with S...Show More

Savage Love Episode 438

51:51 | Mar 17th, 2015

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey.  When planning a three...Show More

Savage Love Episode 437

49:28 | Mar 10th, 2015

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along?  A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets...Show More

Savage Love Episode 436

50:07 | Mar 3rd, 2015

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry he...Show More

Savage Love Episode 435

47:15 | Feb 24th, 2015

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics?  How do gay peo...Show More

Savage Love Episode 434

50:50 | Feb 17th, 2015

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issue...Show More

Savage Love Episode 433

48:41 | Feb 10th, 2015

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation?  A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's com...Show More

Savage Love Episode 432

54:54 | Feb 3rd, 2015

Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirming" churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn't beli...Show More

Savage Love Episode 431

51:06 | Jan 27th, 2015

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship?  A woman likes to be th...Show More

Savage Love Episode 430

46:24 | Jan 20th, 2015

It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one.  Bad Science Alert! Femal...Show More

Savage Love Episode 429

49:12 | Jan 13th, 2015

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know.  How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend?  Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesk...Show More

Savage Love Episode 428

53:24 | Jan 6th, 2015

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let him know he ha...Show More

Savage Love Episode 427

54:09 | Dec 30th, 2014

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?"  A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like?  One...Show More

Savage Love Episode 426

1:03:15 | Dec 23rd, 2014

Come all ye faithful. It's the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza!  Recorded at Seattle's Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rachel Lark, comedian Derek Sheen, and a suddenly recruited, unwitting therapist! And Dan uses the scie...Show More

Savage Love Episode 425

49:45 | Dec 16th, 2014

If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong?  When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend's mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidenc...Show More

Savage Love Episode 424

47:01 | Dec 9th, 2014

A bi man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his "family?" A high ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 423

50:35 | Dec 2nd, 2014

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it?  In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 5...Show More

Savage Love Episode 422

52:00 | Nov 25th, 2014

If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian's father is a religious leader, who begged her to stay in that deep, dark closet or he might lose his "job." H...Show More

Savage Love Episode 421

51:53 | Nov 18th, 2014

Wait. You haven't yet heard "My Brother, My Brother and Me?"  Well, we've rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the Brothers McElroy for a Second Opinion on how to change your boyfriend's look, the cruel practice of "sexile" and a cold ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 420

50:41 | Nov 11th, 2014

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen from the national rape support organization RAINN about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault.  A father struggles to explain his affair to his 12 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with D...Show More

Savage Love Episode 419

49:10 | Nov 4th, 2014

Dan and the incomparable RuPaul chat about Drag Race, foot fetishes and living in Wyoming.  A man's girlfriend wants to seize control of his alcohol intake. But… he's a brewer.  A woman's boyfriend has a nasty, ill-tempered dog that licks and licks...Show More

Savage Love Episode 418

47:36 | Oct 28th, 2014

It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe."  Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake?  Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work?  On...Show More

Savage Love Episode 417

50:04 | Oct 21st, 2014

Delusion and disfunction; this episode has more than it's fair share. Inevitable break-ups, sexless marriages, cheating and scheming. Feast your ears!  On the sweet, sweet Magnum, Dan chats with sex party luminary Polly Superstar! Also, in a "What ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 416

1:01:25 | Oct 14th, 2014

It's the Savage Lovecast LIVE from Vancouver BC. Featuring the super-delightful sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto and the incomparably filthy singer-songwriter Rachel Lark.    You only live once... 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamp...Show More

Savage Love Episode 415

47:59 | Oct 7th, 2014

A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend's new girlfriend. They've never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social media? Should he speak up to protect his friend, or butt out already?  A very naughty woman is sexting ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 414

55:46 | Sep 30th, 2014

This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into your boyfriend's heart, and TANTRIC SEX of all things.  Also, a very sad call about a woman who can onl...Show More

