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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savageloveca...Show More
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48:58 | Dec 25th, 2018

Gather round the Lovecast Christmas tree children, and see what audio gifts we have for you! Why, here's a question from a power bottom who pees when he gets fucked!  And look! A woman's boyfriend won't use sex toys on her if they've been used before...Show More

46:01 | Apr 23rd, 2013

Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match?  Over at ...Show More

45:22 | Apr 16th, 2013

Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.c...Show More

48:02 | Apr 9th, 2013

A woman caring for her father with dementia discovers that he is a pedophile, though she thinks he never acts on his desires. Should she tell her mom? The nurses in his house?  A man needs to think about lesbian relationships before he can nod off to...Show More

50:53 | Apr 2nd, 2013

What a chatterbox Dan Savage is this week! He speaks with a foot model about creepos in the foot fetish community, and tears 14 new…apertures into a misbehaving drunky lass who just doesn't get straight privilege.  Confidential to Drunky McBlackout l...Show More

46:30 | Mar 26th, 2013

Meet Naughty Dr. Pee-Pee and the Patient with a Secret. Those of you in the medical or dental professions will find this episode most… illuminating. A man is feeling hella anxiety over the fact that his girlfriend makes a lot more money than he does....Show More

44:50 | Mar 19th, 2013

This week Dan speaks again with Slate reporter Daniel Engber now that Gilberto Valle, AKA the Cannibal Cop, has been found guilty. Sleep a little easier, ladies everywhere.  Also, how to get your lover to open up a (consensual) can of whup-ass on you...Show More

48:58 | Mar 12th, 2013

It seems like everyone is angry at the gays. Hear the super-sad tale of a father outed and then hated by his own daughter. But she doesn't hate him too much to accept his financial aid... And, 4 years after proposing on the top of the Eiffel Tower to...Show More

56:36 | Mar 5th, 2013

How does one go about inviting a man over for dinner, when you really want to initiate the three-way sequence?  Pointy-headed science writer Jesse Bering speaks with Dan about the ubiquity of fantasies involving power and control.  And, squirm along ...Show More

58:47 | Feb 26th, 2013

This week Dan welcomes two guests. Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" talks about sex in your golden years. And John Schwartz author of "Oddly Normal" speaks with Dan about the challenges of raising a gay teen.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720 Th...Show More

49:08 | Feb 19th, 2013

This is the live taping of the freaky show we did at the Neptune Theater featuring Simon Rich, Mistress Matisse, Audrey from Babeland and others. Have a listen, close your eyes and use your twisted imagination.  206-201-2720  This episode is brought ...Show More

47:52 | Feb 12th, 2013

A young lesbian is offended that her parents won't let her have her best friend, also a lesbian, join her for a sleepover. Are her parents being homophobic? Or just parents?  Another lesbian's conservative Christian parents have moved from bald unacc...Show More

48:26 | Feb 5th, 2013

Dan desperately tries to convince a young gay man to use a condom when hooking up with random hot Australians.  The amazing Buck Angel speaks with Dan about dating FtM transsexuals.  And sex educator Amy Lang helps explain how to teach your son to av...Show More

52:07 | Jan 29th, 2013

All hail Planned Parenthood! On today's show the Lovecast welcomes Dr. Anna Kaminski, senior physician for the venerable organization, who can calmly explain to Dan that scabies are not spiders, and consider the dangers of drinking blood without runn...Show More

49:45 | Jan 22nd, 2013

Tales of addiction; A woman in recovery worries that if she introduces S&M into her relationship that it will consume her life like booze or heroin. And, Dan speaks with Dr. Marty Klein on challenging the myth of sex addiction.  A woman with homopho...Show More

45:42 | Jan 15th, 2013

Dan welcomes very special guest star Mistress Matisse to discuss S&M when you're really, really mad. Also Dan goes into the finer details of hickey etiquette, and clears up once and for all whether mutual masturbation is fact or fiction. Call, call, ...Show More

47:26 | Jan 8th, 2013

A gay man started his coming out process by announcing that he was bi to his parents. Now that he knows he's a full 'mo, how can he convince his skeptical parents?  The ultimate revenge: a woman and her ex-fiance are long broken up. But his super-hot...Show More

