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Find out what happens when women break the rules - those unwritten but all too real bullsh*t expectations of how we should live our lives. Cristen Conger and Caroline Ervin (formerly Stuff Mom Never Told You) tackle questions through their trademark ...Show More

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Embracing Swimsuit Season Pep Talk: Jessamyn Stanley

22:17 | Apr 17th

Help us win a Webby Award! Vote now at wbby.co/vote-pod16 We're bringing you something special in the feed today... a pep talk! Nothing summons the body blues quite like “swimsuit season” (yes, even if you're a feminist!). So, yoga queen Jessamyn St...Show More

48. How to Zine It Yourself

50:23 | Apr 9th

DIY zines are having an IRL revival, but it's not the riot grrrl 90s all over again. Cristen and Caroline go on a cross-country zine-quest to find out why these handmade mags mean so much to today's creators, fans and librarians alike.  Help us win ...Show More

47. How to Curse Like a F*cking Lady

43:35 | Apr 2nd

Why is cursing still considered so effing unladylike, and how does swearing affect how women are heard? Caroline and Cristen decode the unspoken gender rules in our taboo talk with Australian linguist Kate Burridge who knows pretty much everything yo...Show More

46. How to Toot Your Own Horn

45:50 | Mar 26th

From band class to the orchestra pit, girls are rarely encouraged to toot their own horns. In fact, brass sections are one of the boys-clubbiest corners of the musical world. To find out the wild reasons why, Cristen and Caroline talk to sexism-slayi...Show More

45. How to Free the 90s Bitch

43:32 | Mar 19th

The 1990s were supposed to be the "decade of women," but it became all about the bitches instead. Caroline and Cristen put on their velvet chokers for a feminist 90s-nostalgia trip with journalist Allison Yarrow, author of 90s Bitch: Media, Culture, ...Show More

44. How to Be Brutally Honest BFFs with Allison Raskin and Gaby Dunn

45:48 | Mar 12th

How do you stay honest with your besties - even when the truth might hurt? Few know better than comedy partners Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin. Through their popular YouTube channel and new podcast, Just Between Us, Gaby and Allison (aka Gallison) have...Show More

43. How to Feel Sad :(

43:03 | Mar 5th

Women's anger is all the rage, but why does showing our sadness feel weak? Nora McInerny from the podcast Terrible, Thanks For Asking shares how she started claiming her sadness space, even while falling in love again. Then, Therapy for Black Girls f...Show More

42. How to Tie the Knot

45:06 | Feb 26th

Birth control is relatively easy to come by — so long as it's temporary. But if you're young and/or childfree, permanent birth control (aka sterilization) remains a stunningly controversial choice to choose. To find out why, Cristen and Caroline join...Show More

41. How to Turn 30 with Amanda Seales

42:42 | Feb 19th

Comedian and actor Amanda Seales is having a breakout moment - on her own terms. Cristen and Caroline talk to the hilarious gem-dropper and self-identified late-bloomer about why turning 30 was a major milestone for finding authentic success and recl...Show More

40. How to Fall in Love with Herpes

43:49 | Feb 12th

Herpes is super common and manageable but it's constantly the butt of jokes. And that punchline stigma can throw a major wrench into romance. So, this Valentine's Day, we're unpacking the herpes rom-com with help from two Unladylike listeners who get...Show More

39. How to Slay Sexism Like a Professional

48:58 | Feb 5th

When workplace sexism smacks us in the lady lumps, we can't always just clock out. So how can we handle it like a pro? Cristen and Caroline talk to author and podcaster Hillary Frank about her skirmish with the "special misogyny" that transformed her...Show More

38. How to Leave Dietland, Pt. 2

47:59 | Jan 29th

In part two of our unladylike diet culture detox, Cristen and Caroline confront how body issues bond mothers and daughters and the subtle slimming messages we're fed by our families. They also uncover an historical bombshell about white feminism and ...Show More

37. How to Leave Dietland, Pt. 1 with Joy Nash

40:08 | Jan 22nd

Each new year serves up a new season of empty weight-loss promises and pressure to size down. But what if we could detox from diet culture and claim our space instead? In this first episode of a two-part series, Cristen and Caroline head to America's...Show More