Savage Love Episode 413

51:08 | Sep 23rd, 2014

A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting. And THAT AIN'T FAIR!  Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.)  A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't...Show More

Savage Love Episode 412

49:58 | Sep 16th, 2014

Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea?  A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her friends warn her against it. But it gets her off, so why should she listen to them?  On the Magnum, we ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 411

48:32 | Sep 9th, 2014

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed?  Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that destroyed a relationship.  A college lesbian is horrified to discover that...Show More

Savage Love Episode 410

52:00 | Sep 2nd, 2014

What do you do when your potential new roommate comes with his very own stalker?  Dan chats with Dr. Vy Chu about the real risks of sleeping with honest, HIV-pos guys. On the Magnum, we are delighted to bring back fashion force-of-nature Simon Doon...Show More

Savage Love Episode 409

48:25 | Aug 26th, 2014

Dan and his old co-host Mary Martone talk about cat jealousy, mate poaching, and have an epic, drag-out battle over fat-shaming.  This episode is brought to you by Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Sava...Show More

Savage Love Episode 408

49:36 | Aug 19th, 2014

This week, Dan welcomes author Joan Price to talk about sexuality for older folks. Meanwhile, back in high school, a gay lad is suffering because his boyfriend has suddenly decided he's straight.  On the Magnum, Dan chats and spars with prolific fr...Show More

Savage Love Episode 407

50:04 | Aug 12th, 2014

Take it from us, whatever you do- don't offend the adult baby.  Also, how should you respond when you get hit on by a 13 year-old?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with "Lazlo" -organizer of the Orgy Dome at Burning Man about sex at the sandy festival.  ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 406

45:25 | Aug 5th, 2014

Starting the show, Dan invites co-ranter Congressman Patrick J. Murphy to discuss why democrats treat military personnel better than the Rs.  A gay man is getting cat-called by his horn-dog neighbor. How can he politely tell him to knock it off? On...Show More

Savage Love Episode 405

48:12 | Jul 29th, 2014

Dan and infectious disease doctor/science writer Jonathan Golob talk about people who are anti-vaccine and whether you should have sex with them.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with YouTube sensation Arielle Scarcella about the wide, wide world of lesbia...Show More

Savage Love Episode 404

44:01 | Jul 22nd, 2014

Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, b...Show More

Savage Love Episode 403

48:16 | Jul 15th, 2014

When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary?  A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she's gay during her job inter...Show More

Savage Love Episode 402

44:20 | Jul 8th, 2014

Dan welcomes special guest ranter Martha Plimpton to talk about Hobby Lobby. A gay male couple were locked in a pattern of cheating to get revenge on each other. Now that they've cut it out, how can they bring in some trust?  On the Magnum, how muc...Show More

Savage Love Episode 401

43:30 | Jul 1st, 2014

A gay man appears to be a straight man magnet. Straight men declare their love for him more than gay men do. Why? And how can he make it stop?!  Meanwhile, in the mountains of Alaska, a couple have reached the divide where one of them wants kids and...Show More

Savage Love Episode 400

49:38 | Jun 24th, 2014

A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasantness.  A woman still living with her ex-husband and son wonders how poly people balance all those...Show More

Savage Love Episode 399

52:47 | Jun 17th, 2014

A woman battling cancer wishes to marry her boyfriend. But he's not quite ready. Maybe a sex-advice podcaster can convince him?  Another woman doesn't understand why her married male friends keep kitting on her. What signal is she sending out and ho...Show More

Savage Love Episode 398

51:07 | Jun 10th, 2014

A man has learned that his father was sadistic, abusive and cruel. The caller is in to S&M. Does this mean he is destined to be just like his reprehensible father?  A woman is offered a "free" trip to the Caribbean. But the trip is so NOT free, as t...Show More

Savage Love Episode 397

45:48 | Jun 3rd, 2014

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown?  A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kin...Show More

Savage Love Episode 396

49:40 | May 27th, 2014

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young?  A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin?  On the Magnum, Dan and D...Show More