40:21 | Jan 1st, 2013

Welcome to 2013 where the sexual landscape seems just as freaky as it did in 2012. Highlights from todays show: a woman dating a closet asexual, a daughter who realizes that both she and her mother are subs, a man whose boyfriend rejects him because ...Show More

46:27 | Dec 25th, 2012

Well, well, well. What heartwarming tales have we to share on our very special Christmas Lovecast? Why, here's one about the crippling guilt and shame a woman can't shake from her promiscuous past. And look! A lad who snooped on his twin brother's ph...Show More

47:11 | Dec 18th, 2012

There's a lot of cheating in this episode. Through the miracle of audio, you'll experience the world through the eyes of a former cheater, an aspiring temptress and the judgmental sister of a home-wrecker.  And just to make sure you feel some feeling...Show More

44:19 | Dec 11th, 2012

Is there reasonable etiquette regarding the casual eating of pussy? A man refuses to go down on ladies he doesn't know well. Does this make him an asshole?  When she was 14, she made up a violent rape and milked the lie for drama to her boyfriend at ...Show More

50:22 | Dec 4th, 2012

Lesbians! Have you noticed that wherever you go you run into your lover's ex and your friends are all the same and there's only one lesbian bar in town? Thought so.  The continuum of culpability; when is infidelity a misdemeanor and when is it a felo...Show More

50:11 | Nov 27th, 2012

A bride-to-be faces a problematic wedding guest list. Should she invite her gaggle of gay friends and let them commingle with her conservative, bigoted relatives and coworkers? Hear the complicated tale of the not-quite-out lesbian and her chattering...Show More

53:36 | Nov 20th, 2012

A man receives a mysterious image of a woman's pregnant belly, accompanied by a simple message telling him he's the father. Does he have the right to ask for proof? A conversation with Jillian Keenan, whose article in the New York Times explores her ...Show More

50:20 | Nov 13th, 2012

Cock blocked! A man's friend did his best to steal the girl. How can the caller tell his "buddy" to get lost?  Can Dan Savage prevent a potentially disastrous three-way from occurring?  A man ruined his chances with a lovely lady by getting a little ...Show More

43:38 | Nov 6th, 2012

Hear a nail-bitten, wretched Dan Savage counsel the lovelorn despite a wracking flu, and election day jitters. Topics! Coming out at your cousin's bar mitzvah. Introducing your ugly new boyfriend to your friends. Telling your jerko ex-boyfriend that ...Show More

41:49 | Oct 30th, 2012

Face-eating zombies, infested snacks, and buckets and buckets of blood! It's the Lovecast Halloween show, featuring true tales of sex-related horror. Plus an interview with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Listen only if you dare.  206-201-2720 Th...Show More

48:58 | Oct 23rd, 2012

Dad likes to wear women's clothing. This doesn't bother his daughter, but she doesn't want to hear much more. (But knowing his dress size might come in handy over the holidays.) When your "straight" friend appears on a gay online dating site, does th...Show More

47:55 | Oct 16th, 2012

An autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let ...Show More

49:07 | Oct 9th, 2012

Paging Miss Manners! A man's mother detests his wife's mother so much, that she wants to exclude her from the baby shower. How can he tip-toe his way through this field of turds?  A woman very much wants to pursue amorous relations with a hot firema...Show More

53:05 | Sep 10th

A woman's boyfriend used to achieve orgasm with ease. But now he can't come from penetration. The caller worries that in her boyfriend's eyes, she has become the madonna, when she used to be the whore. Dan speaks with a bisexual man, whose first atte...Show More

52:57 | Sep 3rd

A gay man is fed up with all the public sex at gay pride parades! It's bad PR! Enough already! Will Dan agree? Listen and find out. A woman is planning to marry. Her fiancé has a lot less money than she does, and they maintain separate bank accounts....Show More

51:10 | Aug 27th

What do you do when love being single, but also want that new relationship energy? A woman vents some righteous fury that many women don't find short men attractive. IT'S NOT FAIR. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the very amazing RIVAL but BELOVED advi...Show More

54:08 | Aug 20th

A 76 year-old woman wonders if everyone is doing polyamory these days, or if there are any monogamous couples left. A woman's twin brother has become a white supremacist, and is getting sucked in to a very scary community. Dan brings on Christian Pic...Show More