BONUS - Focus On: The Equal Rights Amendment

04:13 | Jan 18th

We've got a brand new season coming your way starting January 22! But in the meantime, we're sharing something we think you'll like. Our friends at Focus Features have a podcast episode all about the Equal Rights Amendment. And it's hosted by some v...Show More

36. How to #FreeTheVibrator

45:01 | Dec 4th, 2018

Y'all, we are on a mission to #FreeTheVibrator from society's ladylike hangups. Because even though women founders, designers, and engineers are increasingly claiming their space in today’s booming, $15-billion sex toy and sextech industries, the biz...Show More

35. How to Find a Lesbian Bar

44:05 | Nov 27th, 2018

Did you know that San Francisco, aka America’s queer capital, is currently home to ZERO bars exclusively for queer women? Ditto for Los Angeles, Portland, Chicago, New Orleans, and a growing number of cities around the country. So why have lesbian ba...Show More

34. How to Slam Dunk

46:57 | Nov 20th, 2018

To dunk or not to dunk? For women's basketball, this has long been the question. It’s the ‘wow factor’ that WNBA haters often point to as proof that the women's game doesn't deserve the fandom, fame and fortune that the guys get. But will more women ...Show More

33. How to Get A Rape Kit

51:34 | Nov 13th, 2018

This is not another depressing AF story about the rape kit backlog. Instead, unladylike hero and sexual assault nurse examiner Trisha Sheridan tells Cristen and Caroline everything we didn't know we needed to know about what's in a rape kit and how c...Show More

32. How to Run for President

46:10 | Nov 6th, 2018

Even if women sweep the 2018 midterm elections, they will still occupy less than a third of congressional seats. So, what does the political pipeline look like for today’s Tracy Flicks and Olivia Popes who are dreaming about running in tomorrow’s ele...Show More

31. How to Be Positively Morbid

46:46 | Oct 30th, 2018

As morticians, funeral directors, taxidermists, and all-around mortality enthusiasts, women of the death-positive movement are out to radically disrupt — and reclaim — our end-of-life culture and care. Order of the Good Death director Sarah Chavez he...Show More

30. How to Diagnose Gaslighting Docs

44:20 | Oct 23rd, 2018

Women go to the doctor more often than men but our aches and pains tend to be taken less seriously by physicians. To learn more about why patients are losing their patience, Cristen and Caroline talk to Allison Behringer about how her mystifying expe...Show More

Unladylike Presents: This Is the Author

08:33 | Oct 16th, 2018

As y'all know, we released our book a couple weeks ago, Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space. And as part of recording our audiobook, we were invited to make an episode of This is The Author, a podcast about au...Show More

29. How to Change A Tire

47:34 | Oct 16th, 2018

Don't know jack about loosening lug nuts and swapping in a spare? You're definitely not alone. But why don't more women know how to change a tire? And where did the boys-only rules about car care come from anyway? Today, C&C investigate with one hand...Show More

28. Unladylike Presents: Sold In America

35:31 | Oct 10th, 2018

Here’s something new from the team here at Stitcher: Journalist and activist Noor Tagouri grew up thinking she knew everything about sex trafficking in the U.S. But when she embarks on a deeply personal, deeply reported journey, taking listeners into...Show More

28. How to Report on Sex Work with Noor Tagouri

39:24 | Oct 9th, 2018

The commercial sex work economy is ancient, vast, and constantly misrepresented by police and pop culture alike. With the help of Noor Tagouri, a Muslim-American journalist and host of the new podcast Sold in America, Cristen and Caroline explore the...Show More

Pep Talk: Supreme Rage Edition

11:16 | Oct 5th, 2018

Y’all pissed? Us, too. As America rings in a year since Harvey Weinstein’s comeuppance with a Supreme Court confirmation vote for Brett “I Like Beer” Kavanaugh, we humbly offer a pep talk for putting our feminist rage to good use.