Savage Love Episode 395

46:33 | May 20th, 2014

In our first installment of "Second Opinion," Dan and Slate's Dear Prudence face off on how to deal with poisonous in-laws, and how much to tip when you receive an unexpected happy ending.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Paul Vasey about feeders,...Show More

Savage Love Episode 394

41:04 | May 13th, 2014

Can two Aquarians last as a couple? Can they really?  Pop quiz! When is the best time to tell your girlfriend that you have crabs: a) Before you make sweet love to her all weekend. b) After you make sweet love to her all weekend.  On the Magnum, Da...Show More

Savage Love Episode 393

44:20 | May 6th, 2014

He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he's over it, he's dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he's still shy and giggly about it.  A woman and her husband have embarked on a long-distance, open relationship. But tha...Show More

Savage Love Episode 392

40:29 | Apr 29th, 2014

How can a man best comfort the woman he just dumped?  A woman is scared to tell her parents that she is engaged to a man thirty years her senior.  And, Cleveland Steamers demystified!  On the Magnum, our house urologist- Dr. Stephen King tells mor...Show More

Savage Love Episode 390

48:37 | Apr 15th, 2014

Dan counsels a woman in yet another a conservative small town on how to help her lesbian daughter make it out of there alive.  A gay man has gone above and beyond to fulfill his partner's fireman fantasy. How can he get a little reciprocation? For ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 389

51:06 | Apr 8th, 2014

Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine.  Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with universal advice for the recently rejected.  A woman's mother over-shares about her sexless marriage. W...Show More

Savage Love Episode 388

47:52 | Apr 1st, 2014

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids.  A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules?  ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 387

43:48 | Mar 25th, 2014

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Dehlia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and wh...Show More

Savage Love Episode 386

49:37 | Mar 18th, 2014

This week, bizarrely, Dan welcomes 74-time Jeopardy! winner Ken Jennings to banter and chat. Sure, Jeopardy boy can handle minute details about the Spanish-American war, but how does he fare when confronted with questions about naked men running thro...Show More

Savage Love Episode 385

52:16 | Mar 11th, 2014

On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag.  Dan welcomes author and therapist Dr. Marty Klein to advise a woman whose dear friend has cut off a...Show More

Savage Love Episode 384

49:40 | Mar 4th, 2014

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography...Show More

Savage Love Episode 383

51:15 | Feb 25th, 2014

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions.  A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because...Show More

Savage Love Episode 382

1:00:36 | Feb 18th, 2014

It's the LIVE Valentine's Day show, taped at Seattle's Neptune Theatre.  The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a "Coming and Going.") With special guests Caitlin Doughty from "Ask a Mortician," comedian Kristine Levine and musical guests the Wet Spots....Show More

Savage Love Episode 381

51:03 | Feb 11th, 2014

We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs...Show More

Savage Love Episode 380

54:53 | Feb 4th, 2014

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people.  Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia.  Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum...Show More

Savage Love Episode 379

49:43 | Jan 28th, 2014

A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance?  A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive ...Show More

Savage Love Episode 378

49:10 | Jan 21st, 2014

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work?...Show More

Savage Love Episode 377

46:59 | Jan 14th, 2014

On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US.  A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his...Show More

Savage Love Episode 376

47:00 | Jan 7th, 2014

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka?  A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamor...Show More

Savage Love Episode 375

46:44 | Dec 31st, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet?  A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great li...Show More

Savage Love Episode 374

45:52 | Dec 24th, 2013

In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the en...Show More

Savage Love Episode 373

43:49 | Dec 17th, 2013

A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen.  Can porn kill your boner? How to deal with a creep-o co-worker. On the Magnum version, a lesbian is sick of her girlfriend be...Show More

Savage Love Episode 372

43:02 | Dec 10th, 2013

A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention.  A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South.  On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture ...Show More