47:53 | Aug 13th

A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller and podcast host know better. A man's husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and hav...Show More

49:43 | Aug 6th

Is it common for straight men to be "secretly into dick?" Because that's what this woman's boyfriend is. A transwoman got together with a guy in a dungeon. But she forgot to tell him that she is trans. Her lover told her it would be wise to reveal th...Show More

48:51 | Jul 30th

A woman is tormented that her partner of 7 years has not learned how to pee without spraying the area. Dan's response is both charitable and practical. A 70 year-old man is in an open relationship with his wife. He is communicating with a 30 year-old...Show More

48:56 | Jul 23rd

A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn't clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an o...Show More

54:24 | Jul 16th

A reasonable woman is about to visit her over-the-top Christian family. Her sister has invited her to join a book club when she's there. Guess what the book is! Should the caller sit through her sister's stealth Bible study, or find a way to politely...Show More

49:12 | Jul 9th

A man still has hot videos he took of his ex. He loves his current girlfriend, but the sex isn't nearly as good. How wrong is it to view the historical footage? A straight man has HAD IT UP TO HERE with all this "they/them" stuff! And sometimes, you ...Show More

49:33 | Jul 2nd

It's the One-Minute Wonder Show! That's right. Your calls were one minute or less. Dan's answers were 2 minutes or less. We blasted through so much, it feels like a blur. Blowing air in vaginas, toxic Drag Race fans, squirting cleanup, anal skin tags...Show More

51:38 | Jun 25th

Just in time for your pride parade, it's the all gay episode! Calls by, for and about queer people. We got nervous lesbians who are scared to introduce the girlfriend to their moms, we got homos who come too soon, or get spooked by conventionally att...Show More

55:16 | Jun 18th

A gay man is dating a self-described "Sex Pig." His antics in public are epic. The caller wants to figure out if he can learn to be more carefree and uninhibited or negotiate some rules to please them both. Hear and learn from the cautionary tale of ...Show More

52:25 | Jun 11th

With the ever-charming and fearsome Mistress Matisse. She came to our studio to help Dan answer questions about bruises (wanted and unwanted,) gang bangs, the nasty kind of doms you'll meet on Reddit, rough sex when you're pregnant and the proper car...Show More

50:40 | Jun 4th

Here's a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to dive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, ...Show More

49:49 | May 28th

Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by ...Show More

51:44 | May 21st

A woman is dating a man who used to be a sex addict. He slept with hundreds of women. Now their relationship is solid and monogamous, but his many former lovers keep texting him and trying to keep in touch. The caller feels threatened and creeped out...Show More

52:31 | May 14th

A man and his wife want to have kids. He would like to have a threesome before they do. Is it wrong to issue an ultimatum: "NO KIDS until we have that threeway?" Dan chats with Dr. Landon Trost from the Mayo clinic about vasectomies- how reversible a...Show More

46:52 | May 7th

A woman keeps getting told to go home after she hooks up in the middle of the night. Don't any of these gentleman know how to make breakfast? A woman has learned that her beloved aunt has been having a lesbian affair for decades. Some but not all of ...Show More

51:42 | Apr 30th

A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn't work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can't have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she's worried about ...Show More

50:47 | Apr 23rd

A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets...nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman ...Show More

55:21 | Apr 16th

A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A ...Show More

51:20 | Apr 9th

Look at her. She's only a lesbian when she's drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she's had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry Prince Charming. He is so wonderful in every way. Exc...Show More

45:44 | Apr 2nd

A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he's not bored. What up? A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids' clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the i...Show More

50:29 | Mar 26th

A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed w...Show More

43:56 | Mar 19th

A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ...Show More

53:53 | Mar 12th

Yowsers! It's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophilia, incest, snuff porn, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Je...Show More

55:44 | Mar 5th

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned o...Show More

46:35 | Mar 1st

A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little ...Show More

44:03 | Feb 26th

A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was c...Show More

51:56 | Feb 19th

When bisexual friends go wild: A lesbian has been buddies with a bi woman for a while. Guess what happened when they got drunk! Now, the bi friend is asking her boyfriend for a hall pass to sleep with the lesbian friend. But will their friendship be ...Show More