27. How to Smash the Patriarchy

46:26 | Oct 2nd, 2018

Ever feel lost in a patriarchal wilderness where "boys will be boys," but girls must be ladies? Then do we have a field guide for you! In a special behind-the-book episode, Cristen and Caroline sit down with senior producer Abigail to get up close ’n...Show More

26. How to Ruffle Feathers

47:57 | Sep 25th, 2018

Birdwatching is one of the fastest-growing outdoor hobbies, but don't let its daintyfied, kitchen-window connotations fool you. Point your binoculars in the right direction, and you'll spot a nest of unladylike passions, persistence and politics that...Show More

25. How to Handle Sh*t White Girls Say with Franchesca Ramsey

47:35 | Sep 18th, 2018

In 2012, Franchesca Ramsey got famous overnight with her viral YouTube video, "Shit White Girls Say to Black Girls." She was instantly crowned a queen of internet call-outs about race, identities, and social injustice. So why did her dream-come-true ...Show More

24. How to Be Girl Friends

45:42 | Aug 7th, 2018

Women's friendships: life-affirming sisterhood or hotbed of mean-girlness? From pop culture to politics, galpals are all the rage right now, so why aren't they taken more seriously? With help from girls at Camp Farwell and friendship author Kayleen S...Show More

23. How to Dress for Success

38:14 | Jul 31st, 2018

Workplace fashion police are tough to please--especially for women and non-binary folks. But with the help of Unladylike listeners, Cristen and Caroline strip down the sexism of professional appearance standards and find out if it's possible for wome...Show More

22. How to Be a Bad Mom

43:58 | Jul 24th, 2018

Moms aren't supposed to admit it, but loving your kids can also come with not loving--and possibly regretting--becoming a parent at all. Caroline and Cristen explore this taboo territory and its maternal instinct mythology with help from a couple bad...Show More

21. How to Put on Your Face

53:25 | Jul 17th, 2018

In a time of political panic, why is beauty and skincare booming like never before? During the first-ever Unladylike live show, Cristen and Caroline get way more than skin-deep with Buzzfeed writer and Thirst Aid Kit co-host Bim Adewunmi and New York...Show More

20. How to Stop Getting Screwed in the SCOTUS

44:14 | Jul 10th, 2018

If Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg could add anything to the US Constitution, it would be an Equal Rights Amendment (ERA)--and Cristen and Caroline are on a mission to make that happen. Today, we talk to filmmaker and activist Kamala Lopez ...Show More

19. How to Reboot Sexist Robots

44:49 | Jul 3rd, 2018

The robot future is female, but can it be feminist? Gendered digital assistants like Alexa are here to make our lives easier, yet all this artificial intelligence comes with retrograde human baggage (and unnecessary boobs). Caroline and Cristen inves...Show More

18. How to Survive Menopause

40:04 | Jun 26th, 2018

Although it's as old as ovaries, menopause remains medically mysterious and more unmentionable than menstruation, something guests Nina Lorez Collins and Krysta Rodriguez are totally over. Today, Cristen and Caroline get hot-flashed 'n' bothered inve...Show More

17. How to Tell a Rape Joke

40:41 | Jun 19th, 2018

Are rape jokes having a #MeToo moment? Caroline and Cristen talk to comic Cameron Esposito about her new stand-up special, 'Rape Jokes,' and discover a history of this humor that'll change how y'all hear rape jokes today. Trigger warning: This episod...Show More

16. How to Have the 🤑 Talk

44:11 | Jun 12th, 2018

When you think "having the talk," you might think birds and bees. Far more cringe-worthy? Money. Today, things get personal as Cristen and Caroline chat with Bad with Money podcast host Gaby Dunn about how to talk about finances in your relationship ...Show More

15. How to Argue Your Case with Imani Gandy

43:15 | Jun 5th, 2018

As the Supreme Court rolls the dice with women's and LGBTQ people's rights, how do you channel your rage and choose your battles? Cristen and Caroline talk with Rewire.News legal analyst — and self-described Angry Black Lady — Imani Gandy about issue...Show More

14. How to Shoot a Gun

47:54 | May 29th, 2018

Women overwhelmingly buy guns for self-defense, but statistics show guns escalate violence across the board. Cristen and Caroline talk with two firearms fans to find out how much that feeling of safety is worth -- and what's at the root of women's fe...Show More

13. How to Swipe Right with Nicole Byer

41:35 | May 22nd, 2018

Comedian Nicole Byer is single, loves sex and has the dildo Tinder profile pic to prove it. But she's starting to realize that getting laid can be way easier than going steady. Hear Nicole dish to Cristen and Caroline about being horny, hilarious, an...Show More