50:51 | Feb 12th

A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about ...Show More
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51:22 | Feb 6th

Dan Savage returns to help Eli Sanders and Katie Herzog deal with Trump’s very weird and upsetting State of the Union address. Also discussed: Nancy Pelosi’s epic clap-back and Stacey Abrams’s delivery of the official Democratic response to Trump’s s...Show More

54:59 | Feb 5th

Hey uncircumcised fellas! Would you get cut because your girlfriend wanted you to? Because she thought that it made your dick bigger? Would you really? This guy did. Hear the tale of a man's sexual adventure in Las Vegas, and how he can't seem to fin...Show More

47:52 | Jan 29th

Therapy is good right? It gets you in touch with your feelings. Unless...those feelings you are getting in touch with are jealousy, paranoia and possessiveness. Sometimes it's time to BACK AWAY FROM THE FEELINGS. Anyway, here's the kind of question y...Show More

47:56 | Jan 22nd

Let's call this the BAD BEHAVIOR show, because some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particula...Show More

52:13 | Jan 15th

A gay man is sick of always having to initiate with his new boyfriend. The boyfriend is a big guy, but very submissive. How can the caller get the dude to make a move now and again? A woman caught her fiancé wanking to photos of his exes. Now she fee...Show More

51:34 | Jan 8th

A Jewish woman is bringing her boyfriend to the Hanukkah party. Great, right? But as always, there's a problem. He has a HITLER MUSTACHE. Because he "likes the look." Dan chats with this woman, and you get to listen. A young man's parents discovered ...Show More

50:04 | Jan 1st

The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex wri...Show More

50:12 | Dec 18th, 2018

Dear Australia, Hi! This is the Savage Lovecast. Listen. Do you guys refer to the very common sexual position where a man enters a woman from behind while she is on all fours as ..."Doggity Style?" No? We didn't think so. (Both Dan and Nancy are gobs...Show More

47:03 | Dec 11th, 2018

A woman had sex with a pre-op transwoman. But she didn't make the caller come, or even try. Now the caller wonders if this is a "vagina-bodied" vs "non vagina-bodied" problem, or just a "jerk" problem. A married gay man with kids begs Dan for a quick...Show More

50:19 | Dec 4th, 2018

A man has tried group sex a couple times. But when he shows up his dick doesn't. What is going on here? Oh this story! A girl started seeing her therapist at age 17. At age 19, she confessed to her 45 year-old therapist that she loved him. So, natura...Show More

47:46 | Nov 27th, 2018

Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A coup...Show More

47:46 | Nov 20th, 2018

We have a word for a woman who sleeps with a straight couple. That's a unicorn, of course. But what should we call a man who provides the same service? Cuz we have a male caller who is totally down. A woman has reconnected with an old high school chu...Show More

49:36 | Nov 13th, 2018

Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On th...Show More

51:13 | Nov 6th, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when...Show More

47:40 | Oct 30th, 2018

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an ...Show More

53:59 | Oct 23rd, 2018

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, thin...Show More

48:54 | Oct 16th, 2018

A couple adopted a disturbed dog, hell-bent on destroying their sex life! It jumps on the bed, and barks when they try to get busy, and whimpers, barks and whines when left outside the door. Dan "Dog Whisperer" Savage leaps to the rescue. Speaking of...Show More

52:10 | Oct 9th, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships ...Show More

52:28 | Oct 2nd, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this co...Show More

50:58 | Sep 25th, 2018

Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 's...Show More

51:15 | Sep 18th, 2018

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan en...Show More

47:28 | Sep 11th, 2018

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he want...Show More

49:10 | Sep 4th, 2018

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her sibli...Show More

52:00 | Aug 28th, 2018

We start this week's adventure with a couple who have a secret unicorn at their beck and call. The wife in the couple doesn't want anyone to know. But the unicorn lass has already told some friends and wants to be more open about the relationship. Wh...Show More

50:30 | Aug 21st, 2018

A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether ...Show More

51:19 | Aug 14th, 2018

Come hear the sordid tale of the couple who invited a woman over, only to have her wet the bed so thoroughly that she soaked right through to the mattress. Bad unicorn! Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy?" is on to review her husband's fave new toy. What ...Show More

51:51 | Aug 7th, 2018

A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before s...Show More

49:12 | Jul 31st, 2018

"Dan? If someone sticks a lollypop in my vagina, will I get a yeast infection?" Sincerely, the very first caller. A married woman was horrified to discover raunchy pics of her husband's first cousin on his phone. Would this horrify you? On the Magnum...Show More

50:57 | Jul 24th, 2018

A woman who lives in a group house likes listening in when someone is having sex near her. Handwringing ensues. Is this unethical? Should she feel guilty? Should she stop? A woman who has gone from eating way too little to eating way too much, wrestl...Show More

49:06 | Jul 17th, 2018

A lesbian is a divorcée at age 20. How can she tell her future girlfriends that she had spectacularly bad judgement when she was of a tender age? Hey everyone! Meet Jason, the offended gay Christian! He wishes Dan wouldn't be so derisive of religion....Show More

51:51 | Jul 10th, 2018

A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new...Show More

49:38 | Jul 3rd, 2018

A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the fat...Show More

55:00 | Jun 26th, 2018

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Worko...Show More

48:12 | Jun 19th, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 yea...Show More

51:55 | Jun 12th, 2018

A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the bud...Show More

49:21 | Jun 5th, 2018

Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other ever...Show More

48:55 | May 29th, 2018

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way f...Show More

51:25 | May 22nd, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the wom...Show More

46:09 | May 8th, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the g...Show More

53:51 | May 1st, 2018

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A wom...Show More

52:07 | Apr 24th, 2018

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she thinks it's true ...Show More

46:35 | Apr 17th, 2018

"Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she re...Show More

49:53 | Apr 10th, 2018

The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she lam...Show More

50:31 | Apr 3rd, 2018

A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristin Mark on how to ...Show More

53:25 | Mar 27th, 2018

A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with...Show More

46:15 | Mar 20th, 2018

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. O...Show More

52:40 | Mar 13th, 2018

After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to di...Show More

46:40 | Mar 6th, 2018

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear...Show More

56:51 | Feb 27th, 2018

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym'...Show More

53:26 | Feb 20th, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires...Show More

52:01 | Feb 13th, 2018

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing...Show More

51:41 | Feb 6th, 2018

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,)  is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning...Show More

53:17 | Jan 30th, 2018

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of P...Show More

51:52 | Jan 23rd, 2018

Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman! This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America."  They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy,  and kids sticking things up their butts, among other...Show More

48:58 | Jan 16th, 2018

This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's...Show More

51:54 | Jan 9th, 2018

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great dat...Show More

44:34 | Jan 2nd, 2018

A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, ...Show More

51:23 | Dec 26th, 2017

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radi...Show More

48:12 | Dec 19th, 2017

A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a lo...Show More

49:17 | Dec 12th, 2017

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away so...Show More

48:26 | Dec 5th, 2017

A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will t...Show More

51:44 | Nov 28th, 2017

"Why won't my girlfriend go down on me?!" asks this nice man, who goes down on her plenty. Does she not like it? What? Nancy and Dan wring their hands together about words, and Nancy reveals something truly horrible about herself. On the Magnum, Dan ...Show More

47:31 | Nov 21st, 2017

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. S...Show More

44:55 | Nov 14th, 2017

It appears we have reached a cultural moment when we need "The Ten Dick Commandments." Dan chisels a few in the tablet. Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's Wi...Show More

44:58 | Nov 7th, 2017

Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains a...Show More

48:40 | Oct 31st, 2017

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together a...Show More

53:16 | Oct 24th, 2017

A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography...Show More

52:26 | Oct 17th, 2017

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years.  But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it ...Show More

49:41 | Oct 10th, 2017

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a documentary about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On th...Show More

51:00 | Oct 3rd, 2017

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still ...Show More

46:51 | Sep 26th, 2017

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Wou...Show More

56:04 | Sep 19th, 2017

This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get h...Show More

53:18 | Sep 12th, 2017

A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bo...Show More

49:48 | Sep 5th, 2017

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan ch...Show More

46:53 | Aug 29th, 2017

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-20...Show More

47:05 | Aug 22nd, 2017

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we h...Show More

48:10 | Aug 14th, 2017

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A  woman has started dating a man who tra...Show More