Extra Unladylike: How to Come Out of the Cannabis Closet

17:12 | Apr 20th, 2018

In our Extra Unladylike 4/20 bonus episode, we meet Becca Grumet, a member of the weedia. (Yes, that's weed + media and yes, we made it up!) Becca tells Cristen and Caroline about writing her magnum opus—Weed Shop: The Musical. And how her identities...Show More

12. How to Sell Weed

43:27 | Apr 10th, 2018

Legal cannabis is America's fastest-growing industry—and reportedly one of its women-friendliest. Cristen and Caroline sort the hype from the hangups around women and cannabis with help from three "ganjapreneurs" who are having their Big Weed Brownie...Show More

11. How to Be a Sex Queen

35:13 | Apr 3rd, 2018

Kaz Lucas wants to start a sexual revolution with her microphone. But is her native Kenya ready to listen? The host and creator of Kenya's ultra sex-positive podcast, The Spread, tells Cristen and Caroline what it means to really own your sexuality i...Show More

10. How to Break the Silence

42:19 | Mar 27th, 2018

Rosie Batty did everything victims of domestic abuse are told they should do. But it didn’t prevent her estranged ex-partner from brutally murdering their only child four years ago, in Melbourne, Australia. Our producer, Clare Rawlinson, returns home...Show More

9. How to Nanny Up

38:31 | Mar 20th, 2018

Behind every Sheryl Sandberg, there's a pink-collar workforce of caregivers and housekeepers who makes her success sustainable. So Cristen and Caroline want to know: what does "leaning in" look like for them? Ai-jen Poo and Allison Julien of the Nati...Show More

8. How to Be a Mormon Feminist

54:19 | Mar 13th, 2018

Major religions come with major women problems, but that hasn't stopped feminists of faith from trying to smash religious patriarchy from the inside. Today, Cristen and Caroline talk to Kate Kelly, who did just that in her most sacred community: Morm...Show More

7. How to Find Yourself with Kulap Vilaysack

47:47 | Mar 6th, 2018

When showrunner and filmmaker Kulap Vilaysack realized that a part of her felt missing, she did what comes naturally and made it an onscreen project. Cristen and Caroline talk to Kulap about navigating relationships with her Laotian refugee parents a...Show More

6. How to Break the Bronze Ceiling

47:31 | Feb 27th, 2018

More than 90 percent of American public statues are of dudes, and that monumental gender gap persists around the globe. Today, Cristen and Caroline talk to Diane Carlson Evans, a veteran who spent 10 years fighting for the first memorial to military ...Show More

5. How to Be a Boss Witch

51:42 | Feb 20th, 2018

Mystical vibes may be hot right now, but some career witches worry it’s a recipe for double double toil and trouble. Cristen and Caroline discover witchcraft lite, #witchesofinstagram and the “spiritual industrial complex” as they find out what happe...Show More

4. How to Galpal with Aparna Nancherla and Jo Firestone

47:21 | Feb 13th, 2018

To celebrate Galentine's Day, C&C kick back with comedians Aparna Nancherla and Jo Firestone for realtalk about their star-crossed friendship, puberty horrors, and womanhood hilarity. Plus, the debut of our 'Ask a Grandma' advice segment with Unladyl...Show More

3. How to Get a Yoga Body with Jessamyn Stanley

57:24 | Feb 6th, 2018

When you scroll through yoga icon Jessamyn Stanley's Instagram feed, you'll see images that look pretty different from the average 'yoga' google image results. Today, Jessamyn gets real about how she embraced her yoga body and claimed space on the ma...Show More

2. How to Ride a Bicycle

46:36 | Jan 30th, 2018

Susan B. Anthony once called bicycles the ticket to "free, untrammeled womanhood" ... but can women really pedal their way to empowerment? Cristen and Caroline investigate the complicated history of bicycles and catcalling, and talk to a modern, bada...Show More

1. How to Pay for an Abortion

45:46 | Jan 23rd, 2018

In the premiere episode of Unladylike, Cristen and Caroline tackle one of life’s most unladylike practicalities: abortion. But even though one in three U.S. women will have an abortion, how much they cost is any uterus' guess. We’ll hear from three w...Show More

Introducing Unladylike

02:02 | Jan 8th, 2018

Hold on to your maxi pads y’all: Unladylike is coming on January 23rd! Find out what happens when women break the rules with hosts Cristen and Caroline’s trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful f...Show More