50:32 | Aug 8th, 2017

On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr...Show More

50:42 | Aug 1st, 2017

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, D...Show More

52:07 | Jul 25th, 2017

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter?  A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's ...Show More

51:37 | Jul 18th, 2017

A man's girlfriend won't let him watch Game of Thrones due to all the violence against women. Does she have the right? Should we all be boycotting the show? Salon's Amanda Marcotte is here to weigh in. A lesbian is exploring dom/sub play with her gir...Show More

49:23 | Jul 11th, 2017

If your Tinder guy can't get it up, should you move on, or give him a chance? A woman is dating a man 13 years her senior. Is this sort of age difference inherently immoral because...Woody Allen? On the Magnum, a deep dive into trans world with Buck ...Show More

52:51 | Jul 4th, 2017

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress ...Show More

52:26 | Jun 27th, 2017

A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New D...Show More

52:39 | Jun 20th, 2017

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight.   A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, t...Show More

48:10 | Jun 13th, 2017

A woman is engaged to be married. She has been with about 80 lovers, and he has never been with anyone but her. He begs her to tell him all about her adventures to the point of obsession. Why does he wants to hear it all, and does she have to tell hi...Show More

50:50 | Jun 6th, 2017

A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she ...Show More

52:17 | May 30th, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel, that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man ha...Show More

53:13 | May 23rd, 2017

A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, lovely body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life....Show More

54:48 | May 16th, 2017

A man and a woman used to date, but now they're just friends. The woman got married and doesn't want her rich husband to know that she used to date the caller. Is it because she's embarrassed that the caller doesn't make enough money? From three-way ...Show More

48:34 | May 9th, 2017

A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came b...Show More

50:06 | May 2nd, 2017

A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move? A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when ...Show More

53:08 | Apr 25th, 2017

A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight frien...Show More

48:35 | Apr 18th, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bo...Show More

52:02 | Apr 11th, 2017

Gather round, Lovecast listeners. Hear the tale of the pansexual housecleaner and the nasty surprise. Can a giant penis instigate menstrual bleeding? Is there anything a giant penis can't do? Ob/gyn and activist Leah Torres, is here to answer. On the...Show More

49:26 | Apr 4th, 2017

A man gets turned on by the sight of his girlfriend smoking. The problem is, she doesn't smoke. We get our monthly sex toy review by the delightful (and knowledgable) Erika Moen. This week: a big ole vibrator called The Doxy. On the Magnum, Dan inter...Show More

49:37 | Mar 28th, 2017

A straight man is into pre-op transwomen in an odd way. He wants nothing to do with their penises, but just likes knowing they're there. In another penis-obsessed call, a man with big 'un is dismayed when a lady fails to swoon at the sight of his fla...Show More

50:53 | Mar 21st, 2017

A woman's father is planning to go to Russia to fetch his new mail-order bride. How can the caller convince her delusional father that this is not such a good idea? Hear the sordid tale of the Ambien-befuddled, drunky, but also kind of hot step-mothe...Show More

52:26 | Mar 14th, 2017

For all you Belle fans out there, a little advice: For god's sake, don't sleep with the beast! Dan and Salon journalist Amanda Marcotte tear down Disney's latest. Dan consoles a man whose employee immediately slept with his ex-girlfriend, right after...Show More

49:06 | Mar 7th, 2017

Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan ta...Show More

51:41 | Feb 28th, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan help...Show More

50:56 | Feb 21st, 2017

Savage Lovecast #539 A gay man has had small breasts ever since he was a kid. His lovers aren't so into it. He doesn't want to get them removed because he feels they are a part of him. How should he explain his extra bells and whistles? A woman getti...Show More

50:44 | Feb 14th, 2017

A couple tricky pregnancy situations on this show: A newly pregnant woman has discovered that her boyfriend snoops through her personal stuff with no apology.  Should she dump him and embrace single motherhood? Our other pregnant woman misjudged the ...Show More

49:56 | Feb 7th, 2017

A man's girlfriend moved to NYC to become a ballerina. But instead she's been boozing and eating food! Is it his place to tell her that ballerinas don't actually, you  know, eat? A transwoman has moved heaven and earth to get herself through college,...Show More

52:52 | Jan 31st, 2017

A married Canadian lesbian is about to meet the Syrian refugees that her parents are hosting. But she worries that they will not approve of gay people. How should she present herself and her wife to these traumatized people from a different culture? ...Show More

52:36 | Jan 24th, 2017

"Boyfriend, boyfriend, there's a lump in your testicle!" Should the caller deliver this news bluntly or keep her discovery to herself? A mother's 9-year old son wants to be a stripper when he grows up. How can this mom advise him and keep her cool? E...Show More

47:31 | Jan 17th, 2017

We are totally Trumping it up this week, guys. First Dan explains why it could be possible that DT is into piss despite his claim of being a germo-phobe. He gets an assist from The Gist's Mike Pesca. Then! Angel Padilla from the brilliant Indivisible...Show More

49:31 | Jan 10th, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work,...Show More

53:37 | Jan 3rd, 2017

A 45 year-old man has observed his 21 year-old niece putting up suggestive pics on Instagram. Would it be the correct avuncular gesture to talk to his niece about the folly of her actions? Meanwhile, a woman's boyfriend's cousin called her a "fuckin'...Show More

47:43 | Dec 27th, 2016

In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes do...Show More

49:45 | Dec 20th, 2016

It's the happiest time of the year here at the Savage Lovecast, as we gather in Portland and also Seattle (somehow) for our annual-ish Christmas Special Extravaganza! Come for the snarky sex-advice, stay for the magnificent Shirley Gnome. This episod...Show More

54:12 | Dec 13th, 2016

A woman is living at her boyfriend's house with his parents while he is away. Guess what! The dad has started kissing her on the mouth and tries to slip her the tongue. Should she tell her boyfriend that his father is a loathsome fiend? Speaking of l...Show More

47:41 | Dec 6th, 2016

A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller co...Show More

54:02 | Nov 29th, 2016

A gay man wonders if it's possible to have a happy, healthy, poly triad. Can sex give you acne? Dan consults a professor of dermatology to get to the bottom of this one. On the Magnum, a special treat for you uber-kinksters. The gentlemen from the No...Show More

49:08 | Nov 22nd, 2016

Here's a happily married couple. He digs exhibitionism, which she indulged after taking a deep breath. She wants to try BDSM, but he isn't having it. Is it her right to demand it, and what's his god damn problem? A married woman likes to be fashionab...Show More

54:27 | Nov 15th, 2016

Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced...Show More

48:33 | Nov 8th, 2016

A woman has been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years. She is considering some sort of grand gesture to win him back. Should she throw a parade? Hire a lesbian motorcycle gang to deliver one single rose? Or maybe let him go? A 22 year-old gay man has b...Show More

51:17 | Nov 1st, 2016

On the worst birthday EVER, a woman learns that her beloved long distance boyfriend...has a wife. If the wife asks her, should she lie for him? A man's friend is dating a guy who gets coked up, turns the photos of her face-down and hires prostitutes ...Show More

49:54 | Oct 25th, 2016

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our ca...Show More

51:32 | Oct 18th, 2016

How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such...Show More

52:55 | Oct 11th, 2016

A woman asks her boyfriend to tell her erotic stories when they are having sex. Is this too much to ask? He's running out of plots. A distraught woman discovers that her ex from years ago put up naked photos of her online. Is there anything she can d...Show More

53:59 | Oct 4th, 2016

Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insis...Show More

49:38 | Sep 27th, 2016

A woman is horrified to discover her new boyfriend's disgusting habit. This habit truly is one of the most revolting things we've ever heard, and you do know that we've heard a LOT, right? You'll have to listen to find out what it is. A woman and her...Show More

49:42 | Sep 20th, 2016

A lesbian is about to go to a wedding with a bunch of conservative guests. And guess who's going to be there! You'll never guess. Ricky Santorum! How should she take advantage of this unusual opportunity? Dan chats with pro-dominatrix, writer and act...Show More

47:04 | Sep 13th, 2016

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How ...Show More

50:43 | Sep 6th, 2016

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of  "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan  speaks with Profes...Show More

56:05 | Aug 30th, 2016

Hey Chicago! We were in you! And we recorded the whole thing. Have a listen to our live show from last Spring at the Music Box Theatre. On the Magnum, Dan dares to argue with Heather Havrilesky (a.k.a "Ask Polly" from New York Magazine,) about the ro...Show More

46:14 | Aug 23rd, 2016

A closeted bi woman, newly aware of her own bisexuality, feels guilty when she so much as hugs another woman. How can she get over it already? A lesbian is about to have her wedding. Does she have the right to exclude Trump supporters from the guest ...Show More

51:09 | Aug 16th, 2016

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfrien...Show More

52:03 | Aug 9th, 2016

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. S...Show More

49:22 | Aug 2nd, 2016

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. ...Show More

48:43 | Jul 26th, 2016

A woman is in a new relationship with a wonderful man! But! His ex keeps coming around leaving love notes, Victoria's Secret receipts and otherwise marking her territory. How can the caller flush out the intrusive ex? What is the etiquette in asking ...Show More

53:09 | Jul 19th, 2016

Last week, we asked our African-American listeners to call and speak their minds. Please listen to them at the end of the show. It's  the American thing to do. A woman is married to a man she knows is a creep. He pervs at all the wrong times to all t...Show More

54:00 | Jul 12th, 2016

A woman with Catholic in-laws tires to figure out whether she should cave in to them and get her little baby baptized. Dan’s advice…may shock you. Then, Dan chats with ex-muslim sex blogger and children's book author, Elynah about sex negativity in c...Show More

48:25 | Jul 5th, 2016

The ins and outs of HUMP! Dan chats with Hump! Producer Tracey Cataldo about the Hump! Film Festival- what kinds of films you can expect to watch and how to make the kind of porn we want to see. What to do when your open relationship comes to a scree...Show More

53:58 | Jun 28th, 2016

A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discus...Show More

50:29 | Jun 21st, 2016

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. ...Show More

57:41 | Jun 14th, 2016

Please listen to Dan’s heart-rending response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about...Show More

49:29 | Jun 7th, 2016

A man is dating a woman who stopped putting on make-up and fixing her hair. If he asked her to start gussying herself up again, would that make him, like…you know…an asshole? A woman asks a question that sends Dan scurrying to the red phone to call a...Show More

50:44 | May 31st, 2016

Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs ...Show More

51:54 | May 24th, 2016

This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.”  Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party....Show More

49:15 | May 17th, 2016

What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend t...Show More

51:20 | May 10th, 2016

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. An...Show More

48:32 | May 3rd, 2016

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationshipfor 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what shethinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting inher boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wr...Show More

49:12 | Apr 26th, 2016

It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock r...Show More

52:49 | Apr 19th, 2016

Furries and Cheeseheads: Join us in Madison, Wisconsin as Dan loves up his old college town. He took about a million questions from the audience and messed with their Midwestern heads. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the charming hosts of Feral Attract...Show More

51:18 | Apr 12th, 2016

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler,...Show More

55:54 | Apr 5th, 2016

Let’s just say your girlfriend gets turned on by listening to you talk to other people on the phone. Would it be so, so wrong to keep the customer service agent from Verizon on the line, just so your girlfriend can listen to you from the other room, ...Show More

54:36 | Mar 29th, 2016

The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns ri...Show More

48:00 | Mar 22nd, 2016

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrifie...Show More

52:11 | Mar 15th, 2016

Aw sheeeeeeee, guys. It’s Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY.  Dan and the gals talk about period sex, pegging, smoking weed, beards and bumpkins among other things. You’ll also hear some inside dirt about their process in making Broad City and their pla...Show More

54:24 | Mar 8th, 2016

It’s the Valentine’s Day show! We recorded this at Portland’s Revolution Hall on February 14 in front of a very live audience. With musician/force of nature Rachel Lark, comedian/force of nature Bri Pruitt  and three game straight boys. 206-302-2064 ...Show More

56:08 | Mar 1st, 2016

A man raised fundamentalist Christian has discovered the pleasures of “titty-bars” where he can behold “beautiful boobies.” Now that he’s getting divorced, how soon should he tell the lucky ladies that he plans to date about his marital status? A wom...